My First Bondage Session – What I Experienced

Let me tell you about my first bondage session I experienced when I was younger.  When I was a teenager, my curiosity about sex was at an all-time high. If a woman walked by wearing a low-cut shirt, my mind would explode.

When I’d go to the beach, half-naked women would flood the area, and I’d spend most of my time trying to calm myself.

I was young, shy, and full of fresh testosterone, spending my days learning how to control it.

But my self-discipline soon ended after accidentally coming across some bondage videos.

My nights were usually the same, one after the other.

After my parents would go to bed, I would grab my phone and slide under the covers to explore the world of porn.  While my friends were busy masturbating to music videos of Katy Perry or Nicki Minaj, I was one step ahead of them.

I did this every night but I usually stuck with my standard porn videos.

Warm up with some girl-on-girl action, work my way through a couple of squirting videos and end with anal play.

With every video, my eyes became bigger, and my imagination wilder.

I didn’t want to change the routine. Why would I?

I slept like a baby every night and woke up feeling revived and excited about what the next night held.  Found my sexual outlet and wasn’t about to change it for anything or anyone.

One night, I was doing my usual routine when I accidentally pressed the screen of my phone leading me onto a section of the website I never saw before.

At the top of the page, it said “Bondage.”

Underneath were videos of women and men being handcuffed, tied up, and gagged.  At the time, I had no idea what this was. At first, I was terrified and quickly turned off my phone.

What the hell was that? I thought to myself.

The most scandalous thing I saw online was squirting or facial cum shots, and for me, it was a big deal.  But within seconds, the fear subsided, and I was back online, scrolling through bondage clips like it was my last day on earth.

I was consumed, obsessed, and I knew it wouldn’t stop there.

My First Bondage Session

I was tired of watching other men fisting and eating out women who were tied to their beds or chairs as I wanted that guy to be me.

After careful research, I discovered a BDSM community in my city, and I knew I had to join.   But could a shy guy like me be able to handle a bondage session? I wasn’t so sure and I figured only alpha-type of guys were able to take on that role.

Online, I ended up chatting with a girl named Katie who was somewhat of an expert in bondage.

I told her my experience with bondage, and she replied, “don’t worry, come over, and I’ll teach you everything you need to know.”

Well, with an offer like that, refusing would have been rude.

I went over to her place for my first-ever bondage experience.  And though I thought she was going to greet me in latex and tell me to do whatever I wanted, that’s not how it went.

She sat me down on her couch and explained the rules I had to follow.

Our safe word was goat.

“We’re not going to go wild this time,” she said as she undressed.  “You’re going to learn the basics and then next time, we can take it up a notch. Okay?”

Was this what I wanted?

No.  I wanted what I saw in porn videos but I knew I couldn’t rush the process.

She handed me a dog collar and leash, “let’s start with this.”  I went behind her, locking it around her neck, while whispering, “You dirty, dirty slut.”

She smiled mischievously. “Kneel on the edge of the bed,” I directed.  She slowly moved to the bed, “faster!” I said, spanking her ass.  For a split second, I was shocked at what I had done.

Was that me? Did I just spank her ass as punishment? But my self-doubts quickly subsided and I felt liberated.

She was on all fours on the bed, with her ass fully exposed in front of me.

With one hand grasping the leash, I pull it back, as I ate her ass.  I could hear moaning from pleasure, “Did I say you could moan?”

She shook her head as her voice trembled, “ n-n-no you didn’t.”  I pulled the leash a little harder, “Turn around and suck my dick.”

She quickly flipped around, grabbed my hard cock, and jammed it into her mouth.  I wasn’t going to last much longer.  In fact, I knew this session was going to be over faster than I wanted it to be.

I couldn’t control myself

And after a couple of minutes, I came right into her mouth. I was huffing as if I had just finished a marathon.

“Fuck,” I said out of breath, “I’m sorry.”

“Why are you sorry? It’s your first time, don’t worry about it.”

With my hands on my hips, I took a deep sigh.

“Did you like it?”

“Katie, it was amazing.” I wasn’t lying.  Though it wasn’t what I had imagined.  It opened something inside of me that had been locked away until that very moment.

“Just wait until next time,” she said as she winked at me.

Bondage Spreader Bars

These are a type of restraint and bondage device.

Hells Couture has a wide selection of steal, leather spreader bars to choose from.  Bondage Spreader Bars are useful in terms of physical restraining, as well as the positioning of the body.

They work well when a subject is standing up, so that they can’t necessarily close their legs, or bring their arms closer together.  It works well in comparison to simple handcuffs as they incorporate a different kind of mentality about them.

Most Bondage Spreader Bars allow the person to get complete freedom at any time.

So they can rest assured that the amount of pleasure they experience is because they love the ultimate pleasure of bondage bars.

During the sexual experience, they can construct or plan various methods to escape the scene.  BDSM users can get a lot of pleasure from constructing sexual scenes, which alone can cause people to be sexually satisfied.

When using bars or spreaders, your arms or legs are forcibly separated.

Not only will they tire easily if you put too much strain on them and repeatedly fight against the restraints.  But also you know you are standing/sitting/ or in a position of vulnerability whereby you are mentally and physically exposed.

These bars and spreaders allow people to remain in a completely controlled submissive position

They are in a position of complete surrender to the sexual experience.  It controls how they move their body and how much they can control their own body during sexual intercourse.

If you have a lover who love’s being used and like’s you to have full access to their body then Bondage Spreader Bars are a safe and comfortable alternative to Shibarirope and other bondage devices.

Bondage Spreader Bars can also be used to force the wearer into particular position and to keep that position for many hours.

An example of this would be a neoprene ankle spreader bar, with two wrist restraints in the middle of the bar.  This forces the subject to stand whilst being bent over.

It allows their playmate access to all their body parts for whatever purpose they deem necessary.  Since they can help the user maintain a certain position, they are useful if your lover has a disability.

Safety is paramount at all times

You will need to keep spare locking keys within easy reach at all times.  Keep in mind that not all spreaders come with locks and you may need to purchase locks, and additional cuffs separately.

With Bondage Spreader Ankle Restraints, this allows your play mate access to your individual legs, crotch area and everything in between.

It is a perfect accessory for sado-masochists who enjoy pain.

Physical separation of the legs allows their playmate to repeatedly strike a specific leg, or part of the leg in whatever terms they deem fit.   Also allows unhindered access to the genitals and crotch area.

It can be useful when used in conjunction with a strong vibrator such as a hitachi or body wand.  Which can then be strapped to the thighs, turned on, leaving the one tied up helpless against the overpowering vibrations.

There are several different types of Bondage Spreader Bars.

You can purchase them with different materials, textures and lengths depending on your personal preferences.

Some steel spreader bars will consist of a solid steel design, and can’t be altered in any particular way.  Other spreader bars will be designed so that they can be adjusted with either the replacement of the cuffs attached.  Or that it’s length can be adjusted.

These are generally the most versatile spreader bars as they can be attached to either ankles, or wrists.

Some have the ability to be double cuffed

So that they can have both ankles and wrists attached the same bar. These are particularly useful for doggy style bars which force the wearer into a particular pose with which you can do with what you will.

Other spreader bars can be used in conjunction with shibari and suspension. 

Though you will need to ensure even weight distribution so that there are no accidents when it comes to suspension.