The Modern Dating Age

Modern Dating

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

Essential Guide On Consent

About Consent

A word that is so heavily enforced but not so heavily taught within educational systems is what is Consent? Consent in the dictionary is defined as:

“Permission for something to happen or agreement to do something.”

Whilst scrolling through social media or merely watching the news, it is becoming more and more apparent to me that the terms ‘consent’ and ‘sex’ are going further and further in the opposite direction. You often hear of saddening violent stories in the media about rape or sexual assault and action’s that have happened without someone’s Consent. Consent is an ENORMOUS aspect of all situations in life, though especially in any sexual encounter. It isn’t enough to assume that someone wishes to have sex with you just as much as you do. Consensual sex and non-consensual sex is something we commonly discuss at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and thoroughly understand. Though it seems to be a word that is slipping out of the world’s vocabulary and rather seen as ‘poor judgement’.
First things first, clothing and alcohol have absolutely NOTHING to do with knowing, understanding and respecting the word consent. Looking back at my sex education in Primary School and High School, I do not remember EVER being taught about consent, what it is, and what it means if there is a lack of consent. How disgusting that we are taught WHAT sex is, HOW to have sex, and how to have PROTECTED sex, but not how to have CONSENSUAL sex? Is this a major fault in our education system? Absolutely. Should we be teaching from an early age about consent? Absolutely. Is this going to solve the problem and completely eradicate the problem? Absolutely not – but it’s a damn good place to start. There should be a regulated sexual education class that is compulsory that will talk about what consent is.

What Is Consent?

In any sexual encounter, it is of utmost importance to know that the other person/people involved are just as enthusiastic about having sex as you are i.e the person is 100% certain that they wish to have sex with you.. Consent means that someone says YES to sexual activity. Unbeknownst to children, young adults and many adults, not only is sex WITHOUT consent illegal, but it can be physically and emotionally damaging to a person for life. It is also important to realise that though someone has given their consent, they are allowed and absolutely entitled to change their mind. At any point in a sexual encounter it is your absolute right to stop the progression of activities if you so wish.  Remember, just because someone consents to kissing you, does not mean that they consent to intercourse.
Consent Statement
Image: Consent Can Be Withdrawn At Any Time

How Can You Tell If Someone Has Given Consent?

ASK. ASK. ASK.
Getting consent is only a sentence away and quite possibly one of the most life changing sentences you could ever ask. Below are a few simple sentences that could change yours or somebody else’s life by simply asking them:
  • Are you comfortable with this?
  • Would you like to go further?
  • Are you okay?
  • Would you like to stop?
  • Would you like to take a breather?
  • Do you want me to keep going?
  • Does this feel okay?
  • How do you feel about this?
  • Are you still into this?

Way’s To Tell Somebody Doesn’t Give Consent, Even Though They Haven’t Explicitly Stated So & What Means No?

  • Stiffening of their facial expression
  • Stiffening of their muscles
  • Not responding to touch
  • Not doing anything in return
  • Pushing you away or holding their arms out
  • Sobbing or crying
  • Saying ‘not now’ or ‘maybe later’ ALSO means no
  • If someone is asleep, unconscious, drunk, or under the influence of drugs, they cannot consent to sex and you should not accept their ‘yes’ as consent.

It is okay to say NO

There are other ways to slow down the progression of things if you are feeling uncomfortable:
  • Can we stay like this for a while?
  • Can we take a breather?
  • This is a little too much too soon.
If you are in a position where you feel you are in danger, are compromised or you are uncomfortable – it is okay to say NO. It is your right to say NO. Should you be the victim of non-consensual sex please seek assistance from your local rape crisis centre.

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

Romance, Passion & Sex

People on Dinner Date

Generally,  Romance, Passion & Sex are all interlinked in some way. As they are all vulnerable acts you experience with another human being. This article will explain the difference between romance, passion and sex.

Romance

Romance is a social type of foreplay between two people. Romance is getting to know who your partner is. Some time’s we have been with our partner for so long, romance can be away of  re-learning who they are now rather then who they were when you first met. Romance provides a way of reconnecting with them to create new moments together that will have ever lasting memories. Spending quality time together creates a greater bond on an emotional level, as you take care of someone else’s needs or wants both physically and emotionally. Taking care of someone, give’s them something without expecting anything in return. Romance, is really providing emotional needs to someone, that no one else can because you are their only partner.

