Ciao From Stephanie Curtis – Adultsmart Sexologist!

I have loved my time working at the Oh Zone stores and helping so many people with their intimate lives.  One of the things I most enjoyed was tapping the keyboards and  hoping to share some useful information with the adultsmart community in my articles and stories.  For now I am off to take on sexology as my full-time profession so the articles will no longer be as frequent and the time I enjoyed meeting everyone face to face in the stores has come to an end.  This here is my final article whilst working in an adult shop.

For all those that have visited me in store, ciao, it has been a pleasure.  For everyone on adultsmart I will still publish the odd article.  But for now, farewell my life, living and love provide you with the best they can!!!!

 

What working at an adult store has taught me:

 

I cannot believe it has been two whole years that I have worked in the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres! If you had asked me 10 years ago, it certainly wasn’t a job I could have imagined I would be doing yet I am so grateful I took a chance and did something so different. As I prepare to move onto my own work as a Certified Sexologist & Intimacy Coach, I thought I would offer some of the things I will be taking away from this job which will benefit me in so many ways throughout my life

 

Communicating about sex

Talking about anything related to sexuality is such a difficult thing for so many people. We live in such a sex-centric world yet as a culture are challenged by frank, honest discussions around sexuality. Coming into this job, I knew I was a sex positive person yet didn’t realise the challenges I would face opening up to strangers very quickly about such an intimate area of their lives. Working at Oh Zone has given me incredible experience in being able to talk about sex, pleasure and genitals in a very matter of fact way.

 

Making people comfortable talking about sex

Similar to the above, working at Oh Zone has given me great experience in getting others to open up about sex. I have learnt to take note of body language and other cues to say or do the thing that will make the customer feel at ease opening up to me. I have found that finding comfort within myself puts people at ease as well as outwardly naming the elephant in the room (i.e. the discomfort around talking about sex) which breaks the ice for most people.

 

Communicating boundaries

As with anywhere in life, you will always encounter people that try to cross boundaries. There are some people that make assumptions about me based on the fact that I work in an adult store so I have had to get really clear with what is and isn’t ok. I have been explicitly asked what my personal sexual preferences are and have had countless people overshare about their own sex life which to many people doesn’t sound so bad but you wouldn’t ask the woman working at Harvey Norman what she’s into so why should it be any different for me? I get that few people have a space where they can open up to about sex & in the right context an adult store is just that but I cannot stress CONTEXT enough. I am grateful that 99% of people that have crossed some kind of boundary are apologetic when I communicate that it is not appropriate so it really has been a good lesson in communicating clearly and in a way that doesn’t shame the person because they usually just don’t know.  

 

Knowledge of Sex Toys

For those around me, I am now the official go to person for sex toy knowledge! Prior to working here, I was only aware of the very basic products such as vibrators and cock rings, thinking that sex toys were all about having an orgasm. I now know that there exist so many products out there that can be used by all kinds of people from all walks of life. From penis pumps for post-operative prostate surgery recovery to Kegel trainers to prevent vaginal prolapse, products in an adult store are about so much more than pleasure (There’s plenty of that too, don’t worry!!).

 

Awareness of the extent of sexual shame (and penis shame)

I have met countless people coming into the Oh Zone store and if there’s only thing that is extremely noticeable is how much shame we as a culture carry when it comes to sex. This plays out in so many ways, from young guys laughing and making crude jokes to mask their discomfort to people who won’t even make eye contact with me when entering the store. I also hear way too many jokes about penis size and male sex toys which is a whole other story of shaming!!  I have been in a great position to question some of these reactions at times and unburden people of the shame of sex and visiting an adult store. 

 

Happy Oh Zone Customers

For many people, working in an adult store carries with it a myriad of ideas of what it is all about as well as judgements of the sex industry. I have felt really lucky to have an insight into this work as it really is much deeper and fulfilling than an average retail job. The satisfaction you receive from seeing the effects of people opening up to you about such an intimate area of their lives compares with nothing else for me.

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

Bursting My Blog Cherry!

Adult Lifestyle Centre

I bet that headline made it seem like this would a heartwarming tale of one boys transition to manhood. But you could not be more wrong. This is my first time writing a blog. That’s right I’m a blog virgin.

It’s not that I don’t have anything to say, I just never felt the overwhelming urge to…

But enough about me, let me tell you more about me. I’m 29 years old with 2 children, My four year old daughter Amelia and my two year old son Tristian. My whole world. I was with my ex for nearly 6 years but unfortunately it wasn’t meant to be.

