Maid To Order

Slave to Bondage

My willingness to serve

 

Throughout my life I have always had a willingness to serve, the word no is not an easy word to say for me. I have always enjoyed creating a meal for my partner, small tasks like making the bed, cleaning, washing clothes and other domestic duties. I have a sense of feeling proud afterwards and showing my partner that I have made our house a “home”, which is cringe worthy for most feminists. I have never understood why these tasks give me such a feeling of achievement in my relationships.

 

For the most part it has been taken advantage of, as with most people, in most situations someone who says yes, all the time becomes an “easy” person to deal with or someone who most will call upon in times of need as they always know they will say yes.

 

A people pleasure, a slave, a yes person, but today I learnt that in the BDSM world this set of attributes is a fetish; servitude- This is a service orientated submissive.  It is a relationship within the BDSM lifestyle where the passive partner is both physically and emotionally “in service” to the dominate partner. It’s not all about sex though, these relationships might not even involve sex and romance but focus on pleasing their dominant in any way they wish to be served.

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Several couples add this type of play or practice into their everyday lifestyles, examples of ways such as; housework wearing a particular outfit or in nothing at all, fetching drinks, meal planning or cooking of meals, personal assistance. Very often outfits such as nurse and maid, are worn to bring a more realistic sense of the service orientated submission.

Think more personal assistant instead of slave.

 

This is a part of the BDSM world that I can resinate with, which has surprised me. Not many things shock me anymore, I have come to appreciate and accept the different ways in which people will express their passions and desires.

 

My desire for service and pleasing my partner has become something that I have always thought was just the way in which I loved and showed love. It is something that unless it is understood can be very dangerous and damaging to a person, for someone to fully understand they need to respect and without respect a person will feel as though they are a slave and not understand why they are constantly taken advantage of. My pervious partners have all seen these particular attributes as a weakness in my personality, constantly they would ask me to do things I may not be comfortable with doing, knowing full well I won’t say no to their request, and if I was to say no it wouldn’t be hard to change my decision.

 

As someone who isn’t involved into the life of BDSM and only dabbles into certain areas, learning that the world is more about respect and appreciation rather than dominance over another person makes it a little less scary and a lot easier to understand.

 

To the outside world BDSM is full on, and to some the deeper you get the more that is involved but to those on the outside even the art of cuffing can be scary. The biggest misconception that I see from working in this industry is that an uneducated person believes that because it is depicted a certain way it must be ok. Truth is to serve someone or to allow someone to tie you up can be the most frightening thing, to some it can be amusing, and to others it can be a way in which they express their sexual desires.

 

Servicing your partner should always be done in a way that does not hinder your confidence or respect in yourself, to allow someone to be dominate over you is a huge power play and you and your partner need to understand the boundaries and respect those boundaries. You must first be dominate with yourself, and after that having the ability to selflessly serve your partner with the only satisfaction being how happy you have made your partner and the feeling of being useful in a task done well, is enough to give you happiness.

 

Exploring this way of life in a new light is exciting and makes me feel more Intune with my body and the way in which I express myself. I feel as though I can understand the reasons why I do things the way I do and why I feel happiness after doing something my partner has asked, even more so when I do something in which my partner enjoys and is proud of without him asking. To have someone who respects you is the biggest achievement in life especially if your someone who struggles with trust. Being able to express yourself fully and without the fear of being hurt or taken advantage of is a right every person should have, we need to respect each other more and take more time to show respect for ourselves as well.

 

Morgan x

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Jonas And Mistress Eve – Chapter 3.5

Ass Up Sex

Chapter One – Meeting Eve

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I opened my eyes slowly,  must have dozed off!  Glancing at the bedside clock I saw It was now a few minutes after 11pm and knew that the night would soon be over.  In the morning it would be cuckold training school for me, and now, after having sample Mistress Eve wondered what life would be like after this unbelievable night.

I turned over and saw Mistress Eve still naked in the bed beside me with her luscious boobs exposed pertly on her athletic frame.  “had a bit of a nanna nap did we Jonas?” she said as she smiled.

I said, ‘Yes, sorry.”

She said, ‘To me it is no bother but you have less than an hour to do with me what you will before the real fun of your training starts.  What would you have me do?’

