The Human Motivation of Sex

Abraham Maslow wrote an article called “A Theory of Human Motivation” where he developed “Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs”.  The Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is divided into 7 different headings that are used to describe what motivates people’s actions. These actions are looked at in a positive aspect of fulfillment and include:

  • Physiological
  • Safety
  • Belongingness
  • Love
  • Esteem
  • Self-actualization
  • Self-transcendence

To live we must first have our basic needs meet which include physiological and safety. We have Physiological needs that include food, water, warmth and rest to maintain a sustained body of health. With the addition of living in a secure and safe environment that shields us from environmental factors that could impact our health including potential threats and weather conditions. Our basic needs fuel our motivation to work to earn the money which will support our lifestyle.

Our Psychological needs include our need to belonging, love, be loved and self-esteem needs. We have a need to belong, love and be loved to maintain our mental health. Some people find belongingness from intimate relationships and friends. People normally become a member of hobby groups, belief groups, work colleagues, friendship meetups, sporting events and family. We then have to fulfill our esteem needs that include the prestige and feeling of accomplishments.

Then at the very top of the Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is the self-actualisation. Where we can fuel ourselves to being the best possible version of ourselves, by seeking methods of personal growth and exploring our creativity. I would like to use Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs to examine where sex fits into our modern lifestyle.

Maslow's Hierarchy Graph Image
Graph: Maslow’s Hierarchy


We could say that sex fits into physiological needs which is our basic instinct to procreate. The creation of babies and family meant that they had larger groups for survival. People used to work in groups to protect the pack. People were designated to hunt for food, protect, build and cook. These are naturally our inbuilt instincts but these days we can use things like birth control and contraception methods to prevent pregnancy and unwanted sexually transmitted diseases.

It also fits into our need for intimate relationships where we can share and express love to one another. Sometimes depending on how our bodies are built arousal may not be as strong as other peoples which can cause an uneven-ness in relationships. For example, if your lover has a high sex drive and you have a low sex drive. If this is the case, we can use sexual arousal gels to help solve this issue. There are arousal gels that can be found for women or men. If your body needs more lubrication we can replace that with water based or silicone lubrication. If your partner needs you to last longer, be textured or be bigger to achieve orgasm you can use delay sprays, cock rings, herbal Viagra, penis enlargers, couple’s sex toys and penis sleeves. The pressures are taken away if you and your lover are tired or to help aid with sexual dysfunction issues.

With in a modern society, we can get our sexual needs met or enhanced through the advancements of sex toys. Using sex toys is a way to self love which is taking the time out of our busy lifestyle’s. To quickly fulfill our sexual tensions we don’t have the stresses of needing to find a casual sex encounter. We can use pornography to gain visual arousal whilst using a sex toy to massage our erogenous zones to give our on bodies high amounts of pleasure.

Some people also use sex as a feeling of prestige as in how many notches can I get on my belt to show people “I am a master of love”. When we have sex we also gain benefits including our bodies becoming more healthy giving us a self-esteem boost. Or that we are able to enhance our natural bodies to pleasure our lover to the best of our ability.

In our modern age, sex dysfunction issues are easily aided by sexual products giving us the ability to focus on more fulfilling relationships and activities that can help us reach our full potential.


About the Author: By Elaine a blogger from Adult Smart Online and Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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