Going Beast Mode With Breast Worship

Breasts kink and fetish

Did you know just how incredible breast really are? Most of the population are already averred multi taskers but did you know that breast were also absolute beasts at multi-tasking!

What happens to the breasts during sexual arousal

During sex your breasts go into full beast mode and are bomb multi-taskers let me tell you how, they may just change your whole view that breasts can only be visually amazing.

During the throws of passion and penetration your breasts actually increase in size, approximately 20-25% to put a figure on it. Basically, they swell in anticipation of orgasm… say hello to a natural boob job, just when you thought you were at your max sexiness.

As does your areolas! Not only will you see a visible change in your breast size but also the size of the areola which eventually gives you erect nipples. Your breasts also become more firm and well-shaped just when you thought your body couldn’t get any better your body turns it up and turns it on.

Increased sensitivity is your best friend, trust me. When you become aroused your breasts become super sensitive, every little touch gets ramped up when you’re aroused and guess what those tiny goose bumps don’t mean your breasts are cold it means they are actually turned on!

Your breasts are like little or not so little antennas and send signals to your brain, when your breasts are touched or fondled with they send those signals to the brain to release oxytocin in abundance! For those of you who don’t know or haven’t read the 100’s of blogs on our site that speak about oxytocin which is popularly known as the “love hormone”, this is what helps you and your partner bond better during sex, and also a few other cool things which I’ll talk about in just a bit! So really it doesn’t matter about the size of your breast you have them to thank for the increased attraction your partner now has for you. If you want even bigger breasts or nipples, you can grow in size with breast pumps.

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Image: Cleavage

Your breast create a natural perfume, yes you read that correctly! During sex your breasts release some scented sweet pheromones. The only downfall is that you won’t be able to consciously smell it yourself, but your partner definitely will and they will feel more attracted to you in the process.

They are the bodies chameleon, they actually change colour, don’t get freaked out though they won’t turn purple or green, but you might be able to see a pink rash underneath or on the sides while having sex. This is caused because of a mixture of oestrogen and the stimulation of blood vessels. However, they might have a blue tinge to them but that will only be your veins becoming more visible due to arousal.

Sexual confidence, it doesn’t take a rocket scientist to realise that with these changes it can actually make you feel sexier and gives you a confidence boost. That’s why they call it sex appeal.

They bridge the gap, literally! There is an actual neurological link between the stimulation of your nipples and clitoris. Even more incentive for your partner to be multitasking or you to play with your breasts while they are exploring other parts of your body.

A kinky fetish for breasts and bodily fluids

Now for something a little different for all those fetish lovers, have you ever noticed that the breast secretes liquid, does it turn you or your partner on? Since we have all just learnt about just how much goes on with breast during sex and the fact that sexual arousal releases a hormone called oxytocin are you also aware that this is the same hormone that is released during breast feeding.

Because of this oxytocin surge, sometimes during sex women’s breasts will either leak or squirt breast milk, while being aroused, experiencing orgasm or by squeezing or stimulating the breasts- your vagina isn’t the only body part that can squirt. This is nothing to be embarrassed about, it is completely normal but if it does bother you just keep a towel handy.

For some this is a huge turn on and a fetish within itself many people have a fetish for body fluids and within that realm of fluids is breast milk.

I think everyone has been curious about the taste of breast milk at least once in their lives lactophilia is an attraction to a lactating breast and breast milk, throughout evolution breasts have been a symbol of fertility, sexuality and nourishment there is something about breasts that men and women throughout the ages have found so incredibly desirable.

What is erotic lactation?

Erotic lactation is being sexually aroused by the thought of, viewing or participating in breastfeeding.  For some it’s drinking of the milk that their fetish lies, for others it can be watching a woman lactate or the art of the breast milk squirting out of the breasts. There is no umbrella rule for lactation play, even the exact part that is arousing is different for all but one thing that is constant is the fact that involves the breasts and the liquid that comes from them.