Below I have listed the top 12 romantic ideas:

  • Taking your partner on a date
  • Providing them with a warming hug or rubbing their hands when they are cold
  • Giving them your jumper when it is freezing whilst pretending you are warm yourself
  • Going to the movies together
  • Giving them a surprise, thoughtful gift knowing that it is a part of their hobby or an object that will make them feel loved, protected or safe. Some people give, flowers to show how beautiful nature is. Some people give chocolate as it deliciously stimulates the body to produce natural endorphin’s making the person who ate it, happier. Some people buy jewelry and engrave it, to let their partner carry something with them so they can always read it when they want to be reminded of how much they are loved
  • Flirting with your partner to let them know you are mentally and physically attracted by them
  • Keeping eye contact with your partner to make them feel like they are the only one in the room
  • Writing a letter or poem to your partner to share your inner thoughts
  • Thoughtfully placing rose petals on the bed before love making
  • Running a hot bubble bath with their favourite music playing in the background
  • Buying them their favourite food when you are shopping even when you don’t have the same food taste
  • Eating at your favourite restaurant or surprising them with a new one
Man Woman Kissing
Photo: Sensual Kissing

Passion

Passion is the amount of energy you spend showing your partner how much you love them, how you deeply take care of their physical needs as well as how much you want for their body sexually. It is much more of an expressive act to help show them just how much you crave their body land heal their soul. It’s a much deeper, physical level of emotion. It really is the display the amount of love and level of intimacy during sex. It is exploring all of their body, to learn every single part of them. Below I have listed some ways you can develop your passion during sex:

  • Watch a passionate porn DVD and learn how the professional’s do it. Watch the DVD with your partner or comfortably by yourself. A colleague recommended this DVD series to me and now I recommend it to, which is “Girlfriend Films – Wet For Women” DVD series. It is a good starting point to learn about how other people portray what passionate sex is.
  • If your partner doesn’t understand how to make passionate sex or love making, but you do understand how to. Show them one day and get them to do the same technique the very next day or directly afterwards. It’s a good way to build-up skill together. For example, you place on some meditative music, use your favourite massage oil, turn on the heating blanket, dim the lights, put a scented candle on and layout some rose petals. Give them a full body massage. Kiss every inch of their body intimately, slowly and see where the passion takes you. You’ll notice when your partner moans or when you massage a secret spot like the back of their neck or behind their knee, they may shiver. Learn your partner’s body and let them do the same to you.
  • Stare deeply into their eyes during sex and do your best to not break eye contact. As you have sex, you’ll look into their soul, you’ll learn to reconnect as you are both in a very vulnerable moment and you’ll naturally feel a deep passion.

Sex
Sex is known as many things including love making intercourse, sexual relations and includes sexual/vaginal/anal penetration. Google defines sex as “(chiefly with reference to people) sexual activity, including specifically sexual intercourse.”. Sexual intercourse is when individuals have sexual contact where they typically reach orgasm or ejaculation.

From what I’ve heard there are over 400 sex positions. Not just that, Oh Zone’s Adult Lifestyle Centre’s porn DVD collection has around 25 different categories to choose from. Even if you venture onto Adult Smart’s website they have more than 50 sub categories for their sex toys. Sex is so vast these days that everyone and anyone is catered for. These days with technological advancements the sex toy industry has reached a whole new level for couples sex toys. Sex and sex toys really is a bit of everything. You can really intertwine Romance, Passion & Sex into your relationship!

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Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Personality Types in Relationships

Personality types

Many times we talk about the illumination of the mind through writing or art or even music but often do not have regard that illumination of the mind can be because of someone else and because of our relationship with something else. We often do not examine how specific relationships can illuminate the mind, whether that be through our relationship with someone else such as a partner, family, sibling, teacher or even whether that relationship be through the self through various forms of belief. There a multitude of differing ways that the mind can be illuminated through relationships. There are many different Personality Types in Relationships.

