P-Spot Beyond Pleasure!

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I don’t need to explain to the homosexual readers of this blog the pleasures that come from the prostates involvement in your sexual activities. This article is for the hetero-curious men and couples out there reading. It is about opening up to find pleasure and equality through the prostate.

From the beginning of our sexual explorations and curiosities we learn from what we see, and as the prostate is unseen it is rarely spoken about. Not to mention the “Taboo” associated with anal play. The stigma that men who participate in anal play must be gay.. is too long outdated and is in serious need of a new outlook. The act of a man participating in a prostate orgasm allows for a man to step outside of the societal gender roles and hand the power over to his female partner. Too rarely does a man ever get to experience the receptive part or sex, all too often they take the common role of “Pitching” and leave the “Catching” or receptive aspect of sex to their female partners. This ideology is what I believe to be a huge factor in why the notion of gender roles are as they are currently.

A mutual knowledge of the vulnerability/ the expected role of a woman starts from experiencing two sides of the same coin. In this particular topic, penetration is the coin. For a man who has never experienced penetration on himself, he might intellectually understand the need for the “warm-up” before penetration, however, nothing can demonstrate its importance as well as experiencing it first hand. There’s always a clearer perspective that comes from personal experience.

What Is A Prostate You Ask?

The prostate is a small gland made up of mostly muscle tissue that sits around the base of the bladder. Its main function is to secrete fluids that are mixed with the Semen from the Vas Deference during orgasm. This is the most important piece of information for this article. A man’s prostate is most active at the moment leading to orgasm when pressure is added to the already pulsing Prostate gland creates an even more powerful ejaculate which heightens the feeling of orgasm. This reason alone should be enough to intrigue any man!

Through prostate orgasm, a man is able to reach multiple orgasms… Yes, I said it! A man can have multiple orgasms too! It is not just for the ladies.

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Benefits Beyond Pleasure

When you engage the prostate with massage/added pressure, as I previously said allows for larger ejaculation orgasms. This helps to empty and refresh the prostate. It also encourages blood flow to the pelvic area, this helps to fight impotence. Yes playing with this little gland can help ensure you have healthy erections well into agedness. There is also a ton of research being done currently as to how having a regularly refreshed prostate lowers the potential risk of prostate cancer found so commonly in men.There are many other benefits of prostate massage.

How To Engage In Prostate Stimulation?

The prostate can be stimulated by adding pressure to the anatomy of the perineum (the space between the testicles and the anus. However direct contact from inside is always more intimate with greater effects. The prostate can be reached by inserting one finger into the anus approximately 1.5-2 inches tip of the finger pointing to the naval and rolling your finger in a come hither motion. You should feel a Squishy marble as you do this, that’s the prostate. Very easy to find. Keep in mind the skin around the anal opening is very sensitive and can tear very easily. EXTRA Lube is necessary. Start with a warm up; caress the outside of the anus (the anus has as many nerve ending as any other erogenous zone). Try stroking the penis, as the penis gets erect the blood flow around the prostate will also increase created a heightened pleasure sense.

Effects On The Relationship

For hetero-normative couples, it is understandable how “flipping” the roles could potentially have some uncharted territory. But that’s no reason to avoid or judge something. Especially something that has so much potential. Communication is key! You are in this together! Sex is more than just procreation. Sex is also about pleasure and as discussed has countless health benefits. What this will allow or aid in with couples in establishing compassion, empathy and understanding towards each other. It may not eliminate gender based unfairness or sexism, it does have the ability to open equal understanding and dialogue.

If you’re open enough to try a new world of pleasure, just remember to relax, have fun. It’s VERY NORMAL. Millions of men and women worldwide have already found the amazing pleasure to be had from this great pleasure zone. Everyone should want to be on the same page as their partner

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Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology – Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings.

Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

I Got HUGE – Using My Extender!

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Within every study from social to psychological the results are the same, a man’s confidence is directly affected by the size of his member. This could stem from any number of factors like the animalistic drive for reproduction to the instinctual competitive nature of male primates and how he compares to the average penis size. Whatever the reason is people have seen the demand and there is no shortage of “fixes” or products out there that claim to give you a bigger penis. This article isn’t going to talk about the many many many pills on the market or the endless creams that all claim will change the physical anatomy of your penis. What I am going to discuss are the mechanical devices that you physically have to administer and use in a regulated and consistent manner.

