The Bucket List Submissive!

First Time Sub

Submissive One Night Stand

 

Being relatively new to the BDSM lifestyle, I don’t know if this phenomenon is a recent development in light of the popularity of the 50 Shades series, or if it has been around since the beginning. But it seems as though more and more women are engaging in submissive scene one night stands. Using them to tick things off their kinky ‘to-do’ lists.

 

For those who have read some of my previous posts relating to my submissive escapades, then you will be familiar with Mr. K, my Zurich based Dom friend who has been a major inspiration and guiding hand in my exploration of the BDSM lifestyle.

 

Lately, our conversations have been centered around his immersion back into the lifestyle after taking a bit of a break. It seems as though whatever platform he is searching on – Fetlife, Tinder or Whiplr, the majority of women that want to connect are bored housewives who fantasize about having a 50 Shades-esque fling. Using it to cross things off their kink bucket lists.

 

 

Now, I’m all for female empowerment and our right to choose to do what we want with our bodies, but I do wonder if this is a safe way to explore a new found interest in the world of BDSM. Since staying safe in the BDSM world revolves around trust and risk awareness, does one night of play really allow for complete trust? Or does this simply leave both parties open to getting hurt?

 

Take for example Mr. K’s latest sub play session. A young lady who, in his words, was ‘bucket listing’. Their evening read like what’s what of BDSM must-tries: begging, humiliation, bondage, spanking, face-fucking, anal and golden showers. Having played with Mr. K, I know that he has great intuition and self-control, and would never step over the boundaries that had been agreed upon prior to a session. But even I would not have trusted him enough in a first session to let him do to me what this young lady wanted him to do to her.

 

Why? Because how much trust can you have in someone that you have just met on the internet? How do you know for sure that this person isn’t some crazy sexual sadist whose main goal in life is to lure unsuspecting women into dangerous, life-threatening situations that they can’t escape from?

 

Just imagine this scenario:

First Submissive Trial
Sub Newbie

You’ve just arrived at the home of a man that you met on Tinder barely a week ago and have only had a few brief exchanges about what you would like to do on the first night of play. You put that nagging feeling that something isn’t quite right down to nerves and try and ignore it. Mr. Tinder answers the door and invites you in. He is charming and attentive. He offers you a drink, you accept and engage in idle chatter. Before long he asks if you’re ready to begin. He seems to be in a hurry all of a sudden.

 

He leads you towards the back of the house, places you in the waiting restraints that are attached to a bed in one of the bedrooms. Once strapped in, you see the facade of the man who seemed so charming and open when you arrived has gone and his hungry eyes light up as he places the gag in your mouth. He turns his back to you and you watch as he picks something up off of the dresser. It’s a syringe that he has in his hand as he turns back to you…

 

Sounds like the plot of a Hollywood psychological thriller or a case study about sexual sadists in a psych textbook doesn’t it? That would never happen to me. The 3 women who fell victim to QLD sexual sadist turned murderer, Francis Michael Fahey, would disagree.

 

Pushing it too far

 

How do you know how far someone is willing to push you, or more importantly, how does the person pushing the limits know where to start or how to far to push? Remember, you don’t know each other beyond a few messenger exchanges.

 

I know from conversations with Mr. K, that one of his concerns when it comes to new play partners is, are they strong and self-aware enough to tap out if it becomes too overwhelming or to even know where their limits are. Remember, that without consent, most of these practices are considered abuse and the aftermath of which can cause long-term emotional issues for both the sub and Dom.

 

But, if you must…

 

The ‘just for one night’ style of submissive not my cup of tea, but if you are going to delve into a bucket list one night stand involving the D/s side of BDSM, protect yourself by taking the time to research the things that you want to try, set clear limits and boundaries, don’t be afraid to use the safe word/s agreed upon ahead of time, let someone know where you’re going and when you’ll check back in with them afterwards and most importantly, listen to your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right, leave.

Have fun and be safe!

Love Morgan

VIP Interview With Steve Callow – Perfect Fit Brand!

