Tips For Erotic Dancing!

Starting a new journey is always daunting, especially an out of the ordinary journey such as venturing out into the world of exotic dancing! I wouldn’t call myself a veteran dancer but after being in the industry for a while I’ve picked up quite a few tips and tricks along the way that I want to share with anyone starting out!

CONFIDENCE:

As cliché as it sounds, confidence will be the best and biggest gun in your arsenal. Putting yourself out there is hard let’s face it. However a dancer’s main objective is to sell a fantasy, this means transforming the way you talk, act and think to suit the client you’re with. This is the best part, you get to be a completely different person!! Whatever character you choose should be confident, confidence can be sensed by everyone in the room, it’s in the way you walk, it’s behind the eyes, it is everything. Nervous about the way you look? Don’t be! Every single person has a type, so don’t let ‘no’ discourage or dishearten you. For every ten no’s there will be one yes, just keep going!! Say it with me: Confidence is KEY!!

 

NAME:

Your stage name is important as it becomes your fantasy identity whilst you work. Pick something short and sweet that isn’t too cliché and is easy to remember! No one ever believes the first name you tell them and will always press you for your “real name”, have at least 3 different back-ups for “real” names to give whenever that question is asked. Once you pick a name stick with it and create your character around the name. You may be shy or quiet but your new persona isn’t, she’s confident and mysterious. Remember it’s all an act and you’re playing a character.

 

DANCING:

You DO NOT have to be a professional dancer to become an exotic dancer. I’d never really danced much before I started but you pick up moves and tricks as you go along and as you start to get more comfortable. Everyone is different, twerking is a great move but if you don’t have a large rear it shouldn’t be your go-to show stopper. Work with what you have, the other dancers will always help a rookie out with some simple easy to do moves.

SLOW AND SEXY,

repeat it in your head anytime you’re dancing if you ever think you’re moving too fast, just slow it down. Pole dancing studios often offer free trial classes, this is a great way to learn simple moves on the pole as well as how to actually hold the pole with proper grip etc.

 

OUTFITS:

Another key to success in the erotic dancing industry is what you wear.  You don’t have to spend an arm and a leg in order to buy some nice lingerie. Pick an outfit that emphasises your assets, most clubs will have a dress code that you’ll have to follow, whereas some clubs will be quite lenient with what you can wear. One piece and three-piece sets are often the norm. Pick a colour that makes you stand out and suits your skin tone. For instance, if you’re very pale colours such as red and black will make your skin look very bright and vibrant, whereas blues and whites go well with darker or tan skin!! Pick an outfit that looks good, but makes you feel even better! Remember you’re selling a fantasy so wear something to drop jaws, but make sure it is also easy to get off when you’re on all fours.

 

WHAT TO BRING:

Probably one of the most important tips is what to bring in your bag:

  • More than one outfit: ALWAYS bring at least two outfits, dancing is a workout and you will sweat, bring more than one for that reason alone but it’s always good to stand out too, if the club is full of girls wearing black and you have a backup red costume, you’re going to stand out.
  • Makeup: You’re going to be sweating your makeup off throughout the night or losing your lipstick on straws/glasses so bring makeup to do touch-ups with.
  • Baby Wipes: In almost every dancer’s bag, also known as a strippers shower. Dancing is a workout and as you’re are putting your body near clients faces it’s always a good idea to stay fresh.
  • Shoes: Invest in a pair of Pleasers, easiest shoes to dance in and some of the most comfortable heels you will ever wear in your life. Normal heels slip on stage or aren’t used to the hard labour dancers put their shoes through, invest in a pair specifically designed for exotic dancers.
  • Dry Shampoo: Another stripper shower, just for your hair this time. Keep your hair dry and fresh as opposed to wet and sweaty, which will definitely happen after an 8-hour shift.
  • Padlock: Most clubs will have lockers for you to stash your bags in, some dancers keep their earnings or tips in their bags and like anywhere there isn’t always decent and honest people around, play it safe and lock everything up and don’t go flashing cash or expensive items.
  • A smile: A smile can be worth a million bucks, and in this industry that saying is true. The more you smile the more approachable you appear, the more money you make!!