What Is a Penis Extender?

A penis extender is also known as a stretcher or a penis traction device. These devices all work using a Physics principle of traction that is most traditionally used in bone and joint surgery. If you are not familiar with traction, it’s the complex process of moving from a steady point to another point. I find it easiest to think of it as a pulling force. Like when you jump and grab a branch to pull it to the ground, the force you apply when pulling the branch down is the traction.

How Does A Penis Extender Work?

How the extender devices work is pretty much the same across the board, the cells that make up our body tissues and more specifically the penis tissues multiply when a traction force is applied. This can also be looked at as when damage is done the body then works extra to compensate for the injury or damage. This has been seen in shins, arms, and spines. When cell multiplication takes place in any situation will result in the growth or extension of the particular tissue being affected. In theory, if you apply the traction principal to the penis enlargement “crisis” the Extender Device uses a controlled, measurement of traction force from the pubis base to the head tip. In theory this will encourage the cell regrowth along the penis. It is essentially being pulled through the middle of the shaft along the Corpora Cavernosa. This is a soft tissue that can be damaged quiet easy. Extenders work by using that traction or pulling force to elongate the penis shaft for long periods of time to break down some of that soft tissue and encourage the body to repair (multiply its own cells) thus elongating the penis.

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Penis Extender Studies

Over the last few years, a growing number of studies have been conducted surrounding the use of these extenders. According to results I have seen conducted in Spain, all the studies published positive results with noticeable changes in those who used the device. Digging deeper into the results, it is very clear that the most noticeable changes were in correcting curvatures of the penis rather than effecting the length of the study participants.

I think it is also important to note that in those studies all participants used the devices under the supervision of trained medical professionals. If you are not familiar with the limitations of the body these devices could cause permanent damage. And that is really the opposite of what users of these devices are after. I do employ that if you are looking into these devices, please don’t read information from any sites who are directly representing an Extender brand. Read the good and the bad, it’s all important. Just because the brand or imaging for the Extender includes “DR” or “Medical” does not make it safer to use.

Penis Extender Price Range

These devices are not cheap, and not something to be purchased on a whim. It is very important that if you are a potential buyer that you do your research, come in to an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre and don’t be afraid to ask questions. We carry a number of different options from $150-$400. From the outside these products will look the same. They all use the same general assembly and are attached to the penis in the same general manner. However the biggest difference you will notice is the maximum measurement of traction force that can be applied. Now of course you don’t start at the highest traction. But if it’s a device you intend to use to its fullest potential, the lower price point devices will only get you so far.

Other Methods To Increase Your Penis Size

If after reading this and hopefully many articles and reviews you have decided that these devices are outside of your comfort zone, perhaps you can try the method that inspired these devices. It’s called Jelqing! I know what? Jelqing is considered the original penis extension method that involves warm water and your hand. Seems simple but there’s more to it than just that. I won’t go into it now, but something for you to look into if you’re interested. There are also various other methods to increase your penis size.

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Patrick Kriz has a Bachelor Degree (Honours) in Psychology – Human Sexuality. Patrick is a wonderful man that has a wealth of knowledge and is happy to share this with those around him. He is articulate, educated and the provider or interesting and educational writings.

Having been a regular contributor to this blog for the past couple of months he has consented to add his profile to our ever expanding list of bloggers that provide us with the great content provided to you. We thank all our contributors and authors and a special thanks to Patrick whom we deem to be an expert on all things relating to sexual wellness and adult lifestyle with quality writings. Be sure to follow Patrick on Instagram.

What You Need To Know About HIV and AIDS

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I have just returned from an intensive week of university completing my post graduate studies in Sexology and have so many things to share, I don’t know where to start!! Throughout the week, we explored a range of topics ranging from gender and sexual identity to paraphilia’s and BDSM. The intention for the intensive week was to explore our personal assumptions, judgements and beliefs regarding sexual health and human sexual expression. For someone who thought she was already educated in this field, it was invaluable experience to know there is so much more out there to know!