Buck and Steve

Today we’re here with Steve, Owner of the Perfect Fit Brand. I have to say that I’ve used several Perfect Fit toys, and they remain in my sex toy box as some of the most comfortable, most fun toys that I’ve ever had the pleasure of using. The first time I got my hands on one of your products was game changing, and I haven’t looked back since. Your company has a unique and inclusive approach to sex and pleasure and you really embrace a sex positive attitude which I think is exactly what we need moving forward in today’s society when it comes to sex and pleasure.

Your products have been featured in Men’s Health, Esquire, Cosmopolitan, Huffington Post, The Advocate, Forbes, Askmen, VICE  to name a few media channels and are the winners of many adult awards.

You’ll have to excuse me as I need to start with the obvious question – how did Perfect Fit start?

First of all, thank you for having tried our products and I’m thrilled that you had such a positive experience. We have really been very fortunate with our material development, there is always luck involved, and though even after 8 years of production, there are still doubters that TPR and silicone can be blended.  We did this in 2010 and have been able to develop one of the industries most revered materials.  The blending of these two materials created a wonderfully soft and stretchy material that has become the foundation for almost all of our innovations. 

Perfect Fit Brand Inc. (“PFB”) is the successor to my first venture, StreemMaster.  StreemMaster was an enema products company and was my first invention.  It was also my first time ever trying something in this industry.  I really had absolutely no industry experience other than being an avid sex toy products consumer.  I wish I could say that first company was a huge success for me personally, it wasn’t, in fact I lost all my savings on it.  But what I lost in money did convert into knowledge and a good reputation.  I had many supporters and fans, and this enabled to start a new venture, and that is this company PFB.  PFB had one success after another and has been an exciting ride, one which I am very grateful for.  Many thanks to all my supporters and the industry folks who helped me get my second start.

As sex toys become mainstream, and their use is brought out into the open and not so much behind closed doors, what do you think makes your products different?

As we mature and evolve, it is clear that many of our innovations and our general philosophy has been towards improving sexual experiences.  Though we didn’t identify as a Sexual Wellness company years ago, our products and actions did.  Today, we really think of ourselves as company that can actually help individuals discover their sexuality and we identify as a “sexual wellness” company more than that of a sex toy company.

One of our first examples of this is our Ergoflo™ Pro, the low-pressure shower-driven enema kit which is far superior to a metal shower hose.  This product is an evolution of my StreemMaster invention.  Not only does it clean you better, but it is also much less stressful on the body and much faster to use.  The number of customers that have written me over the last 13 years exclaiming how this has improved their sex life is beyond my imagination. 

The most recent example is the Buck Angel® collaboration.  When Buck approached me a few years ago, it was shocking to me that in this day and age there was still such major gaps in sexual wellness offerings.  I know you have questions on this further on but let me just say that this is one of the highlights of my career, working with such an amazing man, and having such a huge impact on the lives of some people. 

The sex industry is moving towards sex positivity, openness and transparency. Yet, at the end of the day the industry is a commercial business, it needs to make money in order to be viable. What are some (if any) of the challenges, sacrifices that you’ve had when it comes to the idea of creating toys for pleasure vs business?

I love this question because it allows me to say something that I think needs to be said.  Not all products are developed to make money.  In our company, we develop products because they need to be developed.  Of course, we can cite the many examples of where Buck’s sex toy idea was turned down by our competitors because they didn’t see the financial upside, but these companies are also known to only be in it for the “buck” not the Buck! (LOL, that was a bad pun.)  But as a company that really believes in the importance of inclusivity, you can’t put the dollar ahead of the needs of people.  We have other examples of our commitment to this philosophy.  For instance, we make 14 sizes of cock rings – we make the smallest and the biggest on the market, and we will make more sizes if anyone needs them.  Our competitors usually only make 3 sizes! We make these 0.1” increments because human penises don’t grow in 0.25” (or ¾” circumference) increments!

But the funny thing is, that we have actually made a profit to share with Buck on the development of his line of products.  Perhaps it was because it was the world’s first line of the FTM toys, with many innovations, and no doubt because it was Buck’s brainchild and has his name on it.  This proves that even a smaller demographic can generate enough revenue to make a very specialized product viable financially.  But we seriously did not expect this, and it has been a wonderful turn of events.

