The Secrets of the Foot Fetish!

A strong relationship is built on a strong foundation divulging the Secrets of the Foot Fetish. Being open and honest with your partner helps build trust, improve communication, and deepen your bond. This holds true both inside and outside the bedroom. 

Secrets of the Foot Fetish

There’s nothing sexier than sharing your deepest desires, fantasies, and fetishes with your significant other. Not only is your confidence in asking for what you want and need a total turn-on but most people get off on pleasing their partners. Chances are if you share what you want, your SO will be more than happy to deliver.

If you’re like 1 in 7 adults, your secret fetish may involve feet. Foot fetishes are wildly popular for a variety of reasons. From sexy footwear and accessories to the look, smell, feel, and yes, taste, of toes, ankles, and the like, people are obsessed with feet! If this describes you, it’s probably time to incorporate your foot fetish into your sexual routine.

Keep reading for 5 tips on indulging your foot fetish behind closed doors in ways that satisfy both you and your lover!

1. Practice the Art of Massage

Who doesn’t like a nice relaxing massage? While some people don’t enjoy having their feet touched because it tickles or gives them goosebumps, if you have a foot fetish, you’re probably DYING to either give or receive a foot massage. Ask your partner which one they prefer. If they’re interested, take turns massaging one another’s feet.

Start by setting the scene. Create a comfortable area for you to massage one another. You can do it sitting up or lying down in bed or another private area. Invest in some quality massage oil or lubricant. There are countless varieties to choose from including heated or edible oil. (Edible oil is ideal if you want to lick your partner’s toes clean once you’re done.) Play soothing music, light some candles, and get to work! Studies show that a relaxing foot massage can actually lead to sexual arousal, better sex, and more intense orgasms. Foot fetish or not, this sounds like something you should try!

2. Play Footsies (with ALL Your Body Parts)

Have you ever heard of a “foot job”? As the name suggests, it’s basically a hand job using your feet. If you’re a guy with a foot fetish, ask your girl if she’s willing to get you off using nothing but her gorgeous, soft feet. Ladies, if you have a foot fetish, giving a “foot job” can be extremely erotic, satisfying, and empowering. There’s something naughty about having your man in the palm of your hands (or should we say between the soles of your feet?). 

If you’ve never stimulated someone’s genitals using your feet, it’s important to start slowly and gently. Your feet aren’t quite the same as your hands, which means it may take you a little longer to gain control over the pressure and technique you use. Nothing kills the mood faster than an accidental kick to your lover’s nether regions. Take your time and communicate with each other. Let your SO know what feels good and where and don’t forget to explore other body parts as well. 

3. Put on a Fashion Show

Do you love the look and feel of feet in high heels, sneakers, thigh-high boots, sandals, or even ballet slippers? Why not put on a footwear fashion show in the bedroom? Add accessories, costumes, and lingerie. If your partner is the one with the foot fetish, they’ll love seeing your gorgeous tootsies all dressed up. Coordinate your footwear with your outfit or use these accessories as naughty inspiration for some role-playing activities. Get creative and leave your shoes on during sex, make your lover take them off with their teeth, or put on a sexy strip tease. Play around with other accessories as well like fishnet stockings and socks, toe rings, ankle bracelets, and fake tattoos.

4. Check Out Feet Pics Online

For someone with a foot fetish, looking at and buying feet pics online is the equivalent of viewing pornography. In recent years, an increasing number of websites have popped up that are dedicated specifically to buying and selling feet pics. Websites like FunwithFeet let you browse by category so there’s no shortage of content to choose from. 

Head over to one of these platforms and start looking! Ask your partner to join you or send them links to particularly sexy feet pics that turn you on. Showing your SO exactly what you like helps them better understand your foot fetish and gives them the knowledge they need to meet your naughty needs. You can also partake in your own photo shoot. Take sexy pictures of your own feet in different poses and positions or use props and accessories. Send them off to your lover as part of your sexting game. Be sure to add plenty of details about how the pictures make you feel and what you want to do with them later. You can also ask your partner to return the favor and snap a few pics of their own. 

5. Experiment with Foot Bondage 

Now let’s talk about the kinky side of foot fetishism – foot bondage. BDSM is one of the most popular and widely recognized fetishes. It includes everything from a dominant and submissive relationship to mild spanking, handcuffs, blindfolds, and more. The activities you choose to engage in are all based on your comfort level and personal preferences. 

