How To Make A Lesbian MOAN!!

Firstly, a quick shout out to Stephen for all the blog ideas! I’ve been trying to come up with something new to write about other than my usual toy reviews.

I know it is every straight man’s dream to be taught how to make a girl orgasm by a lesbian. Seriously though, if this post gets your penis in a twist and you feel less like a man after reading this then honestly you should know I don’t really care and you should probably grow up.

So, my friends get your notepads ready because I am about to give you all the tips and tricks on how to make your queen orgasm without a penis. I know for some men this might come as a shock to you as I have heard a lot of you think that the only way is to stick it in and go… Well, that definitely is not the case.

Before I start though I just need to quickly clarify that I’m not going to sit here and tell you a list of all the stuff I personally like because we all get off to different things. What I will do though is tell you all the things you definitely shouldn’t do…

 

^^^ Just in case you forgot what a vagina looks like.

Pussy Anatomy
Anatomy Of Vagina

Oral Sex

I understand when people watch porn to teach themselves how to give a good blowjob or handjob. Obviously, a lot of men watch porn and get off to the facial expressions the person’s making while they’re giving head and whatever it is that they’re doing with their hands or mouth. But honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am watching straight or lesbian porn, I usually skip past the scene where the girl is receiving oral because it makes me cringe! Usually, you can see what the persons tongue is doing and the facial expressions that they’re pulling while they’re doing it and most of the time it looks horrible.


^^^ perfect example!

If someone did that to me down there I would probably just laugh. I also know some tv shows and magazines tell you to do the alphabet… DON’T! Unless you really want to look like a clueless twat.

The build-up is key. Tease your girl and take it slow, show her that you’re there because you want to be and that you’re prepared to be there all night if she wants you to be. No one should feel rushed and under pressure when they’re most vulnerable.. Unless it’s a quickly before work or something like that. If you make her feel pressured then you’re most likely not going to have her relaxed enough to orgasm. Plus, when you build up an orgasm it makes it a much stronger and enjoyable one at the end.

Female Orgasms
G-Spot Manipulation

G-spot 

As you can see in the image above the G-spot is located at the top of the vaginal wall and it only takes about half a finger length to find it. Once you have inserted your fingers, do the come here motion to push up against the G-spot. The G-spot will feel like a rough bit of skin whereas the rest of the area feels quite smooth so this should make it a lot easier for you to find it.

On that note, I never want hear someone complaining about dick sizes ever again. It’s not about the size, it is about how it is used. I usually ask the woman who complain that their partners of 20+ years haven’t made them orgasm, if they’ve ever made themselves orgasm and the answer is usually no. I’m sorry but if you don’t even know how to please yourself, then how do expect someone else to?

My favorite part about the beginning of any of my relationships has been the first few months of learning each other’s bodies and teaching each other how we like to be pleased. Listen and observe how your sexual partner is reacting to the different things that you are doing, try and remember the things you did that she liked and damn it if she tells you to go harder, faster or to continue doing that exact thing you’re doing, don’t think it’s a great idea to change it up or stop!!

The learning/teaching stage might be a little awkward at first, but at least you’ll have a laugh together and honestly, this ends up helping you in the long run when it comes to feeling completely comfortable with each other. This will help quiet down that little voice inside your head that likes to scream all your deepest, most painful insecurities at you while you’re trying to cum!

Extra tips

  • Labia stimulation
  • Urethral stimulation
  • Arch her back for easier access to the G-spot
  • G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time (the G-spot and clitoris are connected)
  • Use toys during foreplay to add to the fun
  • Make her wet before penetration
  • Don’t bite unless she asks!

One last tip…

A blessing in disguise that most people don’t take advantage of… LUBE! 

 

Elliana has been working in the Oh Zone stores for the past 2 and a half years now. During this time she has discovered a lot about herself through the different adult products that she has experimented with. Elliana likes to write reviews on the good quality products that she has either purchased for herself or has her eyes on in the stores and she isn’t afraid to tell you if she thinks a toy or a companies ethics are rubbish. She also openly came out as a lesbian at the age of 14 and loves to talk about all the great LGBTQIA events that she has been to in Sydney.