Personal Relationships

Relationships are formed from a very young age. Research at the University of California shows that key personality traits are fully developed by the age of seven. Though the exact age is often contested by varying researchers, and ranges from the age of 2 to 7. Personality plays a key part in our relationships with other people, and it comes down to whether we have a dominant, or passive personality which determines our interactions with others and can play a big part in how we learn, and ultimately how we illuminate our minds. Indeed, the development of social and personalities within children are heavily influenced through the interaction of social relationships, biological maturation, and the way that the child views and is represented within the social world and idea of self. When it comes to the development of the child, and their personalities there are several schools of philosophy and social sciences that recurring within academic circles.

The first relies heavily on the often criticised Piaget Theory of cognitive development. Piaget notes that there are four critical stages within the development of a child which distinctly mark differing points in how they think, learn and react. Freudian theory relates to the sexual development of a child, a libido. The libidinal energy fuels the aspects of the ID, the ego and ultimately the super ego. It is an often hotly debated topic as Freudian theory is often thought to have very little to no basis, though many theorists after Freud have based their own research on it. The three components of the personality, according to Freud, are balanced delicately, with each feeding into the other and the development of which relates to our relationships, interactions and surroundings. Erickson is a theorist that has expanded upon the Freudian concept by suggesting that an individuals social relationships would ultimately impact the development of their personality. All of these theorists form the foundations of where we develop our personalities as human individuals. Our personality, ultimately affects the various relationships that we have, how we approach them, and how our minds react to these relationships and are ultimately illuminated.

Traits of Personalities

There has been recent debate as to the difference between types of personalities, and traits of personalities. The debate around this centres on the idea that there is no particular ‘type’ of personality and instead, that there are various traits within personalities. In the words of Tori Amos:

‘Some of the most beautiful people in the world are the ones that you can’t put into boxes’

Psychologists have largely given up in trying to repeatedly put people into various boxes as there are many variables. There are generally considered to be five personality traits – though the specifics of the ‘big five’ are hotly contested. Despite the contention the majority of studies refer to the big five as being extroversion, agreeableness, openness, conscientiousness and neuroticism. These five personality traits greatly affect ones personality and thus affect their ability to navigate through various relationships which in turn will help in illuminating the mind.

Openness

Sometimes thought to be categorised as intellect, openness refers to ones ability to process things, their interactions with art, relationships, curiosity, creativity and a willingness to either try and/or explore new things. Openness in people are more likely to see a person in tune with their feelings, and develop an ability to demonstrate, articulate and have the capacity to share their feelings. Openness doesn’t necessarily need to be in tune with creativity – they can be completely in tune with their curiosity.

Conscientiousness

This relates to the ability of self, and the moderation of behaviour for achievement against obstacles or outside expectations. It relates to being dutiful, self-discipline and is directly responsible for how we regulate and/or control our impulsiveness. Higher scores on the conscientious table will preference individuals that prefer strategic planning over spontaneity.

Extroversion

Extroversion refers to the creation of energy through external means. It’s primarily concerned with an engagement of the world . Extroverts enjoy the interaction with people, generally have an abundance of energy and are also considered to be, for the most part, enthusiastic, action orientated people. They are talkative and assertive in comparison to other personality traits, and introverts.

Introverts are not depressed, or shy – they simply need less engagement of their social world and are far more independent. Introverts require less external stimulation and like their alone time. This two traits are quite important when it comes to dealing with relationships.

Agreeableness

Agreeableness reflects the concern for social harmony. It is about socially getting along with others, and as a result of being in tune with their social aspects are generally helpful, generous, trusting, considerate, and kind. Agreeable people not only have positive view on human nature, but they’re more willing to sacrifice, or compromise their interests for others.
On the flip side – there are disagreeable people and these people place their own self-interests above others. Disagreeable people tend to be suspicious, unfriendly, and for the most part uncooperative.

Neuroticism

Neuroticism is sometimes referred to as emotional instability, or in some cold cases, emotional stability. Eysenck’s in 1967 put forth his theory of personalities where he stated that there is a direct link between a low tolerance for stress and stimuli and neuroticism. People who scored highly in this personality trait were often vulnerable to stress and emotionally reactive and as such often fuel threatened and frustration at seemingly normal situations. Neuroticism, changes the response towards both positive and negative life experiences.  Again, with the flip side people that have low scores in neuroticism are less affected by upsetting events, and are far less emotionally reactive. These kinds of people tend to be calm, free from negative thoughts and emotionally stable.