Perfect Fit Brand
Steve Perfect Fit

(Perfect Fit Brand CEO Steve Callow with the XBIZ 2018 “LGBT Pleasure Products Company of the Year” Award and previous awards from XBIZ, AVN, and East Coast News. Photo courtesy of Perfect Fit Brand.)

 

A lot of your toys and gear are grounded in the idea of enhancing sex and pleasure and not replacing it, how important is breaking down the stigma of sexual health towards sex toys and pleasure to you, and how will you continue tackling this?

Regarding your first point, I guess I’ve never quite thought of it this way. 

Certainly, we believe that our products require education in many cases, even seasoned industry people often tilt their head when they first see one our new products. 

Honestly, I don’t really face any stigma from people, if they have some then I just move on to people who don’t; PFB loves to keep information flowing outward.  People will choose to read it or not.  We know our values, and if people don’t agree with them, we don’t spend our energy trying to change theirs, that is beyond our scope of work.  If it was our job I’d be answering to negative people all day long!  Positive people always will see the reason to make other people happy and bring good to the world.

What makes a good sex toy in your opinion?

We spend a lot of time in design.  Often it starts as an idea while I’m doing some sort of exercise, that seems to be my most creative element.  Also, when I talk to really creative people, and I have some incredibly creative people in my close circle, ideas seem to gel much faster and evolve into even better concepts. 

A good idea is an original design that has a purpose or will provide a pleasure that another toy can’t for an individual.  It could be as simple as stylistic change that appeals to someone, or a functional change like, size, angle, proportion, hardness, etc. that is not currently offered.  I love innovation. Many of our designs have started completely new categories in the industry.  That makes me proud.  I’ve seen some great innovations in this industry, like the BathMate penis enlargement products, dual density dildos (we actually made perhaps the first dual density product when we launched the Real Boy), our anal Armour Tug Lock products, the Aneros prostate stimulator products, and the Womanizer are great examples.

What I have little respect for are knock-offs of my designs that offer no added improvement, or, of course, ones that are in patent infringement.  Otherwise I think there can never be too many choices for consumers.  I know I have broad taste, but I also know what I like.

What’s your go to comfort food?

Definitely Ice Cream – Häagen-Dazs Pralines and Cream, or any Häagen-Dazs flavour with a vanilla base, though I also love a good old burger and fries if dinner time.  I try to be a really healthy person in general–I work out 7 days a week, always watch what I eat–so these are very nice treats for me!

Sex toys are often geared towards mainstream cis-gendered and able-bodied persons, you recently joined forces with the acclaimed Buck Angel who has created a range of FTM sex toys. Buck had been refused so many times before coming to you, what led you to taking up his toys?

When Jen Laws, one of our employees mentioned he knew Buck had been scouting around for toy maker and setup a call with Buck and myself.  I don’t think it was even 15 minutes long.  When Buck told me no one had ever made an FTM toy, I immediately said, “We are in!”  And a week later I was on a plane to LA for our first meeting.  We developed the toy in just a few months. 

There a few reasons why I said yes immediately.  The first is a personal reason.  When I was a young gay man, maybe 21 years old, I shopped for my first toy.  I discovered that there were really no toys that were designed for gay men.  I had to buy a toy with a picture of woman on the package.  This always made me feel like I was not a man.  When Buck told me that FTM’s had no products specifically made for them, I thought of how it made me feel when I was a young man.  That really was the driving energy for me on that first call.  But then once I met Buck, I realized how amazing a person he is and what an impact he has on people who follow him and listen to his message.  I became one of his biggest fans!  This product was important to do in many respects, but it was also personal for me and Buck. 

Buck’s range at Perfect Fit sold out of its first production run in a month. The Buck-off™ toy won the most innovative pleasure product at AVN and XBIX in 2017 – that’s an amazing achievement for something other companies didn’t think would do well. Where do you think the success in this lies, and did you expect it to be so big?

