This Happened the First Time I Had Strap-on Sex with My Girlfriend

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My girlfriend, Sarah, and I were sitting in bed one night when she started to talk about her friend, Cheryl. We both work long hours at the office, and even though we work in the same building, most of our conversations happen in bed. You know, we ask each other about our days, how horrible our bosses were, everyday couple talk. But I never thought we’d talk about strapon dating.

 

“Cheryl had strap-on sex last weekend with some guy she met online!” she said with bewilderment.

“Oh yeah?” I replied, my eyes glued to Antman playing on the tv. Man, if I could shrink like that, the first place I’m going is Area 51.

Sarah’s body turned towards mine, demanding my attention. “Yeah, she said it was a little weird at first because she never had to thrust like that before, but it’s apparently a really fun experience.”

I knew where she was going with this. Sure, Cheryl had a good time, but my butt is a no-go zone. What straight guy would allow their ass to get penetrated by a giant dildo?

 

“Are you sure the guy was straight?” I asked.

“Of course, he was straight. Strap-on sex doesn’t mean you’re gay,” she replied offensively.

I took a deep breath, “is this something you want to try?” I paused in silence, waiting for her answer.

“Well,” she said nervously, “I am really curious about it. I thought we could try something new – it sounds like a lot of fun.”

“Why this? Out of all the things we could try, why this?”

“Why? Why not. We’ve never done it before, I would love to try role reversal, and the male G-spot is in the anus.”

Really? I didn’t want to look curious, so I told her I’d think about it. That night while she was asleep, I did a little research. What sparked my curiosity is the male G-spot; I didn’t know it was in the anus. Does this mean it’s going to feel good? Are my orgasms going to be even better?

 

Sarah had the day off the next morning, so I wrote her a note and left it on my pillow, “To do list: go get a strap-on.” A couple of hours later, she sent me a photo of the kit, with the message, “can’t wait to see you!” To be honest, I was really excited. The minute I got off work, I basically ran home.

 

When I got home, Sarah was on the bed, waiting for me. I climbed on top of her, kissing her passionately. She sucked her finger and then slide it into my ass, massaging it slowly. I could feel my body loosen up; I was excited to give this a try. After a couple of minutes, I got off the bed, grabbed the kit, and handed it to her.

 

Sarah came out of the bathroom with the strap harnessed around her waist. It wasn’t so scary as I imagined. “Listen, I’ve been doing a lot of research about it today, so I think I have a pretty good understanding of it. The most important thing is you tell me if it’s uncomfortable or painful. Don’t try to “take it like a man,” got it? Use the safeword red if you want to stop.” I nodded in agreement, “got it.”

 

She lathered the dildo up with lube and laid on her back. “Wait,” I said, “aren’t we doing it in doggy style?”

“No,” she shook her head, “that’s for more advanced people. I read that doing it cowgirl is the best for beginners.” I climbed on top of her and straddled her with my legs, we both giggled. “I’ve never seen you from this angle before,” she said.

 

I took a deep breath and slowly slid the dildo inside of me. Was there pain? No, but it definitely didn’t feel comfortable at first. Sure, she did everything right and used lots of lube, but nothing can explain the initial feeling of something going up your ass. I didn’t move for the first couple of seconds; I was adjusting to the new feeling. Then slowly, I slid up and down the dildo; not too deep, just enough to ease into it. Sarah had her hands on my thighs, lightly pressing into me.

 

I picked up momentum; a tingling feeling ran through my body. So, I started to go deeper and faster, the sensations streaming up my body; I couldn’t stop, I was jumping like a yo-yo. I knew I was about to orgasm, and that’s something I didn’t want to miss out on. “I want you to come for me,” I heard Sarah say, and that was all I needed to hear. I expected a usual orgasm, but this one was different. It exploded throughout my whole body, paralyzing me for a moment. I had reached pure bliss, something that’s never happened to me before.