 

These are just a few tips to take into consideration, everyone is different, and every club is different. Work out your vibe and find a club to match and groove away. Good Luck!!

Freak In The Sheets, A Lady In The Streets

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Men want the type of girl that is marriage worthy, the kind that they can take home to their parents and their parents will instantly love. They want a kind of girl who is sexy just for them, a freak in bed but not someone who advertises it to the whole world. They want a bit of mystery associated to their woman, they don’t want the rest of the world to know how hard you like it in the bedroom or the kinks you’re into how wild you like it or even how frequent! Men are jealous greedy souls and they want this all for themselves, but can you blame them?

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Some might say this is unfair, and you know what it probably is but that’s your choice of how you want to hold yourself, flaunt if you want to but personally I prefer the more mysterious side. Think about it…. Your man might love to brag about you to his mates, your man might want to boast while the rest complain about their woman, but what he does want is for you to be sexy but not so sexy that his friends ogle you and there is nothing left to the imagination, he wants others to appreciate your beauty and find you desirable but know that is only the surface of your sex appeal.

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Of course, he secretly likes the fact his mates think you are sexy, but he doesn’t want to hear every detail of what they are thinking, and he doesn’t want to advertise it so much that his friends feel the need to comment about it all the time or in front of you. We as women love when other women find our man attractive, but there is a significant difference between smouldering appearance and flopping it out.

Those kinky mysteries are what your man wants, but he wants them to remain mysteries to everyone except him. He wants a freak in the streets and a lady on the street. A woman who knows when to cover up and when to show it off.

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Tips for how to be the mysterious and desirable lady who gets freaky only for their man. A women who oozes sex appeal and makes other men look twice when they pass you but for all the right reasons.

Skin

Show just enough skin to show you are proud of your body but not too much where there is nothing left to the imagination.

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A lady who knows when to amp up the dirty talk and can tell you exactly what she wants in the bedroom but knows how to curve her tongue when talking in public. Be careful what you wish for.

She giggles but be careful with what comes next

A lady who can giggle, covers her mouth and blushes like an innocent school girl, but out of nowhere can make the dirtiest comment or joke. She’s got two sides a devil and an angel.

She knows how to take a compliment but never lets a guy take it too far

She can politely brush off an abrupt guy in the street or a wolf whistle, she doesn’t use that as an excuse to tell the guy to “f**K Off”. She knows the difference between a harmless comment and straight up harassment. But when a guy does disrespect her she has no problem with telling him where to go.

She’s the type of women other guys will lust over, but her eyes are just for her man

Being with a woman like this means you need to have trust and confidence in your women, you have to understand that guys will check her out, but she won’t notice because her eyes are all on you.

Cute and sexy she will have the perfect combination of both

Divine powers like these are only bestowed upon women like this, ones who know when to be sexy and when to be cute. She has those innocent eyes but when you take a second look you’re instantly turned on.

Her wardrobe is high class sexy and classy but with all the innocents… underneath though is high sass and no one but you will ever know

Time is always taken to make sure she maintains a certain look about her, attention to makeup hair and her outfit always flawlessly match, but underneath all that is colour matching lingerie, lace and sexiness are oozing out waiting for her man to take off the surface layer. She’s definitely got a knack for kink, think less vanilla and more chocolate swirl with popping candy you’ll never know what’s coming next. Wearing the right lingerie can make you irresistible.

She likes tradition, but she is also unconventional

She is a sucker for all things traditional, nothing makes her happier than her friends and family. The feeling of togetherness is very important to her, but this doesn’t mean she is boring, she is free thinking and independent, speaks her mind even if it’s against popular opinion.

