Anal Sex! Desensitize Before Or Not?

I have mixed feelings about desensitizing lubricants and sprays. And i want to clarify that by saying desensitizing lubrication isn’t characteristically bad. It achieves its purpose of tuning down the body sensors in order to make anal sex easier and potentially more enjoyable. It prevents the body from letting you know when something is going where it doesn’t normally go, which may cause issues when you numb your anus.  If you can’t hear or feel what your body is letting you know, this could prompt an excruciatingly painful and even unsafe result when the desensitizing lube wears off – especially if you’re engaging in rough play or in toys or dicks that are beyond your normal capability.

Anal sex and foreplay may be the giver of joy for some ladies who enjoy it or are susceptible to blended orgasms or for males with their unique prostate organ (otherwise known as the male g-spot).   But for some it is unpleasant and sometimes even hurtful. Anal sex is not for everyone, however it is certainly an enjoyable experience for those that can relax and just go with it. This is because the anal passage comprise of slender,  nervy tissues that are extremely sensitive.  the anus does not self lubricate so unless ample lubricant is applied this passage is susceptible to tearing.

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Sex is supposed to be pleasurable for both parties who will explore each other to find out what turns each one on the most.  Anal sex, in contrast to what is seen in porn movies, is enjoyed by a smaller percentage of men and women – however it is a good idea when you are with that special someone and completely trusting and relaxed with them to give it a go!  If it is not for you then do not do it – but if you do enjoy it the orgasms are intense, deep and full.

The key to anal sex is getting the right lubricant.  The anus absorbs so as opposed to that recommended with sex toys, water-based lubricant is not advisable.  A really good silicone lubricant is the go and do not use it sparingly, especially if it your first time.  Less may be more in some cases but with your virgin but more is better.  Many people when first starting out use a lubricant or gel that is infused with a numbing agent in order to allow initial penetration without any discomfort.

Silicone lubricants will also offer a coating that will stop absorption by the penis or anus and will help protect against infections – especially if a condom is not being worn.  The main thing is to relax and spend plenty of time with foreplay to make sure that it is monumental success that will be repeated rather than a catastrophic failure that will have you running every time someone goes near that precious rose-bud.  Use some anal sex toys or insert some kegel ball relaxing and tensing your sphincter, getting used to having something of size up there.

Once you are successful in being penetrated in your anus, if it was pleasurable you will find that your sphincter will completely relax allowing your partner to begin to pump you.  This is where the debate about anal numbing cream should or should not be used arises.  As a newbie you will not know what your body will tolerate and because you have applied a numbing agent your body will not tell you when it is time to slow down or stop.  So whilst your partner is in anal sex heaven you could be heading for a asstrophic disaster down there.

My belief is that numbing agents should not be used, as I feel that if you are enjoying it they are not needed.  If they are being used to mask the pain, you are doing it for the wrong reasons.  Explain it to your partner that it does not work for you and find some other way to have erotic pleasures and push the boundaries.


Before You Begin Your Anal fest –

  • What else may be influencing your capacity to relax?  Are you attempting anal sex for the right reasons?


  • Is your lover doing it for you?


  • Is your lover trying to hard?


  • Make the right choices to have anal sex that will be pleasurable for both of you?  Choose the position that you are most comfortable with and agree that you are in control.


  • Use a douche or enema to ensure you passage is squeaky clean before hand.

The main thing is that by turning off your pain receptors with desensitizing lube, you’re likewise turning off your pleasure sensors, and what’s sex without delight?  So there you have all the tips you need when you  numb your anus.


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