5 Effortless Secrets To Reignite Sexual Chemistry

Sexual attraction

No matter what people may say, being sexually attracted to your partner is equally as important as being in love and having those kinds of emotions for him. Sexual chemistry really matters a lot in a loving relationship, but if you aren’t really sure how to create it, just stay with us and keep on reading. Here are five useful tips on how to get it done, so check them out and enjoy!

Imagine that he’s really hard to get

The first and one of the best ways to create sexual chemistry with your partner is imagining that he’s hard to get, as the power of a perceived obstacle can be stronger than you think. If you’re wondering why that is, you should check out a formula designed by Jack Morin, a famous sex therapist, which goes like this: A + PO = E. A stands for attraction, PO for perceived obstacle, and E for excitement, so if you really like that guy and he’s just too nice, you should imagine something standing between the two of you. You can always find out when he’s taking a business trip or hanging out with his buddies, so that you know that you can’t be with him then. Everyone knows that people always want exactly what they can’t have, which will undoubtedly spice up your sex life and lead to mind-blowing sex later on.

Remove any obstacles when it comes to sex

In case you weren’t aware, nothing can decrease your sexual desire more than dealing with an unresolved sexual block that’s highly likely to bog you down. This often happens when people have some kind of traumatic sexual experience, heightened performance anxiety, or when they grow up in a family or community where sex is considered dirty and sinful. Of course, you can’t have a high libido with unresolved sexual blocks, which is why you should do your best to deal with anything that bothers you. Working with a sex therapist or a specialized coach is a good first step, and even your partner can help you out if you trust him enough to share your fears with him.

Make fantasies work in your favour

A lot of ladies these days are dating good guys, but are actually turned on by bad ones, which is definitely one of the most common sexual fantasies among women from all across the globe. Needless to say, mental attraction is what sometimes matters much more than physical attraction, but your fantasies are just your thing, so try your best to make them work in your favour. Depending on how open you are with your partner, you could share your sexual fantasies and let him share his, too. You never know what’s in his head until you hear him uttering it, and you know what? Even the nicest guys can have the dirtiest fantasies, so be sure to know what he’s into and you might end up surprised!

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Add some aroma to spice things up

Even though finding that crazy sexual formula may not be the easiest task to accomplish, the fact is that you can do it with the help of your sense of smell. As simple as that! So, if you want to create chemistry that will last for a long time, you definitely have to find out what your (and his) favourite aromas are. You can always set the scene with your favourite perfume or flowers, so that you get seduced more easily and create mind-blowing sexual chemistry with your partner. The same goes for fragrances and even foods he likes, so find out what those are and you’ll see instant improvement. Besides that, you can also opt for different sex pheromone products which will surely help you achieve what you want!

Experiment with different locations

Last but not least, experimenting with different locations will undoubtedly spice up your sex life and help you create that sexual chemistry or take it to a whole new level. If fooling around at your place doesn’t do the trick for you, then try out something else and do it at his apartment to see if the outcome is any better. The change of scenery can be quite beneficial, but if you want to experiment even more, you should definitely go for something new. Public places like movie theatres, bars, and nightclubs are at the top of many people’s must-have-sex-at list, so don’t be scared to test them out and you’ll see how beneficial that adrenaline rush can actually be.

As you can see, there are a lot of fabulous ways to create sexual chemistry with your partner and spice up your sex life. All you have to do is to stick to our tips and tricks, as that’s one of the best ways to accomplish your goals and have amazing sex on a daily basis. If you’re up for that, you know what you should do!

Author: Peter is a sex columnist for HighStyleLife magazine. Follow Peter on Twitter for more tips.

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Freak In The Sheets, A Lady In The Streets

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Men want the type of girl that is marriage worthy, the kind that they can take home to their parents and their parents will instantly love. They want a kind of girl who is sexy just for them, a freak in bed but not someone who advertises it to the whole world. They want a bit of mystery associated to their woman, they don’t want the rest of the world to know how hard you like it in the bedroom or the kinks you’re into how wild you like it or even how frequent! Men are jealous greedy souls and they want this all for themselves, but can you blame them?