After having had my way with her I felt confident and masculine.  This cuckold training stuff may not be as demanding as I first thought.  “Get up and kneel on the side of the bed for me please!” as I got myself off the bed.

Immediately she complied and rolled over seductively onto her stomach.  Slowly she raised her tight ass up into the air and went up with her knees slightly apart.  She moved her ass from side to side and I had a clear view of her perfect rosebud and pink vagina lips.  I could see that her cunt was still wet and could only assume it was from the deep throat experience that she had given me.

She looked gorgeous in the doggy position and I felt my cock stiffen.  I began to massage her ass cheeks pushing them upwards and spreading them making her little rosebud gape slightly and her cunt up so I could see a little open hole that led to her womb.  The more I did this the more she moaned and it was not long before her pussy was sodden wet – dripping with her cum – inviting me inside.

Instead I spat on her ass, in the groove made between the ass cheeks and began to dry hump her.  Her silky smooth skin was exquisite and my cock began to throb.  I would bring my cock slowly down until the head just touched her gorgeous ass-hole and then put it back in the groove and hump it upwards.  Each time I did this her tight sphincter seemed to relax a little each time – I did this for five or so minutes until each time I brought it down to that delicate hole a little bit of my cock would slip in.  First it was just the tip of my head poking into that tightness, then a little further until finally the head of my cock would slip into her delicate love hole.

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As I continued to do this spreading her cheeks her hole began to open on the upstroke until finally it remained gaping open waiting for my cock to return.  I spat in her open hole and on my cock spreading the saliva as I would lubricant onto my erect penis and brought it back to her welcoming ass-hole where I placed the head of my cock and pushed – slowly – with even force and watched as my member entered her anal cavern.

Slowly, I continued the pressure until my cock was balls deep in her ass, then slowly took it out.  The pressure on my cock was exquisite and all I wanted to do was cum in that forbidden hole but somehow I managed to stop myself and actually increased the speed that I was going in and out of the butt.   The pace quickened and without realizing it dirty words I had never used before whilst fucking spewed from my mouth.  Some of the profanities that I yelled out were foreign to me and in all honesty do not think have ever been uttered by me in my life.

Far from turning Mistress Eve off these profanities seemed to excite her and she began to push back on my cock as I entered her and we became a synchronized thrashing machine as my cock pounded her nether regions.  I allowed one of my hands that had been grabbing her ass to move under her and found her erect clitoris that I began to tickle and then pinch.  It drove her wild and she was moaning and I could feel her sphincter spasming on my cock, the contractions and releasing of those muscles driving me insane.

I began fucking her like a wild dog, using my hard-on as a weapon intent on destroying her ass – but rather than cry in pain she took it all and she cried out , “I’m cumming’ and I felt her gush from her pussy whilst her sphincter closed down on my cock.  It was so tight that I could hardly move my cock in and out but this drove me wilder and my cock was as hard as a metal rod and I forced it in and out of her with more vigour.  Her hole was so tight it was almost painful as I began to jerk uncontrollably feeling my orgasm coming to the point of no return.

Previously I had used cock rings and I enjoyed the sensations that they bring as you cum.  The restriction forcing a harder erection and your cum to spurt to its freedom at the end of the cock.  That experience was nothing compared to this, and as I tried to cum her ass if anything tightened even more onto my cock and I began to spurt in ecstasy.  My orgasm was cataclysmic, nothing I had ever experienced before and I shot about 8 loads before I finally collapsed on my back with my cock still deep inside her ass.

She then lowered herself onto the bed with me lying on my back and in moments I was again asleep.  She had literally allowed me to fuck the life out of myself.

It seemed like moments, but I woke me from my satisfied slumber.  ‘Jonas, wake up’ she said.

‘Hmm,’ I wasn’t quite with it but turned to see her now dressed in her trademark Mistress outfit with her black shiny PVC pants and corset that accentuated her 36DD breasts and hour glass figure.

‘Wake up!  It is a couple of minutes to 12.”  She said.

“Oh, sorry – I must have dozed off again.” I said.

She said, “Tomorrow we start your training.  You must be thirsty after all that fucking.  Here drink this.”

She was right, I was thirsty and eagerly I drank from the glass she offered me.  It was water but with a strange tangy taste to it.  I said, ‘What was in the drink?” as everything around me became foggy, the world began to spin and I became incredibly sleeps – then everything went blank.