The success lies in the passion that laid the path for it’s development.  This product was lifetime of effort for Buck, it was–and is–destined to always be a visible and embracing kiss of acceptance of the FTM individual.  Let every person love themselves is the bigger picture here, and the Buck-Off™ is a monument of sorts to that ideal.

What’s a toy that might not be as popular as you’d like it to be, but that you’re the proudest of?

I love the Jock Armour and Cock Armour line of products.  These products present the penis in a way no other product does. They are sexy, functional, and completely revolutionary in the way they work.  The Cock Armour was the first ever cock ring that anchored to the torso, making it extremely comfortable and it delivers the most rigid, yet comfortable erection of any cock ring product.  The Jock Armour was the world’s first hybrid clothing concept.  We licenced this patent pending innovation to FortTroff and it was a great success.  Now we licence it to CellBlock 13 and it is their most successful clothing line ever, and a huge business for us.  We sell our Jock Armour with a jock style waistband on our website, but our offering of it never really caught on like I had hoped. But those who bought it write and tell me how much they love it.  The CellBlock 13 Jock Armour is integrated with some of their hottest designs and it is something I am very proud of.

I personally love the Fat Boy Extender Range, the Bull Bag and the cruiser ring. What I love about these toys is they’re not just about pleasure. For me they add confidence, they add suave [swerve?], and they enhance my mindset when it comes to sex. Not to mention they feel amazing, they’re the most comfortable things I’ve worn and versatile to use in the bedroom (and out) – where do you get your inspiration for your toys?

I’m all about comfort, performance, and quality.   Just as you tried our products, prior to designing these products I had tried many myself, and found them uncomfortable, useless or very poor quality.  That is my inspiration, to rethink products to make them wearable, sexy, higher quality, etc.  I am an inventor at heart, as very young child I used to question every product design I saw.  I would wonder why they made something the way they did – my mon would never get tired of my questions, even though she could rarely answer them.  It was a very natural thing for me, so I definitely found my destined career path.  My dad was a very ingenious engineer, developing aerofoils and even rocket engines for National Defence.  I undoubtedly inherited some design talent from him.  Thank you for your support, I love hearing what you wrote!!!!

What’s something not everyone knows about you?

Well having after all these great questions, I may be running out of things now.  Well, I love dogs.  I have recently rescued a 9-month old Red Siberian Husky from the Humane Society.  This happens to be my third Red Siberian Husky with blue eyes, all rescued from the same place.  These are very rare dogs to find in Florida, and in every case, there happened to be one there the first day I started to look for another dog.  I know they are meant to be part of my life because of that.  I never even think twice I take them home the same day.

A lot of CEO’s aren’t as visible on the frontline as you are when it comes to their products. Yet, your passion for your products shines through with your range of “How does this work” videos. What’s the driving force behind what you do?

I just chuckled as I thought to myself how much I hate making those videos.  I know they are important so that is why I make them.  The one I made with Buck was really fun, but when I have to just talk about the product by myself I always dread it because I don’t like seeing myself on camera.  I am told frequently that I explain the products better than anyone else, and this is probably because they come from my vision and are my design.   I put my heart into every product I design.  Other manufacturers will launch 150 new products at an industry show, and we may only launch two.  But those two products, I will talk about for three days non-stop at a show to very open ears.  Usually some customers will tell us that we have the best booth and most exciting products there.  So, two can trump 150.

I guess it comes to making something special, I have a rule “if it is not amazing in some way, then it doesn’t belong on our booth.” And I love to talk 😊.

You’ve recently branched out by adding product lines for him and her to your range – any chance of a hint as to what’s coming next and when we can get our horny hands on them?

YES! We just launched this exciting male masturbator product line and we’ve added simple grips that looks like handles that make it easier for a person to use on their partner for a “hand job”

Also, the product has been designed so it doesn’t need to be squeezed for the guy to get enough stimulation. 

I’m going to end it here as I’m aware that you’re a busy person and I don’t want to hold you up from the awesome work that you do (and delaying new products). I’d like to thank you not just for your time, but also for amazing products. I’m personally looking forward to new stuff that you’re bringing out and can’t wait! Thanks again.