As I write this, I am listening to Bohemian Rhapsody by Queen which reminds me of one topic in particular which I find so important to share. The lead singer of Queen, Freddie Mercury, died on the 24th of November, 1991, due to complications associated with Acquired Immunodeficiency Syndrome (AIDS). According to The World Health Organisation, his death was just one of over 35 million deaths associated with this illness since the early 1980’s outbreak, with 70 million people having contracted Human Immunodeficiency Virus (HIV) in this time.

So much has changed since the early days of HIV. Being infected with HIV used to be a death sentence, now thanks to advancements in treatment options, HIV positive individuals can live a long and healthy life. I wish to share some information that I believe is so important for all people to understand. It is obvious to me that in our society, there still exists a strong stigma and lack of education regarding HIV and AIDS. This lack of education can lead to wrong assumptions and unhealthy judgements for people living with HIV so I hope this article can shed some light on the reality of HIV and AIDS.

HIV is a blood borne virus that attacks the body’s immune system. If a person contracts HIV and does not seek treatment, the virus can develop into AIDS, which is the later stage of HIV infection and leaves an individual susceptible to opportunistic infections. Developing AIDS leads to a significantly lower life expectancy. Luckily treatment for HIV in Australia is readily available and the large majority of people who have contracted HIV will not develop AIDS.

 

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HIV can be contracted from semen, pre-ejaculate, vaginal fluids, rectal fluids, breast milk or blood. If any of these bodily fluids of a HIV positive individual enter the blood stream of another, there is a varied risk of contracting the virus depending on their viral loading (Viral loading being the level of HIV detectable in the blood).

This virus can be spread in many ways, the most common ways include anal sex, vaginal sex and intravenous drug use. Just to be clear, you can not contract HIV from the following: Air, water, mosquitoes, ticks, insects, saliva, tears, sweat that is not mixed with the blood of a HIV-positive person, shaking hands, hugging, sharing toilets, sharing dishes/drinking glasses, closed-mouth or “social” kissing with someone who is HIV-positive, drinking fountains and other sexual activities that don’t involve the exchange of body fluids (For example, touching).

As is with all sexually transmitted infections and BBV’s, abstinence is the only 100% effective way to avoid contracting HIV. I am a realist and understand that with many people, abstinence from sexual activity is not a healthy option. Luckily there are many extremely effective precautions that can be implemented into your sexual experiences so that your chance of contracting HIV is diminished.

Taking precautions such as using condoms with oral, vaginal and anal sex, getting tested regularly and avoiding contact with bodily fluids are some effective ways to avoid contracting HIV including the use of PrEP and PEP.

PrEP (Pre-exposure prophylaxis) is an antiretroviral drug taken by HIV negative people to prevent HIV infection. It is becoming more readily available to certain demographics in Australia who are at greater risk of HIV, in particular for men who have sex with men. Talk to you doctor or discuss with a health care professional at a sexual health clinic for more information.

PEP (Post-exposure prophylaxis) is a 4-week course of an antiretroviral drug taken after potential exposure to HIV. It must be taken within 72 hours of exposure for it to be effective and is best taken as soon as possible within this time frame. It can be prescribed from Emergency Departments and sexual health clinics across Australia.

For those diagnosed with HIV, antiretroviral drugs are the most common treatment option. These drugs work by keeping the viral loading of the drug (viral loading being the level of HIV in the blood) down. These drugs are so advanced that the viral load of individuals taking them as prescribed can be undetectable. This means that the chance of these people transmitting HIV to another person is extremely low.

HIV is not a death sentence like it used to be. Despite being a virus that will stay with an individual for life, there is extremely effective treatment available in Australia which means a person with HIV can be undetectable and completely healthy.

Have safe sex to avoid being infected with an STI or BBV is extremely important for all sexually active individuals.  For more information, I highly recommend checking out the Ending HIV website and the Family Planning NSW website. There can be so much misleading information out there, it is important to learn from reputable sources.

