Tis the season! Christmas trees, presents, Santa, reindeer, love and family. The mood just screams joy and love! The hopeless romantic in all of us comes out to cuddle up and spend a romantic night in on Christmas Eve then shows up for a family day on the big day itself!
And well since romantic movies always depict real life! It’s the time of year when all your romantic dreams will come true! And obviously Christmas means you tell the truth! Even if it is coached on by drinking a little too much eggnog or in Australia a little too much beer, wine and spirits (all in true Christmas spirit of course) where you send that risky text, grab the closest living breathing person next to you, or take your boom box and confess your love to your special someone at their front door! (Or in this day in age a video/photo of yourself and post it to Facebook/Instagram with those oh so subtle hash tags #lover #oneday #newyearnewme)
Christmas also brings the very popular secret Santa’s gift with vibrators and sex toys, those pesky little gifts defined by the categories of thoughtful or funny bound within the limitations of monetary value. At Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres, we get pumped by people wanting the funny side of life with these gifts! But the question I do wonder is how many of these “funny” gifts actually get used (I’m thinking a lot more than the gift givers actually think; we are all curious creatures at the end of the day).
The Dreams Of A Christmas Romance
What all the people in these Christmas movies do have in common is the fact that they all find their special someone, they instantly fall head over heels in love and what’s even better is that they are never rejected. As wonderful and cheerful as these Christmas movies are, the false hope they give and the oh so high expectations are a force to be reckoned with! I mean love actually tells us that no matter what or who we are, love will always win on Christmas. Although some tactics shouldn’t be mimicked, they are frowned upon in many relationships.
It’s the holiday where women all over the world think that on Christmas someone will fall in love with you in a fortnight and travel across the world to spend the New Year with you. And then there is my favourite movie, the Grinch where the odd guys truly do get the girls! When finally the Grinch gets his long life crush Martha May choosing him over the mayor- giving us all hope that the underdog always wins or the strange one…
Need to find someone who likes me as much as Martha May loves the Grinch
— anna farrer (@anna_farrer) December 16, 2016
If this all somehow encourages us to be a pinch bolder at Christmas, is that really a bad thing? It’s like a light bulb goes off in everyone’s mind that has even an itty bitty romantic bone inside their body. All those hopes of their romantic daydreams come to real life and that someone declares their love for them.
Back To Reality… What Really Happens During Christmas
Christmas is actually a very stressful time of year, especially for new couples! There is that awkward moment when you think do I invite him or her to my family event? Is it too soon? Am I coming on too strong? Will my family embarrass me?
Then there is the gift situation… How much do I spend? What do I get? What if they don’t like it? What if they get me something I don’t like?
We need to stop sweating the small stuff! We spend too much time and effort focusing on the material elements and not enough on the values of love. We need to refocus our high expectations into small acts of kindness, why do we need something big and over the top that we can post on social media to make our friends jealous. Why can’t we be subtle and sexy? Gift massage oils for Christmas and give your special someone a massage, enjoy a romantic dinner ending with you being the desert, use a sneaky remote controlled vibrator to tease your partner while you’re out or just to use in private.
Show your loved one you care and you are thinking of them! Put your loved one first on Christmas, decide where you are going to spend the big day and when you are going to see the extended family.
Go on… buy them that naughty little gift to show them you want them!
And Did I Just Hear You Thinking… But What If I’m Single?
This doesn’t mean you don’t get to celebrate just because you’re single! Focus on your family, it’s a perfect time to catch up with extended family and enjoy each other’s company. Friends are family too, organise a dinner, lunch breakfast or even just drinks and a BBQ. Mingle with other singles, say yes to that BBQ your friend is hosting, you never know you might meet some pretty amazing people and have a good time.
And last but not least indulge yourself! Just because you don’t have someone to buy you a gift doesn’t mean you can’t buy one for yourself! Spoil yourself this Christmas!
Merry Christmas!
Morgan x
Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres
Meet Morgan, a young designer advocating equality and speaking out against violence. Her journey in the adult industry has been transformative.