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Some might say this is unfair, and you know what it probably is but that’s your choice of how you want to hold yourself, flaunt if you want to but personally I prefer the more mysterious side. Think about it…. Your man might love to brag about you to his mates, your man might want to boast while the rest complain about their woman, but what he does want is for you to be sexy but not so sexy that his friends ogle you and there is nothing left to the imagination, he wants others to appreciate your beauty and find you desirable but know that is only the surface of your sex appeal.

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Of course, he secretly likes the fact his mates think you are sexy, but he doesn’t want to hear every detail of what they are thinking, and he doesn’t want to advertise it so much that his friends feel the need to comment about it all the time or in front of you. We as women love when other women find our man attractive, but there is a significant difference between smouldering appearance and flopping it out.

Those kinky mysteries are what your man wants, but he wants them to remain mysteries to everyone except him. He wants a freak in the streets and a lady on the street. A woman who knows when to cover up and when to show it off.

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Tips for how to be the mysterious and desirable lady who gets freaky only for their man. A women who oozes sex appeal and makes other men look twice when they pass you but for all the right reasons.

Skin

Show just enough skin to show you are proud of your body but not too much where there is nothing left to the imagination.

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A lady who knows when to amp up the dirty talk and can tell you exactly what she wants in the bedroom but knows how to curve her tongue when talking in public. Be careful what you wish for.

She giggles but be careful with what comes next

A lady who can giggle, covers her mouth and blushes like an innocent school girl, but out of nowhere can make the dirtiest comment or joke. She’s got two sides a devil and an angel.

She knows how to take a compliment but never lets a guy take it too far

She can politely brush off an abrupt guy in the street or a wolf whistle, she doesn’t use that as an excuse to tell the guy to “f**K Off”. She knows the difference between a harmless comment and straight up harassment. But when a guy does disrespect her she has no problem with telling him where to go.

She’s the type of women other guys will lust over, but her eyes are just for her man

Being with a woman like this means you need to have trust and confidence in your women, you have to understand that guys will check her out, but she won’t notice because her eyes are all on you.

Cute and sexy she will have the perfect combination of both

Divine powers like these are only bestowed upon women like this, ones who know when to be sexy and when to be cute. She has those innocent eyes but when you take a second look you’re instantly turned on.

Her wardrobe is high class sexy and classy but with all the innocents… underneath though is high sass and no one but you will ever know

Time is always taken to make sure she maintains a certain look about her, attention to makeup hair and her outfit always flawlessly match, but underneath all that is colour matching lingerie, lace and sexiness are oozing out waiting for her man to take off the surface layer. She’s definitely got a knack for kink, think less vanilla and more chocolate swirl with popping candy you’ll never know what’s coming next. Wearing the right lingerie can make you irresistible.

She likes tradition, but she is also unconventional

She is a sucker for all things traditional, nothing makes her happier than her friends and family. The feeling of togetherness is very important to her, but this doesn’t mean she is boring, she is free thinking and independent, speaks her mind even if it’s against popular opinion.

She takes care of your needs in life she is attentive and caring, but she gives you all your wants in the bedroom

Day to day she looks after what’s best for you, she will take care of you when you’re sick, and always thinks of both of you when it comes to choices in life. But when it comes to the bedroom your wants become your needs.

But all this is a two-way street, you can’t have a lady in the streets when your man isn’t the same way

A lady always know that this is a give and take world, she is patient loving and kind and always gives things a chance. Don’t get me wrong it will take a lot to push a woman like this away but when you do you will never ever see her again not on the streets or anywhere else.

No one wants a lady 24/7, that’s way too dull and boring, a woman who can seamlessly switch between the lady and the freak in such a fluid motion is a desirable attribute. This kind of life is a balance and in so many ways it sucks that women are expected to act a certain way and be a certain way, which is why the only way this works is if this is what you want to be. Two parts lady and two parts sexual dynamite, we walk a thin line that showcases your respect and love for your body, but with that hint of sexiness enough to not show neediness or thirst but enough the give an impeding allure about you.