Foot bondage falls under this category and involves wrapping a person’s feet using different restraints like ropes, tape, or cuffs. Foot bondage is actually an art form that requires practice and technique. There are various ways to bind a person’s foot for both physical and aesthetic pleasure. You can start off with something basic like cuffing your partner to the bed by their ankles while teasing and pleasing their feet and gradually progressing to more intricate knots and methods of foot binding. Just make sure your lover is comfortable with this practice. 

Taking the First Step to Indulge Your Foot Fetish

If you have a secret foot fetish, you’re not alone. It’s time to let the world (or at least your significant other) know about your naughty needs and interests. Once you divulge your foot fetish, try these beginner techniques for incorporating foot play into your sex life. From erotic massages and roleplaying to more intense BDSM play and bondage practices, you can explore every level of your foot fetish from the comfort of your bedroom. 

The Body and Food as Art – Nyotaimori

Growing up I had a very limited view of the world and had never even heard the word Nyotaimori. Very limited indeed. Books were my first window into the world of kink and what a rabbit hole into Wonderland that was. I remember after a life changing event I showed up at my first Kink Art exhibition and came across Forniphilia for the first time in real life. And it was beautiful. As both an expression of art as well as an expression of submission.

FORNIPHILIA

Forniphilia is the concept of human furniture. Using the human body as a piece of furniture. It can be used as an act of degradation, as an act of servitude, or as it was being utilised here- as a form and part of an art installation. The photo portrayed a gorgeous figure bent over on all fours, dressed in leather wear, a glass sheet laid across their back and a dinner setting complete with wine resting atop the clear and steady surface. I found it entrancing.

A little while later, while with a play partner, he was asking me about a potential outing. I was relatively new to things like the kink scene, not having known that they had existed which he found fascinating about me, but refreshing given my take on everything. He had a friend, and a group of friends who were going to a Body Sushi Party.

There would be six or so of us and the main event, who would be our table. She would lie down and her body would be decorated with sushi for us to eat off.

Nyaotaimori

While talking to her later I was once again enthralled with the beautiful world of art that it actually was. Nyotaimori loosely translated in Japanese for “to serve on a woman’s body” while Nantaimori is “to serve on a man’s body”

It originated during the Samurai Edo era; is one theory, as a post battle celebration Geisha would be adorned with sushi for the samurai. Another possibility is that Onsen’s used them as a way to promote business, an idea that members of the Yakuza brought with them. Whether the Yakuza learnt these ideas from post battles could also be true. Either way, they were still born as a celebration of the body and of art and food. For Geisha’s as I am sure we are aware, were not paid for their body, but their art, their culture and their company.

Even food when prepared is part of the art, added to the body on leaves to keep it fresh and hygienic. The woman is adorned before the guests arrive in flowers, leaves or shells in part for modesty but also to add to the aesthetic of the art.

And remember what I said about Geisha? This was not a seedy affair, there was etiquette involved, there still are. The Nyotaimori and Nantaimori models remain absolutely still during the whole event, some will choose to have their eyes closed, others may keep their eyes open, but they do not look, speak or interact with the dinner party.

Most events, if they have a more traditional vibe, will allow the use only of chopsticks to touch the food, this is out of respect for the food, for the hygiene of other’s food, for the chef and for the models/art. Some events will allow the use of fingers to pick at the sushi pieces.

Common practices for models prior to the events need to have a cold shower that lowers the body temperature so that their bodies will not overheat the sushi. Sushi is replenished frequently so food is fresh and is never sitting on the body for long periods of time. Models cannot wear any perfumes or bathes with scented soaps. Most shave prior to events. Once at events they adorn a skin coloured thong, or covering for the pubic region before lying down on the table set out for the event. Organisers will then cover them with flowers, leaves, pasties, or any decorations that the event requires.

Nantaimori Parties

Of course there has been some controversy surrounding the recent rise of popularity surrounding Nyotaimori and Nantaimori parties. People labelling them as derogatory, sexist – objectifying women (and men).

Growing popularity of these events and parties have risen in the states not just for bucks and bachelorette parties but also for corporate events. Here in Australia, a few establishments offer them for buck’s events with a strip show included and usually entry into the rooms after the meal.