Briggs Myers personality types
Graph: Briggs Myers Personality Types

These five personality traits are often categorized into the 16 personality types of the Myer Briggs Personality Types. From there they are often categorized into two main groups – introverts and extroverts. These types of personalities can drastically affect your relationships, interaction with your relationships, and ultimately how you learn and illuminate your mind with these relationships. People develop particularly personality traits – these traits lean towards a particular personality type. However, it’s difficult to label people within one personality type, and will rather exhibit traits from various personality types instead. Despite this ability to having elements of various personality types through personality traits, these traits and qualities will generally lean towards one type more strongly than any others. It’s not a stretch to see how your personality will ultimately impact upon your relationships. Research suggests that there is a discrepancy between the two phrases ‘like minds’ and ‘opposites attract’. Truth is that they are both partially true.

Current research has demonstrated that people are often attracted to other people that are different from their own ways of thinking. This challenges our own ways of thinking and makes the relationship seemingly more exciting. They are drawn to ‘opposites’ because the ‘opposites’ can exhibit qualities that the other is lacking, meaning that there can often be a far more balanced array of traits between the couple as opposed to a single personality type. Indeed it is said that couples that have opposite personalities are more inclined to be well rounded as a result of their relationship. It’s actually a delicate balance between the idea that opposites attract, and that we are usually more attracted to people that have a similar perspective, and viewpoint in life. It doesn’t matter where you fit in on the relationship type or traits at the end of the day – relationships are difficult and they take a lot of work, commitment and dedication. However, i don’t believe, necessarily, in the idea of compatible personalities – what i believe is the idea that we can successfully manage our respective personalities within a relationship. If this can be achieved, through the understanding of your own personality, and our partners then we may be far more likely to have a healthier, happier relationship.

It is understandable the things we learn in relationships – we develop new tastes, we develop new interests and we develop new ways of seeing the world. Love transcends our comprehension and illuminates our minds in ways we can’t necessarily articulate. The learning that we gain from relationships is astounding. It’s a personal growth of sorts, it instill a sense of growth in our minds, and gives our minds the ability to see things in a different light. Whether this light be through our letting our walls down, or a clash of personalities that results in a positive or negative outcome, or simply by being in the presence of someone that does things differently to yourself, it is very easy to see how relationships change us. Not only that, but they mould us, they start a chain of events that lead to our maturation, our progression of mind and development, most of the time our minds are illuminated with our partner, however there are times when that illumination causes a disconnection between the minds, and the relationship will either be an immense struggle, or it will collapse in its entirety.

There are things that we can also learn from failure as well and there are many things to learn from the faltering of a relationship as well. Here’s a few things that will illuminate your mind in the event of failure

  1. We all need me time: Me time is an essential aspect of growth – it’s a part of our lives where we are able to contemplate life, direction, our own growth. Love and relationships do not mean that every second of time should be spent with your partner – it’s unreasonable and humans need a break from each other. There’s that saying where it states that you need to love yourself – the only way you’ll get that is if you get your own time.
  2. You complete yourself: You are a whole person. You are not a half, a quarter, a reflection of something or someone else, you are complete and in your own entirety. Someone, a relationship, a partner, someone who helps expand your thinking is not a completion of you, but merely an extension.
  3. You can only change yourself: Granted – relationships change people. But don’t spend so much time trying to mould someone into your ideal shape. Personalities, and the mind, do not work like that. We need to change by ourselves, and remember when we said that relationships change people and make people grow? Well, sometimes it’s not always a positive result.
  4. Honeymoons never last: That feeling that you got when you first started your relationship – isn’t going to last. That interest you currently have in changing everything about yourself, them and everything in between isn’t going to last. You need to prepare for that.
  5. It’s ultimately clear that relationships change people: It’s clear that personal relationships change people. They change how we think, react, and respond with the world – and for as long as relationships exist – whether that be on a romantic or friendly level – then we will continue to learn through peer based and communal learning.

Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.Ed

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

Mobile Sex Applications

Grindr Easy Hook Up

Here is my look at the current generation’s Mobile Sex Applications and the ways it goes about getting sexual satisfaction. For anything in life from how to cook an egg to wanting to dress someone up as a intergalactic space alien and spank them with a fake wobbegong shark tail there’s an application for that.  So the Mobile Sex Applications that I cover will be widely known for hookups, friends, chats, sex positions, locations and games. We have literally become Generation Sex with these Mobile Sex Applications.

Grindr

Now we all know Grindr some of us may have used it, some of us know someone who definitely uses it and have heard a range of good to horror stories from this app.  It is created purely for gay men who would like to find a date. This app was the first geo-social based gay app to be launched in the Itunes Store and is now in 192 Countries and amassing nearly 100,000 members in Australia alone! It was launched in 2009 and has received a wide array of criticism and praise.

  • The Worst: Egyptian Police used the triangulation of the GPS to hunt down gay people.
  • The Best: One of my heroes Stephen Fry met his Husband off this app. (VERY RARE)

So using the GPS based in this app you are able to chat to other gay people around your area for anything from fun to just a beer down the local watering hole. You simply upload a photo of yourself to the app, put in some details and write a lie about 150 characters long in your “About Me’ section and you’re ready to go! The app is very good for the fact you can send photos, locations and find other like minded people in your area you just have to trawl through a mountain of dick pics and seedy people that are like the pop ups of the 90’s but humans and way more intense.

Related Applications: SCRUFF, JACK’D

Brenda

This Mobile Sex Application is purely for lesbians, it’s again basically the same as grindr but replace all the words gay with lesbian and dicks with vaginas and Brenda ends up being the exact thing.

Related Applications: Findhrr, Curvenow

 

Tinder Easy Hook Up
Dating Application: Tinder

Tinder

Now a lot of Mobile Sex Applications have tried to cater to straight audiences and mixed audiences, none have done what Tinder has done. (Thank the lord for this app) .  With Tinder you HAVE to connect it through Facebook set up your distance (Up to 150km’s) you can set it to gay, straight or even wobbegong. You swipe left to dislike someone and swipe right to like someone and if they swipe right back on you, well you’re in buddy! You get to speak to this person, it’s a very shallow based app which basically every app like that is, but i find it fun swiping through hundreds of people and just saying “no”, nothing makes my day like declining things.

Back to your profile, much like the other apps you write a little bit about yourself upload some photos and you”re good to swipe left or right or even just have a conversation, with all of these apps there is a free version and a paid version, it’s not sad paying for an app because you get a lot more out of it, but I wouldn’t suggest it. Tinder is a fantastic way to explore your sexuality and i would suggest everyone give it a try before settling down as you can pretty much meet someone somehow close that will do anything you want and more, i’ve actually met two girls off there that i ended up dating longish term, but i always end up back on there! As with real life you will only get as far as the other person wants you to go , so some people are directly there just to talk to people or others just want to get laid.   A neat factor about this app is the fact you can set age 18-99  or lower.

Something cool they released about a week ago is a group chat, where it sources your friends who have tinder and can select up to 3 of them (4 in the group including yourself) and you match with other groups and all chat.  I absolutely hate this idea as my friends are a bunch of immature tattooed lads that make penis jokes as where i’m the more mature one (which really says something). Overall, I think Tinder is the friendliest regardless of age, nationality or creed and would rate it 8/10 as an app overall.  I’ve had very little things go wrong with it , it’s constantly maintained so it doesn’t crash and you can simply unmatch assholes.  Also don’t be corny or ask stupid questions that will get you far.

Tldr

I’ve met some really lovely people off this that have become life long friends I’ve also met some really lovely people off this that have become five hour friends.

Related Applications: Blendr (also created by grindr, ugly interface and messy), POF (Plenty of Fish, mostly scammers)

3ndr

3ndr is for woman who are down for threesomes, but you’re having trouble finding a third (I mean really, how do you even facilitate that?) 3ndr is here to hook you up. The app takes the creepiness out of finding a guest star for your sexy time — everyone on the app is either looking for a third or is eager to be in someone else’s threesome. Swipe right on the prospects you’re into, and if it’s a match, you’ll be able to connect and… flesh out the details

Other Mobile Applications

Kindu

We all have kinky desires, but bringing them up to the person we’re boning isn’t always easy. Not to mention, things can get real awkward, real fast during these types of talks. Kindu solves this problem the same way that Tinder eliminates the ability for people you’re not into to contact you. The app suggests potential sex acts, you can choose from BDSM, kink and fetish scenarios. You and your partner separately swipe left on what you aren’t into, and right on what you’d like to try. If you both say yes to the same scenario, you’re both notified. And if both of you aren’t on board, fear not — your significant other will never find out about that naughty nurse fetish of yours.

