What Lingerie to Wear on the First Date

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The first date is always an exciting moment because you don’t know what your partner will be in real life. Photos on dating websites may not always correspond to reality. But what if the guy you met on Snapsext or another website is really handsome, and you want to be 100% sure of your attractiveness? Then you should put on beautiful underwear to feel protected and ready for any situation. Let’s figure out what lingerie to wear on the first date.

Spend At Least 10 Mins Picking Out Sexy Lingerie

Many girls can spend several hours looking for the perfect lingerie and end up choosing the bras and panties they see in their wardrobe for the first time. This is fundamentally the wrong approach. As a rule, 10 minutes is enough to choose underwear if the wardrobe is clearly structured. You should pick up a certain number of bras and panties sets before getting ready for your date. This will reduce the selection time to 10 minutes, and you can quickly dress up to surprise your future partner.

Don’t Wear A Boring Bra

Even if you are not going to undress on the first date, you need to wear exactly the lingerie that matches your image and emphasizes your sexuality. It will give you confidence and a sense of desire. Forget about those lingerie sets that you wear in everyday situations. It is unacceptable. You will be much more psychologically comfortable if you wear lace lingerie or other sexual elements to make you irresistible. Even if he does not see it in the evening, he will definitely distinguish the outlines of the lace bra.

Avoid Panty Lines Under Tight Dresses

Undoubtedly the subtle silhouette of the lingerie adds sexuality to your image. But your future partner is unlikely to appreciate the panties that clearly stand out against the background of tight leggings or jeans. If in the early nineties it was considered sexy, now it is inappropriate and even a little vulgar. Even if you are a very frank girl and love and wear some tight thongs or lace panties that will only slightly stand out against the background of outerwear, then you will be really sexy, and your image will not be vulgar.

Express Your Love For Lace

If you cannot choose which lingerie to wear, you should pay attention to lace bras and panties. It is a safe bet that always fits perfectly and allows you to create a sexy look. You will be able to feel stunning and surprise your future partner. This is a great option for a first date because you will look really sexy.

Wear Colors That Pep Up Your Mood

The first thing you need to know is that your lingerie should not look contrasting against outerwear’s background. The rest of the color and style depends on your taste preferences. It is best if you choose those colors that emphasize your mood and make you happier. Then you will feel more confident in choosing an outfit for an evening date. This will be noticed by your Partner, who will pay you more signs of attention.

Do Not Compromise On Fit

Even the sexiest underwear can look out of place if you choose the wrong size. Tight panties or bras will be a real torture for you during a date. Imagine your partner’s surprise when he sees how constantly scratching and adjusting his panties. It will look at least strange and wild. You should spend some time and choose the lingerie that is really comfortable for you only then will you feel more confident and spend a few hours as comfortable as possible.

Don’t Be Afraid To Experiment With Lingerie

Experimentation lifts the mood of any girl. Even if you have chosen the perfect set of lingerie, this does not mean that you cannot combine it with other options. It will be best if you try to pick up panties and bras from different sets. Maybe you like some new elements or push-up effects. Then you can surprise and seduce your partner on the first date. All this will make you more self-confident and more comfortable.

Match Your Panty With Your Bra As Often As You Can

Even if you are not planning an intimate evening, you should always choose a set of women’s underwear or the most similar items to not feel uncomfortable if you still have to undress. You can choose a great set of panties and combine them with several options that you like the most. Then you will not have any discomfort.

These are general tips that will come in handy for any girl. No matter what, you can ignore them or listen to each point. Nevertheless, this is what really works and will make you look irresistible on the first date. Every girl wants to feel comfortable and sexy, which is easy to achieve with the right lingerie. Combine and experiment to produce a stunning effect on your partner.

6 Amazing Sex Positions for Big, Beautiful Bodies

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Most people will say that sex is the best thing a person can experience. However, it’s usually not as beautiful and perfect as we see it in the movies and TV shows. In fact, sex is often very clumsy and awkward, just ask any chubby person out there and they’ll confirm it. Men and women with big beautiful bodies always say that fat sex can be rather uncomfortable, especially if you don’t know what you’re doing. Therefore, if you’re a chubby person who has a plus size lover, you should probably try out these 6 amazing sex positions for big and beautiful people.