 

Sarah looked at me, and I looked at her in silence. I didn’t know what to say; I couldn’t think of words at that moment; I was emotional. “So, how was it?” she asked. I removed the dildo from me and laid next to her on the bed, “Amazing.”

 

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BDSM And Augmented Reality – What You Can Expect

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AR porn has been growing recently and there is now a choice of different apps out there to try. Soon enough, we’ll see some hot niche-focused AR porn such as BDSM go into development.

If you’ve tried virtual reality BDSM, you’ll probably agree that it’s a great way to experience what it’s like to be the guy getting punished by the mistress. You can see what its like having a domme have you under her control while you lay there helplessly.

 

VR BDSM is a big leap up from watching the action unfold with some other guy on a screen. Just like with other VR porn, you do become the guy in the scene. You can enjoy your fetishes from the first-person view and become the slave in the video.

With AR porn, you can also experience the action from your point of view. This opens a whole new load of opportunities for experiencing BDSM. Imagine having a virtual mistress in your bedroom. She can carry out her punishments on you while you lie helplessly on your bed. Augmented reality means you can know what its like having the mistress of your choice in your home every single night but without the high cost of a real mistress.

We spoke with Tim Green over at http://arporntube.com/ about the subject. Tim said:

“Of course you want to get the physical interaction that comes with real-life physical BDSM, but maybe that’s not your thing anyway and you just prefer the fantasy of it rather than the physical pain. That’s what makes augmented reality so perfect for it. You can see, hear and experience BDSM in your home with some of the hottest dommes in the world without paying $200 an hour.”

If you’re not yet familiar with augmented reality porn, it is a technology that allows users to interact with hot virtual holograms using a compatible AR device. Headsets like Microsoft’s Hololens, Holokit, and soon to be released Nreal Light allows users to experience erotic experiences with life-sized virtual models in your own home. It does this by projecting the model into the user’s physical environment which can only be seen through the lenses of the AR device. With the help of platforms like ARKit and ARcore which enable for surface recognition and other technologies, the model can be positioned in front of you and put on a performance that appears almost as realistic as though a real girl was stood right there giving you the show of your life. The tech is very sophisticated and still in its development stages but adult companies are becoming ever-more aware of its potential and starting to bring AR porn to the masses.

I love the idea of augmented reality BDSM. The work of a mistress has always been an intriguing porn niche for me. It’s not like other forms of porn where the main goal is to have sex or to put on a solo masturbation show. BDSM offers so much more than that. It’s a combination of sex, power, dominance, and pain, but also care, appreciation and building a relationship on love and trust. There are many layers to BDSM which can be broken down in to three categories. bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, and sadism/masochism.

For first-person point of view, dominance/submission will dominate (excuse the pun), simply because you can lay back while a malevolent mistress surrounds you and dominates your very being. But one of the negatives of AR BDSM, when compared to real-life BDSM, is that you can’t be tied up or have someone inflict pain on you. Therefore, bondage/discipline and sadism/masochism will be less prominent for first-person viewing experiences. But that doesn’t mean you won’t be able to have a life-sized session taking place right in the middle of your living room while you sit back and enjoy the pleasure of somebody else getting punished. You will be able to watch a weak slave being whipped within an inch of his life on your sofa, or watch somebody get tied up,  restrained, gagged and fucked. And best of all, AR allows you to project any scene you want into your physical environment. It’s not like real-life when you’re kinda stuck with whoever’s willing to put on a show for you at the time, AR allows you to browse through any scene you want and have it playing in your living room within seconds. You can have multiple sadistic shows lined up ready to please you any time and any day!

There are clear advantages to BDSM in augmented reality when compared to real-life BDSM, and it definitely stands well above a traditional video. But what about compared to virtual reality BDSM? These two technologies both offer different things that can be seen as a benefit or a disadvantage. Obviously, in augmented reality your body is your own, meaning you are literally the dude in the scene being punished by the goddess in latex. But VR has the benefits of being inside a dungeon and being surrounded with the fetish theme which can enlight more of a fantasy feel to the scene.