There’s very little that’s interesting about me but if I had to provide some examples they would be the following…

I attended The McDonald College (a school focused on the performing arts) for the duration of my HSC. During which I gained a small proficiency in French, the language of love.  After leaving The McDonald College I pursued an acting career performing in commercials, music videos and a feature film.

It was when I was 19 that I realised I lacked emotional depth, something crucial for an actor to succeed. So I left the city and my dreams behind to grow a little in the hope it would make be a better actor and also a better person. Than was 10 years ago. I didn’t mean to put my dreams on hold for so long but life has a way of throwing even the best laid plans to complete hell.

Since then I’ve loved women (and a couple of men) felt happiness so powerful I thought my heart would burst from pure joy to pain so visceral I couldn’t find the will to live. Despite all the adversity life threw my way, it was never enough to break me, though a couple of close calls did occur.

People ask me a lot since I’ve started this job, Why an adult store?

The answer is simple, I’m a people pleaser. Yes some people do take advantage of that but it doesn’t change who I am. “Be the change you want to see in the world”

I like making people happy, and the opportunities we offer here definitely make people happy.

Now to the nitty gritty, the stuff you’ve been waiting to read, my history…

I was always a little socially awkward, never really fitting in. But then again, I wouldn’t want to fit in. Normalcy is boring as dirt and I like to be interesting. It wasn’t til I hit 17 that I had a life changing epiphany, Confidence is a lie we tell each other, so I made a decision to be confident and as long as no one found how badly I was lying, I’d be fine.

This new found confidence led me to my first girlfriend and you guessed it, the losing of my virginity. But that’s a story for another time…

Since then, I’ve developed what could be called a respectable number of sexual partners and experiences. Yes I’m a little bit of a f**kboy but the first step to recovery is admitting you have a problem, right?

Boy to fuck
Fuck Boy

Whilst I have no intention of cloistering myself until I find the right girl with which to settle down I’m opening up to the possibility that I do deserve more than mindless (albeit awesome) sex. A connection that is more than physical but spiritual as well. I hope when I do eventually meet this woman that my innate gift of self-sabotage doesn’t ruin it like it did my last serious relationship.

That took a depressing turn, didn’t it?

Moving on, as we all must. I’ve decided to open myself up more, to trust more and to be more. An old dog learning new tricks if you’ll allow a cliché.

My first step was quitting my shitty, oppressive job for something that actually makes me happy. Which is what led me here, sitting at Oh! Zone Penrith surrounded by things that make people happy writing these words for you.

Some words of advice from a 29 year old with delusions of wisdom. You deserve to be as happy as you can be and no one but you can stop that from happening. Every day you spend not being as happy and fulfilled as you can be is a day wasted that you will never get back. So do it.

Quit that job you hate.

Ask out that guy you like.

Call out people that are mistreating you.

Live!!!

 

Because when it’s all said and done we enter this world alone and crying, whether that’s how you leave it is entirely up to you.

Your friendly neighbourhood vibe salesman

P.S Stay tuned for my next blog “My First Time, For Real”

 

Matthew is a consultant at the Oh Zone Stores

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Take Me On A Wild Ride!

Scary Ride

Today I will be reviewing one of my favourite vibrating dildos that I absolutely love selling in the Oh Zone stores, the Wild Ride by Adam & Eve. I do not own one myself just yet but it definitely will be my next purchase. I must admit a year ago I wasn’t the biggest fan of Adam & Eve toys but this year it seems as if they have stepped up their game. Their products are much more powerful and in my opinion a lot better deigned than they used to be.

Adam & Eve is one of the largest and oldest adult toy seller in the world. Founded in 1971 and now it is 2018 and they not only have stores all over the globe but they also have their own range of adult products. After a bit of extra researching about the company, I came across this bit of information on their website and I think it is something that deserves recognition before talking about this great toy because what the company gives back is important and amazing.

“Giving back to the community is an important part of Adam & Eve’s culture. Employees hold fundraisers throughout the year to support causes from breast cancer research to local animal shelters. And Adam & Eve matches every dollar they raise, while also making significant stand-alone contributions to other charities. One of the largest beneficiaries is DKT International. DKT provides condoms and birth control to millions of men and women in Africa, Asia and Latin America to eliminate the spread of STDs and promote family planning.”