Doggy Style on a Couch Armrest

The famous doggy style is probably the most popular position in the world. However, it can be a bit uncomfortable for big and chubby people. As you know, there are a lot of variations of this great sex position, but most of them imply that man and woman are on their knees. If you have a few extra pounds, you definitely know how much of a strain it is to put all of your weight on your knees during sex. However, we have a painless solution that will allow you and your partner to enjoy this sweet position. All you have to do is pay a visit to your living room couch and use its sturdy armrest as support. The girl then has to bend over the armrest and the man will be able to enter her from a standing up position.

Modified Missionary Position

If the doggy style is the sexiest and most exciting position out there, then classic missionary is the most intimate one. As you know, during the regular missionary position, a man is in a push-up position, while the woman lays on her back. This can be a problem for chubby men simply because they can’t support all of their weight with just their arms. So, if you are a man who wants to enjoy this position with his lover, you have to bend your knees to support the lower half of your body and you have to bend your elbows to rest your upper body on your forearms. This way you’ll be close to each other and your bellies won’t get in the way.  You could find more hot girls on;  Garotas Lindas

Leg Glider

One of the biggest problems plus size couples have in the bedroom is, of course, finding a good angle of penetration. Leg glider is a wonderful position that provides the male with the perfect approach to the Promised Land. The woman has to lay on her back (turned slightly on the side) with her upper leg pointing to the ceiling. The man then straddles the lower leg and grasps the upper leg to help himself glide back and forth. This is the perfect position for big, beautiful, and passionate lovers.

Reverse Cowgirl with Pillows

The cowgirl position surely is one of the most popular ones out there, but it’s not that great for chubby couples. The girl simply can’t ride her man freely in this position because their bellies are getting in the way. The reverse cowgirl, on the other hand, is the perfect solution to that problem. In this position, the woman is looking at her lover’s feet, which allows her to lean forward as much as she likes. Also, the man will enjoy the view of her beautiful butt. A woman can also use pillows to reduce the strain on her knees.

Make Him Bend the Knee

No, we’re not talking about Daenerys Targaryen and Jon Snow roleplay here. We’re talking about the wonderful “thigh tide” position. This is basically just the reverse cowgirl position with the man’s leg bent at the knee. This allows the woman to hug the leg and rub her clit against the thigh as she rides her man.

Girl on the Edge of the Bed

When you’re a chubby person, almost every position can be painful for your knees. So, the best way to avoid injuries is to find a position in which a man can penetrate the woman while standing upright. The best way to achieve that is to put a woman on her back with her hips on the edge of the bed. This provides the man with a wonderful angle of penetration and he can grasp the woman’s legs to help himself with the thrusting. This is one of the most comfortable and sexiest positions two chubby lovers can enjoy on a daily basis. Big beautiful women claim that they are more likely to orgasm in this position.

 

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Tips For Erotic Dancing!

Starting a new journey is always daunting, especially an out of the ordinary journey such as venturing out into the world of exotic dancing! I wouldn’t call myself a veteran dancer but after being in the industry for a while I’ve picked up quite a few tips and tricks along the way that I want to share with anyone starting out!

CONFIDENCE:

As cliché as it sounds, confidence will be the best and biggest gun in your arsenal. Putting yourself out there is hard let’s face it. However a dancer’s main objective is to sell a fantasy, this means transforming the way you talk, act and think to suit the client you’re with. This is the best part, you get to be a completely different person!! Whatever character you choose should be confident, confidence can be sensed by everyone in the room, it’s in the way you walk, it’s behind the eyes, it is everything. Nervous about the way you look? Don’t be! Every single person has a type, so don’t let ‘no’ discourage or dishearten you. For every ten no’s there will be one yes, just keep going!! Say it with me: Confidence is KEY!!

 

NAME:

Your stage name is important as it becomes your fantasy identity whilst you work. Pick something short and sweet that isn’t too cliché and is easy to remember! No one ever believes the first name you tell them and will always press you for your “real name”, have at least 3 different back-ups for “real” names to give whenever that question is asked. Once you pick a name stick with it and create your character around the name. You may be shy or quiet but your new persona isn’t, she’s confident and mysterious. Remember it’s all an act and you’re playing a character.