It was so cold, what a strange dream I was having.  What was that around my wrists, my ankles – somehow I managed to move my arms, could hear metal rattling?  My head hurt, it was pounding.  I had only ever had one hangover in my life and this felt far worse.  My eyelids were heavy but I concentrated hard and slowly, with an effort that felt super-human I finally lifted them.

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Where was I, it was dark – I was freezing.  Over the next few minutes I slowly regained my composure and remembered the night before – the sex – THE DRINK.  She had drugged me. Why?  I was doing this voluntarily – I wanted to be her cuckold.  It was then that I realized I was stark naked – in my birthday suit and my hands were shackled in metal cuffs.  I looked at the cuffs and saw that a chain was attached to them and the other end was fixed to pins in the wall about my head height.  My ankles were also cuffed and chained similarly pinned to the wall about knee height.  Slowly I got my bare ass off the cold concrete floor and took in my surroundings.

The walls were brick and painted a dark green and black.  There were all sorts apparatus fixed to the walls like whips, collars and other devices I did not even want to think what there use was for.  There was a St Andrews cross against another wall and in the middle was a bench and a bed.  At different points in the ceiling pins that had chains dangling downwards.

This must be the dungeon that Mistress Eve had taken out the loan for.  Never did I expect to be a prisoner in the dungeon that I had approved the loan for.  If my bank employees could see me now!

CHAPTER FOUR – REVENGE AND HUMILIATION – TBC

Excerpt:  How could she have done this to me?  Here I was stark naked, shackled and humiliated and Mistress Eve has brought my fiancee to see me.  What sort of sick twisted shit was this, that I had gotten myself into.

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CHAPTER FIVE – A CUCKOLD IN TRAINING

Mistress Eve begins Jonas’s cuckold training in earnest

CHAPTER SIX – THE CONTRACT

Jonas enters into his cuckold contract.

CHAPTER SEVEN – A TASTE OF CHASTITY

Mistress Eve is the keyholder for Jonas’s first male chastity device.

CHAPTER EIGHT – A CAPTIVES CULTURE

Mistress Eve locks up Jonas in a cell and uses time torture on him.

CHAPTER NINE – PUBLIC HUMILIATION

Mistress Eve takes Jonas to a BDSM event where he is publicly humiliated.

CHAPTER TEN – BUGGERY

Mistress Eve has group sex and then dresses Jonas in women’s clothing and pegs him.

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Cracking The Whip On Whips

Skillful whipping techniques of a mistress

Whips are used in a BDSM roleplaying scene by a dominant to inflict pleasurable pain, used as a tool for a sensory experience when gently dragged across erogenous zones and also used to point at things to tell a submissive what to do. We are sensory beings and enjoy these senses being activated especially during sex.

One of the terms that is used endearingly between BDSM enthusiasts when they would like to go for a whipping session is:

“Lets go and do a little bit of slap and tickle!”

Learn How To Use Whipping Techniques Safely

So you want to go out and flog someone? Now, you just need to know how to do it!  There are different techniques to use whips properly. If a whip is used incorrectly, it may not be enjoyable and it can be possibly dangerous.

Who Gets To Be In Control Of The Whip?

The first thing you will need to do is work out who is the dominant and who is the submissive in a BDSM relationship. To tell who is who,  let’s clarify what these terms mean.

Dominant

A dominant or a dom is the partner in a BDSM scene who:

  • Takes the active or controlling role over the submissive.
  • Decides what happens in the roleplaying scene.
  • Follows the submissive’s rules set out before the scene.
  • Practices risk aware consensual kink.

Submissive

A submissive or a sub is the partner in a BDSM scene who willingly gives up some or all control to a dominant partner. The submissive follows what the dominant decides and practices risk aware consensual kink.

When Are People Dominants And Submissives?

This type of partnership is often referred to in the BDSM community as a dominant/submissive or D/s. There are varying degrees of D/s relationships. Some people are only dominants or submissives during certain events like at  BDSM parties, clubs and dungeons or during certain times like when having sex or engaging in a roleplaying scene. Some people also switch between roles.

What Gender Is More Likely To Be A Dominant Or A Submissive?

