Words from The Chaste Cyclist!

I’d like to thank you for going through these questions and letting us in to your world of chastity. You started a blog in 2015 called thechastecyclist. We’ve read through your ups and downs, your kink lifestyle, the events of your family and kids, your sex life and various goings on in your life over the previous three years. We’d like to thank you for the chance to ask you a series of questions.

Thank you for reading. I truly appreciate everyone who takes time out of their day to read my ramblings.

Chaste Cyclist Blog

In your first post in 2015 – you say that you started this blog as your exploration into the world of chastity. Why a blog, and not a diary? What drove you to putting this online for others to read?

I was talking to another person who writes a blog, The Drew Duality about his life and it included chastity. I also had read through Denying Thumper, another guy talking about and living a life of chastity. Both of their blogs were of such an interest and coupled with my love to write, I decided to give it a go. I honestly didn’t care if anyone ever read a single post. I considered this blog my personal diary.

You had had an interest in male chastity for many years – what was so interesting about it for you and when did you start taking note of it?

Honestly, it started in the late 1980’s. I have always been interested in BDSM and Female Domination. As a college sophomore I started reading those Penthouse “stories” magazines. One edition had a story about two women seducing a man at a bar, taking him home, then tying him up and doing what they wanted to him all night. I chased BDSM and FemDom ever since. It spoke to me. Fast forward to the early 2000’s. One day while cruising the web I stumbled across the Men in Pain website and saw my first photo/video of a guy with metal locked on his cock. I was hooked from there. The entire idea of someone taking control of my cock and controlling my orgasms quickly became a passion…dare I say…an addiction.

You mentioned that you didn’t always take chastity seriously, and you likened it to a game. What made you change your outlook towards chastity and start to take it seriously?

Initially, it was a game. The first time I convinced my Wife to try it and ordered our first cheap device it truly was a game that neither one of us enjoyed playing. The device was ill fitted. It pinched and grabbed at every movement. Truth be told, I didn’t last more than 18 hours before throwing in the towel. My Wife could not have been more pleased. She just wasn’t kinky at all and didn’t understand. After that initial experience, and I have written about this extensively, I started drifting mentally away from my Wife. I resorted to masturbation for my true sexual pleasure and that feeling took over my side of the relationship. After our 25th anniversary, I realized I was missing something and started searching for an answer. Chastity was that answer.

I have to ask this question as when we’re talking about kinks – not everyone is receptive. You say that it was difficult in getting your wife (MrsL) to take chastity as a serious kind of activity. What do you think changed, have you spoken about that and what was her initial hesitation in chastity?

MrsL was raised a devout Catholic and truly believed I was having an affair…well I was…only with myself and online porn. To this day, she still has a hard time with kink but it isn’t as bad as it once was. Her initial reaction to chastity, before I confessed my masturbation issue, was one of truly not understanding. However, after our anniversary trip I took the time to find some “non kinky” e-books for her to read and once she read them we discussed the concept of chastity more seriously.

What advice do you have for people looking to introduce chastity or kink into their lives?

Do your research. Determine if it is just a kink you want to explore or if you want it to be a regular part of your life. There is an adjustment.

What’s your go to comfort food?

Nice, I like how you throw this in here to bring some levity. My go to comfort food has to be…vanilla ice cream! Imagine that, I am a kinky being but my comfort food is vanilla ice cream!

In one of your posts in early October – you talk about whether or not to keep the blog going. What effort and determination is required when running a blog, and what does it take out of you – for those looking to start their own blog?

Even though I initially didn’t care if anyone read my blog, I quickly realized I had regular readers. With regular readers comes an expectation of new/fresh content. In October, I realized I wasn’t holding up my end of the bargain with new/fresh content. I was feeling guilty. I quickly got over that feeling. If your starting a blog, make sure you know why you are starting a blog. Decide if you are writing for you or for your readers. If the answer is the latter, then take steps to keep your blog updated daily. If it is the former, write when, where, and what you want to write.

You and MrsL use a journal to talk about things; kink lifestyle, what’s going on – This seems like a fantastic idea as it let’s couples work through things at their own pace. Where did this idea come from and how have you both found it useful?