No matter what anyone tells you men want a freak in the sheets and a lady on the streets.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Is Tradition Dead? Courtship In The 21st Century

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Sometimes on your journey through life being single for a period of times helps to restart your life. When you are ready to enter into a new relationship the dating world can be quite scary, dating isn’t for everyone and may not always be full of healthy and happy memories.

So if you are tired of dating have you ever tried courtship? Courtship isn’t the easiest to define but the main difference between courting and dating is essentially its purpose. People date for various reasons, but courting has a purpose and that is an underlying assumption that they will marry.

Guidelines to courtship

Despite the fact that it seems to be a very old-fashioned approach to a style of dating it is actually widely accepted and practiced. Here are some guidelines to courtship:

  • Only court one person at a time, this means no “shopping around” the reason for this is so that it gives one another the freedom to fully commit to each other without the worry that the other one will start to look around. This doesn’t mean that all courtship will lead to marriage it just means that the people who enter into this kind of relationship have a purpose of a serious future. The best way to be is open and direct about what your intentions are, make everything clear and be honest especially with yourself.
  • The man pursues the women, this is a more traditional approach to dating a wooing, and you let the man initiate the contact. By doing this you are allowing the man to lead, you are allowing him the control of the relationship and ultimately the future of the relationship, and thus giving you the option to follow or not. Some see this as the man having the upper hand or all the power, this is incorrect, secretly you always have the upper hand because you are allowing him to lead you and it’s your choice ultimately if you follow or not.
  • Courtship is always conducted publicly, with most of the time approval of both party’s parents and often the man will ask the woman’s father for his approval. This is mainly for the family to provide support to the relationship and able to counsel if they see something going the wrong way. This way the man and the woman are accountable for their actions and level of commitment to each other, relationships haven’t change overly much and whether we want to believe it or not our parents sometimes do know better.
  • These days one on one-date nights are normal but with courting group activities are encouraged.  The goal with group dates is for the couple to get to know each other on a friendship level first before becoming romantic with each other. Starting a relationship doesn’t always mean you have to be intimate and loving straight away by gazing into each other eyes. The initial dating should be fun and light in order to get to know each other first before going deeper; slow and steady wins the race.
  • Courting couples usually wait until their wedding night to have sex, although the idea is that courting precedes intimacy, the modern dating age and culture upholds the importance of discovering sexual compatibility prior to marriage. Couples who take courting very seriously believe true commitment means learning to be sexuality compatible after marriage even if it’s not something that happens straight away. Without going as far as this to starve yourself of sexual relations you can benefit from prolonging your first intimate time together and focus on getting to know each other first. By removing this sexual distraction you can truly find out if the relationship is a keeper or not.

To those who believe in courting it is more about selflessness, friendship and commitment rather than the use of romantic partners for sexual indulgence.

Differences between dating and courting

Courting and dating both have a “catch me if you can” phase, the thrill of the chase allows for accepting or declining of ones advances, it also keeps things interesting.

Dating is about catching prey, and there is no gender roles regarding who is the hunter and who is the prey. The volume of the prey and the time period in which they are court has no limit and it all comes down to who declines and who accepts the advancements.

Courtship is more about the hunt but with more of an emphasis on the prize at the end, being marriage and commitment. From the start interest is shown, grand gestures are often shown but with more resistance given from the prey, which means more effort is shown from the hunter as long as some interest is also reciprocated from the start.

The pace of the relationship, love can happen in a moment or over a long period of time.

Dating focuses more on making fast choices and maximising the time, while experiencing a high volume of partners, not just to keep options open but starting off as casual and seeing where things go. This usually gives both parties the options to keep something going and cutting off alternative suitors or to break it off and move to the next option.

With courting there is a joint decision to take it slow or slower than usual, they both take time to really get to know one another through logic, love and respect for one another. There is a great deal of emphasis on compatibility, attraction and interaction with each other, and each other’s family and friends. Although opposites do attract courting is about finding common ground as a basis to build a strong foundation to begin upon.

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Modern-day vs old school love, by the means of traditions, customs, values, the forming of romantic bonds and how that relates to today’s love.