The difference between breast worship and a lactation fetish

Many people are sexually attracted towards breasts but there is a difference between breast worship and lactation fetish, an example is the difference between someone who is attracted to buttocks and loving anal sex compared to someone who is aroused by someone defecating and the idea of defecation.

The reasons why people are attracted to and turned on by different fetishes are all individually different but there are several factors that can explain an erotic curiosity in breast milk. One thing that is certain is that anything and everything should always be done by two consenting adults it doesn’t matter if they are in a platonic, romantic or a kinky BDSM relationship, not every person has the same kinks or fetish’s, and some don’t even know it’s a kink of fetish for them until it happens.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

7 Mouthgasming Ways To Use Food And Sex

Hot dog erotica

Food and sex. The correlation of eating and erotica. Yes, you read it! My two favorite things in the whole wide world, and today I felt ultra-compelled to write about all the luscious benefits one can receive when combining both food and sex, or at least connecting the two elements together.

Banana erotica
Image: Banana licking

Now where do we start, because I love to speak upon one’s own experiences so much as you guys have probably already picked up by now.

I do admittedly have moments of total food erotica (Yes, that’s a thing believe it or not) where a tantalizing taste of something can send me to a total state of euphoria.

You know the feeling of complete utter satisfaction when you sink your teeth into a tasty morsel (Yes, I am still talking about food here guys) and the first trace of consumption makes its way down your throat leaving you feeling some type of way. That’s what I like to call food erotica.

A food orgasm is only second to a real orgasm. The connection between the two can be both ultra-sensual and sexually gratifying at the same time.

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Image: Eating corn


Now before you ponder and visualize the millions of different ways you can experiment with sex and food let me run through some variables that may serve as a great appetizer.

Use decadent dessert sauces as a body paint

Seriously though who on earth doesn’t like dessert?

The concept itself is simple and delicious, although I do recommend placing something on your sheets as things will get messy (trust me). Try straddling your partner’s back while massaging the decadent sauces with your fingertips into them then effectively taking it off with your tongue afterwards. You can even use an empty bathtub and paint your partner to your heart’s content and other body part’s content. If this tickles your fancy, you can have a look at products like chocolate body paint and massage products for better sex.

Now personally to me, there is something very erotic about fruit

Call it odd but I just feel when I bite into a juicy ripe strawberry or piece of pineapple there is something to be said about the contrast between the naturally sweet flavor and aroma much like when I’m in the heat of passion with my significant other.

I actually prefer fruit as oppose to the latter when it comes to sweets. Regular consumption of fruits such as mentioned helps to keep your flower tasting nice and fresh. It also adds to the desire in my opinion.

You can feed each other all the tropical flavors under the sun then devour each other straight after to see just how valid that theory is (Your welcome).

Indulge in Nyotaimori which is often referred to as “body sushi”

Now, I’m pretty partial to sushi, It has also been said that it is a food of love. It can in fact increase your libido, something that I’m completely elated with after having a four-year love affair with this particular food. Now there are many ways to enjoy sushi, however there is no other way that can surpass nibbling it off your significant other’s naked body.

Sushi erotica
Image: Body sushi


It has been said that certain foods serve as a major aphrodisiac in the art of lovemaking.

Here is a list of some of the most erotic edibles to help give you that extra bedroom boom.


Probably number one as being one of the most documented and well-known dishes to make you feel a tingle on your taste buds and your panties. Oysters are traditionally considered the romantic sea coral and contain massive amounts of zinc (a known libido booster).


One of my favorite vegetables though some still call it a fruit. The avocado believe it or not was used many years ago as a means of courting your lover. Perhaps it’s the scrumptious texture or the fact that it resembles curves, but to me there is something erotic about the avocado. I’m also an avid eater of all thinga. So to have its appeal confirmed makes me rather overjoyed.


Yes, you read it right. Asparagus. That vegetable that as a child you just loved to hate. I recall many a night my mother telling me ”No leaving the table until your food is done Channelle”. Meanwhile I stare in horror at the strands of asparagus sitting on my plate taunting me.

Fast forward to present day as a fully-fledged adult (Well, most of the time). I can say with full conviction that asparagus is more of a friend than a foe, and after reading of its bedroom benefits you may just welcome it too.