It came from another blog I read with the only difference is this couple uses their blog to talk about “stuff”. We only use it for our kinky stuff.

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You’ve spoken recently about changing the type of chastity that you and Mrs L engage in, and i’d love to explore that. What does the difference between enforced chastity and devotional chastity mean to you – and what was the decision making process in that?

Enforced chastity is exactly what it says…enforced. When MrsL finally told me that she was in charge of when and how long I wore her Steelheart, I realized I truly had gotten what I had been wishing for all those years. Alas, I travel on airplanes and the plastic Bon4 device and the “custom” EvotionWearables device (3D printed surgical nylon) device caused issues…all chronicled on the blog. One of the many websites I visited and introduced to MrsL was Devotional Sex. We both read through it, individually, had a journal, and face to face conversation about the entire concept. Absent spending the money needed, and we are still planning on doing this someday, on a custom TITANIUM device that is airplane travel safe we agreed that we would live the Devotional Sex lifestyle in between stints in the Steelheart. For me, it personifies my renewed commitment to MrsL.

She is still 100% in charge of IF, WHEN, and HOW I receive an orgasm. In exchange, I still focus all of my sexual energy on her! I will admit that the feeling isn’t the same. There is something about the absolutely instant POSITIVE feedback received when locked in chastity that is electric. When you cock wants to get hard and that desire is blocked by some type of device that energy is looped back through your body. With Devotional Sex, the feedback loop is more subtle but it does build with time. For example, within an hour or two of being locked in the Steelheart, the slightest touch from MrsL sends chills coursing through my body. However, when we are practicing Devotional Sex it sometimes takes days. When I am on a known extended travel break for work the Steelheart is more present. Other times, like now, Devotional Sex is more prevalent. Of course, either way has its advantages and disadvantages for MrsL. She is very coy about which way she prefers but I think it is having unfettered access to tease me.

Safely Sounding!

We care about you and what you to feel at mind when buying our products and what you can expect when you use them. We also respect what you’re into so I’ve created this how to sound safely guide! This is merely a guide put together from information we’ve sourced from online sources. Please keep in mind that we are not medical doctors, always seek medical advice prior to sounding.

What is sounding you may ask?

Well, I am really glad you did! Sounding is the use of smooth rods, made metal or silicone. The rods are then pushed into the urethra for the purpose of pleasure, this is a pretty advance sexual kink play and falls under the medical play umbrella. This can be both men and women, but in my experience has been more common among the male clientele at Ohzone! Vagina sounding uses different equipment as vaginas are obviously shaped differently and have smaller urethras!  For the purpose of this article, I’ll be looking at sounding for men this time. I know this sounds (see what I did there) excruciatingly painful but done right it can be lots of fun for the recipient.  Some sounders calling the feeling intense and pleasurable, particularly as it hits their prostate.

However, sounding can be dangerous if you’re not careful. The urethra walls are very thin and can be easily damaged – this can lead to internal scarring. I don’t need to spell this out for you; this can cause ongoing medical issues so I am warning you…

BE VERY CAREFUL WHEN SOUNDING.

Okay, the first thing you’ll need to do is buy a sounding set, you can find single sounding bars or sounding sets in your local Oh zone! I would recommend buying the set, you’ll save money in the long run by buying the set and they will last you practically forever. At this point your we are going to recommend that you also purchase surgical lube. Surgical lube is best for sound as it’s sterile, water lube is also suitable for sounding. We advise, like for most toys, against using silicone lube. Also, your saliva isn’t lube… it’s an awful idea, don’t even consider it.

Bear in mind that cleanliness matters and you have an increased chance of getting an infection from the germs from the outside world getting into your penis. Make sure you clean your bars with toy cleaner beforehand, just to be sure. Perhaps you should also have a shower before you start sounding. Please ensure you clean your sounding bars after use as well as before.  Cleanliness is next to godliness, right?

