Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation has long been proven to be an effective tool in our arsenal for self care, self exploration and all things considered.  Mutual Masturbation is very safe sex alternative.

 

Recently with social media, gaining trends and more positive discussion and open sexuality; masturbation is rising above the stigma that has unfairly surrounded it in the past decades. And so it should be, Masturbation is amazing.

 

A very under-rated facet of masturbation that does not get anywhere near enough of the spotlight is Mutual Masturbation.

 

When we think of mutual masturbation what first pops to head is long distance relationships, sharing that erotic phone call or scandalous skype/Facetime video call in nothing but your very intimate of wears. Or at least that is what most people thought of when I asked them as I went to write this article.

 

True.

 

These forms of mutual masturbation are very mutual and very sexy, hot and heedy. I love them, I love the ability that it brings to long distance relationships, or even not to long distance ones. Out for the night? Send something sexy and masturbate together. The principle of finding each other simultaneously arousing enough to bring you pleasure and climax even though you’re apart- bellissimo.

 

There are even more and more toys that are tailored to making the most of long distance masturbation like Lovense, Kiroo and We Vibe.

 

But that was not the type of Mutual Masturbation I am referring to. The type that definitely should be explored more, talked about more and definitely used more. Mutual Masturbation in real life involves more than one person enjoying themselves, together in the same room. It may sound like an oxymoron, but trust me, it isn’t. If anything, it may be one of the most intimate things you can do with your partner(s). It is watching your play partner giving themselves pleasure, while you give yourself pleasure, and they watch you.

Let’s start by looking at why this is such an intimate mode of sexual exploration. Yes, sexual intercourse is very intimate, it is the joining of your bodies, it is creating connection. When we masturbate however, we masturbate usually with thoughts or stimuli that turn us on. These can be various such as porn, videos, stories, memories, fantasies, dreams. How often can you say though, that the object of your arousal is in front of you, a breath away, watching you pleasure yourself, watching you get aroused by their presence?

Intimate right?

Mutual Masturbation also brings out that tiny little piece of us that some may be curious about Voyeurism and exhibitionism but without the crowded audience or public. Voyeurism is the act of watching others participating in sexual exploits, Exhibitionism is enjoying being watched.

Mutual masturbation is a brilliant avenue to learn about your play partner and for them to learn about you too. What better way to learn what a person likes, how they get off, what their spots are, how they like being caressed, then to actually see them doing so. To make matters even sexier, you can hear it too. No need to hold back, using your words to help tell the story, can only enhance your experience. Expressing gratitude at the sight, the sound, the enjoyment of the moment or the sight of certain things either of you are doing may be enough to tip you over the edge.

 

This can also be a wonderful foray into using toys. Have you been nervous about using toys during sex? Using toys during mutual masturbation may be the key. This is your time to showcase your tips and tricks, heck, if you wanted to, you could even request your play partner to use something. The reason this is a good and neutral ground to try out incorporating toys can be numerous. Some partners may feel intimidated by the use of toys in their usual repertoire, using toys during mutual masturbation will highlight the pleasure but also highlight that that pleasure is not taking away from the connection and the intimacy with your play partner. It is an extension. If you have been worried about the logistics, this is also a trial run in how you can figure out how to best incorporate the toys into your routine.

 

And just think, how sexy is it to say or hear “Oh I wish I could taste you while using this toy.” or “I want to feel you inside me while using this”. I can definitely see how a person would feel aroused at these prospects. Again, it is a beautiful and exciting notion that toys are an extension of our sexual intimacy, they are not replacements.

Mutual Masturbation doesn’t need to end here though, it can be part one, the first course. You don’t simply need to strictly never touch each other, that is the beauty of this. It may evolve organically into sharing the touch, sharing an orgasm, together, helping each other orgasm. Who says you can’t kiss while you share this intimate experience? There are no rules, you make them yourself. This is a type of exploration that demands more positive discussion.