Sensory Play -Getting The Most Of YOUR Orgasmic Experience!

Erotic Sensory Play

What I’m about to tell you is going to blow your mind. It’s going to redefine your understanding of sex and pleasure and it’s going to completely change your bedroom routine. I had a mind-blowing orgasm. And my orgasm was that fucking good that I’m absolutely compelled to tell you about it.

Working in the sex industry both in a retail porn store, as a sexual consultant, and as a sex education teacher to young gay men – I’ve heard it all. But one thing that keeps coming up is just how much importance we place on our cocks and the idea of penetrative sexual activity. When you’re young, horny and driven by hormones you have an insatiable need to stick your dick in whatever kind of hole you can find, or have your hole filled with whatever hard thing you can get your ass cheeks on. Your body, your mind, and your dick (or hole) demand that sexual release. And why should you think anything else? Both pornography and popular culture are continually driven to two points – the moment when there is penetration and the moment of ejaculation. Penetration seemingly always provides him/her with a climax within minutes, and from there we wait for his money shot. Real sex doesn’t work like that, and when it doesn’t, many young people feel that they’re not good enough in bed, that they’re doing something wrong or that there’s something wrong with them. So often this begins a cycle of sexual performance issues and other concerns.
We need to change that. Sex isn’t about putting pressure on ourselves, or sexual partners. It’s about pleasure, enjoyment and fun. Mutual pleasure, mutual enjoyment and mutual fun (unless you’re going solo in which case be as selfish as you need to be!!) But what if we took the focus away from the cock and subsequently away from penetration, what if we focused on the body? What if we slowed the whole twelve and a half minutes of furious thrusting (with alternating sensuality and gentleness) to an afternoon of sexual enjoyment and pleasure? Yes, there’s a place for quickie sex, and it’s a fantastic way to while away a few minutes in the car when you’ve turned up early, but let’s hold that thought and picture the following.
His hands tied to the bedpost, his ankles connected to a spreader bar. He’s wearing a blindfold and he can’t see you. He can hear you, he can smell you – but he just can’t see you as you approach with your bdsm crop. This – is sensory play. The idea that the ENTIRE body is a play toy for your amusement. A tickle here, a soft tongue there, a toy somewhere else. Bringing him to close to climax but never quite allowing for that release.  Sensory play breaks the routine of foreplay kissing, oral sex, hand job, sticking it in, moaning and then climaxing. Sensory play has the potential to turn routine sex into something exciting and unexpected. Put simply, sensory play is about the involvement of the body’s five senses; smell, touch, hear, see and taste.
BDSM Wartenberg
Wartenberg Sensory Wheel
One of the most sensual aspects of sensory play involves sight. We all like sex in the dark. It’s kind of comforting (they can’t see whatever flaws that you might think that you have), and it generally fits into our routines well. However, there’s another thing about sex in the dark that we don’t often consider. Due to the lack of light, our body has to make sense of what’s happening through the other senses. It automatically increases the sense of touch, taste, smell, and hearing to make up for the loss of sight and by knowing this you can take full advantage of the body’s responses. Sensory play can be as simple as using a blindfold, or it can be as complex as wearing a blindfold,having them tied up and using a variety of toys (Waternberg wheels, ice, body wands, forks, spoons, feathers, a dressing gown belt, a leather belt, a shoelace – the total bdsm package) to provide stimulation from the tips of their ears, to the bottom of their feet.
So how do you do sensory play? Sensory play can be as much or as little as you want it to be. Sight play is often the easiest sense to play with because it only involves a blindfold. But consider how various scenes and situations can place emphasis, or highlight the body’s other senses. For sight play, you can use things around the house such as the utensils mentioned above that you can get from the kitchen. Or you can use a variety of implements and tools that create a range of sensations from pleasurable to painful. Once they’re blindfolded, once they’re restrained, they are yours to do with what you will (with consent!).