It’s early days for augmented reality and it’ll be a little while before BDSM in AR becomes a thing. But when it does, it’ll be one hell of an experience.

8 Things to Discuss with Your Partner before Engaging in Strap-on Sex

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This probably isn’t your first time having sex with your partner. But it is your first time talking about strap-on sex. It’s great that you’re interested in exploring different sexual activities, but it’s also important to talk to your partner beforehand. Not everyone likes surprises, and when it comes to sex, those surprises won’t necessarily end well. Talking to your partner before trying out a new activity in the bedroom will give them time to process and decide if it’s something they’d like to do. Sitting down for a strapon chat is crucial, but what are you going to talk about? Here are eight topics to discuss with your partner before having strap-on sex.

 

Have they tried it before?

Unless you ask, you don’t know. Maybe your partner has already tried strap-on sex before. If so, ask them how they felt about it and their experience. Their past experience has a lot to do with how they feel about strap-on sex in general. If they had a negative experience, then they may not be up to try it again. Knowing their history with strap-on sex will give you a better idea of how to approach the subject.

 

Do they want to try strap-on sex?

Before you even think about anything else, you need to get their consent. Is your partner even interested in strap-on sex? Though you may want to give it a try, it doesn’t mean they share the same interests. Before ordering your strap-on kit, sit down with your partner, and see how they feel about this. Enthusiastic consent is essential. If they’re not excited to try it, then don’t push the subject further.

 

Their thoughts about it

You need to know how they honestly feel about trying it out. Your partner deserves a chance to express their feelings. Yes, you brought it up, which is courageous, but if this is an equal relationship, then they need to be able to speak their mind. Who knows how they feel; perhaps they’re curious to give it a try, but they’re scared. Or, they could be entirely on board with the idea.

 

What are their boundaries?

Remember, sex is different for everyone. Though you may be more open about strap-on sex, your partner may not share the same feelings. If they’ve agreed to give strap-on sex a try, then the next step is discussing the boundaries. Since they’ve never tried strap-on sex before, their boundaries may not be solidified. But, there may be some acts which are off-limits for them. Regardless, a safeword should be picked beforehand; giving both people an out if one of you reaches a discomfort.

 

Why you want to try it

There are many reasons why people want to try strap-on sex. Some are curious, others are interested in a role reversal, and others want to try a sexual taboo. It doesn’t matter why you want to explore strap-on sex, but you should explain your reason to your partner. It’s very easy for people to assume the reason their partner wants to try strap-on sex has something to do with their lack of sexual performance. Make sure your partner knows exactly why you want to give strap-on sex a try.

 

Talk about the fears involved

Up until now, strap-on sex was seen as a taboo. This is because there are a lot of myths surrounding it. For example, men who enjoy strap-on sex are gay, strap-on sex is really painful, if a woman likes it she’s secretly a lesbian, and so on. So, your partner may be curious to try strap-on sex, but these myths may be preventing them from trying it out. By talking about these fears and discussing them with your partner, you’ll put these fears to rest.

 

The importance of communication

Even though you’re excited about trying strap-on sex, you’re probably a little nervous as well. And this is completely normal when trying something new. However, the difference between a positive and negative experience is communication. If your partner is interested in giving it a try, then you two need to agree on communicating during the experience. If you’re not expressing what’s feeling good or bad, it can ruin future experiences.

 

Respect their boundaries

If your partner isn’t into strap-on sex, you need to respect their decision. Sometimes people just need space to think it over, in that case, give them the space they need. Strap-on sex could be overwhelming for them as well, try to start off with small sex toys such as butt plugs or your finger to let them test it out.

 

Strap-on sex can be a great sexual experience, but only if your partner is interested. This is why it’s crucial you sit down with your partner and talk about it. No one said the conversation was going to be an easy one. But regardless of the answer, you’ll be able to learn more about your partner, and vice versa.