Once digested asparagus serves as an extremely powerful and fast stimulant to the urinary tract. It has in fact been compared to having the exact same effects as the Spanish fly (A beetle infamous for its massive impact on libido and toxins).

So essentially you’re getting the same perks via this vegetable minus the side effects.

Maca powder

You may or may not have heard of this wonder root vegetable (no pun intended).

Farmed in Peruvia, Maca it serves as a massively potent libido enhancer and is now manufactured and sold over the internet and stores worldwide in several different forms.

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Image: Banana deep throat


You’re at home in your most luscious lingerie preferably Coco De Mer because we love Coco and your heels that match (It’s a Virgo thing we like to co-ordinate). You yes YOU being the goddess you are.

Your man or even your lady, has been away working hard all day, and when he walks through that door he is greeted by not only the sight of your tantalizing silhouette but also the lingering aroma of the feast your fine self is making him/her. Yes I’m talking about cooking in the nude, okay partial nude keep in mind oil is a bitch when it comes in contact with skin. But what hot blooded man or women wouldn’t love coming home to that. Seriously!

The kitchen is one of the most perfect appropriate inappropriate places to get it on and no counter or table top should be spared.

Banana sucking erotica
Image: Banana sucking

Now I know this is common knowledge and also a common practice when courting a sexual partner, wining and dining has been a favorite ritual for centuries.

While the whole concept might sound mundane to the kinks of the world, there are multiple ways one can spice it up.

Yes, I know you’re thinking going out to dinner is not food erotica related. But trust me when I say there are so many ways to spice up ones meal.

Whether it be opting for no panties and letting your partners fingertips strategically brush against your goods underneath the dinner table or wearing something like a We-Vibe Sync and having said partner get you off via phone or remote while you both devour a delicious cuisine. All of this revolves around food and all of this equals pleasure. Use food and couple’s sex toys for a sexual awakening.

As far as cuisine goes there are many cultures that associate love and food. For example pretty much every European region i.e. Greece, Italy, etc. All places where there women pride themselves on making food with love and feeding their men.

Now not every women in this world can cook though nor do they all have the desire to, but this is a skill that can be pretty sensual when both parties get involved so making it a team effort can work just as well for getting the mood going and I highly recommend making your own DIY home erotic cooking classes. After all they do say the way to a man’s heart is through his…… stomach silly. 😉 If food and sex get you in the mood why not have a look at wet and messy sploshing too!

Channelle xo

Author: Channelle is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

A-Z List Of The Quirkiest Fetishes

Anime zoophilia

When did sex become so serious!? Has it always been this way or have we been taught somewhere along our life journey that to have enjoyable sex means we must be done with our playful and innocent spirit?

When we were young, play came so naturally to us. We approached the world with fresh eyes, bringing our curiosity of the unfamiliar into every aspect of our lives. Whether we received good sex education or not, over time many of us were taught that there was a right way of being sexual and anything that did not fit into this narrow framework was to be shamed. This often meant that the adventurous approach we had to other areas of our life did not translate to our sexual explorations.

To think that there are so many people out there who feel ashamed of the things that turn them on saddens me. Human sexuality is vast, with each person unique in what they desire sexually and how they choose to express their sexuality.

Wouldn’t it be so incredibly beautiful to approach our sexuality with a sense of playfulness and willingness to get messy? Exploring our sensuality and sexuality solo or with others is a wildly free, fun and sexy adventure if we choose to make it so. I’ve compiled an alphabetical list of some potentially quirky, kinky or unusual paraphilias and ways that different people can explore their sexuality.

Anal Rimming

I understand for some individuals, licking someone’s bottom is not something they think twice about yet some people could never imagine giving or receiving a tongue in between their ass cheeks.


Whether it is with rope, cuffs or tape, being constrained can be extremely sexy and fun.


Seeing your wife or girlfriend getting fucked by another man turns many men on. Cuckolding is surprisingly one of the most popular porn searches on the internet!