 

This being said, it can be very daunting to expose yourself during your most private pleasures, even to your closest person. If you would like to try mutual masturbation but your play partner is hesitant, do not be disheartened. Take it slow, try broaching the subject such as would you like to watch me masturbate (or cum). You could try watching porn/videos together, reading salacious stories together and inviting them to show you what they like. Like all acts, consent is important, but it can also take time. Remember, we are coming out of an era where masturbation was still taught as bad, so for many people, masturbation was a private act and when they masturbated, they kept it private so that they would not be reprimanded or judged. Being public about masturbation, even in your relationship may be a big step for some people. Be kind. Be open. Be understanding. Show them this article, and let’s start the conversation and bring masturbation and mutual masturbation out of the darkness.

 

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Promoter of Masturbation

Touch Starved

The pandemic has created a very strange time for many of us and has changed the way that we interact with people to great lengths. Not only that, but many of us now lead much more reserved life’s and are experiencing

Skin Hunger.

 

Yep, it’s a thing.

 

Skin hunger, or touch starvation comes from the deprivation of physical contact. With the pandemic and the regulations it’s any wonder that many of the world’s population is currently suffering through this.

 

So what is it?

 

Skin hunger is not just intimate touch. It’s any touch. Any physical touch. Shaking hands, a pat on the back, a hug, a kiss on the cheek. Hell, being squished in Sydney trains during peak hour. It all contributes. All of these contribute to the production of oxytocin which is the superfighting hormone Oxytocin which if you really want to simplify it, is the arch nemesis to Cortisol, which in large quantities is the stress hormone.

 

You’re probably thinking right about now, that your cortisol levels have probably increased this last year. You would probably be right. Not only that, but the lack of touch has also been shown to contribute to the rise in cortisol. In past studies in offices, research found that after shaking hands, staff felt happier or more at peace than those who routinely did not engage in shaking hands.

 

Many people interpret Skin hunger as wanting sex, but thi might not be the case, it might just be the need for physical contact. Any physical contact. As Humans we are hardwired to seek touch. In fact our bodies, our senses are primarily made up of “touch” with our skin being our largest organ, making up a large portion of our senses.

 

So yes, while we are stuck at home, or not able to go around touching as many people as we did before, how do we combat our need for physical touch and closeness? I get it, it’s hard, and nothing is going to beat the real thing. I understand. I am not suggesting that we say screw the system and go around touching. That would be ludicrous.

 

Instead, what I have is several self touch techniques that are here to help promote your oxytocin levels, that will stimulate your physical touch reserves and help with Touch Hunger. It is important to note that with these, it is very very very important to couple this with keeping in touch with friends and family, phone calls, texts, skype, video call to keep social. We need to feed our social beasties as well for this to work long term.

 

You would be surprised how often we neglect our own bodies and forget to enjoy ourselves and be mindful of the way that we touch, feel and stimulate our own senses.

 

Some simple ways to promote self touch:

 

Run a warm bath – Add bath salts or oil.

Wrap yourself in heavy blankets or pillows. The pressure of these will stimulate the receptors that will trigger the oxytocin as a by-product of the vagus nerve.

 

Massage Techniques for Self touch

Using a rubber ball, place the ball beneath the arch of your foot either sitting or standing. Applying pressure (how hard is up to you) roll the ball up and down your foot and breathe deeply, activating the vagus nerve.

 

Face One hand (B) palm up. Using the other hand (A), clasp around the forearm of your other arm (B)  and squeeze ever so gently. Now turn Arm B so that your palm faces the sky then the ground. Repeat for 5. You should feel a warm tightening sensation in your muscles. Try moving your Hand (A) further up or down your forearm of (B). Switch arms and repeat.

 

Placing one arm bent behind in a fist in the centre of your back, pull your elbow back to feel a stretch across your chest, shoulder and upper arm. Close your eyes and breathe. Using your other hand, rub up and down the bent arm, continue to rub, moving further and further along your shoulder and chest. Repeat this exercise on the other side.

 

Sitting down, take both your hands and start near your ears and temples, place your thumbs under the lobes of your ears and your fingers from the top of your ears along your temple. Move your hands back and forth across your scalp with varied pressure.

 

Use oils and creams to lubricate your skin as you run your fingers along your body in long slow movements. This will activate your nervous system and help your body to connect. Not feeling it? That’s perfectly normal, as weird as it may seem. Closing your eyes, taking away your sight (one of your other senses) will help you to connect with your body and stimulate that oxytocin that your body needs. Don’t believe me? Try it. Even if it is just a little, simply rubbing your hand feels different when you close your eyes.