Wild Ride Sex Toy

Wild Ride 

The Adam & Eve Wild Ride is one of the most powerful vibrating dildos I’ve seen in our stores. Usually the vibrating dildos take a AA battery and only offers speed with a dial at the base of the toy and that’s where you can mainly feel most of the vibrations rather than the whole toy vibrating evenly. Wild Ride is rechargeable with a powerful buzzy motor, I usually prefer rumbly motors but because it is really powerful it makes up for it. You have 3 constant speeds and 5 different patterns to choose from, but what makes the wild ride unique to the rest is the power boost setting that it offers. Power boost basically takes the all the power it possibly can from the motor and gives it all to you for 10 seconds, the power boost setting has it’s own button that you can press between any setting. The power button will take you through the 3 speeds and then into the settings and the lightning button above is the power boost button.

Wild Ride is made of a soft high grade silicone so make sure to only use water based lubricants with this one. It will not feel realistic but it does have the realistic look to it, the only downside (to me) is that it only comes in a hot pink so it definitely doesn’t look super realistic. I was surprised by how flexible and squishy the toy is though considering the motor is inside the middle of it, I think this is great because I have had solid dildos in the past and they tend to become quite uncomfortable after only a short amount of time. Being flexible means the dildo will move with the body which makes it a whole lot more pleasurable.  Wild Ride is 7.5″ long with 7″ being insertable and 1.74″ wide.

It has a suction base for solo play and is harness compatible for couples play. Make sure to clean your toy in between sharing if you are using it for couples play. When using it for solo play, you need to have a flat surface for it to suction properly. The suction base is quite impressive compared to others that I have seen in the past.

Charging 

To charge your Wild Ride, Adam & Eve have supplied the charging cord that you will pierce into the small hole near the base of the toy. It is marked DC underneath the circled section to help you find the spot. Make sure to plug the other end into a wall adaptor rather than a computer for proper charging. The toy will show you a light flashing when charging and will go to a still when complete. Wild Ride takes 2 hours to completely charge and offers up to 90 minutes of play.

Waterproof

The Wild Ride is 100% waterproof for all your shower and bath time fun! It is fully submersible so no need to stress about using it in the bath. Waterproof also means for easy cleaning. Spray your toy down with some trusty toy cleaner, let it sit for a few minutes and wash off with some warm water.

WARNING: Because this product has a motor inside of it you can NOT use boiling water to sanitize.

Warranty 

Adam & Eve offers a 5 year manufacturing warranty.

Elliana

Elliana has been working in the Oh Zone stores for the past 2 and a half years now. During this time she has discovered a lot about herself through the different adult products that she has experimented with. Elliana likes to write reviews on the good quality products that she has either purchased for herself or has her eyes on in the stores and she isn’t afraid to tell you if she thinks a toy or a companies ethics are rubbish. She also openly came out as a lesbian at the age of 14 and loves to talk about all the great LGBTQIA events that she has been to in Sydney.

Will You Be My Sex Doll?

About Adult Dolls

The Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres surely have some interesting products for sale. From vibrators that twirl, rotate & double penetrate to penis plugs in all shapes, colours & sizes, there’s something in here for everyone. I love to see customers coming in and discovering toys they may never have been exposed to before. Out of all the gadgets & toys in the store, sex dolls would have to be the products that cause the most reaction from customers. Sometimes they cause laughter & disbelief, other times there’s a genuine curiosity & fascination;

“Do people actually buy these?!”

The answer is: Hell yes!! I get customers buying sex dolls for a gag gift at birthday parties & I also sell them to men who are interested in a lifelike masturbating device. The technology with sex dolls is becoming even more advanced, with so many options available to suit all people & all budgets.

 

The history of commercially manufactured sex dolls dates back to 1908, where a Sexologist called Iwan Bloch wrote about dolls available for purchase in Paris that secreted oil to replicate vaginal lubrication. They took 3 months to build and cost a small fortune. I’m not sure what they were made from but I can’t imagine it felt as pleasant as the lifelike materials that are available today. The creation of softer plastics and higher quality materials have led to sex dolls that are eerily similar to an actual human being. Sex dolls have come so far over the last 100 years, with so many options to build your own “dream doll” available online. You can choose the body type, breast size & shape, skin, hair & eye colour, hair design (pubic & head), piercings and tattoos on your custom doll and have it delivered to your door.   

