Gerontophilia! Fetish of Mental Illness?

Gerontophilia is the sexual preference for the elderly. It is sexual urges, fantasies or preferences, all involving the elderly. There are two types of Gerontophilia. The first is Anililagnia which is the attraction to older women and the second is Alphamegamia which is the attraction to older men. If you spend so much time thinking about much older people, or have sexual fantasies about older people or find that you are normally attracted to the elderly and not your own age group, then it is likely that you suffer from a mental illness called Gerontophilia.

Many start suffering from this from a particularly early age, even pre-teen. It is a puzzling condition and it can be brought about by various factors. It has been said that Gerontophilia is not a mental disorder but I tend to disagree with this. The main reason for this is that the habit is simply not normal. For a normal person, he or she is attracted to people who are of the opposite sex and who are in his or her age or slightly older or younger. Any other thing apart from this is not considered normal. It is unusual for a girl who is 24 years of age to be attracted to a boy 10 years of age or for a man who is 40 years old to be attracted to a girl of 14 years.

If pedophilia is regarded as a mental disorder, then Gerontophilia should also be regarded as a mental disorder since the behavior of people suffering from any of these is not normal behavior. One of the common mental disorders that may be a cause of Gerontophilia is depression. Depression has been referred to as the common cold of the mind since many people have this disorder or suffer from it in one point in life. They may notice it or not but it is still present. One of the symptoms of depression is behavioral changes that cannot be explained or understood. Depression can be mild or major if it has advanced but the common thing is that it alters the general mental health of a person making him or her act in ways that they may not be used to.

Since Gerontophilia makes someone unusually attracted to the elderly, we can conclude that depression can be one of the mental disorders that contribute to Gerontophilia. Depression is not something that you can control, especially if it is in its advanced stage. It is caused by a chemical imbalance in the brain and it may need drugs as well as other treatments in order to contain it. Another mental disorder that may contribute to Gerontophilia is Bipolar disorder which involves extreme highs and lows. One can be very social now and making friends easily and he or she can be referred to as the life of the party. This is the person everyone wants to hang out with but the next minute, this very person can go quiet and become highly irritable, maybe even aggressive. Some who have suffered from this have claimed to change the color of objects.

Of course, this is not possible and it is not normal. Just like depression, Bipolar disorder is as a result of a chemical imbalance in the brain which affects the general mental health of the person including changing the normal behavior and personality of the person. If someone starts getting attracted to elderly people, maybe even older than his or her parents, it might be due to the change in personality and behavior that results from a chemical imbalance causing Gerontophilia.

These are the reasons I believe Gerontophillia is a mental illness and not a relationship choice.

For many who may suffer from mental disorders, you may find an underlying cause for it. Mental disorders can be inherited and if this is the case with someone suffering from Gerontophilia, then it is not the person’s fault but the situation can be corrected through various treatments. If you suspect that this may be the cause of Gerontophilia in you or in someone you know, you could always observe the parents of this person to see if traits of a mental disorder may be present or was present some time back. This does not mean that the parents suffered from Gerontophilia though. It may be that both or one of them had depression or bipolar disorder but their abnormal behaviors were directed to other things such as isolation, anxiety attacks or something else.

Another reason that could contribute to depression or bipolar disorder is traumatizing events that may have taken place during a person’s childhood. I go this far back because you just do not wake up one morning with a mental disorder, it has to start gradually and by the time it is noticed, it may have been present for a number of years.

Sexual abuses, constant physical and emotional abuse in the household and excessive bullying are just some of the things that could lead to the development of a mental disorder. If such things occur when one is already grown and past the teen ages, may be 21 years and above, they may be able to cope with such things though difficult. However, when this occurs to a child, they are normally not prepared for them whether physically, emotionally and mentally and this may definitely lead to a mental disorder.

Alphamegamia, Gerontophilia in women, is more prevalent than Anililagnia. It is more common to see younger women getting married to men who are way older than them and it seems it has been accepted as the norm in the society. Since many mental disorders are more common in women and they are contributors of Gerontophilia, then it is only reasonable that it is seen more in women than in men. There are various treatments available including cognitive behavioral therapy and aversion therapy, medications among other forms of treatment. Even the types of treatments available are almost similar to the ones offered for mental disorders so this is proof that Gerontophilia is a mental disorder and other mental disorders contribute to its development either in early age or as a young adult.


4 Replies to “Gerontophilia! Fetish of Mental Illness?”

  1. Rick. I mean absoulutely no disrespect to you when I am saying this. Not all of the information you give about gerontophilia is ACCURATE! It is NOT a MENTAL illness. I am a gerontophile anililagniac from the word GO! In my case, I find crows feet, wrinkles and age spots to be attractive in women. Just because this is not a common senerio in society does NOT make it a MENTAL illness! I have had many elderly women friends in my life. You mention about depression being a characteristic of gerontophilia. Have you ever stopped to consider that the reason for this depression is because of losing these sweet ladies to DEATH LOSS? If I would have never lost any of my friends in this way, I would NEVER have suffered with depression AT ALL!!! Also, some causes for this depression is because of COMPLICATED RECURRING GRIEF DISORDER–NOT BIPOLAR DISORDER!

  2. Gerontophillia is neither fetish nor mental illness. It is just a different rare sexual preference. Aslo no need of comparing it with and associating with other fetish and sexual prefernce. Its just rare and unique. Thats it!

  3. True straight gerontophillia is neither fetish nor any kind of mental illness. Our sexual prefrences are just differant. Thats it!!!.. i am true straight gerontophile from pune, india. Wud love to contact someone with same this rare sexual erotic age orientation. We are just gerontophile not mentally ill or something else!

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