 

Masturbate

Masturbating is a wonderful way to get closer to yourself, not to fill a hole, but rather to get in touch with yourself and your desires. Being mindful of masturbation can be very rewarding and fulfilling. Try a new position you have never tried before. Use a toy you haven’t thought to use. Use edging and denial, bring yourself close to climax and stop. Tease yourself and see how many times you can make it to the edge. Can you make it to ten? Try warming or cooling lubricant or arousal oils. And who said libido enhancers have to be used only with company?

 

BDSM – Solo

BDSM doesn’t need to be something that is sacrificed during a pandemic. It just means that we need to get creative. We have touched on denying yourself orgasms. Wear a cock cage, enjoy that feeling of chastity, your hands exploring your body over the device. This feeling will also increase your oxytocin levels which will help your feeling of Touch Starvation.

 

Have you tried wax play? Now might be the time. It’s a wonderful sensation play perfect for solo adventurers. Start with massage candles and their low low burning temperatures before moving onto the sweet thick trails of the warm then hot wax.

 

Nipple clamps, clamps, cupping and suction have always had the ability to be lovingly used solo and leave loving little marks

 

Vampire mits and paddles can also administer perfect little kisses for your attention.

 

Impact play can be self-inflicted at varying degrees as well for the solo masochist. It is not the same, I am aware, it is not supposed to be the same, and we are not condoning nor suggesting this as an exercise as self harm, but merely as another form of self touch. Think of it as a slightly more extreme massage such as a gentle whack with a paddle to the thigh.

 

Bondage is a little harder solo. Cuffing yourself can be a little dangerous so we do not condone it safely. Rope play can be stimulating for the sense however, tying hip harnesses or futomomos provided that you have safety shears close at hand. These ties will give you the pressure as well as the delight and sensory feel that may appease in symptoms of Touch Starvation. There are some wonderful online tutorials for simple self-ties to try like through Rory’s Brainworks or Studio Kink’s online courses.

 

Craving touch and closeness is not something new, nor is it something that we should be ashamed of. It is indeed a very human trait. That want for sex you may be craving may in fact be personal closeness and it is important to recognise this during this strange time where it may be harder to go out and meet new people.

Visit our Stores in Ohzone Caringbah, Ohzone Penrith and Adultsmart Kogarah for other tips and toys to add to your self pleasure routine to better know your body and kickstart your system’s touch reserves.

 

As always, At your Service,

Tiffany

Oh Zone Sales Consultant, Educator and Touch aware.

My OnlyFans Experience

only fans income

Another OnlyFans article? By the same person? What a crazy idea, it’s almost like my life is work and then sexy work!

I’ve been an OnlyFans creator for about 6 months now, did I start due to the pandemic? No, I started because I made an impulse buy of lingerie that was way out of my budget and decided I’d make the lingerie pay for itself, which is incredibly on brand for me as a person.

When I started I had about 2 toys and a few sets of lingerie, and took your standard nude selfies that you’d send to your tinder matches or your boyfriend; let me tell you how I’ve stepped up my game to keep my fans coming back 😉

Tech:

One of the first things I bought for my photos was a ringlight, it’s only small and I will be upgrading in the new year. Believe it or not LIGHTING IS EVERYTHING, this will change your photos in ways you won’t believe. Having a ringlight means you can choose where the light is coming from and how it will hit you, meaning you can choose exactly how your body looks on camera.
I also bought LED strip lights, being able to change the background colour of my shots is so fun and different, it can give the same outfit a tonne of different vibes with the click of a button. It also removes the need to have a ceiling light on, which removes having light shining directly down on you which isn’t flattering on anyone. They’re also super cheap which is awesome considering how much money you’ll make off them.

You need to get good at adding photos, removing shadows from where you don’t want them, fixing the lighting, removing blemishes if you want to (I find that my audience likes the more natural vibe because it makes it feel more realistic, but that’s just my boys).

Interactions:

Not everyone realises this when they start but you do need to be in touch with your subscribers, they’re not there just for the porn and the photos, as men always say “you can get that for free”. These fans usually love feeling connected to you so you need to be interacting with them, responding to your DM’s, doing deals for your top paying subs, gifts every now and again. Just keep in touch with them, make sure they feel special, after all they are paying for your content and bills.