IKamasutra

Do know all 64 kama-sutra positions of by heart and how to do them? Yeah I didn’t think so, ‘IKamasutra’ suggests new sex positions on the regular, so that you’re never short on new moves to try. The app operates like Tinder: Swipe left on the positions that you’re not interested in, and swipe right on the ones that you want to add to your to-do list. You can even track which moves you’ve mastered using the app.

Pillow

Pillow is like Netflix, but for your sex life. Instead of sitting on the couch with your beau arguing over what you’re going to watch, put on a hot episode from the Pillow app, and follow along to their steamy suggestions on what the two of you should do to each other. Each episode is set up as a choose-your-own adventure style journey through different sex acts.

Truth or Dare

There’s nothing like a dirty game of truth or dare to make you both feel like you’re horny teenagers again. The 2.0 version of this party staple, Dirty Games Truth or Dare, features categories that include foreplay and fantasy dares sure to heat things up, taking your normal bedroom routine to the next level.

69 Places

So, you’re looking to have a public romp. Whether it’s your first time dipping your toe into the world of public sex, or you’re a seasoned expert in need of some new location inspiration, the ’69 places’ app has got you covered. With categories that range from “obscure” to “transportation” and even “sporting venues,” there’s sure to be something that will spark your interest.

We-Vibe 4 Application

Application to Control We-Vibes
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Recently, I decided to download the We-connect app by We-vibe since I had been raving on about how it was such a great, innovative idea every time I show a customer the We-Vibe 4 Plus I thought it’d be a good idea to get the app and get familiar with it. Its also sometimes helpful to show someone the app of they are a bit iffy on buying the We-vibe! just so they can see the thought and quality that has gone into this product. I love how brightly coloured everything is once you download the app, Its literally like a game so discreet there is no We-vibe branding in the app at all and basically the only people who may possibly know would be other We-vibe users! This easy to use app is extremely discreet for those who wish to use their We-vibe outside of the bedroom perhaps at dinner or a concert

The application allows people of varying locations control the We-vibe which is perfect for those that travel often, are in long distance relationships or partners who enjoying being in control of their partners pleasure with a tap of the screen! A downside to this is that the wearer of the We-vibe must invite the other person to control the vibrator, Which does take away the element of surprise. This isn’t a function I’ve been able to test out as of yet as I haven’t been in store with another app having staff member. In the “shared” or “paired” part of the app the option to speak to each other through the or via a face time like mode. This concept is pretty fantastic for long distance relationships!

You can control the intensity, frequency and pattern with literally a flick of the wrist its pretty magical. There are several premade patterns on the app and already programed into the device. They are as follows: vibrate, pulse,wave, echo, tide, crest,bounce, surf, peak and chachacha you can also combine these pre-programmed patterns to create your own. Other than the 4 plus the app can control the (new) classic, the rave and the nova. I think the app makes these products more enjoyable as you can tailor the intensities and patterns to your likes and avoid your dislikes. The possibilities are limitless with the app as it provides far more variety than the programmed and standard functions.

The application is great for the Nova as you can create a rollercoaster like vibration pattern between the internal and external motors and change up and vary the pattern! say you like the chacha in your hooha and that you like tide on your externals the app allows you to make that happen! There is even a tips and tricks section that answers some users most burning questions and gives some hints on how to get acclimatized with the We-vibe! Although there are toys out their that do have apps We-vibe is such a reliable brand and the app is so easy to use and simplistic its no wonder that it has won so many awards and has refined the We-vibe 4 plus to almost perfect cover all the bases hetrosexual couples sex toy!

There is always an Mobile Sex Application for everyone aye? to ‘spice’ things up has never been so easy, whether it be public sex or simply trying new positions. Go explore!

Author:  Nick is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!