Now that you’re all clean, your toys are clean, you have a sounding set and sterile or water based lube it’s time to pick a bar. As a beginner you may be tempted to use the smallest bar, don’t. Smaller thin toys can slip in easy but can also cut you as they are difficult to control and cause damage to your urethra. This doesn’t mean you should use the biggest bar either, for obvious reasons. Your bladder is located inside this region of the body you can cause serious damage to your bladder if you are not careful. According to a quick google search you should be aiming for a bar that is a similar size to that of your urethra, with lube the bar should feel snug inside your penis. Beginners should aim to go slow, control the bar, acknowledge the feeling and do not push past the bend in your sounding bar. Keep the bend or the curve in your sounding bar facing your face.

Particularly for beginners it is suggested that you steer away from dual sexual activities during your sounding session. That means no sex with your sounding bar in, no butt plugs, no masturbators, NOTHING. Your focus should be on sounding and sounding only.

Overall, sounding can be an intense rush, but it has risks and only after a bit of research you should start sounding. Make sure you have all the information at hand, including what to do if something goes wrong. Like I said earlier, we are not medical staff and I would recommend speaking to your local doctor about it before commencing sounding. If you’re comfortable I would also suggest having your: wife, girlfriend, fuck buddy, friend (pending on how close you are) in the room with you, particularly on your first sounding session. This is one of those occasions where liquid courage definitely will not help you, avoid alcohol as it will thin your blood and if you do have a bleed it will be much worse.

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So, I hope I haven’t frightened you away, done correctly I am sure everyone will love sounding. Be safe and look after one another!

Bondage Hoods and Masks

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Many of the BDSM hoods and masks come with really convenient attachments and accessories. Making them highly effective in bondage play,  There are no limits to the different types of BDSM hoods and masks. From a simple cloth hood that can be made at home to elaborate leather and PVC ones that you can buy from the market. Like everything else in BDSM, individualism is the key. Innovate by yourself to make your play and lifestyle more enjoyable.

 

If you wish to purchase from your local BDSM store Australia, you will generally find BDSM hoods and masks made of three different kinds of materials.

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Hoods with Eye and Mouth Holes: Of all the BDSM hoods and masks, this is one of the most popular. They can completely remove a sub’s identity in a matter of seconds. Turn a human being into an object. To be cherished or to be used.

Ponytail Hood: This is usually a hood with eye and mouth holes. However it also has a hole on the top from where the hair of your sub can be pulled out to make a really beautiful ponytail.

Hoods with no Holes: This is highly popular because it completely deprives the submissive of his or her sense of sight. The sub will not know what is in store for him or her. Another added plus – this also completely gags your sub (quite a relief with some really talkative ones). So there is no chance that she will even be able to protest when you establish control over her. A simple word of caution – not all subs are quite ready for this. When choosing from the range of BDSM hoods and masks available, make sure you choose wisely. One that is right for you and your sub.

Padded Hoods: (Also known as Isolation Hoods): This too is a hood with no holes. And does exactly what a hood with no holes does. But in this case, a padded hood goes one step further. It completely deprives the submissive of sound as well. Which means that she will not be able to either speak or hear what you are doing. It is complete isolation inside her own head. Of course as any Dominant can well imagine what this can do to a sub’s other senses. The significance of even a simple touch becomes so much more.

Straitjacket Hoodie: Essentially this is a straitjacket with a hood attached. Many dominants like to leave face of the submissive open while using this. However if one wishes the hood can easily be pulled down to cover the face and act as a blindfold.

Gimp Mask: Remember Pulp Fiction? Well, who doesn’t? This mask immediately skyrocketed in popularity after this movie was released. The term too came into popular usage because of the movie. Gas Mask: Gas masks were originally used – yes you got it right – in chemical warfare. But somehow along the way they became popular in the BDSM lifestyle. However the gas masks used in BDSM are often modified to suit the needs of the lifestyle and can be used in breathplay, enclosure etc.

Female Mask: The Female Mask completely hides the identity of the wearer and can be used to give a female appearance to the submissive. In recent years great improvements have been made on their design and some of them look quite realistic.

Head Harness: Though technically not a mask or a hood, the head harness can be used as one. Head harnesses often use different kinds of gags – ball gags are popularly used. They not only help objectify the sub but can also perform many practical functions like providing attachment points and gagging.