She takes care of your needs in life she is attentive and caring, but she gives you all your wants in the bedroom

Day to day she looks after what’s best for you, she will take care of you when you’re sick, and always thinks of both of you when it comes to choices in life. But when it comes to the bedroom your wants become your needs.

But all this is a two-way street, you can’t have a lady in the streets when your man isn’t the same way

A lady always know that this is a give and take world, she is patient loving and kind and always gives things a chance. Don’t get me wrong it will take a lot to push a woman like this away but when you do you will never ever see her again not on the streets or anywhere else.

No one wants a lady 24/7, that’s way too dull and boring, a woman who can seamlessly switch between the lady and the freak in such a fluid motion is a desirable attribute. This kind of life is a balance and in so many ways it sucks that women are expected to act a certain way and be a certain way, which is why the only way this works is if this is what you want to be. Two parts lady and two parts sexual dynamite, we walk a thin line that showcases your respect and love for your body, but with that hint of sexiness enough to not show neediness or thirst but enough the give an impeding allure about you.

No matter what anyone tells you men want a freak in the sheets and a lady on the streets.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

7 Easy Seduction Techniques Used With Costumes

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A person can receive many benefits from wearing lingerie and costumes, so why not take advantage of them! Here are some fun and exciting ways to spice up your love life through sexual attraction. Start today and use these ideas to create the fantasies that you have always dreamed of!

Use The Science Of Symmetrical Attraction

Researchers had found that people with symmetrical features are more attractive than people with unsymmetrical features. A person who has symmetrical features also subconsciously alerts people that they have good genes which may make other people naturally attracted to them. Even though people love symmetry, most people aren’t perfectly symmetrical.

If you would like to make your body appear more symmetrical, you can buy structured lingerie. Structured lingerie can be made with slightly thicker material, underwire and boning to provide more support to the body and breasts. It won’t cling to your body and make you feel uncomfortable. Clothes that are made like this tend to last longer too!

Peacock Your Way To Success

Peacocking is a verb that means “to draw attention”. An example of this is in the animal kingdom when a male peacock utilises his beautiful, long, blue and green feather display to sexually attract a mate. People can also participate in the act of peacocking by wearing interesting and eye-catching lingerie or costumes. You can be adventurous and have some fun with it by using a mixture of your favourite colours, materials and textures.

Wear Something Red

The red dress effect theory works on the idea that people’s brains are subconsciously hard-wired to find red clothing sexually appealing whilst other coloured clothing is less appealing. Different colours in lingerie and costumes can bring out different moods in the bedroom.

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Take The Word “Self-Conscious” Off Your Worry List

If you feel self-conscious about what you wear, you may also find intimate moments with someone scary or frightening! Wearing lingerie and costumes can make you feel more attractive and comfortable which will help to take the word “self-conscious” off your worry list.

Make It A Special Occasion

Regardless of whether you have recently started seeing someone or you’re in an established relationship, if you are planning on dressing up why not do it for a special occasion like on a anniversary or on Valentine’s day. These events are supposed to bring people closer together through celebration. For those who have been in a relationship for quite a long time they may not feel quite as sexy as it used to be.

Nevertheless, buying costumes or lingerie as a gift will indicate to your lover that you still find them attractive and would like them to carry on dressing up. It can definitely score you some brownie points especially when your lover sees it in their underwear drawer, it will remind her that you are a caring and conscientious partner.

Change Your Character By Roleplaying

As William Shakespeare once said:

“All the world’s a stage and all the men and women, merely players”

When people dress up in different costumes it can psychologically help them to feel more confident and change their mind frame to behave in a way that suits what they wear rather than how they would normally behave in day to day life. With this in mind, you can choose a type of costume which would reflect a type of character you would like to become when you are roleplaying in bed with your lover.

To begin you should ask yourself some questions like:

  • What would you feel comfortable wearing?
  • Who would you like to envision yourself as?
  • What type of fantasy would your love like to be fulfilled?
  • How would the costume, character and roleplaying scene make your lover feel?
  • Will it make your lover feel special?