Thank you for this opportunity and this has been a pleasure!  Best to you and your audience.

I Wanna Be A Cowgirl!

Sex Machines

The Cowgirl is the epitome of the sex machines of the world, and only the finest of fine sex connoisseurs of the world will divulge the secrets of this astonishing machine. It is not for the faint hearted and this is the type of machinery that should be showcased and not hidden away shrouded by shame and embarrassment, this is a work of art quite literally, every sensual curve of the surface, the luscious purr of the motor and the impeccable attention to detail rivals the most exquisite toys in the sex industry.

 

But there is a reason this isn’t described as a sex toy, this is a machine and so it should have that status.

 

I have a way of describing brands in this industry and I often relate and compare them to cars. An Aston Martin vanquish Is my ultimate machine, it alludes sex appeal, and the sound of the motor drives me into audible ecstasy, the most impressive sports cars have a distinct and orgasmic sound that projects out of those luscious exhaust pipes and without them these cars would not have the same sensory overload that they have with those fine pieces of metallic masterpieces.

 

So as with the cowgirl it has an audible experience with the rumbling purr of its astonishing motor, like I said earlier on this is not something to hide away in a locked closest this is master piece of a machine and should be presented that way. If you are the sex connoisseur I know you then the moans and groans and occasional screams of pure delight will have nothing on the purr of this luxurious motor, and I’m sure by now your neighbours already know the difference between pure joy and the act of murder.

 

So if you’re not in the business of collecting stylish supercars, then this might tickle your fancy in all the right places, the artists of “the cowgirl” boast this as the most stylish ride. The thoughtfulness of this design is reflexed in its quality and it redefines the style of the previous sex machines on the market.

 

This is a PREMIUM product, not a gimmick or lump of metal that forgets the meaning of the word sex. The cowgirl embodies empowered sexuality, and why shouldn’t it, it is the most decadent of decadent pleasures just like that fine desert that causes you to shudder in delicenses, with just the perfect amount of kink.

 

For those who have spoken to me know how much I harp on about quality, and with the cowgirl the quality is in its details. Do I need to mention its precision engineering which creates its ultra-powerful vibrations with over 1200 rpms, it’s the kind of power that puts your partners smart car to shame.

 

Hand crafted… would you have expected any less? The cowgirl has a saddle style seat with comfort padding for that extra hard ride because trust me when I say you won’t want to stop. It accommodates bodies up to 181kg, so you have machinery worthy of the grinding and pounding you are going to give it.

Cowgirl Machine
Sex Machine

Unparalleled, that’s right you read correctly the cowgirl has unparalleled luxury, comfort, functionality to deliver the most superior experience.

 

Every single detail of this sex machine has been thought out with precision and perfection, from the easy to grip handle for easy transportation, to the slip resistant base for added stability for the most liquescent of sessions and protection of surfaces.

And what about those usually pesky electrical contact points which always seem flimsy, there is no need to stress because these points of been put to the test with the most ultimate heavy metal bands. Cowgirl moulds its plugs after high end musical equipment, so you know it is able to take a beat or two.

 

included in this impeccable work of art is a pair of modern, superior and functional body safe silicone attachments as well as a set of 10 springs and stems. The RAWHIDE attachment is for the art of bumping and grinding while the WILDWEST penetrates you with the perfect blend of orgasmic and intense form.

The springs and plastic stems are provided for your own custom experience, it will turn your WILDWEST completely 360degrees and full rotational while the plastic stem gives you a solidness to your ride. What do you prefer flexible or solid? You’ll never know until you try both.

As a self-assured control freak it ticks all the boxes from me, control is literally in your hands with its easy to use and to grip multifunction LED remote attached my a 3metre cord, or if you want a little less control and more mystery to your next vibration download the smartphone app for total cordless control up to 10metres away.

The cored LED remote has a simple and independent variable speed controller, so no moment is lost by fiddly buttons when you’re in the height of pleasure. It has the option of six vibration patterns and 360 degrees of swivel rotation.