All opinions are of course welcome, however, I was first attracted to Nyotaimori and Nantaimori as an art form and expression. What isn’t beautiful about the human body on display, and to couple that with food and flowers? If anything I would suggest that the expression of Nyotaimori and Nantaimori is very respectful and not very seedy at all. I don’t deny that you could quite easily make any Nyotaimori party into a kinky sex act or sex, involving food (or sushi in this case). But for me Nyotaimori will definitely be the art form of presenting and serving food on the body, to be respected, to be idealised like you would a beautiful sculpture or painting.

Would you try Nyotaimori or Nantaimori? Would you be the model or the diner? 

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Sushi Fiend

It’s All About The BDSM Collars

bdsm collar

With the rise in popularity in BDSM and wearable kink gear let’s talk about collars.

 

Collars are used for a variety of reasons in BDSM and play and it’s important to know the different meanings surrounding them. It is not unusual to pass a coworker who is wearing a subtle and discreet collar everyday and you might never know.

 

Collars aren’t exclusively used as a form of restraint, punishment or degradation.

 

Collars of consideration:

 

Often used for new relationships, a form of ownership, think of it like a stepping stone to a permanent collar between a dom/sub, master/slave etc. The training collar is as much for both parties to decide if this is the dynamic that they would each like to pursue.

 

Training Collar:

 

These collars are worn when in a dynamic when a sub or slave is being trained in the dynamic, whilst still a form and a sign of ownership and is up to the Dom/Master when the training is complete.

 

Protection Collar

 

A collar in any variant is a form of protection. A collared person is under protection of someone and etiquette should be followed accordingly. This affords the wearer the ability to be left alone by single dominants unless they have the permission of the collar’s owner to approach. This is a responsibility of the dominant or whoever is in charge of the collar is significant and should also not be taken lightly. We will go into this further down.

 

Play Collars

 

There are two ways that a play collar can be used.In terms of dynamic, this is the most relaxed form of dynamic collars, but still not simply a collar for being restrained. Play collars are collars where dynamics are enforced and utilised during kinky scenes as soon as the collar is placed around the submissive’s neck.They are helpful to prepare the mindset for the scene that is about to come. When the collar is on, the wearer is the submissive, they are in the space of a submissive and respond to the person who placed it on them as such and respect them accordingly. At the end of the play session, which doesn’t necessarily need to be sexual, and the collar comes off, this is the sign that the dynamic has finished and the rules that applied for while the collar was on, are now complete. This form of training, or boundaries can be good for people who need that added guidance, comfort, or security. Lt me circle back for a second in case anyone was confused when I said play didn’t need to be sexual. Play with a collar could be anything from sex, to impact, or or service such as waiting on a person, bringing them food or acts of service. But even, play could be going out on a date and following certain protocols and rules. The limits are endless. It is whatever you and your play partner design, but they are your rules.

 

Other play collars are actual “play” collars. The type that are used during play for playful reasons, for restraint, for tying up and leading around, for degradation and submission or pet play. These can cross over into any of the other types of collar wearing and sometimes also be a stand alone. You can like being choked or led around on a collar without being a submissive.

 

24/7 collars

 

This brings me to our permanent collars. Our 24/7 collars that are worn all of the time. These are special collars indeed and can carry many different meanings to individual dynamics. For some, a permanent collar is the equivalent of an engagement ring or a wedding ring. For some, it is ownership. What it boils down to, is that it is a promise between two people that they take each other to be trusting of each other as a Dominant and a submissive and to respect each other as thus and to follow the rules of their relationship. Again, whatever that entails depending on their unique relationship.

Some dynamics might have contracts written up. Some may have collaring ceremonies and invite friends and family to witness placing the collar around the submissive’s neck. A permanent collar cannot be placed without both parties deciding and agreeing to it.

Because these collars are permanent, and never come off there are many different alternatives that people can pick these days. Nowadays many people choose to wear collars that appear closer to necklaces so that they are able to wear them to the office or out in public daily without being noticed. Some opt for the eternity collars that are fastened with an allen key. Others can get subtle BDSM collars custom fit to enjoy the best of both worlds.

 

Collar etiquette.

 

A few things to know about someone’s collar.

It is very disrespectful to touch a person’s collar without first gaining permission, and even then only if necessary.

If a person is collared it is always wise to speak to their “Dominant first” as a show of respect.

A person wearing a collar should not remove their collar without asking their “Dominant” first.