Unless you count being bent over the bonnet of a car whilst someone fucks you doggie style, this has less to do with canines and more to do with being watched in a public space having sex.


For many people, being zapped by electricity sounds like a nightmare yet for a select few, electrostimulation proves to be an exhilarating and enjoyable sexual kink

Foot Fetish

There are some people that find the look, smell, touch and taste of feet incredibly arousing. Whatever floats your boat I say!!


This describes the primary sexual attraction to elderly people. I stress primary because those with this paraphilia can only be turned on from being with an elderly person.


Some people become extremely aroused by being humiliated in a sexual context. This could include things such as name calling and ordering them to complete degrading tasks.

Impact Play

Getting spanked, whipped or flogged sounds like a punishment for most but if you fit into the masochistic category you may in fact love it. The tools for impact play are extensive to say the least, with paddles, floggers and crops made from a range of materials such as leather, silicone and plastic available.


So this one is a little puzzle to keep you on your toes. Think juggling multiple partners at once… group sex! Threesomes, foursomes and moresomes are a great way of exploring your sexuality with others.


Enemas involve body temperature water inserted into the anus. They are often completed in a medical setting or in preparation for anal play. It may stump you knowing that there exists a paraphilia where individuals become sexually aroused giving or receiving enemas.


The name is quite suggestive though in case you were still wondering, lactophilia describes a paraphilia where sexual arousal is gained from breast milk.


Having someone inflict pain on you is a dream come true for a masochist. With full consent, power play can be incredibly sexy to explore for these people.

Needle Play

Needles are the source of many people’s phobias so it may be difficult to comprehend that some people will willingly play with needles.


Stinky body parts especially the genital areas turn on those with this paraphilia. If you despise taking showers, you may find yourself a keeper in this minority.

Pony Play

Play pretending to be a noble stead is a very popular trend in the BDSM and kink world. I love horse riding but definitely prefer to be the rider in charge. Perhaps there’s still a place for me in this kink…

Queefing Fetish

A less discreet description of queefing is fanny farts (I cringe at this terminology) which are a turn on for some people.

Rape Fantasy

This one is an edgy kink that’s for sure and more common than you would think. Done with full consent, it can be a thrilling role play for a couple to explore (I cannot stress FULL CONSENT enough). Be sure to read up a guide on risk aware consensual kink!


Inflicting pain on others is a thrill for a sadist and can be just as enjoyable for consenting partners.


Sexual attraction to deformed or monstrous people. There’s certainly someone out there for everyone.

Under Arm Fetish

Pretty self-explanatory don’t you think? Most people with this fetish are aroused by the smell – different strokes for different folks I believe!

Underarm fetish
Image: Man licking underarm


Watching people have sex, often done without their knowledge. Again, a great fantasy to explore with full consent!


Remove any images you may have of jet skis, boats or Marco-Polo. Instead, think of being urinated on for sexual gratification.


Ok so not a kink or fetish but I’m way too excited to share this somehow. A video on Youtube exists of an MRI of people having sex. Too fun!!!

Yoni Gazing

Yoni is the Sanskrit word for vagina, with yoni gazing a very popular thing to explore in some circles.


This one is a paraphilia not to explore for real although pretending to be animals with consenting adults can be playful and exciting!

Author: Stephanie Curtis, sexologist

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

Adventures With The 82 Year Old Gaping Granny!

Gaping Granny

Continued from my 82 Year Old Pole Dancing Granny…

Now for those of you unfamiliar with an equine speculum, it is a speculum used on horses and cows to open up the vagina or anus of the animal.  It was huge and made of shiny surgical steel.  As I lifted it the weight was considerable and I was thinking how the hell it was going to fit into dear old Genie.

As if reading my thoughts dear 83 year old Genie said, ‘C’mon Jim.  You don’t want me dying of old age here waiting for you.  My cunt cannot sit her gaping wide open all day for you.”

I looked over to Genie whose legs were wide apart held in the gyno stirrups.  The aged sagging skin were a victim of gravity and hung from and the deep blue raised varicose veins ran from her open hole to her ankles.  As I approached I dipped the prongs of the speculum into the bucket of J-Lube.  Bringing the now dripping medical device up I could not help but wonder how or why I had come to service these grannies in the name of community service.