In this way, by taking the pressure of intercourse, and focusing on the body together you’re not only increasing the level of intimacy between the people involved (can be more than two), but you’re also allowing the body to use its senses to heighten the level of enjoyment and pleasure. Combine this with some edging play and a couple of sensual hours and I guarantee that you’ll be soon experiencing an orgasm like you never have before. So think about this, think about allowing your entire body to be used as a play toy – and simply relax and let go. Focus on the next touch, where it’s going to come from, what it’s going to be. And you’ll quickly discover just how in the moment your body, and mind, can be. I don’t need to go in the specific details of what you can and can’t do – that’s entirely up to your own imaginations. But what I will tell you, ladies and gentlemen is that by following some of these little points is you’ll be well on your way to having the best damn orgasm that you can remember.

Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.

Sugar Daddy Dating in Singapore With ‘Secret Benefits’!

Asian Sugar Ladies
Singapore has grown into one of the most modern metropolitan cities on the globe offering endless options for cuisine, culture, pleasure, and entertainment. The women of Singapore are also some of the most stunning babes on the planet.  If you are seeking an alternative to escorts while in Singapore with a hottie that isn’t going to watch the clock or charge you by the hour, sugar dating may be just what you’re looking for. Often called the Tinder for older guysSecretBenefits.com provides a platform where young women seek out older men to pamper them and maybe help with a couple of bills. In exchange, these sugar babies provide their daddies with companionship and intimacy. You don’t need to be rich, you just have to be a gentleman that likes to treat a woman right.
You may already be familiar with sugar dating to a degree, but today, there are many facets that make up the diverse sugar world. In other words, this is not your daddy’s sugar dating.
Since online dating blasted off, it’s rapidly taken the place of traditional newspaper personals, dating agencies, or even a friend hooking you up with some chick they know. The web has allowed sugar daddy dating to go global and open up to all walks of life. For instance, younger men are choosing to live the sugar baby life, as much as powerful women are choosing to act as sugar mummies. The age gap that might come to mind is also closing in. Economic and societal trends are encouraging younger sugar daddies as well as older sugar babies, respectively in their 30’s and 40’s, to look towards sugar dating for a less inhibited and modern relationship experience.
As expected, there are agreements of all sorts and varying degrees, but the general consensus is one acts as the benefactor (the sugar daddy), and the other person acts as a dependent (the sugar baby). It could be a date for the night, a casual relationship where you might see each other when possible, or even a live-in relationship. It could be agreed upon as an ultra discreet experience or even a wide open, glitzy, cameras in your face, arm candy type of relationship. The possibilities are endless.
Let’s also get the elephant out of the room. Intimacy and sex are up not necessarily involved, and it should not be assumed.  Sometimes, there is no physical intimacy involved at all when sugar dating. Again, anything is possible.
So how do you coast into Singapore and find yourself a sugar baby in the big city? Here are the top tips for landing yourself that sugar baby you always wanted, but never knew exactly how to get:
Be a Gentleman
It’s no wonder why this would be an important trait to have. It seems like it would be a given, but a lot of guys get lost sometimes along the way, and they need that reminder. In other words, do what your mamma told you. Not only will you get further when you are aware and respectful of the woman you are interested in, but you will have a better experience all around. This naturally makes a woman feel comfortable and more likely to join you the next time you come calling.
Be Honest About What You Want
It’s generally understood among those dating in the sugar world that honesty with your desires is the best policy. This is especially true with what you are looking for in a companion. What you want with your sugar baby should not be a mystery. This will help attract the kind of woman you really want as well as allow for a much more carefree and enjoyable time while you are together.
Be Open to What They Want
As you can imagine, there are countless reasons why women look to sugar daddy dating. Because of that, pay attention to what your potential sugar baby is looking for. It could be anything which includes, but is not limited to, financial support, all expense paid dates, mentorship, intimacy, travel, industry connections, nice gifts, a one-time date, or a long-term relationship. Just remember, fulfilling desires and needs is an upfront and 2-way street when it comes to sugar dating.
Be Aware of Your Surroundings
The more you understand the way people live, think, and love in Singapore will go a long way. The Lion City definitely has a diverse, multi-ethnic society, and showing off a little knowledge of local customs and cuisine will impress. Perhaps even some Malay or Mandarin under your belt won’t hurt either. If you know your way around the city and know a couple of hot spots, even better. It’s a simple gesture to show you care and are in tune with your surroundings; this will in turn signal to your young companion that you may be in tune with all departments of life and love.
Asian Sex Stories
Erotic Stories
Relax and Enjoy Yourself
Sugar dating gives you the opportunity to skip the regular relationship hurdles and get right to having the time of your life. This is your chance to be yourself and enjoy every moment with your new sugar baby at your side. Please, just don’t forget to loosen up and smile. You deserve it.  Take full advantage of what life in Singapore has to offer with your sugar baby. After all, we only live once!
Final Step: Find a Reputable and Active Sugar Dating Site
Making this all happen is best achieved using a solid sugar daddy dating site that provides an easy and active user experience. Most prefer to use sugar dating sites with a free and easy sign-up, no monthly charges, respect for discretion, and a responsive customer support team. It’s always recommended to do your due diligence and explore your options. A recommended sugar daddy dating website to get started with is Secret Benefits. They provide an excellent platform to check out the sugar dating scene and make your next trip to Singapore a memorable one!