Dating usually involves breaking away from tradition, the use of communication, the roles of each gender, and there is a greater focus on individual needs. Although romance still exists more emphasis is on instant attraction and seeking pleasure in all forms.

Courting focuses on chivalry and romantic gestures that demonstrate affection and admiration. First dates tend to be more traditional in order to get to know each other and often involve going out to dinner, long walks and sightseeing. Courting is about tradition and the masculine energy pursing and showing the female energy that he can protect and provide.

Intimacy is a huge part of a relationship, but it depends when both parties are ready to engage on a more intimate and personal level, the hope is that there is a sense of respect.

Dating getting hot and heavy in the bedroom really has no time limit, and tends to happen sooner rather than later. There is a greater urgency and desire to discovering sexual attraction sooner rather than later. Focus is more on sexual compatibility rather than emotional or intellectual, the downside to this is it tends to be more about physical connection and outside that compatibility can be lost.

With courting this involves restraint, but both have the choice to become sexual with each other once a mutual agreement has taken place. This is once a level of trust and exclusiveness has taken place this doesn’t always take place after marriage but once a couple decides on their future commitment to each other.  Sexual compatibility is just one part of the relationship that is important.

Commitment is the end goal, most humans like to be loved, this means giving and receiving. We have the desire to feel safe in the presence of others with one another; relationships reveal to us our level of self-awareness and selflessness.

During dating this isn’t for the faint hearted or hopeless romantic although some people do get married from a one-night stand; there is always an exception to every rule. Most of the time one person wants further commitment while the other still wants to discover and play the field, emotions, thoughts and care are not often handled with respect or considered overly important at the time, and then there are some couples who have marathon relationship that either end committed or agree to disagree and break apart.

Courting is a relationship with true intentions of commitment and getting to know each other on a deeper and profound level. Each outing together is to create lifelong memories and determining factors that ultimately find out the true possibility if marriage is the start to a new life together. There are never any guarantees but there are clear intentions and open communication to this ultimate decision, and if the relationship does advance there is a strong foundation from the very beginning.

Happy courting!

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Needy Women Blinded By Love

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I recently came to witness a young couple in the “blinded by love” phase of their relationship. I watched them for a while, noticing that they only had eyes for each other. You know the couple I speak of, don’t you? You can’t miss them. The ones who can’t go more than 5 seconds without touching regardless of passing pedestrians or telegraph poles that would usually rip them apart. The couple that spends every waking moment together when possible, consumed by everything about their partner. The couple that will look at each other like they have discovered the most incredible being in the entire universe and nothing could ever be more blissful than the fact that you get to spend your life with them by your side. The woman gazed into her man’s eyes with such adoration and love, it was a joy for me to watch.

As well as being an uplifting start to my morning, I also found it to be such a strong reflection of how I am when I’m in love with someone. I’m that “needy” woman in relationship who loves to have my hands all over her man no matter where we find ourselves. I am the “too much” woman who gazes into his eyes for almost creepily amounts of time, completely absorbed by the beauty and magnificence that exudes through him. I am the over the top, obsessive, crazy woman who is so unbelievably in love with the person she gets to spend her life with and I wouldn’t want it to be any different.

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So many people hold back in their relationship believing that if they fully showed how much their partner meant to them they would run away. I have heard so many women who speak of not wanting to come across as too much, not wanting to be too attached, not wanting their partner to see how much they really love them. Fuck that!! If I had to suppress all that I feel for my partner then I’m absolutely sure I’d implode!!

I believe the issues with this “too much” women come from societal and media messages that strive to supress a woman’s natural expression. “Don’t ask for what you want because you’ll come across as needy”, “don’t cry or get mad at your partner because you’ll be labelled as the crazy girlfriend.” I watched a movie the other day that highlighted how strong this stereotype is, with a man leaving his partner for the “cool” chick because his girlfriend was crazy (i.e. emotional). Movies and television often shows teach young people that a woman who is emotional is unstable and erratic. Come on people, are we really back in the 1950’s where we’re expected to be obedient housewives who rely on a Valium prescription to supress their natural urges?

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So many women carry the belief that if they were to express themselves authentically, then they will be un-loveable. They are in relationships where they withhold their truth from the person that they are with for fear of being abandoned or rejected.