Gazing at her I saw that her vulva was spread and inflamed typical of the aged estrogen deficiencies and her cervix still open giving me a clear view into her cervix.  I could see that the upper wall of the cervix was still a healthy pink and moist but sagged which appeared to me to be the early signs of getting a prolapsed cervix.

Massive Speculum
Big Speculum

As I approached she slid her bony skin sagged ass down and brought her knees up further in anticipation of allowing me to insert those massive prongs on the steel device, which I did, and my pelvic examination of her began.  Slowly centimeter by centimeter until the entire 40 or so centimetres were inside her.  The equine speculum features three prongs one fixed and two that can be widened that were inserted, a handle to hold and control the device.  At the bottom there was a wingnut and threaded bolt that controlled the movable prongs widening them or closing them up.

Slowly I began to tighten the wingnuts that caused the prongs to widen and Genies cunt to gape further. The vagina was wide open and I could see the entrance to the cervix open in time with the widening of the speculum.  As the cervix opened up I could see into her aged uterus.  This woman had the biggest pussy I had ever seen.

She began to chuckle, ‘Like what you see?  Then why don’t you get your lovely hand and start fingering me inside my uterus?”

Willing to aid and help the elderly I slipped by fist into her vagina and then opened my hand and began by inserting a couple of fingers inside her uterus.

I heard her gurgle as she said, “That’s right Jim dear.  That’s it!  Push those fingers in until you reach the end of it dear.”

I continued to put my fingers deep inside her womb until they I felt a small opening that must have been the fallopian tube.  This seemed to drive her crazy so I rimmed the tube opening from her long infertile ovary entrance.  Looking down from her vagina I noticed that her rosebud was convulsing and the ass was rhythmically opening and closing up.

I heard her chuckle as she said, “That’s right Jim.  Granny likes a bit of anal too!  Why don’t you play around with my ass?”

Leaving the speculum inside her with her vagina and and uterus open for me to see I removed my hand from inside her and dipped it in the bucket of J-Lube.  I then began to rim her puckering anus with my fingers.  The more I did this the more relaxed and open her ass became.

She said, “Stick your fingers in Jim.”

I did as she requested, first with one finger, then two, then four.  I could feel the hard steel of the speculum on my fingers with the slight lining of the rectum wall to the vaginal wall.  This granny was getting off but I could fit no more than four fingers in her ass because of the extent the speculum was widened.  I would not have in any event in case I tore her open when doing so.

She said, “Have you seen enough Jim.”

I replied, “I’ve seen what you’ve had for breakfast Genie.  Surely there can be no more?”

She said, “Okay Jim.  Let’s clean up and then I have one more thing to show you and we can be done.”

I then removed the speculum from her pussy and even after removal it gapes with her huge pussy lips hanging.  I then went over to the sink and began to wash up.  

Genie walked behind me and said, “When you finish cleaning up just take a seat at the bar over there. Pour yourself a drink.  I will be back in a few minutes.

After I finished washing up I walked over to the bar quadrant of the garage and poured myself a stiff JD and Coke and then sat on the bar stool.  The bar stool was facing a small makeshift stage that had a stainless steel pole installed like a professional pole dancing set up.  Above and below were some colored lights and it was exactly how I envisioned a seedy low class strip club to look like.

A few minutes later, after I had checked out the bar Genie walked out and she was wearing a short bright red dress with a low cut top.  It was obvious that she was not wearing a bra as her drooping breasts hung under wear the bra cup was and her wrinkled chest full of swirls that reminded me of an aged tree but that were the skin she had worn for so many years now.  As I gazed downwards I saw the deep blue varicose veins on her wrists and her fingers that were slightly arthritic curved.  

Gazing further down I noticed that she was wearing garters that were holding up her red fishnet stockings.  I could see the folds of skin hanging from her knees were obviously the elasticity had been lost until I reached her feet and saw that she was wearing high heeled shoes.  Her arthritic toes were shrivelled and curled at the front opening.  She also wore a satin choker with an amulet on it.  She had excessive amounts of makeup on.