 

 

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10 Penis Facts That’ll Blow Your Mind

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There are a lot of questions about how a man’s penis operates that we often find ourselves thinking but struggle to find the answer to. Have you ever wanted to know why men experience erections in their sleep or why testicles shrink when it’s cold? This article answers those hard to ask questions here are 10 Penis Facts That’ll Blow Your Mind.

Is the penis a bone, a muscle or an organ? The penis is an organ which is made up of muscle tissue. Like any other muscle, the penis can be exercised to maintain strength and elasticity.

What is the average penis size? The National Health Service claimed that the average erect penis size is 14cm to 16cm which is 5.5 inches to 6.3 inches. The average erect penis girth is 12cm to 13cm which is 4.7 inches to 5.1 inches.

Are there different types of erections? There are two different types of erections including psychogenic and reflex.

  • Psychogenic: Psychogenic erections occur when a man think of thoughts or images which are sexually arousing. The nerves within his body reacts which tells his body to form an erection.
  • Reflex: Reflex erections can happen without any types of arousing thoughts or images. It can be triggered by a full bladder which stimulates nerves within the spinal cord. It is often thought that erections from having a full bladder is your body’s natural process to prevent urinating where you are sleeping.

What are the different penis types? There are five common different penis types that range in functionality and shape.

  • Circumcised Penises: Circumcised Penises are penises that have the foreskin removed. It is one of the most common types of penises worldwide.
  • Uncircumcised Penises: Uncircumcised Penises are penises that have the foreskin intact. People who have uncircumcised penises need to spend some extra time cleaning due to the extra skin.
  • Growers: A grower is when a man’s penis becomes much bigger during erection compared to when he is flaccid. An international Men’s Health survey found that 79 percent of men have growers.
  • Showers: A shower is when a man’s penis remains a similar size to when he is flaccid to erect. An international Men’s Health survey found that 21 percent of men have showers.
  • Curved Penises: Curved Penises often bend gently in one direction normally to the left or the right. The curve of the penis is made obvious when he is erect.

 

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Why do men get erections in the morning? When men are awake they release a hormone named noradrenaline into their body which prevents erections.  Noradrenaline is released less when you are in REM sleep, so you are more likely to have erections when you are asleep and in the morning when you wake up.

How does alcohol impact men during sex? It is the common assumption that alcohol provides people with Dutch courage and bravery which is often the case in social interactions. Alcohol is a depressant and has some negative side effects for men that can include lower levels of arousal. It can make erections and orgasms more difficult to achieve, sometimes giving people temporary erectile dysfunction. The McKinley Health Center at the University of Illinois say that it is most common in men who have a blood alcohol concentration above .08.

Is blue balls a real thing? Blue balls is also known as prostatic congestion, it often happens after a man has been in a state of arousal for a long period of time without the relief of ejaculation. It can cause pain within and around the testicles due to uneven blood flow which can trap blood in the genitals. His penis and testicles may appear to be enlarged during his experience with Blue Balls. Not everyone man experiences blue balls and some people consider blue balls a myth. To help with blue balls it is recommended that men regularly masturbate, eat healthy and go on walks. Ejaculation can almost immediately get rid of blue balls.

How do condoms impact sex? Condoms provide a thin layer of latex to cover an erect penis that is used prevent the transmission of sexual infections and pregnancy. Although the layer of latex is thin, condoms take away from some of the pleasurable sensations of sexual penetration. This means men may enjoy larger amounts of foreplay to make the experience as pleasurable as possible.

What happens to a man after he ejaculates? After a man has orgasmed a mixture of chemicals are released into their body including oxytocin, vasopressin and prolactin. Lower levels of prolactin dictate that the man is able to recover quicker. Higher levels of prolactin mean they will have to go through a recovery time before they are able to ejaculate again which will make them feel sleepy. Oxytocin and vasopressin are another two chemicals that make people sleepy. Oxytocin can also provide people with lower levels of stress which aids in deep relaxation.