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Arty Sex!

Body Art

As someone who just swoons over art, or anything with creative capabilities, this just sends my heart into a flutter!

I’m all about wonderful and fulfilling things to do in order to create meaning, purpose, happiness and this is nothing short of brilliant.

One iconic spin of this creative genius is the Yves Klein series where women became paintbrushes literally, and created art with their bodies. This was a performance piece titled “Anthropometries of the Blue Period”, 1962 Galerie International d’Art Contemporain, Paris, France. His “Anthropometries” series were radical and controversial because painting women’s bodies in paint and then instructing them to render there body as you would a paintbrush and create not only an installation piece but also a powerful work of art with the human body is mind-blowing and unheard of especially during that era.

But if that got your senses going forget the chocolate body paint or Nutella, and experience the seduction in covering your body in organic and sensual paint and taking your lover to ecstasy while documenting it on canvas.

Yes, you read that right! I want you to cover you and your partner’s body in paint and have sex on top of a canvas while your bodies create a masterpiece to hang on your wall which will truly be the most intimate artwork you will own. 

Nude Body Art
Nude Art
Making love and creating art have a lot of things in common especially passion and hard work, so why wouldn’t you want a memento to keep and be proud of every time you walk past it, because making love is hard work and we all deserve a trophy for that. there are many kits you can buy online or make yourself all you need is;
plastic tarp or large plastic drop sheet so you don’t make too much mess, body safe paint (organic is best), a sheet of canvas, your body and your lovers, and for those of you who are all about aftercare a loofah and some sensual body wash. 
 
Taking an erotic dance and creating art with it is relatively new, although the naked body has been presented on canvas for 1000’s of years through art. Even back to your cave paintings, nudity has always and will always be a major influence within the art world. Each and every artwork is unique and vivacious, each shows personality and unity and every time you create one it was ooze tantalising escapades of you and your partners mood and desires. 
 
 
the body during sex is very honest and thus it makes the perfect paintbrush, how more authentic can you get? you may create an erotic masterpiece that is full of explosion or a soft an gentle piece with small passionate movements.  
 
a bit of a history lesson for you:
the history of nude art has been a recurring theme especially in classical art mostly in the renaissance and neoclassical periods. the visual representation of the naked body is seen in many different forms be it sculptor, painting, photography, film, installation the list goes on. from this we can learn about the different aspects of sex within a society or era, it gives you an idea about fertility, beauty, national identity, morality and gender ideals.
the naked body has always been a principal subject for art, so no wonder throughout all the years we have witnessed such a wide range and influence where the naked body can not  only be objectified but also appreciated.
in ancient Greece the naked body was often depicted in symbolic ways, it was seen as a metaphor for often multifaceted and complex concepts.
take the roman goddess Venus she encompasses all things to do with love, beauty, sex, fertility and prosperity, and in the later classical tradition of the west Venus embodied love and sexuality.
in ancient Rome she embodied love, beauty, enticement, seduction, and in Latin orthography her name is derived from the noun Venus which means sexual love and sexual desire.
so why don’t you bring out your inner goddess, and bring your sexual desires out in the name of history and the evolution of the naked body in art. create an erotic and exciting master piece just for you and your lover and leave it all on the canvas in a time lapse of your moments of passion.
Erotic Art
Erotic Artistry
get messy with your and don’t forget to keep the passions going in the clean up after.
morgan x

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

NEVER Ask A Pregnant Woman……!