When you first begin roleplaying you may feel embarrassed or silly but this feeling will soon wear off. You should both begin enjoying the scene. In no time you will be indulging living out your wildest dreams and fantasies.

Here are some costumes ideas:

  • Naughty Nurse: Explore medical play by taking care of any sexual frustrations your lover may experience that makes them feel unwell.
  • Police Officer: Dominate the roleplaying experience with a submissive lover. You can use restraints to make things extra fun.

If you feel too embarrassed to wear a full costume, you can try on one piece of the costume alongside your regular clothes or underwear. For example, if you wear to dress up as a naughty nurse, you can try wearing the nurse’s hat with your regular underwear. Whether you use just one piece or all the pieces of the costume, your lover will highly appreciate you going that extra mile for them.

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Dress Up In Costumes Together

You don’t have to do it all alone! If you are worried about getting dressed up by yourself, why not ask your lover to join in with you? Buy a costume for your lover and yourself, then dress up together.

Plan The Roleplaying Scene

You can plan out the roleplaying scene around the costume so that you can actually live out your fantasy. You may want to give your lover a little hint that you have something special planned or you may surprise her or him with the entire setup.

Set up a room in the manner you have always dreamed. If you have always imagined a particular set up or a certain sequence of events then now is the best time to set the stage. If you would like to use certain products like massage oils, music, BDSM gear or candles ensure that you have placed everything in a convenient location.

14 Surefire Ways Lingerie Will Make You Irresistible

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It is not secret that both men and women love wearing lingerie! Using quality lingerie that fits your body type can make all the difference in your day. Here are 14 reasons why people absolutely love lingerie!

Sometimes It’s Not About Who Sees It

Many people have the expectation that people wear lingerie to impress their lover or for another’s pleasure. But did you know that for most people who wear lingerie often wear it just for themselves. Lingerie helps people feel sexy, attractive and desirable. Feeling this way is important for self-confidence and self-esteem so that people are able to have a positive view of their own body image. Looking and feeling great is a major part of people’s lives and can have a big impact on how a person’s day goes.

I like to call this “Lingerie Confidence”. Have you been the airport recently? Did you know that there is a Victoria’s Secret in both the Domestic and International Sydney Airports? This trend is continued in Melbourne, Perth, Brisbane, Gatwick (London), Heathrow, JFK Airport, Dubai, Paris, Auckland, Rome. . . it is thus clear how important a place lingerie can be in our lives

Wearing Lingerie Can Be Kept As A Secret

Some people are exceptionally timid and feel uncomfortable showing off lingerie to a lover as they may feel it is out of their comfort zone. Since lingerie is worn under a person’s clothing, it can be used whether you are at home, at work or at an important social function. No one else will know you are wearing it. This means you are wearing something incredibly sexy and it is your little secret.

Lingerie Can Be Worn To Impress A Lover

Wearing lingerie can be visually stimulating and sexually arousing for a lover to see.

Lingerie Can Help Improve Relationships

Subsequently, I feel that lingerie in a relationship is important and I’m not alone in this thought. Charles J.Orlando suggests that lingerie is excellent to spice up the bedroom for couples. It provides a sense of empowerment and confidence and it makes a delightful gift.

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Lingerie Can Be Worn Everyday

Gone are the days of having to wear lingerie like boned corsets that make it hard to move or even breathe! Most lingerie is designed to be worn comfortably every day, you don’t just have to use it for a romantic date night.  So you can feel beautiful, gorgeous and sexy any day your please.

Suzie, self-described as a love strategist, writes in her article ‘Why Lingerie is important in a relationship’ that wearing lingerie shouldn’t be a special occasion thing. It should be an everyday thing. She writes that when she saved lingerie for special occasions in her marriage, due to the various issues that they’d have that special moment, wouldn’t materialize. After her marriage, she decided to wear the lingerie everyday as she had drawers full of unused pieces. She writes that she discovered new parts about herself, that she felt more confident, became more flirtatious and subsequently she began to project a new image and personality into the world.