 

 

Your Ultimate Guide to Pegging

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Maybe you’ve always been curious about pegging, or perhaps you saw the Broad City pegging episode, and it sparked your interest. It doesn’t matter what made you curious about it, you’re here and ready to give it a try. If your partner has given you the green light to try it, you’ve completed the first and most crucial step. But there’s more to pegging than just having a pegging chat with your partner. Now it’s time to prepare yourself and your partner. What do you need to do? Good question. We’re going to tell you everything you need to know about pegging in this guide.

 

Talk to your partner about their boundaries

You two may have agreed to give pegging a try, but have you talked in more depth about it? Just because your partner gives you the green light, doesn’t mean you can whip out your harness and have a good time. There’s actually a lot of prep work that goes into this. Anal penetration requires communication. Talk about their boundaries and limitations, and go through the act itself, giving them an idea of how it works. If you can’t talk about this, then you’re not ready to try pegging.

 

Create a safeword

Whenever you’re trying something new with your partner, regardless of what it is, you need to have a safeword. A safeword gives you and your partner the ability to stop whatever it is you’re doing. Whether they’re feeling discomfort or pain, saying the safeword will stop everything at once. Many people use colors as safewords. For example, red means “stop now,” and yellow means, “I like this, but go easy.” By having an agreed safeword, your partner will feel more comfortable knowing they can stop the act at any time.

 

Learn about the male anatomy

Before you try pegging, you need to research and get to know the male anatomy. Everyone should have basic knowledge of their partner’s body. For your partner, you should know where the prostate gland, anus, and G-spot is. If you don’t know where these body parts are, pegging won’t be a comfortable experience for them. Plus, do some research about anal sex as well. You want to know what you’re doing.

 

Get the right equipment

You can’t peg unless you have the right equipment. No, you can’t use a cucumber from your fridge. Do your research and choose a beginner pegging kit which will include a dildo and harness; everything you need for your pegging experience. Choose a dildo that is of average size; you don’t want to scare your partner on their first pegging experience.

 

Bulk buy lube

When it comes to pegging, you need to use a lot of lube. The anus doesn’t self-lubricate which means it’s very dry. So, lather your strap-onup with some lube. If you’re not sure if it’s enough, add more. If you’re noticing the dildo lacks lube when you’re already inside of them, gently take it out and add more. If there’s not enough lube, it’ll be painful for them and can hinder the experience.

 

Don’t rush

You’re probably excited to try pegging out, but this isn’t something you can rush into. You need to work your way up to pegging. Before trying pegging out, it’s important for your partner to experience using a butt plug or finger in their anus. If they go straight into pegging without any previous experience, it won’t be comfortable for them. Start slow and let them get used to the feeling of a finger or small toy in their anus. Once they’re ready to move on, use a strap-on.

 

Let them set the pace

When it comes to trying out pegging for the first time, you need to let them control the pace. Yes, pegging is about changing power dynamics, but this is something new for them to get used to. They should control the pace, strokes, and depth. To understand what they like, let them move on the dildo and show you what they like. Always remind them to communicate how they’re feeling and whether or not they want it faster, slower, etc.

 

Experiment with different positions

If you’ve seen pegging porn, you’ll notice most of the receivers are in the doggy position. Though it’s one position you can try, it’s not the best for beginners. Cowboy position is great for the receiver when it comes to controlling the depth and speed. Another good position for beginners is having the receiving partner lay on their stomach, with the dominant partner entering from behind. After some practice in these positions, you can try doggy style.

 

Communication is key

When it comes to trying new sex acts, the key to success is communication. From beginning to end, you and your partner need to communicate with one another. Maybe he’s feeling pain or discomfort, but unless he expresses this to you, you don’t know. Before trying it out, make sure that you two can clearly and effectively communicate. If they’re not comfortable communicating with you, then that’s something you need to work on before pegging.