Strap Mask: A strap mask is somewhere between a harness and a mask. There are many straps to this harness which covers most of the face making it look more like a mask.

 

So when shopping for BDSM Australia hoods and masks, choose judiciously. Remember your personality and tastes and that of your submissive as well. And choose one that is practical and also sets your heart racing.  We trust this information from BDSM Australia helps you in your bondage choices and lifestyle,

A Sadistic Chastity Device You Can Sleep In!

Chastity Cage

Does the thought of submission tickle your fancy?

Does giving somebody control arouse you?

DO THE WORDS…

CBT – CUCKOLDING – KEYHOLDING – TEASE & DENIAL

LIFT THE HAIRS ON THE BACK OF YOUR NECK?

Then I highly recommend you get down to your closest Oh! Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre and add the Master Series Sado Chamber Silicone Male Chastity Device by XR Brands to your bag of goodies! 😉

Silicone chastity device
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Purpose of a chastity device

The application of a chastity device is an indication of the control/dominance of the key holder over the wearer’s sexual activities. By wearing a chastity belt or cage the submissive/slave accepts the surrender of control over their sexual desires to the other partner, who may grant permission to the wearer to engage in sexual activity by unlocking the chastity device. The dominant may decide when, where, how often, and even if, the submissive is allowed their sexual release. The key holder is generally considered to be the dominant one in such a situation, and is literally, holding the keys to not only the cage but also to the sexual release.

The wearer of the belt or cage is known as the sub/slave in a BDSM relationship. This is a part of the wider practice of tease and denial. Some people claim it increases submissiveness in their men, It has often been reported that when worn, the chastity belt frequently reminds the slave of the sexual frustration they could experience. Numerous reports and studies also indicate that when men are not focusing on sexual pleasure and release, that they are more intuitive and attentive to their partners.

Most belt or cage designs cannot prevent wearers from physically touching their genitals but they do usually prevent masturbation. Although devices may hold the penis firm, they can be loose and, even though sex is impossible, it is possible for manual stimulation even to orgasm however often resulting in a ruined orgasm. The most effective masturbation prevention requires design features that incorporate piercings or a completely enclosed chastity device. I’ve chosen to look at the Sado Chamber Male Chastity Device which is made of silicone. After doing some research, I had decided that for me, silicone is a great starting choice for a chastity device because it is pliable in comparison to a steel cage, and it is easy to wear and comfortable.

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The Master Series Sado Chamber Silicone Male Chastity Device set includes:

  • 1 silicone cage/tube
  • 3 graduated size silicone back rings
  • 2 plastic cinch straps
  • 5 individually numbered plastic seal locks
  • 1 padlock with 2 keys

The ring measurements are:

  • 2” diameter (52mm)
  • 1.75” diameter (47mm)
  • 1.5” diameter (41mm)

How to apply the device

Please ensure you set up your device correctly, a poorly set up chastity device could result in a serious injury.

At first look whilst the product was still in the box my thoughts were it was going to be an easy application with the device but once I took everything out of the box there were heaps of parts and I was a little confused on how to set it up. All you need is; your shaft tube  – ring – cinch strap with white clip – and padlock/numbered plastic lock.

Step 1

Apply a small amount of water based lubricant onto yourself or to the device whichever is preferred to create easy application. Due to the product being made completely with silicone I recommend a trim/shave to help lower the risk of pinching whilst using the device. Grab the ring with your preferred measurement around your genital area then take out the small white clip for the lock to seal onto.

Step 2

Grab 1 of the 2 cinch straps and push the white clip through one of the end holes. Begin to thread the cinch strap through 1 of the top slots of the chastity tube. Begin to wrap around the back ring whilst heading through the remaining 2 slots. After you have reached the full way around back to the other side attach the cinch strap to the white clip again.

Step 3

Get out the padlock or numbered plastic locks and lock it up! 😏

What I really think of the Master Series Sado Chamber Silicone Male Chastity Device by XR Brands

The Sado Chamber would have to be one of the most comfortable chastity devises I have worn. I have been able to sleep whilst wearing it with no metal spikes or pieces pinching me. It’s great for comfort whilst knowing you are still securely locked up.