 

DANCING:

You DO NOT have to be a professional dancer to become an exotic dancer. I’d never really danced much before I started but you pick up moves and tricks as you go along and as you start to get more comfortable. Everyone is different, twerking is a great move but if you don’t have a large rear it shouldn’t be your go-to show stopper. Work with what you have, the other dancers will always help a rookie out with some simple easy to do moves.

SLOW AND SEXY,

repeat it in your head anytime you’re dancing if you ever think you’re moving too fast, just slow it down. Pole dancing studios often offer free trial classes, this is a great way to learn simple moves on the pole as well as how to actually hold the pole with proper grip etc.

 

OUTFITS:

Another key to success in the erotic dancing industry is what you wear.  You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg in order to buy some nice lingerie. Pick an outfit that emphasises your assets, most clubs will have a dress code that you’ll have to follow, whereas some clubs will be quite lenient with what you can wear. One piece and three-piece sets are often the norm. Pick a colour that makes you stand out and suits your skin tone. For instance, if you’re very pale colours such as red and black will make your skin look very bright and vibrant, whereas blues and whites go well with darker or tan skin!! Pick an outfit that looks good, but makes you feel even better! Remember you’re selling a fantasy so wear something to drop jaws, but make sure it is also easy to get off when you’re on all fours.

 

WHAT TO BRING:

Probably one of the most important tips is what to bring in your bag:

  • More than one outfit: ALWAYS bring at least two outfits, dancing is a workout and you will sweat, bring more than one for that reason alone but it’s always good to stand out too, if the club is full of girls wearing black and you have a backup red costume, you’re going to stand out.
  • Makeup: You’re going to be sweating your makeup off throughout the night or losing your lipstick on straws/glasses so bring makeup to do touch-ups with.
  • Baby Wipes: In almost every dancer’s bag, also known as a strippers shower. Dancing is a workout and as you’re are putting your body near clients faces it’s always a good idea to stay fresh.
  • Shoes: Invest in a pair of Pleasers, easiest shoes to dance in and some of the most comfortable heels you will ever wear in your life. Normal heels slip on stage or aren’t used to the hard labour dancers put their shoes through, invest in a pair specifically designed for exotic dancers.
  • Dry Shampoo: Another stripper shower, just for your hair this time. Keep your hair dry and fresh as opposed to wet and sweaty, which will definitely happen after an 8-hour shift.
  • Padlock: Most clubs will have lockers for you to stash your bags in, some dancers keep their earnings or tips in their bags and like anywhere there isn’t always decent and honest people around, play it safe and lock everything up and don’t go flashing cash or expensive items.
  • A smile: A smile can be worth a million bucks, and in this industry that saying is true. The more you smile the more approachable you appear, the more money you make!!

 

These are just a few tips to take into consideration, everyone is different, and every club is different. Work out your vibe and find a club to match and groove away. Good Luck!!

Furry Etiquette!

A furry convention is one of the most fantastic formal gatherings. The gathering involves members of the furry fandom or rather those who are interested in the concept of fictional non-human animal characters which posses’ human characteristics. Since it is a formal gathering, upon people meeting, they exchange ideas as they transact business, they engage in fan activities such as entertainment as well as recreation. The event originated in California in the 1980’s and it has been embraced in most parts of Europe as well as North America. However, attendees of the event have a certain way they present themselves. Among the furry etiquettes includes:

Should not approach anyone randomly

It is one of the general suiting practices maintained at the furry event. Due to
the fact that fur suits can be a bit scary, it is very normal for some people
not to enjoy them at all. It is always advisable to check how the people or the
person you are approaching they are before engaging them. If you realize that
they are not comfortable with your approach, it is better to turn the other way
ad leave them alone. It is also not advisable to chase a person when in the
furry suit. Interrupting the events of other groups also is not recommended.
However, if other people want to approach you, they can and to indicate that
you are fine with it a gesture is recommended such as waving at them, offering a high five, or even holding your arm out. The same accord should be provided to the others, in case they need to interact they will if not, one should not bother them at all.