 

Pegging can be a great experience if you do it properly. Make sure you take your time when researching for pegging equipment, and focus on supporting and communicating with your partner. This is as new for them as it is for you.

 

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6 Interesting Facts about Pegging

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These days, we see a lot of pegging personals and pegging dating sites, which means only one thing – heterosexual men are enjoying anal sex with their girlfriends. Pegging allows them to experience the role of a woman during anal sex and they find this very exciting. Also, this type of sex provides women with a chance to see what it’s like to be a man. In fact, pegging or strap-on sex is one of the most popular sex trends these days and heterosexual men are the ones who are enjoying it the most. With that in mind, we are going to talk about 6 interesting facts about pegging.

 

What Is Pegging?

 

The name “pegging” might sound confusing, especially to men who are used to traditional intercourse, but the definition of pegging is actually very simple. Pegging is a type of sex during which a woman penetrates a man’s anus with a strap-on dildo. Lesbian couples also enjoy pegging, but believe it or not, it’s more popular among heterosexual couples.

 

Why Men Love It So Much?

 

You probably know that women have something that is called a G-Spot, right? It is a spot inside their vagina that, when stimulated, makes them cum. Well, men have this too. It’s an erogenous zone called the “p-spot” and it is located inside the rectum. By touching the p-spot, a person stimulates the prostate gland, which allows them to have more intense orgasms. Stimulating the prostate gland with a strap-on dildo is easy and that is why men love pegging so much.

 

Pegging Helps Lovers To Experience Each Other’s Roles In Bed

 

Most men and women don’t know what it’s like for the other person during sex. Pegging allows them to change the roles and experience sex from their lover’s perspective. This is one of the main reasons why strap-on sex is so popular these days. When she straps on a dildo, a woman gets to experience the excitement of thrusting and dominating her boyfriend. On the other hand, a man gets to see what it’s like to be penetrated. This type of sex helps lovers understand each other better during sex and that is why men and women enjoy pegging.

 

It Makes Men Better At Anal Sex

 

Most men are trying their best to make anal sex pleasurable for women, but to be honest, this is a very difficult task. It requires a lot of lube, a perfect technique, and patience. Most women would agree that horny men don’t bother with these three things during anal sex. However, when a guy tries pegging, he gets to see what anal sex is like for a woman, which things feel good and which don’t.

 

Best Positions For Pegging

 

Considering that most straight men are not used to being penetrated, finding the most comfortable position is very important. These days, doggy style is the most popular position for pegging, but that doesn’t mean it’s the best for strap-on sex. Therefore, here are the three best positions for pegging.

 

Doggy Style

 

We know we said that doggy style is not the best position for pegging, but it’s one of the best. It deserves a spot on our list because it is perfect for beginners. This position allows a man to control how deep the dildo goes. Also, a woman can easily play with the man’s anus.

 

Face-To-Face Missionary

 

This is undoubtedly the most intimate position. In a face-to-face missionary, man and woman can explore each other’s bodies during sex. Also, this position allows a woman to see her lover’s face during intercourse meaning she can see when he is enjoying himself and when he is in pain. One of the best things about this position is the fact that a man’s penis is easily accessible. It is literally up for grabs.

 

Cowboy

 

The cowboy position is on this list for the same reason as doggy style. It allows a man to control penetration during sex. The man does all the work here, while a woman can simply enjoy the show and play with his penis.

 

Pegging Doesn’t Make You Are Gay Or Bisexual

 

In today’s society, pegging is still a bit of a taboo. Most heterosexual men think that putting things in your butt makes you gay simply because that is what gay men do. However, this is not true. You don’t have to question your masculinity just because you like to play with your own anus. As we said, a man’s anus is full of nerve endings and stimulating the prostate can help a man experience intense orgasms. If a man wants to enjoy some anal play, that doesn’t make him gay or bisexual. It just means that he knows how to pleasure himself.

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