Wearing collars can also be very fashionable, so we understand that it may be hard to know if someone is wearing one as a fashion choice or a protocol, if in doubt, ask them, or someone at the event. If the person who is wearing it doesn’t answer, that’s ok, they might not be allowed to answer. Please do not think they are being rude and press them. Move on. If their Dominant approaches, apologise and explain. But we always suggest, asking the organiser of the event first when in doubt. They will be able to vet the situation better for you.

 

Collars are a beautiful and fun way to share connections and feelings within the BDSM scene. Collared individuals feel quite proud to be owned/collared by their dominants and see it as praise and an honour to be asked about their collars.

 

At Your Service,

 

Tiffany

OhZone  Adult Shop Sales Assistant, Educator and Proudly Collared.

Fetishes vs Fantasies.

fetishes and fantasies

Words are occasionally my favorite tool to use both in the bedroom and out. But today we aren’t talking about dirty talk, though we could. No today dear readers, we are talking semantics and comparing two of my favourite words and words that are often confused, confuddled and mixed up in many scenes, scenarios and interchanges between people when discussing kinks.

 

Fetish vs Fantasy.

 

Fetishes

 

A fetish can best be described as a strong desire or need for something be it an object or a person, an act or kink. There are those who can argue that a fetish could be categorized as an uncontrollable desire, the very opposite a phobia, in which a person has an uncontrollable fear, sometimes even irrational. Fetishes can sometimes be categorised as lust worthy, uncontrollable desires, perhaps even irrational to the rational part of a person’s mentality. But it still gives them sexual or pleasureable gratification.

 

Fetishes can be primal in nature and in some aspects some people have felt much shame in them. Finding safe and welcoming communities where they can find acceptance as well as safe spaces to safely explore, discuss and explore these fetishes is becoming more mainstream and is a joy to see as our society opens up and #breaksthestigma. Fetishes can be many and varied. To date there are over 239 fetishes but here are 12 of some of the most common sexual ones you may have come across

 

  1. Role-Playing – or dress ups. Just because we’re adults doesn’t mean we can’t play make believe sometimes. It can be fun to slip into a different person from time to time, try on a fun costume and pretend to be a different character.

 

  1. Anal sex – this one is a little bit of a grey area, some people enjoy anal sex as a sexul act while others visualise it as a fetish. As long as everyone is consensually enjoying it, who are we to label labels?

 

  1. Lingerie – being aroused by a certain type of lingerie is definitely a fetish and more common than people give it credit. Stockings. Lace. satin. Latex. These pieces of adorning lingerie can be wholeheartedly turn ons for people.

 

  1. Impact Play- spanking, flogging, paddling and other forms of consensual striking.

 

  1. Foot Fetish – the worship of feet through acts such as kissing, massage, smelling, licking, touching or just watching.

 

  1. Bondage – Being tied up or restrained. Bondage can range from very mild to very intense and is usually found in BDSM but has also been known to be one of the first things to try when spicing up things in the bedroom. Restaurants can be made from cuffs, rope, a tie, cable ties,…..many things.

 

  1. Group sex – threesomes and foursomes are the most common but group sex also extends to orgies involving multiple people and gang-bangs including one person of one gender and mutliples of the other gender.

 

  1. Sensory play- When we think sensory play we often immediately think of hot and cold, ice and fire, or in this case wax play. Sensation play also includes blindfolds, feathers and for the more experienced, electrostim play.

 

  1. Dirty Talk – I say Dirty talk but well, it’s not really more things like humiliation and degradation, being called names, talking down and dirty.

 

  1. Orgasm control – or denial. This is edging into BDSM and is a subsection of submission and dominance, bringing the submissive to the brink of orgasm and forced to stop. And doing so repeatedly. or , withholding sex or orgasms over a period of time as a form of teasing.

 

  1. Voyuerism and exhibitionism- watching people having sex, or having sex out in public ith the risk of being caught having sex is very common. WHo among us has not had sex in a car or sneakily in the cinema?

 

  1. Pornography – Watching, looking at pornographic material, before or during sexual intercourse or play

 

So

 

Fantasies.

 

I will admit. Fantasies and Fetishes are not all that different. But the difference is a big one. Fantasies are our respective, imagined scenarios that get us all hot and heavy. They are the screenplay in our minds that we make up, that may involve various fetishes, or wants or desires, but they do not necessarily control us.

 

AND

 

This is the big one

 

We may not want to play them out in real life.