Skin From Naked Granny
Naked 82 Year Old Granny

She said, “Jim, be a dear and switch that stereo on there behind you.  The music is pre-programmed.”

I complied and when I turned it on some loud stripper music came on.  Genie flicked on a power switch at the base of the stage and the lights came on.  She then climbed the stair and with her hunched over disposition began to move jerkily to the music.  The fluid erotic dance expected from a high class stripper were lost in this geriatrics aged body whose muscles where atrophied.  The whole thing was wrong on so many levels but in some artistic way it was right.  I could not help but become aroused and this elderly granny began to take off her dress releasing her dehydrated boobs.  Allowing the dress to fall to the ground displaying her aged marked belly and a white G-String.

As I looked closer at the G-String she was wearing I could not help but notice that neither of her labia were covered by it and they were left hanging at least two inches down either side.  This served only to turn me on even more.

A sparkle appeared in Genie’s eyes as she said ,”You naughty boy Jimmy.  Getting turned on by a geriatric stripper.  I am just going to have to go down there and give you a lap dance.”

She then descended the stairs and began to do her lap dance.  Putting here sagging bony ass in my face and then turning around and hitting my face with those humongous labia.  After a few minutes she stopped smiled at me and then to my amazement put her hand in her mouth and removed both her bottom and top teeth.  She had false teeth in and now she had none.

She dropped to her knees and undid my fly with her gnarly hands and then took my erect penis inside her mouth.  Her lips were not soft but rough and aged and her tongue although wet felt like a cat’s tongue – rough and abrasive as she sucked and licked my cock.  I began to fuck her mouth the more I got turned on the harder I thrust and the deeper I went.  With no teeth the sensation was totally different.

I got carried away and stood up, grabbing the back of her elderly head and began to fuck her throat deeply and with abandon.  I grabbed her hair to go deeper still and to my shock it came off in my hands.  Left before me was Genie with a few strands of long hair, with tears in her eyes due to my deep-throating her.  The good church boy that I was should have made me stop and check up on her health and safety but the sight of her vulnerable, a few strands on her head with tears in her eyes only fuelled my fire.

I grabbed the back of her now hairless head and thrust my rock hard cock in her mouth until it hit the back of her throat.  Not being satisfied with that I thrust it deeper so it went down her throat tunnel.  She bit down on the base of my cock but having no teeth this did not stop me but only served to further arouse me and my dick seemed to grow to the largest erection I ever had.

Fucking her furiously now in the throat I could feel her gag reflex spasming and her mouth clamped down on the base of my cock constricted it so much that I began to powerfully ejaculate deep inside her throat over and over again until I was finally spent.  It was only then that I realised that the pressure on the base of my cock had subsided and as I released Genie she fell to the floor.

Fuck Me!  I thought I had killed her but then I heard her laboured and frantic breath and after a few minutes she spluttered up my jizm coughling it out.

As I nudger her I said, “Oh God Genie, Are you Okay?  I am so sorry.  I didn’t mean it.  I don’t know what came over me.”

She looked up coming too from her near death by asphyxiation, coughed some more and said in a croaky voice, “It’s okay Jim.  I got what I deserved.  It is the devil coming out of me and you.”  She coughed and sputtered some more and finally rose to her feet and said, “Jim, if you can go over there (indicating the bathroom area) clean yourself up and let yourself out that would be fine.”

I said, “Genie, really I am sorry.”

She looked back as she was leaving the room and I could see a slight twinkle in her eye again as she said, ‘Jim, will I see you next month to help me prune the bushes.”

I said, “Sure Genie, anything to help.”

Anal Spreading Fetish
The Goatse Fetish

This became a regular tryst for me and Genie until she passed when she was 84 years old.  However by the time she drew her last breath my father had introduced me to a large number of sexy grannies that needed our community assistance like Prudence who had an extreme fetish with Goatse.  Perhaps you may want to learn more about her?

Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena’s and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.

Dr. Stacy, Help Me! I’m A Sexless Cuckold Wanting Sex

Man in a chastity device

This month Adultsmart’s clinical sexologist and certified sex coach Dr. Stacy Friedman has answered three questions which were anonymously sent in to askasexologist@gmail.com. Be sure to read them, who knows she may have answered on of yours!


So for the last few years, my wife and I have been in a cuckold relationship that started with my chastity fetish and she escalated it.  A year and a half ago, she decided that I would be sex free besides using my tongue.  I was upset at first but she convinced me it was for the best.  My problem now is that I don’t think I can handle never having sex with her again as I ache for it constantly.  My question is after all this time of being pussy free and her fucking whoever she wants, how can I talk her into letting me have sex again?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

For those not aware, a cuckold relationship is one where a man encourages his wife to have sex with other men because it brings him pleasure. The husband’s “victim” role is definitely a major element of the kink. Communication is very important in any relationship, so if something bothers you about your sexual practice it would benefit you to bring it up in a conversation about your needs with your partner.  If she isn’t willing to listen or respect your concerns then you aren’t in a balanced relationship and someone will be settling or continue to feel unsatisfied. When in a cuckold relationship, the person who is the cuckold (meaning you) can feel pleasure by being humiliated and submissive but only if both parties consent to this agreement.  This fetish fantasy doesn’t work when the cuckold is being humiliated against their will and their own needs are not being met.  If your marriage will continue to work without resentment or frustration, your concerns need to be discussed and a compromise found.  If you still want to be in a cuckold relationship then discussing some changes that can help both of you be satisfied can be imperative or unfortunately your marriage may not end well.


I cannot satisfy my wife, as my penis is too small.  I have tried penis pumps but the result did not last.  I tried stretcher too but it was painful and nothing was different after a month.  Is there a way to get a bigger penis?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

Unfortunately, you have the size that you were born with unless you try a few things such as what you have mentioned.  The penis pump is not meant to have a lasting effect, it just offers enough help for the time you are being intimate.  If the stretcher is painful then obviously you shouldn’t continue to use it but even if you do use it, you probably won’t get much larger than another inch or so.  Most women appreciate the girth more than the length so it is more filling in their vaginal canal.  You can use a cock ring on your penis which can help keep the blood blow in which can help with some thickness.  Make sure to use lube prior to putting the ring on so you don’t pull your skin.  Also, it isn’t all about the size that makes a woman happy or pleased.  You can learn different techniques that will help increase her satisfaction such as working on oral, using your fingers more by touching in a soft and slow way.  While you are having intercourse you can also help with pleasure by using a toy to stimulate the clit at the same time so it isn’t as focused on the penis size.  There are some adult products such as penis sleeves that are made with silicone or jelly material that can increase some length or girth during intercourse so maybe try some of those.  Make sure to try and communicate with your partner as to what they like and need to feel satisfied and you may be surprised that it doesn’t have as much to do with a larger penis but the way you take your time and focus on foreplay and allowing your partner to enjoy the connection and touch between the two of you.

Cock ring with a remote control
Image: NU Sensuelle Remote Control Rechargeable Cock Ring


During oral sex, can sperm be swallowed?

Dr. Stacy Friedman’s Answer

Yes, it is safe to swallow sperm (also called semen). The choice to spit or swallow is a very personal one and there is nothing wrong with either answer. Before you do decide to swallow semen, you should make sure your partner is safe from any sexually transmitted infections so you aren’t taking the chance to transmit any infection to yourself. Semen is mostly water and also contains some amino acids, protein, zinc, calcium, sugars such as glucose and fructose as well as Vitamin C and a few other nutrients. The different diet that someone has will determine the taste or lack of taste that it can have.  The more fruits and vegetables you have, the better or more mild the semen will taste, such as pineapple or fruit juices. Some studies have even shown that semen, when entered through the vagina into the bloodstream is actually considered an anti-depressant so swallow away if you want to feel happier! I don’t know how true that really is but it doesn’t hurt to try.

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