 

Should have a handler

A furry event can be scary sometimes hence the reason to have a handler. A
handler is a person who is supposed to act as a guardian throughout the event.
Their main job being to act as your ears and eyes ensuring that you are guided
throughout the event and more so making sure that you are guarded from creepy people in the event. When attending for the first time, it is more scary hence the more reason to have someone to keep you away from troublesome people and always guide you so safe places. The handlers are also supposed to always provide you with something to quench your thirst when dehydrated and more so they are recommended for full suiters. Since there are possibilities of the event being characterized by emergencies, one should make sure they have signals worked out with their handler. This will equip you with the know how of requesting for help in case an emergency arises.

 

You should not touch anyone because you have Fur suits

Being in a fur suit limits someone’s ability to see and also moving around is also a huge problem. Hence in the event that you suddenly touch someone especially from behind, it is very easy to really scare them. It is therefore recommended that if someone asks you whether you want to touched just say no and before touching any one it is advisable to always ask them first. If their answer is no, it is paramount that their decision is respected without questioning them about it to avoid any misunderstanding. This will ensure that Fur suiter’s right to personal space is respected.

 

You should not damage the Conspace

In the event that conspace is destroyed, the you or thecon will have to bear the burden. Since a furry convention is mostly held at Hotels, they have ground rules of not tolerating any damages and in most cases, they do not allow any furry conventions to be held in the same premises in case there are any damages of Conspace. It is always expected that attendees of the con should responsible people and more so the actions portrayed at the convention represent the organizers of the event as well as the entire community. Therefore, lack of maintaining proper discipline affects everyone at the convention.

 

Ask in case you need a photograph taken

Human beings are referred to as social beings due to the fact we rely on each other to exist. However how well we relate to each other is the key to a peaceful coexistence. In the convention too, how well the costumers relate to each other is of vital importance. In the furry convention there are a million chances of bumping into a photographer since they are memorable as well as enjoyable moments. Hence taking a picture or two with another costumer is allowed. Nevertheless, it should be at a mutual consent. In case you need a photograph taken, where by you pose with costumer, it is always good to ask them first to make sure they are comfortable with it. This is just a general courtesy since not everyone likes taking pictures.

 

One should know where to get water and take your head off as well as keep clean

Wearing the furry suit is requires one to keep taking water regularly to avoid
dehydration. It is therefore recommended that upon arrival at the convention,
one should make sure they trace safe place where they can take off, they head
and rest a bit. Also, they should locate where to get water places so that when
they get dehydrated, they can re-hydrate themselves. When at the event it is
always advisable to not take more than an hour without water. Keeping clean at the conventions also should be a priority. Therefore, when you get out of the
suit, you should take a quick bath and pray the suit to freshen up. The face
should be washed up regularly when you visit the water areas. This is recommended since being in the suit makes one sweat too much leading to a bad smell when out of the suit. Keeping yourself clean avoids diseases, and bad odor when attending the con.

 

Avoid misbehaving in public convention spaces

In most Furry conventions, public places are places requiring good behaviors. So are the spaces around the convention center. In appropriate behaviors as well as misconducting your self at convention area calls attention from the
organizers of the event who might take a disciplinary action against you. This
calls for utmost conduct when at furry conventions and avoid public display of
a fetish. This is because there are people of different age blackest which is
an indication for everyone being responsible in regard to behaving
appropriately or wearing appropriate costumes at this place. Such kind of costumes should be left at home or covered up y placing other costumes on top of it. This is not just for costumers but also for any mature art seller. They are required to sell their art at hidden areas to void exposure to everyone.

 

Respect

Respect is an important social aspect as far as humans are concerned. In absence of respect, havoc reigns.  It is due to this that people are usually requested to respect each other to allow a peaceful coexistence. In Furry conventions too, there is need to respect not just fellow costumers but also the event organizers. The organizers of furry events are people of great stature since they are volunteers. It is paramount that they are respected for putting together the event. The rules they lay down to be followed should also be respected and followed to the letter. This is just a gesture of appreciating
their great work or rather as a way of thanking them.

