Sex In Public!

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Sex Can Become A Chore

When we put a location to the word sex, automatically our minds gravitate towards a mental image of a bed. Single, double, queen or king sized, could even be a bunk bed. What happens when you’ve been in a relationship for a few years, and you’re sick of the same missionary position, the same routine when he begins to kiss you then moves to your neck and then all of a sudden, 5 minutes later he’s finished while you guys were in the same old missionary position.

Sex can become a chore and this will defiantly lead to a decline in a lot of areas In you’re life. When your bedroom life starts to get stale, you need to think of ways to spice things up. Your house is where you spend the majority of your life and it needs constant work. There’s always bathrooms to clean, washing to do, beds to make, dishes to clean and then, once you have done all of that – you might get to enjoy some solid sex in your bed with the same position, the same surroundings, wearing the same clothes that your normally do.

Toilet Sex
Sex In Public

Although it has not been scientifically proven I believe you’re sex life directly affects every other aspect in you’re life on either a positive or negative level. It sets the tone for you’re mood and you’re though process. If you’re having a great sex you will notice that everything else around you will be positively uplifted from these experiences, especially you’re relationship with you’re partner. So how do you change you’re boring routine of pretty much going from missionary to doggy style without any ques from you’re partner because you’ve become so used to his/her sexual patterns?

1 word. Spontaneity which is:

“Happening or done in a natural, often sudden way, without any planning or without being forced”

So that’s what spontaneous means but how can we apply this to our sex life? Well its not that hard. It’s all about switching up the location. Location is the key to spontaneous sex! This is because most couples are used to having sex on a mattress so the thrill of having sex in different places not only heightens the orgasm but increases the sensation for both partners because it takes them both to a new place in their sexual mind. Their sexual mind expands. Changing the place of where you have sex with your partner can change things for the better and make you more adventurous.

With most couples having kids generally a few years into there relationship, this can fizzle out their sex life. There are a lot of places in the house that you can use to have fun and mix up you’re sex life. For example the kitchen sink, dinner table, lounge, the shower (where you can utilize some Bathmate products, for example the handles and foot rest), the backyard, veranda (if you’re home has one). Why  not add a decent vibrator? These are some of the places that you can use it in the house without leaving for example if you have kids. Although some of these places are hard to do various positions, some universal positions that could be used are doggy style, legs wrapped around the waist (if leaning on bench or table) and lifting and raising up against a wall (requires a lot of upper body strength).

Now of course if you are a young couple, sometimes home is unavailable to be used as a sexual hub, however there are a lot of places you can go and things you can do that will not only heighten you’re adrenaline but also you’re pleasure with spontaneity. For example; having sex in a new venue can bring a whole new world of experience. Take for example having sex with your partner in an elevator. This is perhaps the most adventurous place where you can do it provided you don’t get caught. Public restrooms are great places to start off with foreplay and possibly get into action once you find a rest room that is unoccupied.  What about in the office? After your boss and colleagues have called it a day and gone home, the sexual is the most exciting place to fulfill your sexual fantasies provided you are careful not to be locked in the office or get caught.

Have Sex Under The Harbour Bridge

Especially if you’re younger and still living at home, you may need to consider being adventurous in order to keep things going and more so if you can’t afford to get a cheap hotel room for the night. Whilst it’s perfectly fun to have some adventurous fun, you do need to be respectful and mindful of your surroundings. Having sex in a park surrounded by children is not ideal, and it’s really not okay to do things like that. So long as you’re aware and mindful of your surroundings, as well as the time frame there is nothing wrong with some harmless outdoor fun. There’s some amazing stories out there from sex underneath the Harbour Bridge, to Blow Jobs on mountain trails with beautiful panoramic views – the world is your oyster and it’s certainly an awesome way to get some nature back into your lives. You could even consider going camping, and having a playful romp in the middle of nowhere underneath the stars. Or, a quickie in a deserted underground car park late at night (watch out for the cameras!) Secluded rooftops are also an amazing place of having sex as well as on the road or in the swimming pool. The common thing about all these venues is that they are able to spice and liven up your dying and dull sex life.