 

Fetishes drive us. We want them. Some people need them.

 

Fantasies are exactly that. They are imaginary.

 

Staging a scene in real life to mirror your fantasy, while nice, will be hard, especially if it is a fantasy you have lived and re-lived in your imagination for years. You have built it up with such exquisite and erotic detail that that is a hard act to nail in real life to the exactness of the fantasy. The fetishes, sure thing, those can be met. But the fantasy is a construct of the amalgamation of the fetishes and how you have controlled them in your imaginatorium.

 

Another example is a real life example of a couple who divulged their fantasies that they masturbated to, to one another, and the husband thought it would be nice to organise his wife’s fantasy, not realising, that while she fantasised about it, when faced with it she had zero interest in fulfilling it with him.

 

I think an important takeaway is that fantasies are amazing, and that everyone should have them, talk about them if you’re open enough and confident to do so, but make it clear when you do, if your fantasy is something you want to try, or something personal you enjoy having a good solo session to when you’re alone.

 

At Your Service

Tiffany

Caringbah Oh Zone Sales Assistant, Educator and Linguist

Toe Sucking For Beginners

sucking toes

Would you like to have more fun with your partner? In that case, you should consider introducing toe sucking into your relationship. Yes, I know, it may sound “ick”. But, there is more to toe sucking than meets the eye. In fact, sucking your partner’s toes is often a deeply sensual experience when done in the right way.

Basic Facts About Toe Sucking

If you have never sucked your partner’s toes before, you should carry on reading. When it comes to toe sucking, there are one or two things you want to know before you get started.

Is Toe Sucking A Fetish?

Of course, there are those who would argue that two sucking is a fetish. For some sucking toes is a fetish. They get turned on by having their toes sucked or played with by someone else. There is a good reason why having your toes sucked or played with is such a turn on.

Our toes are packed with the most fantastic network of nerves. Did you know that our toes are as sensitive as our fingertips? When stimulated in the right way, the nerves in our toes send signals to the brain. As a result, feel-good neurotransmitters called endomorphins are activated. An endomorphin is a natural opioid that gives you a high.

This is probably how the pleasure of toe sucking was discovered in the first place.

Clean Feet And Toes

You should always inspect your partner’s toes before you suck them. If he or she has any warts or ulcers , you certainly should not suck their toes. Any virus or bacteria present is easily transferred into your mouth. In a worst case scenario, they can cause oral and throat infections.

If you don’t find any warts or ulcers on the toes, it is a good idea to clean the toes. Make it into a pleasurable experience by using a pleasant smelling wipe or scented cotton cloth. It can easily be made part of the experience.

Set Yourself Up For Some Good Toe Sucking

Before you start, make sure your partner is comfortable. Laying on a bed works for some while others prefer sitting in a chair. The foot quickly becomes heavy when you have to hold it. Consider resting it on a pillow or a foot rest.

Start by inspecting the toes and then clean the area. Perhaps you can turn the entire thing into a bit of a game. Pretend your a toe specialist and you need to treat the toes to make them feel better.

A Truly Sensual Toe Sucking Experience

To make the experience even more enjoyable, you should consider adding other fun things to your toe sucking experience. For instance, you could kiss the toes and lick them. However, the first thing you should do is to massage the toes.

Massaging the toes will stimulate blood flow and start to stimulate delicate nerve endings. That will cause the nervous system to trigger the release of endomorphins. As you carry on playing with the entire toe area, the nervous system will carry on stimulating the brain.

Kissing, massaging and licking are all fun ideas to add to your toe sucking session with your partner. Remember that the toes are delicate. It is best not to get too heavy handed with the toes.

Should You Bite The Toes?

The jury is out on this one. A little bit of a nibble may not hurt, but biting the toes is not such a good idea. It can break the skin and cause problems with your partner’s toes.

Believe it or not, toes bruise easily. This is not going to look nice.

Also, the skin around the nail can break. Should this happen, infections can enter the bloodstream. That could put a stop to your toe sucking pleasure for a while. Broken skin can lead to infections such as Athlete’s foot. That is the last thing you want when you plan to carry on enjoying your toe sucking sessions.

Don’t forget to ask your partner to return the favor. Once you have tried toe sucking, you will find that it is an activity that you can both enjoy. Add a little bit of role play, and you will soon be having a great time playing and sucking each other’s toes.

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