Lingerie Can Purchased At Affordable Prices

People can find high quality and designer lingerie at affordable prices so you will be able to find something which suits your personal budget.

Lingerie Can Naturally Enhance A Person’s Body Figure

Lingerie can be worn to emphasize a person’s best assets. By highlighting their best assets you are bringing enormous confidence to the table. You’re saying, I love my ass, let’s show it off. For men, if he has the best ass, go for a jock strap. If he has a great cock, go for something sheer/netted in the front or get something, like Andrew Christian which favourably lifts and pushes. For women, if she has amazing breasts go for something plunging with an under wire. If she has long luscious legs go for high cut underwear or a low cut piece.

Lingerie Can Be Used To Hide A Person’s Flaws

In the same token, if a person is sensitive about a particular body part then they are able to buy something that accommodates for that. People need to be mindful as to how you will feel when you wear the product. For men, if he doesn’t like his dick, then something sheer isn’t going to give him confidence. For women, if she has scarring from a caesarean or feels that she has a big ass, then a two piece set with a thong isn’t going to work. For tummy scarring go a sheer loose fitting chemise, garter belt or a lace body stocking, if it’s only the scarring that they are concerned about and not tummy size.

Lingerie Can Be Worn To Express Your Personality

The design of the lingerie can be chosen based upon how a person’s wishes to see themselves. For example, if he or she wears something incredibly erotic, they may feel sexually empowered. If the person wears something cute they may feel playful. It can be used to fuel how you wish others to perceive you or it can be used as inspiration to change the way you choose to act.

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Lingerie Is Available In Different Sizes

When you are shopping you can choose a size that fits your body. It is best practice to know the size you’re buying for before you even go shopping. Write down your measurements on a piece of paper so that you can remember them. If you are unable to measure your body, look through your clothing and read the sizing labels of items that properly fit you. For men, look at the jeans and underwear sizes. For women, look at the bra sizes and underwear sizes.

When you go shopping, you can compare the measurements with the product’s sizing guides or speak to a consultant to find out the appropriate size. If you need further help you can ask the consultant if you are able to open up the package to try on the lingerie or to compare it to your body.

You can even give your lover your measurements in case they ever wish to buy you lingerie as a gift, this is helpful so they don’t have to guess your size. The problem with a lover picking out the incorrect size is that if you go too small and you’ll make them think they’re fat, if you go to large, it may make it look like you think they’re fat. Sometimes people who are unaware of their sizes even resort to picking other people in the store and comparing their body sizes!

Plain and simple, get the right size.

Lingerie Can Be Purchased In Different Colours

When buying lingerie, you can take into consideration a person’s favourite colour and what colour will looks best. If they’re pale and white, yellow is probably not the best option.

You Can Buy Different Lingerie Options For Different Levels Of Confidence

Take note of what is currently in your wardrobe and what you are comfortable with. If you’re considering something a little risqué and out there, consider your confidence levels and whether you are going to trust what you’ve picked. When in doubt, get two; the out there option and the safe option.

Lingerie Can Be Bought To Make You Feel Better

My partner always knows when I’m not feeling well or life is getting me down, I go on a shopping spree and I buy new underwear. I buy everyday underwear, sexy underwear such as jock straps and cock socks to show off what I have. Some people buy jewellery or shoes, some people buy clothes, others buy food or new games or something to make us feel better.

Lingerie Can Be Bought As A Special Gift

Make your lover feel important and special by buying them some sexy clothing that they can wear. You don’t have to buy it for a special occasion you can buy it simply because you can. When your lover slips into a sexy piece of lingerie which makes them feel great they will be reminded of you!

You Are What You Underwear!