Pregnancy Sayings
Ok, so there seems to be a part of our culture that seemingly allows random strangers to ask very personal questions to pregnant women… It’s frustrating! I suppose you think that the fact that I work in an a store that sells adult products makes it somehow ok. Wrong. Please be aware that it makes it even creepier and less appropriate.

 

Some of the questions are triggering on an emotional level and some are just downright rude and gross. Things that you wouldn’t dream of asking a person you’ve just met who isn’t pregnant. Why do some of us think that it’s ok to ask them of a tired, hormonal person who is busy growing another human?

Since I get asked these questions anyway, I thought that I’d just address them publicly and as openly as common decency will allow me to.

 

“You must be horny all the time right now! Your hubby must be getting lots of sex!”

 

I was literally asked this by the last customer who left the store… who also propositioned me for sex after I mentioned that I was going to be a single parent. Dude! Firstly, I work around porn and sex toys. Why would I be interested in going home and playing with myself or someone else? It’s kind of like the plumber’s taps leaking or the builder’s house always needing repairs.

 

Secondly, yes. My (ex)husband is probably having copious amounts of sex… but since I haven’t seen him in over 6 years, it’s not with me. Also, it’s not ok to follow this answer with another question about my relationship (or lack thereof) with the baby’s father. It’s none of your business.

 

“I’ve always wanted to have sex with a pregnant woman. I saw it in a porno once…” said as they stare at the bump.

 

Staring like a creeper is not endearing at all. Just saying. I once saw a porno where a guy was tied up and suspended while a woman penetrated him with a 16” dildo… but I’m not going to say that out loud and then stare at you, so STOP! How would you like it if someone said to you “I saw this documentary about the lady who cut off her husband’s penis… I’ve always wondered what that would be like…” then stare at your crotch? Makes you uncomfortable doesn’t it?

 

“I love how big tits get when women are pregnant…” – Hey dude, my eyes are up here!

 

intimacy whilst pregnant
pregnant sex

Ok, ok. Before I got pregnant, I would have the girls just hanging out when I went out for drinks and I may have also gotten them out on my hens night to raise drinking money, but that was 10 years ago and things have changed. But even though I had them on display back then, it still didn’t make it ok to make comments on them. #sexualharassment. Believe me, I’ll be using these to feed my baby not to attract perverts.

 

P.S. Just in case you were wondering, it’s also not ok to make comments about breastfeeding in public either, especially if you’ve already suggested that I let you fondle my boobs while I was pregnant.

 

“Does it feel any different when you have sex?” or “Does the baby kick when you’re having sex?”

 

None of your business! Also, who says that I’m having sex? Mainly because guys on Tinder aren’t too keen on picking up hormonal pregnant women for one night stands. I’m pretty sure that acid reflux, sore breasts, needing to pee every 5 minutes and excess vaginal discharge are not sexy.

 

And just for the record, my son likes to kick me ALL THE TIME. No internal organ is safe from my tiny human.

 

“What are you having?… Oh you’re having a boy! Are you going to circumcise him?”

 

I really was hoping for kittens, but my ultrasound says that I’m having a normal baby boy. Why does it matter if he will be circumcised, will you be having sex with him? Seriously?! No, I won’t be telling you what my son’s penis looks like. That’s like asking a woman how tight her vagina is. How is that ok?

 

“Wait until it comes out, your vagina won’t ever be the same again”

 

Ummmmm… actually that’s what kegel exercises are for. Again, why does it matter to you what my vagina is like or will be like? Unless you’re my midwife or OB, you won’t be going anywhere near it!

 

So, before you go opening your mouth to ask a pregnant woman a question, throw a comment their way or go to touch them without their permission, stop. Put that decency filter back in place, ask yourself if it would be inappropriate to ask/say to a random stranger on the street and if the answer is yes, keep your mouth shut.

 

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.