With great sized ventilation holes it is perfect for cleaning without removal. This chamber is designed perfectly with a soft and silky silicone for movement and comfort. It is made in favour of the slave/sub with no pins or sharp edges for any unwanted pinching.

Author: Mitch is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Get Shocked With This Fetish Fantasy!

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The Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit is a new domain for me. I’ve never at any point thought about or wanted to experience electro-sex at any time as I really thought it was something a little too kinky for me! The Fetish Fantasy Deluxe Shock Therapy Kit is made by the sex toy manufacturers Pipedream Products. True to Pipedream’s quality the sex toy arrives in a handy and hardy box, on the cover it features a woman bravely using the Shock Therapy Kit. From what I can see, she is obviously by all accounts getting a charge out of it!

The Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit contains a digital power control unit (which is a remote control to you and me), 4 adhesive pads, a bi-polar lead wire, a instruction manual and a free love mask. The remote just takes 2 x AAA batteries. This puts me on ease because if it takes only 2 small batteries, it can’t hurt that much right? The individual adhesive pads are connected by wires into the remote control. The wires are sufficiently long enough to place on different erogenous zones for your personal pleasure and comfortably use the remote without any problems.

The adhesive pads are to a great degree sticky! They are surely not going to tumble off whilst you are having fun with them. You must be mindful so as not to touch them with your fingertips which can be truly precarious.

They have clear plastic covers that can be placed over them to keep them sticky – so don’t throw them away or lose these! I’m not certain to what extent the adhesive pads will last. I would assume that they would probably last 10 uses, but this is a pure guess! But one of the great things about this product is that when they do need to changed, you can actually buy them separately at an affordable price. This makes them worth the money especially if you absolutely love electrostimulation.

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The digital power control unit also displays clear settings. When you go through the modes you will discover that there are pre-set modes that work best for different muscles and particular areas of the body. There are over 100 different modes to choose from – so if I were to attempt to disclose all of them to you we could be here for quite a while! Every mode has a clock which turns the device off after around 10 to 15 minutes of use.

The love mask is made from a shabby material but it was free and it did what it was supposed to do. Using the love mask helped to deprive my eyesight which helped to enhance the levels of erotic electrostimulation that I felt. It is a lot of fun especially if you ask your lover to change the modes.

I first attempted the Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit with my lover. I allowed him to place the adhesive pads on my back, for some reason I expected the experience to feel like a dazzling back rub. My goodness! I had no idea just how wrong I’d be. When they describe their product as being shocking they are not mucking around! Although it was powered by 2 x AAA batteries, there was a hell of a ton of force! On lower settings it felt truly pleasant, however on the higher settings the erotic electrostimulation was strong.

The instruction manual provides generally clear instructions on how to begin to use the product. I think one thing the instruction manual is missing is the locations on where to place the adhesive pads. I feel that if Pipedream Products were to update their manual with this information, it would help people experience higher levels of pleasure or pain!

I’m certain I read somewhere that erotic electrostimulation increases the levels of collagen and increased levels of collagen can potentially firm up a woman’s breasts. This is worth an attempt right? I tested this out and I can’t say the sex toy did anything for my breasts aside from making them move about all over the place. Although, seeing them move was truly an exciting thing to see.

I genuinely didn’t think erotic electrostimulation would be for me however if you know where to put the adhesive pads and are able to effectively work out the settings it can make an incredible electro sex toy. It’s not only for people who like painful pleasure but it can also be incredible for releasing muscle pressures after you’ve had a work out. I do like that you can put the 4 adhesive pads where ever you like on the body so they don’t all need to be in the one spot.

The Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit is extraordinary for beginners as you can effortlessly control the mode yourself. You can also quickly change it to go down to the lowest setting. The LCD screen makes it straightforward to use and there is a large range of settings that you can choose from. The LCD screen allows you to see the velocity, power and mode. The Fetish Fantasy Shock Therapy Kit was pretty awesome even though I am not sure if I want to explore the BDSM roleplaying scene any further.