In the 80’s, research on heterosexual couples showed that during sex and roleplaying scenes about:

  • 75% of men are the dominants.
  • 25% of women are the dominants.
  • 75% of women are the submissives.
  • 25% of men are the submissives.

Other Types Of Roles In A BDSM Scene

Others may live as a full time submissive who relinquish control to their dominant in all aspects of their life.  They are commonly known as a slave or a  cuckold.

Slave

A slave is a person who submits control of a large percentage of his or her day-to-day life to a dominant. A slave may submit within a formal set of rules and rituals set out by the dominant.

Cuckold

A cuckold is a husband, boyfriend or lover who has a partner who cheats on him. The cuckold may encourage his partner to be an adultress. A cuckold may sexually enjoy being humiliated, degraded and controlled like a slave by his partner.

Master

A master is the male dominant partner of a slave.

Mistress

A master is the female dominant partner of a slave.

Top

In a gay relationship, the dominant is often referred to as the top.

Bottom

In a gay relationship, the submissive is often referred to as the bottom.

Why Would Anybody Want To Be Submissive?

It is often said that people who have a lot of responsibility in their career and/or day to day lives often reverse their roles in the bedroom to become more submissive. These people may crave someone to make all the decisions for them which can be stress relieving.

How Does A Man Dominate His High Achieving Wife?

With the ever increasing politically correct stance of equality for women, how does this play in relationships?  To have a wife that is career orientated, while the stay at home husband looks after the kids can sometimes create difficulties. The roles may switch in the bedroom. However, it is up to each individual couple as to whose role is what.

The Agreement Between A Dominant And Submissive

A dominant and submissive relationship is like a contract.  It must be agreed before hand how much or how little ‘slapping and tickling’ is to take place. There must be one or more safe words for when the submissive wants something to stop.  AND like all contracts they are not to be broken which helps the roleplaying scene remain safe and enjoyable. If the contract is broken the trust between the parties will no longer be there.

Whips Are Different To Crops

Just to be clear whips are different to crops, clappers, canes and other punishment devices but they serve to attain the same purpose.  A sensory explosion on an area of the body for taunting, teasing and punishment. A whip can tickle, create fear, cause an explosion of sound, sting, slap, thud and more when used in the correct hands.

Different Types Of Whips

There are different types of whips with different purposes. Here is a list of the 11 different types of whips. Please note, some of these whips are not used for people in BDSM, kink and fetish scenes.

Sana Whip

A sana whip or flogger is often made with soft leather, PVC or silicone. It is a wider multi tailed whip that is designed to tickle and even when used strongly it will not inflict pain.

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Stockmans Whip

Often called a bull whip.  This is a long leather whip often over 1.6 metres long that has a ‘cracker’ on the end.  These whips, when used correctly, will flip back and make a massive crack. They can reach up to 3 times the speed of sound.  This whip is to be used with care and is a theatrical accessory in BDSM. It is not to be used as it will break skin and cause serious damage.

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Image: Stockmans Leather Whip 120cm

Cat O Nine Tails

The cat o nine tails was originally used as a means of punishment in the military and in prisons for centuries.

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Florida Cow Whip

The florida cow whip is similar to the stockmans whip except it is thicker and heavier and has a hollow centre.

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Snake Whip

A snake whip can be made out of leather, rope and other materials. It is generally made with a patchwork design.  At the tip there is a single or multiple narrow strings that will create a crack effect when used.  Since it is braided it is a very flexible whip.

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Quirt Whip

A quirt whip has a fork design that usually has two falls at the end. It is sometimes called a riding quirt or horse quirt.

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Hunting Whip

A hunting whip is similar to a riding whip except on one end of the whip it has a lash that measures several feet in length. On the other end it has a hook, which is used to help the rider open and close gates while out.

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Image: Hunting Whip

Sjambock

The sjambock was a very popular weapon used in martial arts for centuries and is very long.

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Jiujiebian

A jiujiebian was originally used in martial arts and is made of segmented metal chains equal in size on the whole length of the whip.

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Qilinbian

A qilinbian was originally used in martial arts and is made of segmented metal chains.  The lash is made of steel rods decreasing in size that are all linked together by progressively smaller steel rings.

Bludgoen Whip

A bludgeon whip has a heavy stick on one end with a rope or weapon on the end.