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Boxers/Granny Panties

If you’re the type of person who chose to put this atrocious piece of fabric over your most intimate bits, you my friend are asking for cuddles from your pillow. Your choice of undergarment is a clear indication of how you’ve given up on yourself as a sexual being. You don’t see yourself as sexy, nor do you want to be seen as sexy by anyone else. Please think of the paramedic or hospital staff that have to cut your pants away if you are (Heaven Forbid) in an accident of some kind. They deserve some eye candy on their 12- 14-hour shift. Forget the skinny jeans, no chance of squishing all that fabric into them. If you are wearing boxers or granny panties it is a good idea to read up on how body image and self esteem impacts mental health.

Briefs/Thong

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To be blunt, you’re a bad ass with clear intentions. You’ve put on this pair of underwear that so perfectly draws attention to your smooth curve line body. You want eyes on you as you undress. You’re not ready to meet someone’s parents, but you are ready to let someone get to know you, for a brief period! If this is your everyday underwear, you’re most likely the leader of your group, confident and sure, always ready for a good time.

(Men’s Thongs- DONT DO IT! It’s just wrong unless you’re modelling for a fitness competition.)

Boxer Briefs

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You are a true blue loyal kind of person. The one all your friends turn to for help or advice. You never let anyone down. You live a carefree yet very responsible life. Forget the little things, you’re in control. Forget dating games and the “Chase” you want meaning and depth. None of this 3 am booty call or the back room of some dive bar for you. Always a lover, not a fighter. But just because your choice of underwear is relaxed doesn’t mean the sex will be. Watch out, when this relaxed underwear comes off the wild tamed beast is unleashed!

Trunks/Bikini

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You sit between style and comfort. Most likely you work a solid 9-5 every day and want to be comfortable but ready for after work drinks that just might lead elsewhere. Your job is not your dream, you’re always dreaming of being elsewhere. It’s not that you’re a lazy person, it’s that you have bigger aspirations than the mundane life you are accustomed to. You’ll probably never quite your 9-5 job and move to that tropical dreamland, you’re just too comfortable. Change is unsettling, but you won’t stop dreaming or bigger and better things.

Tighty Whities/Boy Shorts

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​Taking it back to a simpler time, when very few people saw your undergarments. You’re still living in your childhood. You’ve never left that high school gym class. You’re afraid to step outside of your shell and be the person you want to be. You think because a very very small group of people think this underwear is sexy that it’s perfect for you. You think it says you’re above caring what others might think of you, but it just screams of a child trapped in an adults body to afraid to develop a sense of self.

Jockstrap/G-String

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​Wearing these it’s very clear you enjoy the company of men. They can also help to raise your body image and self-esteem.

You have moved past the wanting to look sexy for others. Everything in your life is hyper sexual and it’s empowering. You know how sexy you are and want to dress for you. You enjoy the sexy feeling in your skimpiest underwear. This is not just your “special occasion” underwear. You’re more than proud wearing this to the grocery store. You exude confidence and are the life of every event. You’ll try anything twice and never back down from a dare. Not because you have something to prove, but because why not?

Commando

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If you regularly go commando, you’re the person who thinks because you read in Cosmo or Maxim magazine in the 00’s that it’s healthy for your bits to get some air. You’ve thrown hygiene out the window. If we went into your house I’d bet the smell of last Friday night still lingers. Your fridge has a potentially out dated milk and a few condiment bottles. Your supplement and vitamin game are probably strong because you think that’s the key to a healthy life.

I can only hope you’re doing this because your house caught fire? Maybe going to or from the gym? Even then, no! Unless your intention is to show off that VPL (If you have a P)? If so please show away!

Whatever your underwear choice is, wear it with pride. You’ll never be judged for your choice with us.

Check out the amazing collections we carry at an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres nearest to you or at a trusted online sex toy store. We have all your favourite brands in all styles, we might even have something you’ve never tried so give it a chance!

About the author: KrizPatrick BA(Hon) Psychology- Human SexualitySave

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