Can you instantly recall a few places outside the bedroom where you’ve had sex? Late night industrial area carpark, play equipment at the local park, on the train, the end of the pier in Darling Harbour overlooking the city, a flight to Brisbane, on the highway coming back from Newcastle, in the car on the way to Canberra, the change room at Ralph Lauren in Myer or just parking at the end of a dirt road. I can recall all these places instantly off the top of my head. Why? Because they were wild, and exciting, the sex might not actually have been that phenonomal but they were certainly memorable just for the fact it was sex outside the bedroom. The thrill of being caught, the delight of being wickedly naughty, the open breeze against your skin, the giggles as you struggle to maintain a position in a tight spot both passionately and discreetly. Can you instantly recall the times you’ve had sex in the bedroom? Probably not, aside from a few sensational moments. Public Sex is fun. If you’re stuck for ideas, try it for yourself.
Couple Having Sex in Car
Photo: Public Sex in Car

Here we have listed some of our favourite public locations to have sex:

 

About the Author:  AJ is a sales consultant at the Oh Zone Store, Caringbah.

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Men & Women Fake Orgasms

Fake Orgasm Beautiful Woman
The truth is, I have faked an orgasm more than once before. I was young and only newly sexually active – forgive me but there’s really no manual on sex when you first start! My then partner was simply terrible at foreplay and cunnilingus, to the point where it would actually hurt as opposed to feeling good. To end the session, I faked it. It was awkward, I was embarrassed, and at the time I didn’t have the sexual experience or social skills to broach the topic without hurting his feelings. He later cut me to the core when he strongly and harshly criticized my own sexual prowess, so I totally understand the awkwardness and social mechanics of telling someone they’re shit in bed.
So your probably reading this article because you think your partner is faking it, just like you’ve seen it happen in movies and to other couples.  Don’t be so sure as a recent survey showed 86% of men believed their partner had achieved orgasm whilst having sex with them when the actual percentage of women surveyed indicated it was more realistically 63%.  The implications of this survey is that women are faking it or men just can’t read their partners emotional signals. How can you tell if a woman or man is faking an orgasm and lets be honest about this, it does happen more than we care to admit. How do they get away with it? This article will explain why men & women both fake orgasms and you can learn more about the science of female orgasms too.

 

Women and Men Fake Orgasm

 

Women Fake Orgasms:

Women generally take a minimum of 12 minutes to achieve orgasm and some women will require upwards of 30 minutes.  When you compare this to the length of time it takes men to achieve orgasm, that being at 3-7 minutes for penetrative sex, then you can see the disparity between the two sexes. This means their partner has to be prepared to put in the hard yards to help their partner come, and the majority of this work comes in foreplay.  Many men suffer from premature ejaculation and so it is almost impossible that their partner will achieve their own orgasm by normal sexual stimulation.  There are many creams and gels that may assist in delaying a male orgasm.

Women will fake orgasms to make their partner feel better if they do suffer from some erectile or premature dysfunction, or it may be to enhance their partners self- esteem,  body image or the most common cause of all is that they are tired, not enjoying it and just want the event to be over with.  Women fake it and get away with it!

If you really try you can tell when a woman is faking an orgasm if you have made her orgasm before, and you should if it is a long term partner.  The sexual response of your partner becomes greater, the heart rate increases, the abdomen becomes warm, the eyes become glassy and generally breathing will become heavier, tightening of abdominal muscles, throbbing and clamping down on the pelvic area and saliva’s dry up.  Sometimes playing with an sex toy or vibrator can assist in achieving orgasm.

Most times when orgasming the uterus will contract 10-15 times and have spasms in the pelvic muscles and throughout the woman’s body.  Now hopefully if you notice these things not occurring or occurring too much it will enable you to identify that your partner if faking it.

 
Men fake orgasms too! Surprised? Well, so it seems is the rest of the internet community. Why is the world shocked when they discover that men fake orgasms too? First, lets look at the stats. Various studies indicate that between a quarter and a third of men have faked an orgasm during sex. In comparison between half and two thirds of women have admitted to faking an orgasm during sex at some point in their sexually active lives. Many of the studies suggest that because it is more difficult and seemingly impossible to fake ejaculation within men, that no-one has really considered exploring men’s statistics in fake orgasms. However, a new study which has been published in the Journal of Sex Research has changed this.
Common reasons mirror the reasons why women fake it; that orgasm was unlikely due to the sexual performance of their partner, orgasm was taking too long to achieve and they sensed boredom within their partner, and simply because they wanted the sex to end. This is partly due to the societal pressures that dictate that both sexual partners must orgasm during sex. Face it, when it comes to hetero-normative depictions of sex – there is a certain script that is inherently adhered to. Kissing, Foreplay, penetration, rapid thrusting, female orgasm, male orgasm, (Or mutually timed orgasm), and post coital cuddling.