My question to these women is: do you really want to be in a relationship where you are constantly holding back your love, affection and authentic expression?

Or would you rather be in a relationship where you can breathe into all that you are, expressing yourself whole heartedly however that looks for you? Afterall, honest communication in a long-term relationship is vital.

You see, a relationship is supposed to be a place for you to share the totality of who you are with another. To think that so many people feel they can’t be their authentic self saddens me. I’ve been there before, holding back from saying I love you, suppressing how much I want to touch the person (Touch is my love language FYI) and it really is so debilitating. There comes a time though when pretending to be any different gets way too exhausting that you decide enough is enough. No more supressing and no more holding back from being anything other than what you are.

I know it sounds a bit corny but if I know anything it is that the love I feel for my partner is a divine reflection of the love that I am. If I am to suppress my love for him, I am suppressing the parts of me that make me whole and complete, loving and loved. Nothing on this planet compares to loving another human being whole heartedly and having them love and accept you right back just for being you.

I really encourage those women who believe they cannot express themselves fully in their relationship to really explore the truth behind the beliefs. Because If I know anything it is that a person worth being with wants you to be your most empowered, authentic and truthful self.

Author: Stephanie Curtis, Sexologist

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

Why It’s OK To Be A Bad Bitch

Independent bad gal

I find myself questioning this notion a lot lately for various reasons, why or if I should change my wicked ways.

Having recently entered a new relationship there are so many bad bitch traits I am yet to break, and almost like a rebellious teenager when relationship rules are imposed on me I push, kick and fight back. I forget that there are two people, two sets of feelings, two hearts. I’m too independent, self-reliant and a whole year prior of singledom has well set me back and completely impaired me as far as having the skills to be in a relationship.

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You see in twenty eighteen your modern day women are no longer solely dependent on our male counterpart for survival, sexual gratification, or really even general validation. In fact, over the last decade, we have seen the rise of a more self-sufficient, equipped and unapologetically bad ass women who have decided to take life by the proverbial balls and not only do everything a man can do (aside from pee standing up) but also to a degree excel above our fellow man in many areas at the same time.

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WHEN IT’S DEEP WITHIN YOU

Now putting all of that aside for some of us being bad is inevitable. For example, I was always a smart student at school, excelled academically and for the most part had a fairly normal well-rounded childhood. My mother was a solo parent, she was and still continues to be a prime example of the middle class working superhero who did everything in her power to provide the most stable and sound upbringing for myself and my sibling. She is my best friend, confidant, and someone I’m proud to say I can truly depend on, however as unbreakable as our bond and love for one another is our differences in personality and overall preferences are undeniable.

In fact, the chosen path I have taken is a gigantic contrast from her life at the very same age.

Not to say that either of us is right or wrong, but I myself have always been drawn to an element of danger, while my mother thrived on routine and a certain amount of predictability.

To say I suffered from the curse of being impulsive would be an understatement.

When faced with the wrong side of the tracks, particularly with men you could almost describe me as a moth to a flame. What makes it all the more fascinating is the fact that I didn’t grow up with a rough upbringing, nor did I have a parent who wasn’t diligent or caring.

Nevertheless, I could still never successfully curb my bad bitch ways.

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REFLECTION

Let me take you to my teenagehood. Yes, those wonderful profound years of ”innocence” being tainted and boundaries being tested.

My teenage years were what could only be described as the first chapter of a remarkably colorful broken down novel filled with dark and sometimes beautiful pages. The not so desirable moments were for the most part self-inflicted, but at the time they also set a precedent for the person I am today.

You see I never blended with kids my own age, nor did I connect mentally or feel like I belonged with a white picket fence society. To say I made a conscious choice to be bad would be in my opinion wrong, I truly believe no matter the circumstance or situation there is a part of my core that would go against conforming to normality. Yes, I made my share of bad decisions and plenty of them don’t get me wrong. Sure, they helped shape me to the women I am today. But at some point I also decided to stop fighting who I am too.