Keep your personality:

My content isn’t always super serious and sexy, sometimes it’s me dancing around, having a laugh, just looking cute.
I once made $150 by telling people to tip me if they thought I was “smexilicious”, I posted it as a joke and they came through, maybe because they love to pay me, more than likely because I’m having fun with my content.
Occasionally I post photos of me with my car because I like my car, I love feeling like someone from The Fast & The Furious.
It’s just important to keep your content you, it’s what sets you apart from everyone else!

Outfits:

My outfits are usually mostly black, I used the same lingerie over and over again, but now I have that many I can rotate through them and no one realises I’ve worn them before. My go to is usually bodysuits because they flatter my body nicely and they’re easy to switch out of because I take a month’s worth of content in one night most times.
Recently, however, I have started leaning into lighter coloured two pieces, I have braces and glasses so leaning into the teen category really does boost my numbers sometimes, and it’s just a nice change from constantly being all black everything!

Conversations:

If you can’t hold a conversation there’s really no point, these guys want a connection as stated above. Being able to check in and tell them how your day’s been, ask them how there’s has been, talk about stuff like you know them is going to get you so far.
If these guys are sending you DM’s and getting one word responses or left on read constantly they really aren’t going to be happy, afterall they are paying a certain amount every month to be a part of this and it’s not all about the content.

 

I think the most important thing I’ve learnt so far is to keep doing new things, keep switching it up so that everyone’s having fun (including me!!), it’s work and it can be tiring sometimes; but as long as you’re enjoying it and keeping them happy it will be one of the easier jobs you can do.
I always have an extra bit of income (how much extra I have that week is dependant on how hard I hustle), and have an excuse to be hot and have a good old fashioned orgasm. 😉

Better sex for 2021

2021 sex

Welcome to a sexy 2021 my friends!

 

After swiping left on 2020, most of us are ready for a new chapter, a new story or a new beginning to be found in the year 2021. Although New Years may have been quiet, and that Resolutions are more often than not bothersome to say the least, why not invest your new lease on life on Sex and Intimacy!

 

Here are some sure fire ways to kick this year into the sexiest yet. These are for everyone to enjoy, whether you are single, in a relationship, celebrating love or lust from afar or experimenting.

 

  1. Work on Intimacy in and out of the bedroom.

Intimacy is not simply touch and does not simply occur in the bedroom during sexual acts. One of the biggest roots of Intimacy is simply being kind to yourself and our partners. Especially after the year we have just had. Be kind. Share in compliments. Share in treats or little gifts. Small non sexual touching can also improve and heighten intimacy as well. Learn your own, and your partner’s love languages to improve, spark and deepen intimacy.

 

The deeper your connection is, the more intense your sexual bond will be.

 

Try these Intimacy tips

  • Take the Love Languages Quiz https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ to see how you best express and accept love/intimacy

  • Write or say an intimate gratitude daily to yourself and/or a loved one “I love my smile” “I am grateful for your kisses each morning”

  • Be intentional in your touch when you say hello.

  • Bring your loved one a coffee

  • Invite them on a netflix date

 

  1. Figure out what feels good to you and do more of that.

Sex and intimacy is not always about shared pleasure. Sometimes it is important to know what you like first, either solo or together. Take this opportunity for self sexploration and lots of it. Learn how your own pleasure works, your own body. Encourage your partner to do the same. Do it alone. Do it together. Mutual masturbation can be lots of fun and very informative. Use your fingers, try some toys, experiment with lubricants and stimulants as you play.

 

Try these Feel good Tips

  • Try warming or chilling lubricants

  • Experiment with arousal oils or lubricants

  • Visit us in store for recommendations of sex toys to use.

  • Try mutual masturbation.