Orgasms Faked By Men

This order of events is so strictly maintained and ingrained within some couples that the study reported that the partner would rather fake it, at times, in order to give pleasure to their partner at the appropriate time, rather than wait for their own orgasm. Carol Ellison, labels the issue as viewing sex as a performance, and when it is viewed as such then the performance invariably has a performance goal and this is problematic as it therefore turns the performance in a success or failure dichotomy. Working in a Adult Lifestyle centre, i see this problem frequently and for the most part is not until people are much older that they equate sex more so with intimacy rather than a means to orgasm and ejaculation – this outlook on sex changes the whole experience and pressures placed on both couples.

This study on men faking it exposes two things. Not only the pressures faced by males during intercourse and the perceived need for sexual completion and satisfaction of all involved, but also highlights the crux of the problems concerning sexual satisfaction. The idea that people will fake orgasms rather than simply opening up with honest communications about ones sexual needs and desires – it also furthers the pressures that men are under in regards to unrealistic notions concerning sexual performance and their sexual prowess. Which calls into question the ideas concerning men and sex and the roles that men play within sex, the idea that the phallus is perceived as being the active part of sexual intercourse, that successful sex must contain orgasm, and the idea that sex must centre and focus on, or around male genitalia.

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Breast & Nipple Play Guide

Cherrys are Nipples

Do you sometimes wonder why when you touch a woman’s breasts or nipples she doesn’t seem to enjoy it?  Many people see nipples and breasts as the second most erogenous area of the body next to genitalia. The nipples, in particular, are filled with nerve endings — both in women and men — making them especially tuned in to touch. Sometimes the pleasure can lead to an orgasm, but it varies quite a bit from one person to the next. If you know it is an erogenous region but can’t seem to get it right.  Well, here are is a nipple play guide for some four sure fired tips to help ignite the desire within your partner through nipple play.

 

 

Nipple Play
Graph: Nipple Size

 

Breast Play Guide:

  1. Complement her on her beautiful breasts and nipples:  Whether she is a size 6 or 18 a woman likes her physique and womanhood complemented.  Funnily enough the larger a woman’s breasts the more inclined she is to be self-conscious about them and try to hide them behind lingerie or bra. Complimenting a woman on her breasts, figure clothing is an early style of foreplay and can help make one responsive when you get to the serious end of the business. Everyone likes feeling nice, and you should be sincere in your compliments.
  2. Have patience and be gentle with her breasts:  Caress her bosom, use a slow hand, fondle her breasts lovingly and do not be rough to start with. Remember everyone likes something different.  Breasts are super sensitive and forceful squeezing, especially early on is a no-no.  Handle them like they are fragile at first running your fingers lightly along them and then as the action heats up a gentle squeeze will most likely cause her to gasp in joy. Touching, carassing and massaging her breasts is obviously a go-to move in the sack, but you have to make sure you are doing it right. Do not go straight for the nipples. This is especially so if she has just given birth. Her nipples will be tender, so focus on the breasts’ under sides, which are frequently neglected.Gently cup and support her breasts in the palm of your hand from underneath. Apply slight pressure in an upward motion, feeling the weight of the breast in your hand. Very lightly squeeze the sides with your fingers.
  3. Gentle play with her nipples: Cup her breast and gently touch the areola of the nipple, give them a gentle lick, suck, nibble or kiss, by now her nipple will be filling with blood and become erect.  Give them a gentle suck or tweak between your fingers.  The trick is to tease and tease until she cannot take the anticipation anymore and will be begging you to squeeze, suck and maybe even bite those gorgeous fun-bags. You can also use your tongue in a flicking motion or to trace circles. Start slowly and gently, gradually increasing pressure to figure out what feels best for you or your partner. Focusing on the nipples may help some people get their jollies, but it’s hardly a requirement.
  4. She is now turned on: Your partner is now your slave and will be so turned on you can hopefully have your way with her any which way you want.  Larger breast generally take a little more time to excite than smaller ones but once excited the women with larger breasts get ultra-turned-on. Spending the time to indulge in nipple sex and breast play will often be more rewarding ultimately for the provocateur than the one receiving. By this stage you will be in control and perhaps engage in a bit of toy play with some nipple sex toys or even a personal massager to take your partner over the brink.