The 5 Best Whipping Techniques

So now that you know what styles of whips there are and you have agreed on the sensations that you wish to impart or receive.  Here are the 5 best whipping techniques that are used. Now remember, these can take some practice beforehand to make sure you get it right, and careful discipline will ensure that you get the best results.

Overhand

Stand in an upright position.  Bring the whip up over your shoulder and ensure your elbow is parallel to the body – if it is facing inwards or outwards it is possible that you will end up whipping yourself.  Bring the whip straight down to the target.

Carnival

Similar to the overhand but just prior to hitting the target snap or flick the whip back towards yourself.

Reverse Snap

This one takes a bit of practice but circle the whip overhead gaining speed and then snap the whip towards the target.

Sidehand

With the palm of your hand outwards and your arm to the side, flick your hand towards your body and the whip will travel sideways to your target.

Underhand

With the hand facing in a downward position snap the whip up towards your target.

One Of The Biggest BDSM Whipping Communities

One of the more popular whipping groups is Whippersnapper in Atlanta which has a whopping 4456 members that have open discussions and forums.  If you are a newbie into the world of punishment I strongly recommend you join this group or a similar group that will be able to guide your through your journey.

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My Prize For Being A Disobedient Submissive

Submissive who follows and leads

I am not a good submissive, I am sometimes sassy and I giggle, I like to push the boundaries but in the end I do as I’m told. I grumble when you ask me to do things but I do them anyway, with always a hint of sass made in the way of a comment or eye gaze. But the punishment is so much sweeter an intoxicating rush runs through my body when you grab a hold of me, when you object to my behaviour I melt, the authority you have over me makes me feel aroused and secure. You’re not gentle when you smack me it makes me wet, it’s not the pain, it’s the authority and it’s the presence you make on me. Sometimes I want danger and unpredictability, sometimes I want to get out of my own head and do the wrong thing, sometimes I don’t want to be so planned and organised. There really is an art to negotiating dominance and power play fucking.

I want to feel like your princess but I also want to feel you in the dark and not know where you are going to touch next. To love to submit but not be submissive is confusing; to test boundaries and “play with fire” then do, as I’m told is a rush, I’m not naughty but I am naughty for just a moment, a fleeting moment of adrenaline.

Sometimes I look at you and I want to be all over you, I want to take control, I want to own and possess you. I want to render you powerless and I want you to submit to me. I want to be fluid and one with you, I want to be lost in the darkness with you, I want you to grab a hold of my hips and drive right into me, I want to lose my breath, I want all my senses to focus on every sound and every tingle.

I want to submit but it’s so hard to give over that power, maybe it’s an issue of trust; maybe I’m just not letting go. I feel the need to stay in control of myself, I feel it’s an important part of me, but I don’t know how to do that while still submitting myself to you, knowing with every objection and bit of sass punishment is on its way, in whatever form that is.

Maybe its fear as well, what If I don’t like what is happening? What if I feel hurt, what if it triggers something I don’t want it to trigger. I don’t have a dominant bone in my body but I like to be in control, or at least I feel like I’m in control of myself.

I crave that freedom; I crave the sense of being weightless in my mind. The feeling of submitting and being respected the feeling of dominance while being dominated the feeling that my every move is worshiped.

Sometimes I want you to own me, I want you to be in control and it makes me want to rip down your throat. I want to impale myself onto you, I want to feel every bit of you and you feel every bit of me.

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But in the end isn’t the submissive the dominate one? Isn’t it in the end the submissive the one who is actually in control allowing the acts to happen, and controlling the outcome?

The feeling of your hands holding my hips so tight, reminds me you own me, I am yours. I want you to not be gentle, I want you to ravage me; I want you to take me, because you deserve me. I want you to free me from my mental restraints.

I don’t want to be in control, I want you to fight me for that power, I want to feel the release of satisfaction.

The sexual power of submission, leading and following

One of the most powerful things you hold is your power to submit, most people have psychological blocks, but being powerful enough to release those and become submissive is something else. Being submissive is seen as a negative, the feeling of losing while being dominant is winning.

But being submissive is so much more it is virtuous and highly desirable.