 

Do not remove your head in public and do not talk in the suit.

The furry convention is guided by myths and beliefs. It is due to this very reason that removing the head while at the convention will break the magic. However, on normalcy, removing the head makes one a sweaty person in a suit and disregards you as a fun character. Talking while in the suit is also against
the rules due to the myths upon which the event is based on.

 

Act and move around

Keeping your self busy through out the event is fun. Since the main theme behind the event is entertainment, standing around in a suit is not fun. One should find places of entertainment or if not, they should try and entertain others. Being funny in the convention will highly depend on the character one has chosen. If you have chosen a funny character, one should act the part however choosing a serious character does not prevent someone from acting funny when at the convention. This because one should try to find  entertainment no matter what character they have chosen.

 

Keep the fur suit safe

The fur suit should be kept safe at all time. It is not necessary to get rough with
the suit. It is important to note that fur suits are expensive to acquire hence
the reason they should be kept always safe. Tails and jaws should at all times
be kept intact to avoid any damages since fixing can be quite expensive. It is
also not good to damage something when given for it is a show of disrespect as well as lack of appreciation to those who have offered the fur suit.

Furry facts

References

https://aminoapps.com/c/furry-amino/page/blog/convention-etiquette/WJkg_EbliXukEvDnQlxBkVvXB31Dm0W2vaK

https://www.adisc.org/forum/threads/45926/.

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10 Reasons Cosplay Trumps Melancholy!

Cosplay is a combination of two words costume and play. This is an art of dressing up in your favorite superhero or anime character.  Cosplay has become very popular with conventions and communities set up almost everywhere. There are reasons behind every costume which makes it more interesting.

To some it’s a hobby while to others it’s simply a way of expressing themselves and getting away from their normal life even if it’s for a day.  With so many young adults becoming cosplayers every day, you can’t help but wonder why they are doing it and how it helps them. After interactions and a lot of research I compiled 10 reasons it helps.  After you read this you might change your mind about calling cosplayers nerds.

Acts as a stress reliever

Once you’re in a costume you are no longer yourself all you can think about is the character you inhabit. In most stories what costume players will tell you is that once you’re in the costume you forget about your worries and simply enjoy being someone you’re not.  “You’re playing dress up right, and you can be whoever you want to be for a day,” Jerry shared to me.  Jerry loves to make costumes especially superhero costumes. He personally loves Deadpool which is amazing since Deadpool is everyone’s favorite superhero movie.
When he is wearing Deadpool’s costume he tries to have as much fun as possible with friends or even by himself with no fear of being judged or questioned.

 

Offers An Escape for People Who Suffer from Social Anxiety and Shyness

There are communities and conventions set up for cosplayers. Most people who suffer from social anxiety tend to alienate themselves from social situations which makes it even hard to deal with their problem.  In conventions they meet people alike with similar hobbies and passion. Therefore they will keep meeting now and then and when they hint no one is judging or criticizing they realize it is far easier to interact than they thought.  Making friends becomes easy and all they can hope for is that they keep making more friends.
Once they show off their skill and talent in such a huge crowd, they feel completely different and way comfortable that they are no longer shy. Even if someone judges they are aware that they are not the ones being judged but the superhero character they are wearing.

 

A Boost of Confidence

One to three people in a group of ten are not aware of their talent. Finding something you love and are perfectly good at does boost your confidence. Costume-play is an art that hasn’t been recognized for a long time and with every stitch displays the confidence the artist has in him… or herself.
As they showcase their work to the work either during Halloween or in conventions their confidence grows and the appreciation is very satisfying.
A boost in self-esteem is well deserved especially by those who had little self confidence in their abilities.

 

A bonding experience with friends and family

There are a lot of families that are going through a tough time like a divorce or financial problems. Just in case the stress of everything that is happening is driving everyone apart try cosplay.  The good thing about cosplay is that there is no age limit. Whether you are fifty or sixteen there is a character that you adored growing up. You can make or buy (if you don’t know how to make one) costumes for the entire family with every one wearing their favorite superhero or anime character and make it fun and enjoyable.  At the same time you can invite friends to join in the fun and before you know it you have your own little community of cosplayers. Nothing makes memories better than costume play.