Nipple Sex Toys:

As we are talking about the sex toys, you will get different kinds of sex toys for different parts of your body. In this article we would like to introduce to you, what we feel are the 8 best types of nipple toys. Nipples are one of the most important as well as sensual body part of the women. The nipples can play an important role to get the perfect excitement during the time of sexual intercourse. Nipples are one of the sensitive body parts. You will get different kinds of nipple sex toys. Nipple stimulation is able to provide you much more fun as well as also creativity for your own sexual play. You have to choose your nipple sex toys according to your own choice. At first you have to decide, whether you want to experience wild stimulation or mild stimulation.

 

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Zest things up a little in your sexual coexistence and are interested in understanding what those nipple sex toys were all about. Perhaps you’ve as of now bought a set of clamps and they have been sitting in your drawer not knowing what to do with them. The first step is to get your partner excited. This means sucking, licking, squeezing, delicate gnawing, your partners nipples. Get your partner all hot and bothered, get them begging to want more! Your partners nipple should stand up firm and tall like a pole. When they are erect place the clasps on delicately. If you partner is scared or tell you to take them off, take them off straight away. But on the chance that your partner, is okay and loves the sensation keep on going.

Take time and keep things slow, since you are new to this you will need time to play around, fool around and learn new things. Once the clamps are connected, kiss her and stroke her body. Passionately touch different areas of her body like their tongue, lips or hands. Expand the pressure of the clamps, do it slowly and delicately Simple does it and moderate going. Ask your partner if they are going okay and keep a look out in case you are harming them. If there is pain, loosen the clasps to what they are able to maintain. The idea is to find the clasp pressure that your partner is okay with. Delicately pull the chain between her stomach up to move the clasps in the direction you are pulling, her chest should lift slightly.

To be more clear, when you apply clamps to nipples they squeeze the skin together and keep the blood out of the nipples which gives an intense sensation of pinching at first. After a short while it turns into uncomfortable yet pleasurable play, then the nipples becomes numbed. This was the first part of the joy of nipple play. The second and more amusing part is removal of the clamps, the blood rushes back into the nipple and it makes the user feel another level of intense sensation.

On the other hand, if you feel interested in nipple pumps, you also use penis pumps on the nipplers for intense stimulation. Here are some best nipple sex toys which will help you to get the orgasm far better within a very short time.

  • Nippletters: These are awesome sex toys which are made with the rubber coated material, which is very much safe to use.  Here you will get vibrating nipple clamps which you can adjust according to your own choice. It is waterproof and the weight of this sex toy is medium. It has easy control button. It is very much smooth as well as also seamless fantastic design and it is very much functional.
  • Magnetic Clamps: You can use this sex toy, which will provide you high quality stainless steel material as well as hand polish system. This metal is absolutely hygienic. This sex toy is nonporous as well as very much easy to clean. The design of this toy are fantastic as well as also very exciting.
  • Nipple Suckers: Your beautiful nipples need  great care as well as also adorable love. This sex toy is able to enhance your sensitivity with its soft as well as pliable nipple suckers. You just have to place it over your each nipple as well as also you have to give a fantastic squeeze to make a very gentle vacuum. It will help you to get the steady as well as fantastic sucking sensations.
  • Elegant Pasties: It is the symbol of glamour as well as also sensuality. It is made with leather and also satin tasseled pasties. It is very fashionable and many women also love to use adult pasties. These are some awesome sex toys, which are very popular for nipple stimulation.
  • Alligator also known as crocodile clamps:  Crocodile clamps have a small screw to adjust how loose or tight the tips will pinch down on the nipple. While some people appreciate this mechanism, others find it difficult or a bit too hardcore to use.
  • Tweezer Clamps: Pressure at the tip can be adjusted easily by the help of metal ring around the arms of the clamps and this makes the nipple sex toy useful for starters. Besides, most of these types of clamps have rubber tips which can be removed for cleaning and they are aesthetically pleasing to people’s eyes.
  • Clover Clamps: They are also known as Japanese Clover Clamps, adjustable and able to create maximum amount of intensity. These clamps are heavier than other clamps and have smaller point that meets the nipple. All these features make the clamps suitable for advanced users.
  • Vibrating Nipple Clamps: These are basic clamps with a vibrator added. There are different kinds of vibrating nipple clamps and the main differences are seen in the style of clamp and the type of vibrator.

If you want to buy then you can visit sex shop Australia, where you will get a huge amount of collection and you will also be able to choose the most suitable one for you.

 

 

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