Many of us have received the oh-so-famous message ‘send nudes.’ Though the phrase is now the stuff of legends (and memes), it does show how popular sharing nude photography is. With online communication, sexting and sending nude photos have become a natural and healthy part of our sex lives. After all, it’s incredibly hot and can quickly ignite your imagination about the sender. Not to mention the powerful confidence boost when you feel sexy in those carefully curated photos.
But before you grab your phone to snap that pic, you need to realise that it’s not just a case of taking a picture and hitting send. Nudes require finesse, so they are actually flattering. You also have to be careful because you’re sharing a potentially compromising image of yourself. And, of course, as with everything sexual, boundaries and consent is a must.
Sending nudes can be exciting, but you need to understand 100% what you’re doing. Here are some of the rules that can help you keep things fun.
Consent Is Everything
Before you send a nude, you have to ensure that the recipient is entirely on board. People often think that receiving nudes ‘for free’ will make anyone, especially men, feel thrilled. And while some people will count it as their lucky day, others might just feel uncomfortable. That’s not what you’re aiming for, right? What’s more, without consent, you’re essentially sending them unsolicited pornography, which can be illegal in some places.
Getting consent is important, but you also need to make sure that you’re comfortable with sending nudes. If you’re not ready or don’t want to do it, don’t feel pressured into it. The same applies if you’re feeling uncertain about the person you’re sending them to. If in doubt, don’t do it.
Yes, nudes are hot, but only when both parties are actually hooked on the idea. If you aren’t sure about them, you can find plenty of other ways to spicy up your evening, whether it’s a free live sex chat or good ol’ Netflix and chill.
Understand the Risks
Sending nudes comes with a certain level of risk. Once a nude photo is out of your hands, you have no control over what happens to it. The person you send it to could easily forward it to other people, post it online or even threaten to do so unless you give them something in return. This is known as sextortion, and it’s a real problem.
If you’re going to send nudes, you need to be aware of those risks so you can think twice before you send that hit button. Think about whether you really trust the recipient not to share the photo and keep it safe from third parties. Of course, it’s impossible to predict what someone will do – there are enough stories of vindictive exes that post revenge porn. Still, you can avoid sending it to strangers or people who already have a shady reputation.
Keep Your Anonymity
Unfortunately, you can’t guarantee that your nudes won’t be leaked. When that happens, the easiest way to get away from the whole fiasco is to deny that you’re the person in the picture. So here is the rule – always make sure that you aren’t recognisable.
The first step, keep your face away from the picture. You can crop it out or cover it with a sticker, but to keep the nude pretty, you should use some clever angles. For example, you could go just for a booty shot or a sharp angle on your cleavage.
Still, even if your face isn’t in the photo, there is the risk of someone recognising your body. It could be from something as superficial as a mole or as telling as a scar or some other distinguishing feature.
Moreover, don’t forget about your surroundings. After all, what is the point of cropping out your face when your room in the background will scream it’s you? To avoid that, you can go for close-ups of your body, but even then, check whether any objects could give you away.
Just like with sex, you need to use protection when sending nudes. That means using a secure messaging app that encrypts your messages and photos. WhatsApp and Signal are two popular options that offer end-to-end encryption. This means that only the person you’re sending the message to can read it, not even the company that owns the app.
Using an encrypted messaging app is the best way to protect your nudes from being intercepted or hacked. But even then, there’s always a risk that someone could find a way to access your phone gallery. To avoid that, you need to use a strong password for your phone, and even then, you should store your nudes in a separate folder that also is password protected.
Sending nudes can be a fun and sexy experience, but in order to keep it that way, you have to follow some rules. Consent and boundaries are the most important ones, as they protect both parties from potential embarrassment and even law consequences related to sharing nudes.
Another rule that is almost as important is anonymity. That means hiding your face and making sure that no one can recognise you in the photo. You can keep things even safer by using a secure messaging app and storing your photos on a password-protected device.
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