Albeit I had a pretty incredible childhood/teenagehood you could at the same time call it unconventional or perhaps dysfunctional. Being a straight A student could never prevent me from dropping out at 15, and having a perfect role model mother couldn’t stop me from choosing the total wrong side of the tracks. At high school and the tender age of 14 I watched my peers talk about boys and bottles with no experience on both subjects but a hell of a lot of curiosity to try. Meanwhile I was already well on my way to being a seasoned binge drinker and surrounded myself with boys (I say boys because even though they were considerably older than me they still had a childlike mentality.) In life I’m a firm believer you design your happiness or even the latter.

With that I became the pioneer of my own destruction in many ways. I took teenage angst to a whole other level, and despite having a wonderful family dynamic I completely pushed back.

At age fifteen my mommy, my role model, my rock decided she had enough and kicked me out of home. Now you may think fifteen is too young to fend for one’s self. Bare in mind at that age I had already dropped out of high school and was fulltime doing a hairdressing apprenticeship at a local salon (I wasn’t exaggerating when I said I was not your average teen).

By sixteen I was running my own household, living alone and working fulltime still hairdressing. I had adopted a whole host of other bad girl ways, and at the same time began to harbour a resentment for men which helped lead me to the art of not only manipulating the opposite sex but using my beauty as a weapon. Your probably wondering how on earth a 16 year old can know how to wield there appearance as a weapon and looking back I cannot pin point a particular moment I realised the power of the female form but I do know that when I found it I held onto it for dear life and have struggled with relinquishing it ever since.

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THE CORE OF IT ALL

Now we’ve got to the root of all my wicked ways (no pun intended guys). At the risk of sounding like an ultra-feminist I can honestly say I detest double standards. Yes, this world is riddled with them especially as a women. I’ve always had the attitude that if a man can do it why can’t a women.

As naive as this may sound vie sat at the end of many heated discussions (Lets just call them that) with the opposite sex including my partner, And there is not a single person on this planet that could ever persuade me that women don’t have the right to the same rights as men in every single way. I’ve sat at tables where it was frowned upon to have a female in the same room let alone in the same presence of certain people. I stood up to then helped shed light on equality with some of the most chauvinistic sexist men on this planet. You see when it comes to gender inequality I almost revel in showing a man how much I can show him up. Whether it be in a game of chess of just a general game of wit. I think this has served as a fuel for my badness in all reality.

Throughout my life I’ve most definitely had moments of self-doubt. Am I a bad person for being bad? Am I wrong for not suppressing my general urges and attempting a life of wholesomeness? Why can’t I just switch off the games I’ve become so good at and leave behind the fuck girl tendencies? But even if I could would I really want to? They may have cost me some casualties along the way, at the same time being true to myself is more precious than putting on a front and lord knows I’ve never been the type of person to fake happy very well.

BE YOU

Now I’m not promoting promiscuity nor am I saying I condone manipulating or extorting men for self-pleasure, what I will say is: Anybody with integrity and a good heart has the right to wear their true colours on their sleeve for the world to see and experience without shame that they will be judged or that there doing the immoral thing, whether you’re a bad bitch or marsha brady with a picket fence. We are all equals. All one. I’ve attempted the road of purity and flopped big time. Tried to be the super happy over-optimistic human being who ended up all but butchering everyone around me from suppressing natural feelings of anger when actually feeling them.

Pretending to be what someone else deems as good or correct will not change your character or truly make you any better than them or yourself.

After years of fighting myself on and off, using metaphoric band-aids and having mental anguish because I just can’t put on a good front so believable that others believe it, or trick myself into believing it too. I’ve finally realized it’s okay to be me, flaws and all. It’s okay to fuck up and sometimes be what others perceive as selfish. It’s okay to choose aspirations and dreams over people who are short-term, it’s okay to have a fight or flight view on life and hurt when you’re hurt.

None of this makes me any less than you, or you any less than me.

As long as I have integrity behind my actions and no ill feelings behind my words it doesn’t make me a bad human If anything you could say I’m just a bad bitch with good intentions.  It is important to take into consideration that some of these traits can sabotage a relationship.

Channelle xo

Author: Channelle is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!