It is like a dance with “leading” and “following”. Learning to follow is hard, and it is something that requires a lot of attention and focus. This is the same with sexual submission, being submissive is not star fishing on the bed; it is actively receiving and enjoying. We are wired with many primal switches that are triggered around being dominated. They are delicious and arousing when you are using your erotic brain. Submissiveness can bring with it a cocktail of emotions, these emotions range from being in pure awe and appreciation on the sweet side, to fear and humiliation.

It is an exchange of energies that spiral upwards in grander and more superior erotic turn-ons.

Morgan x

Author: Morgan is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

The A-Z Of A Cuckolding Lifestyle!

A cuckold lifestyle is not for everyone

Many men find the thought of their wife becoming an adulteress threatening of their relationship.  That it is a breach of their marriage vows allowing their HotWife to fulfill her sexual needs whilst often insisting that he not only remain faithful, but often also in chastity to be had only when she deems it fit.  Relinquishing one’s power both sexually and in lifestyle can be daunting and challenging.  However, those that live a cuckold lifestyle enjoy the relinquishing of the responsibility of satisfying an often insatiable woman.

Some cuckold lifestyles are extreme and will incorporate bondage, discipline, humiliation and sadism to varying degrees.  But domination is in all cuckold relationships, and the HotWife will control just how much and what will be allowed.  There is some specific terminology used in cuckolding society and here is a basic A-Z glossary for cuckolds.

Glossary and definitions for cuckolds

Adulteress

The HotWife that is in a relationship or married that has an affair or affairs with other men.

Bound

A cuckold is often bound in order to further his training.  When the HotWife begins to have affairs in front of her partner he is often bound so that he cannot participate in or stop the actions.

Cuckold

The husband or partner of an adulteress who is an object of derision and humiliation.

Dominate

The HotWife will dominate her partner or husband in all matters of sexuality that may spill over to everyday life as well.

Erotic Power Play

Used when first entering the cuckolding lifestyle and that power is given to the adulteress.

FemDom

A HotWife often not only dominates her partner sexually but may also incorporate domination in other facets of lifestyle.

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Feminized

During punishment and humiliation exercises a HotWife often feminizes her partner by making him take on female characteristics including clothing and make-up.

Genitorture

CBT and Chastity play are commonly used during cuckolding sessions.

HotWife

Is a woman in a relationship who is free to have sexual relationships with other men and women.

Internal Enslavement

When the cuckold is ordered by his HotWife to do something – like stand in a corner – without being bound  and will remain in that position until he is released of that command.

Junior Top

A HotWife during feminization training have the man she is having an affair with top the cuckold.

Keyholder

When incorporating male chastity in a cuckold relationship the adulteress becomes the keyholder.

Life-Styler

Is a person that totally becomes absorbed in the lifestyle of a particular fetish like cuckolding.

Mistress

The HotSpouse when incorporating bdsm and chastity play in a cuckold relationship becomes the mistress.

Negotiation

The cuckold must negotiate with his HotWife when or if he be allowed to participate in any sexual activities.  This will also apply to other everyday lifestyle actions.  Negotiations can take place at different intervals of the relationship.

Obedience

The cuckold must be obedient to his HotWife at all times.

Punishment

If the cuckold misbehaves, is disobedient or does not please the HotWife he will be punished.  Punishments should already have been determined in the negotiation.

Queening

The same as facesitting but may incorporate the use of a chair for the comfort of the HotSpouse.

Respect

The cuckold must have respect for his partner at all times.

Serving

A cuckold is there to serve his HotWife and please her.

Total Power Exchange

Where all decisions are made by the HotWife and there is no longer any negotiation.  The HotWife has turned into a full blown mistress.

Urethral Chastity

Often used by the HotWife to punish the cuckold by inserting a solid pee stopper  so that he cannot urinate.

Voice Training

The HotWife may train the cuckold to talk a certain way during feminization or at other times in a particular manner when serving her.

Workshop

A term used for newbies when they first try cuckolding until they become familiar and comfortable.

Zapper

An electronic prod often used by the HotSpouse when the cuckold has been misbehaving badly.

So there are a few simple terms that are often used in cuckolding society.

Andrew is right into the Fet Lifestyle and enjoys BDSM. He has written about these subjects in many arena’s and is an expert at Shibari. He shares his knowledge by working with Adultsmart a sex toy store. Enjoy the descriptive and educational articles he has written.