5 Things You Can Learn From Dating a Dominatrix

Over the past couple of years, BDSM has become widely spoken of. Though no one wants to admit it, its sudden popularity can be attributed to Fifty Shades of Grey. Aside from the cringe-worthy script, the movie gave people a better idea of what BDSM is. As a result, dominatrix dating is less of a taboo than ever. People are now more open to exploring their sexuality and moving outside of their comfort zones, which is great. Not only are they sexually satisfied, but they’re also learning valuable lessons about life and sex itself.

 

But, even though BDSM is dropping its taboo label, when we look at the dominatrix/submissive relationship, most of us have preconceived notions of it. We think the dominatrix is there to punish the submissive, controlling their every move. However, there’s more to the relationship than what you’ve been told. In fact, there are some insightful relationship lessons you can learn from dating a dominatrix.

 

The meaning of sex is subjective

For centuries, sex was only seen as vaginal intercourse with someone you’re committed to. If you were married, you’d have sex. There wasn’t anything more to it. However, today, sex is much more subjective. It isn’t good or bad; it’s a natural act everyone does. Whether you choose to have sex with someone in a non-committed relationship or not, its meaning is different for everyone. You decide what sex is for you and what it means to you. If you have a foot fetish, like being smacked in the face, or have wax poured on your back, if it’s sexually satisfying, it’s sex.

 

Intimacy is more mental than anything

Many people who seek a dominatrix are looking for someone to share their kinky experience. But when it comes to our sexual desires, it’s more than just the physical. When you date a dominatrix, you soon realize there’s more to it than just being kinky. This is the mistake many people make when engaging with a dominatrix for the first time. Of course, it leaves them disappointed.

But when it comes to intimacy, you’re learning how to communicate your deepest sexual desires and accepting who you are. No one wants to run the risk of being rejected or laughed at, but a dominatrix allows you to be yourself and let your guard down in a safe space. If you want intimacy, you’ll need to be with someone who doesn’t judge you for your sexual fantasies. Or better yet, someone who pushes you to explore and experiment with them.

 

Sessions can be therapeutic

From the outside, the submissive is seen as someone who requests different forms of punishment. But, it’s much deeper than that. Sessions with a sub and domme can be very intimate and emotionally therapeutic. Typically, subs and dommesdevelop trust between each other over time,which allows for a deeper and more meaningful experience. This can be applied to any relationship. Trust takes time to grow; it’s not something that happens overnight. But once there is trust between two people, the sex can only get better.

 

Not all subs are the same

Even though Fifty Shades of Grey brought the spotlight onto BDSM, it certainly did it using all the wrong cliches. Sub men are usually stereotyped as being corporate CEOs who need a way to destress from their alpha role. But in reality, subs come from a wide range of economic backgrounds, ethnicities, and religions. In other words, anyone can be submissive; there are no stereotypes when it comes to sexual desires. When it comes to your sexual desires, it doesn’t matter who you are. You’re allowed to have sexual needs, regardless of what they are.

 

Dommes have boundaries

Before dating a domme, people assume there are no boundaries. But just because they have the title of a domme, doesn’t mean they’ll do anything. Whether you’re dating a domme or not, all relationships require healthy boundaries of what you’re comfortable doing. For example, some dommes will not allow wrestling, roman showers, or brown showers. It’s not that these sexual acts are wrong, but everyone has their personal preferences whether you’re a domme or not.

 

Sex has no age limit

When we think about sex, we rarely think about what will happen when we become old. We assume that after a certain age, you stop having sex. There’s a saying, “age is just a number,” and it’s true. A dominatrix has subs ranging from young to old. The need to play doesn’t disappear when you hit fifty or sixty-years-old. When it comes to sex, age doesn’t play a part in it. The human spirit does.