While the smart phone app is also simple and easy to use and gives the added bonus of cordless control.  But if your anything like me and need to learn how to let go of the reigns a little then the FEELME app is absolutely perfect for you.

 

This is what dreams are made of quite literally and with that the cowgirl welcomes you to the next generation of riding. With all the advances in technology these days there is no wonder the feelme.com app is so damn popular, not only does it allow your secret lover or partner to control you ride from anywhere in the world it also allows you to see and feel real time pleasure.

You have the option of connecting to a partner’s device to control and allow to be controlled with the cowgirl’slong distance remote connection which also takes distance away with intimacy right on the screen in front of you. It allows you to be intimate with even the most distance relationships anywhere anytime.

And for something a little more the Feel me and Feel VR also allows you to digitally view your dreams on screen with real time non-verbal touch in the flow of vibrations that connect you and your dream together.

So, what are you waiting for? Experience the ride that dreams are made of and no bucking required.

 

Morgan x

Bondage Hoods and Masks

bdsm wear

Many of the BDSM hoods and masks come with really convenient attachments and accessories. Making them highly effective in bondage play,  There are no limits to the different types of BDSM hoods and masks. From a simple cloth hood that can be made at home to elaborate leather and PVC ones that you can buy from the market. Like everything else in BDSM, individualism is the key. Innovate by yourself to make your play and lifestyle more enjoyable.

 

If you wish to purchase from your local BDSM store Australia, you will generally find BDSM hoods and masks made of three different kinds of materials.

wearing bdsm masks
Bondage Play

Hoods with Eye and Mouth Holes: Of all the BDSM hoods and masks, this is one of the most popular. They can completely remove a sub’s identity in a matter of seconds. Turn a human being into an object. To be cherished or to be used.

Ponytail Hood: This is usually a hood with eye and mouth holes. However it also has a hole on the top from where the hair of your sub can be pulled out to make a really beautiful ponytail.

Hoods with no Holes: This is highly popular because it completely deprives the submissive of his or her sense of sight. The sub will not know what is in store for him or her. Another added plus – this also completely gags your sub (quite a relief with some really talkative ones). So there is no chance that she will even be able to protest when you establish control over her. A simple word of caution – not all subs are quite ready for this. When choosing from the range of BDSM hoods and masks available, make sure you choose wisely. One that is right for you and your sub.

Padded Hoods: (Also known as Isolation Hoods): This too is a hood with no holes. And does exactly what a hood with no holes does. But in this case, a padded hood goes one step further. It completely deprives the submissive of sound as well. Which means that she will not be able to either speak or hear what you are doing. It is complete isolation inside her own head. Of course as any Dominant can well imagine what this can do to a sub’s other senses. The significance of even a simple touch becomes so much more.

Straitjacket Hoodie: Essentially this is a straitjacket with a hood attached. Many dominants like to leave face of the submissive open while using this. However if one wishes the hood can easily be pulled down to cover the face and act as a blindfold.

Gimp Mask: Remember Pulp Fiction? Well, who doesn’t? This mask immediately skyrocketed in popularity after this movie was released. The term too came into popular usage because of the movie. Gas Mask: Gas masks were originally used – yes you got it right – in chemical warfare. But somehow along the way they became popular in the BDSM lifestyle. However the gas masks used in BDSM are often modified to suit the needs of the lifestyle and can be used in breathplay, enclosure etc.

Female Mask: The Female Mask completely hides the identity of the wearer and can be used to give a female appearance to the submissive. In recent years great improvements have been made on their design and some of them look quite realistic.

Head Harness: Though technically not a mask or a hood, the head harness can be used as one. Head harnesses often use different kinds of gags – ball gags are popularly used. They not only help objectify the sub but can also perform many practical functions like providing attachment points and gagging.

Strap Mask: A strap mask is somewhere between a harness and a mask. There are many straps to this harness which covers most of the face making it look more like a mask.

 

So when shopping for BDSM Australia hoods and masks, choose judiciously. Remember your personality and tastes and that of your submissive as well. And choose one that is practical and also sets your heart racing.  We trust this information from BDSM Australia helps you in your bondage choices and lifestyle,

How To Use A Urethral Dilator!