 

Cures Depression

Just like with social anxiety, Costume play has proven to cure depression. Due to the fact that most people suffer from depression even without knowing it, there are certain symptoms that indicate you’re going through depression like;
•Thinking about the same thing over and over again
•Poor appetite
•Suicide thoughts
•Social isolation
•Irritability
•Restlessness
•Weight shifts
•Mood swings
•insomnia
•Loss of interest or pleasure in activities

Once you have the above signs and symptoms then you are suffering from depression. Cosplay involves a group of people having fun with no judgment whatsoever.  No one expects you to act or look a certain ways. Things that matter to people do not apply to costume play which is amazing by the way. You can be the stupidest character and be praised for it.  Since social isolation is one of the signs of depression when one is convinced to try out cosplay and agrees to it, they find that it is so much fun and probably make it a hobby. A really fun hobby, and before they know it all suicide thoughts and bitterness disappears.

 

Expressing yourself

People express themselves through their costumes. When you can see how many people appreciate your hard work you feel contented and that is a motivation to keep doing more.  There are so many people in the industry that do the same thing. They meet and share each other’s creation which shows unity and love for the art.  Each cosplayer has a reason for choosing a certain character. Whether the character makes them feel superior, loyal, funny, happy or royal that is what they showcase to the world. If I’m dressed like wonder woman I want to feel superior and in control.  It is pretty amazing to see young adults being free and telling the world ou cannot be serious all the time it is great let lose once in a while’. Just stop and let your costume do the talking. Not literally though, we all know they can’t.

 

Freedom

When you look at cosplay you think freedom. The freedom to wear whatever you want at any given time is what costume play is about. People choose whatever costume they want. They play with it and do it their own way.
Unlike fashion you get to choose what to wear and no one will be like, “that’s outdated or that does not fit you right, it’s not cool” and such like comments.
You play your favorite character and have a whole lot of fun doing it. Costume play gives everyone regardless of the age, size or gender comfortable and appreciated. Once you’re in a costume there is no turning back and no one can tell you otherwise. In a superhero movie you are a new different human being or alien in any case but you’re free from critics and judgment and that’s all you need.

 

Self-acceptance

There are so many people in the world who are not comfortable in their own skin. Appreciating how they were created is not something they do. Cosplay has been very welcoming to every single person in the world.  As I said earlier there are no critics but fun. Most people play dress up to feel more comfortable in their own skin.  When they feel accepted that leads them to accepting themselves for who they are and anyway the best version of yourself is you so there is no one in the world who can be you. You are the only you. That is exactly what costume play does for you.

 

Creativity and great possibilities.

Cosplay is a world of creativity and great possibilities. You can create your own superhero and before you know it your famous. Expressing your great idea to the world can lead to great achievements. There are a lot of people in the film industry that appreciate superheros and villains. Fiction is very rewarding and taking costume play as a career is something to consider.In this time and age there are a few people who care about careers our parents kept telling us that we should do in college like engineering and accounting. I mean we can’t all be engineers.The things that no one thought could be careers are the ones controlling the world like fashion, modeling and acting. You can trust me when I tell you that costumes have made millionaires. There is a door for you to create your own characters or use the characters available to make your costumes to express yourself because that is a talent.

 

Happiness

Every one finds happiness once they play their favorite fiction character.
The joy that you get once someone in a convention runs to you with a really big smile on their face to ask you for a picture or the joy that you get from just having fun with your friends and family.  Happiness is something that we all seek and it doesn’t matter how you achieve true happiness just as long as you find it. There are people who do cosplay since it’s their passion. They enjoy it and love it. There are those nerds who love to hide behind the costume. But you know what it doesn’t matter as long as they are happy at that particular time it’s worth it.

 

Cosplay Convention

Do not be afraid to express yourself. This being the only life that you have you should explore the world and be adventurous. There is nothing more satisfying than living a life that is stress free.  Be someone else for a day and see how that feels.  There are no boundaries, be a superhero or a furry, whatever is your fantasy!!!