 

  1. Talk more with your partner or yourself regarding sexual yes’ nos and maybes.

When was the last time you thought about what you liked during sex? Have you ever done a quiz? Or written them down? How about talking them through with your partner? It can be quite a turn on not to mention an eye opener and can lead to some wondrous and arousing sexual exploits you may have never thought possible. You can easily make your own or find simple or very comprehensive ones online that can range from everyday exploits to BDSM

 

  1. Be open to teaching and learning

There is a lot that we may not know or understand in the world and the same can be said for sex and pleasure. What better way to find out than to learn. In a world with technology at our fingertips there is a lot of advice, blogs, podcasts and tutorials to explore for the open minded. Studios such as Studio Kink in Sydney offer classes both in person and online for Shibari (rope tying), impact, submissive training and events. Podcasts such as Missionary to Madame offer wonderful advice and insight into relationships sex. Books are also in the form of hard copy, e books and audio books that come with inspiring how to’s such as the The Ultimate Guide to Fellatio and the Ultimate Guide to Cunnulingus by Violet Blue which combines phenomenal how to’s with scantilising short stories.

 

  1. Stop Focusing on ORGASMS and focus on PLEASURE and what feels good. Orgasms will come. (Pun well intended)

 

SOmething I believe in and can’t promote more is Mindful Sex or Mindfu Masturbation. I like to envision it as the art of being present in the moment of pleasure, of what feels good rather than judging sex as the moment orgasm is achieved. There is too much pressure these days on achieving orgasm and as such, a dramatic decrease in people being able to have them.

All of these points 1-4 aid in realising your pleasure and assist in bettering your sex life. In being in the moment and experiencing pleasure rather trying to rush to the end and only defining sex by whether or not a orgasm happened you will experience a much more vibrant sex life that will be unrivaled to the years before hand.

 

So this year, in 2021, sit back, relax, connect, and indulge in feeling good and feeling pleasure, the connection and the orgasms will follow, and when they do, they will bring in a new year worth talking about.

 

At Your Service,

Tiffany

 

AdultlifestyleCentre Adult Shop Sales Consultant, Educator and Pleasure Defender.

5 Best Sex Positions to Try with Your partner

Missionary Position

Sex is not only about experiencing pleasure with your partner, it’s about getting healthier together. Yes, sex can improve your health when both of you are climaxing with heavenly orgasms.

According to studies, people who have sex more than twice a week are less likely to have heart problems. Your body boosts up several antibodies while you are enjoying it with your partner.

Sex improves bladder control in women and hormonal activities lower the blood pressure. Sex is not just something you do on your bed; it’s an art capable of racing your heart. If you do it right with different sex positions, you and your partner will experience a blissful pleasure.

Missionary is the most common sex position. But don’t you want to try other adventurous sex positions?

Don’t miss on fun and try these best sex positions homepage with your partner.

Here are a few Sex Positions to Try for good health – 

Sex positions were invented when humans on earth were trying new things to live a life. Reaching the climax with your partner is an amazing form of love.

Cowgirl

Let her ride you like a cowgirl rides a bull. Lie down on the bed and allow her to mount on you. A woman experiences a better orgasm when she is on top. This position is about giving her control while you can lie down and lose your mind.

Men enjoy this position with a woman riding, playing with herself giving a better view of her body. Men can support her by arms and stroke her for immense pleasure.

Doggy Style

This position is sort of like men going wild on her. Ask her to bend down at the edge of the bed and slide into her from the rear side. Men love this position as they control the pace by stroking her body back and forth into them.

If you do it right, you might hit her G-spot blowing her mind. She would go breathless as you reach the climax.

Butterfly

The more she rises her hips up, the higher both of you will fly. In this position, the woman lies on her back wrapping her legs around the man’s waist or his neck lifting her hips. A man can get a view of her curves while penetrating and stroking her. She can play with her breasts and let you reach her G-Spot.

To achieve comfort, rest her back or hips on a pillow while you get on knees on a softer mattress.

Spooning

Be her big spoon and let her settle in your arms like a little spoon. Cuddling and sliding inside her while you both face in the same direction could rock both of your worlds. Kiss her neck gently while stroking her. She has the freedom to play with her clitoris to maximize orgasmic pleasure.

Both the partners can feel each other’s warmth in this romantic form of lovemaking. Gently play with her breasts, body curves to make her feel valued in your arms.

The Lotus

Bloom your pleasure by feeling the closeness of her body. Let her sit on you and ride you. Face each other while you stroke her. Wrap your arms around her as she wraps her legs around your waist.

This sex position is a form of affectionate lovemaking. Her eye contact and heavier breathing will blossom your mind.