Dillating the vagina

 USING A URETHRAL DILATOR

 

This week we have had a few customers asking about dilators, personally when I was first asked the question I was stunned and did not have a clue what she meant but luckily enough I was able to jump online and do a quick lookup and thought what a perfect chance to learn something new for my review this week 🙂

After a little bit of research I have came to a conclusion that there are many ways that a dilator can be used, here are just some of the main reasons I came across on why you might need to know this information for the future

 

 Curvical cancer – brachytherapy

One of the other reasons we use dilators for are after to maintain vaginal size in the long term after menopause or cancer treatments, dilators may help women remain size enough to be able to have pain free intercourse or examinations after menopause they are also helpful on that time of the month and when a patient needs to take anti-oestrogen hormone therapies for breast cancer they are also very commonly used to prevent scarring during graft versus host syndrome after a stem cell or bone marrow transplant.

 

 Some women are born without a vagina

Something I had no idea about was that some women are born without a vagina instead they have a small like dimple that is a dead end as they begin to become teenagers they have 2 options. One option is surgery another is to use a dilator, they begin to press the dilator into the vaginal opening for about half an hour twice a day, after a few weeks they\ can begin to deepen the vagina enough to be able to have sexual intercourse with a partner, however they need to keep regular dilation or sexual intercourse in able to maintain the vaginal canal. Sometimes they’re condition can involve abnormal low hormone levels in these cases they need to use oestrogen creams to improve the stretch of the vaginal area.

 Dilator vs vibrators 

There are some people that may claim that you would get a more positive result from using a vibrator of different sizes rather than using dilators, these people believe vibrators will cause sexual excitement creating more blood flow or even just to make the process more pleasurable, Some also tell women to find something shaped more like a penis for the realistic feeling with a few different sizes or even just something she desires. Excitement usually helps to bring more blood flow which allows more oxygen to the tiny blood vessels in the vaginal area witch may also help to keep the tissue healthy. Some educators worry that using vibrators without the other parts of the program will stop women from understanding their own anatomy, including full control of the pelvic floor muscles even most vibrators that have a ridiculous amount of adjustable tips of all different sizes to fit in the vagina do not have a wide commercial range of dilators witch may reduce the women’s freedom to customize her dilation

Inserting a dilators
Dilator Insertions

Vaginismus

commonly known as penetration anxiety but Also known as pelvic floor myalgia is when some women have an intense fear of something entering their vagina. Most therapists tend to think that its a phobia genuinely triggered when a partner tried to enter their finger or penis into the vaginal entrance. A great way to overcome this is to use dilation and it will give the women a greater control over what is going into her vagina

 

 Vaginal reconstruction

After a women has experienced surgery to rebuild her vagina due to a default at birth, healthier problem in later years or after cancer treatments she may be given as customised dilator to wear for some hours of the day and also while she sleeps. It helps the reconstructed vagina keep depth and to stay as wide as possible during healing time. They are more likely to be used if the vagina was created using skin grafts. They man not be needed for reconstructions built from intestines, skin or muscle flaps.

 

Easy Dilator Use

 

Starting with a comfortable size that you can slip into your vagina with little or no discomfort make sure you don’t forget to pack on the lubricant and repeat as needed 🙂

If you are lying on your back you need to remember that your vagina slants slightly downwards in this position and do not push the dilator in at a right angle motion

Make sure you know how to contract your muscles relax them as you are inserting the dilator and then tense once the dilator has been fully inserted

– If you are experiencing sexual pleasure from your dilator you can move it side to side to produce good feelings

– Try reading or watching television if you find it hard to keep the dilator in for a few minutes at a time

– It is possible to injure yourself with improper use of your dilator after you have experienced radio therapy, surgery or graft versus host disease, be sure to consult your medical team to correctly show you the use of your dilator, it has been known that pushing or moving the dilator too roughly against fragile or scarred areas may result in further damage

 

This material is intended for informational purposes only and is never to replace professional advice or diagnosis treatments that have been dealt with by professional educators

 

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