Why does a man’s penis and testicles shrink when it’s cold? The human body is made to reserve heart and energy supplies. If a man is cold, the penis and testicles will raise themselves closer to the body in an effort to remain warm. Your body also directs more blood flow from external body parts like the fingers and toes to help with regular function of your organs. When the weather becomes warmer, a man’s body will readjust back to normal size due to increased blood flow.

 

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What Affects Levels of Libido

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A spreadsheet released by a Reddit user recorded all the excuses his wife used to reject his sexual advances over a 44 day period. He had made a total of 27 sexual advances and only had sex with her 3 times which is an extremely high failure rate. The excuses his wife came up with provide a hilarious personal look into a couple’s sexual lifestyle. Some of the funnier statements include:

“I’m watching the show” (Friends re-run)

“I’m sweaty and gross, and I’m tired.”

“I’m not feeling good, I ate too much”

“No”

This spreadsheet may fit into a stereotypical view of the reasons why people do not want to have sex. In this case, a women who is too tired to have sex due to a busy lifestyle. However, in reality there is no real stereotype that men and women should fall under when it comes to the reasons why people have different levels of sexual desire. The truth is, some men and women may want sex all the time whilst others may want it sometimes and some not at all. There are many underlying factors that contribute to a low sexual desire that include mental health issues, medical problems, levels of attraction, performance anxiety and age. Listed below are factors linked in with having low levels of libido.

Mental Health Issues

Often depression, high stress levels of stress and anxiety are the main mental health factors that affect sex drive. Beyondblue claims that 1 million Australian adults have depression whilst 2 million have anxiety. Other problems may include relationship problems, family issues, poor body image and low self-esteem.

Medical Problems

Medical issues like diabetes, high blood pressure, chronic pain, hypertension, sleep problems and high cholesterol impacts levels of sexual arousal. A person’s sex drive can also be affected by medications and drugs. The most common medications that affect sex drive include antidepressants, antihistamines and blood pressure medication.

Some people also experience Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder (HSSD). HSSD is when a person has no sexual desire, fantasies or thoughts about sexual activity. It becomes a disorder when the people who have almost no levels of arousal actually want an active sex life. It is said that this disorder impacts under 15% of women who are between 20 and 60. In hopes to help this medical issue, medical professionals are creating a female Viagra named “Lybrido”. Often the people who have this disorder are labelled as being “reserved” but HSSD is not in their control.

Attraction

Women’s sex drive can be influenced by social and cultural factors. A women may naturally be ingrained to be aroused to a person who is able to support and protect her.

 

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Performance Anxiety

A man’s performance anxiety is linked with premature ejaculation, how they perform in the bedroom and society pressure. During penetrative sex, men often feel their partner has to always orgasm. This unrealistic view can be a problem especially when only 26% of women experience an orgasm during sex. Whereas 75% of men orgasm during sex.

Age

Men have their highest sex drive between the ages of 15 to 20. As men age they experience drops in levels of testosterone which will give them a lower sexual libido. Testosterone impacts a man’s development of sex organs, body hair, bone mass and muscles. They may require more physical stimulation and higher levels of mental stimulation to get an erection. This means it will also take men longer to reach ejaculation. A man’s testosterone levels are higher in the morning than they are at night.

Women have their highest sex drive between the ages of 35 to 40. Women also experience Menopause where their estrogen levels drop drastically. The average age a woman experiences menopause is 51 years old. It appears that menopause is genetically linked, so around the age the woman’s nearest relatives have experienced it will be around the same age a women experiences it.

It is important to note that the aging process is normal and the changes do not happen all at the one time. The way people reach orgasm and make love can be slightly different to how they did it when they were teenagers. Although reaching orgasm may take more time, they are able to enjoy the process of sex more thoroughly by engaging in physical and emotional connections.

Seek Professional Help

People who experience low levels of libido can seek professional treatment. For mental health issues, you can talk to trained mental health professionals like a counselor, a psychologist or a psychiatrist. People who are experiencing relationship issues can seek help through sex therapy or relationship counseling. Whilst people who experience medical problems should seek help from their general practitioner for more information.

Some lifestyle changes can be made to help improve sexual desire that include:

  • Eating healthy
  • Getting the right levels of sleep
  • Using stress management techniques
  • Exercise

 

 

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Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

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