 

There can sometimes be harsh judgements associated with certain sex toys, with products for men, such as sex dolls, probably the most stigmatised. In an article published in The Journal of Positive Sexuality

“Sex dolls-Creepy or Healthy”

(Knox & Huff, 2017), it is noted that many people stigmatize those that buy sex dolls & see the men who use them as unable to attract a sexual partner. I find the male sex toy stigma to be such a double standard as women do not get judged for having a plethora of sex toys tucked away in their bedside table the way men do. I like to point this out to men & women who express judgement for those who have male sex toys as it quickly gets them to question their opinions (and more often than not they usually end up buying one for themselves or their partners shortly after!!). Sex dolls can be a great masturbating toy for those seeking a life like experience so no need to be ashamed.

 

I have had multiple discussions with people & read valid concerns from those who work in the field of human sexuality about the effects sex dolls have on human relationships. There exists a reasonable fear that the use of sex dolls will ultimately shut men off from real human connections, especially those who are shy or have difficulties with interpersonal relationships to begin with. There are also concerns of further objectification & exploitation of women through the availability and use of sex dolls. It is no wonder the line between reality and fantasy is becoming blurry as there are so many products that are unbelievably lifelike. The birth rates in Japan are the lowest they have been since the 1970’s, with the use of sex dolls and love robots said to be one of the biggest causes for this decline.

 

I think that it is important for those using sex dolls to understand that a sex doll is a masturbating device & not a substitute for human connection. With such a widespread addiction to technology, I can see how the use of sex dolls can cause alienation & isolation for certain people so feel they need to be used with awareness. I am not saying that men who use a sex doll must also be having sex with an actual human being or must be limiting the use of their sex doll. I just feel it is important for men using them to not get so far into fantasy that they forget to have connections with others. Because at the end of the day, regardless of how advanced sex doll technology becomes, nothing could ever replace the love & compassion that a human being can offer. 

 

Human Like Doll
Robotic Sex Doll

Sex dolls can be a fun and pleasurable masturbation device that gives a more life-like experience compared to other masturbators.   Before you buy why not check out the sex doll buyers guide.

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.

What Are You Doing With Le Wand!

Le Wand Sex Toys

Today I will be reviewing one of the newer products that have just landed in our Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres, the Le Wand Petite. If you have been in our stores or on our website before then this product may already look familiar to you. Last year Le Wand released their first wand which was a bigger version of the petite and won the Xbiz Award for the luxury brand of the year. With their luxurious packaging and gorgeous designed wand, there is no doubt as to why they are now one of the best selling wands on the market.

Le Wand Petite 

I honestly like the Petite much more than the original. I personally prefer a vibrator that isn’t a massive effort to keep a hold of, I find the bigger wands always need two hands for better control and I am not about that life. The petite fits nicely in one hand and you can still press all the buttons with that same hand. There is a plus, minus, and function button. To turn on your the Le Wand press the plus button once and to turn off hold down the minus button. By pressing the middle button you will go into function mode where you will find 6 different patterns to choose from and you can also increase and decrease the vibration patterns by playing around with your plus and minus buttons. There are 10 different speed options. Le Wand also offers a travel lock option which you can activate and deactivate by holding down your plus and minus button at the same time for 3 seconds.

Le Wand has a flexible high-grade silicone head for easy control and a nice soft touch. To clean, Le Wand recommends spaying the head with toy cleaner and either wiping it off after with a cloth or simply washing it off with some warm water. This toy is shower proof for your shower time fun but they do not say anything about it being fully submersible so I would not try using it in a bath tub unfortunately.

Wands can be used for solo or couples play. Make sure to give it a try when giving your partner a full body massage as they are great for knotted backs!

Petite has 2 color options, a metallic purple, and a beautiful rose gold.

le wand sex toy
Le wande massager

Unboxing  The LeWand

Let me just start with the actual box itself before getting to what is inside of it. When a company puts a lot of effort into their packaging like this one does you have to acknowledge it! All of the basics that you need to know about the toy is written for you on the sides of the box. When looking at our wand wall their products stand out from the rest and that is because they have put in those extra miles to make their products unique.

Inside your box, you will find your Le Wand and its charging cord. Le Wand does not supply a wall dock but you should make sure to always use one when charging rather than using a computer. You will also find a beginners guide and a manual for your toy, which I always recommend having a read of while you’re waiting for it to charge up for the first time. It is a good thing to know all about your toys so that you get the best experience with it and know everything it has to offer. Last but not least the company also supplies a nice little carry pouch for you to store your wand in when not in use.

Charging 

Yes, this is not a corded wand like most others on the market. Unfortunately, this does mean that the toy will need a break between charges as it will not work whilst being plugged in but I think this can be a good thing because toys do need a wresting time so that you don’t end up blowing the internal motors. There aren’t any cords getting in the way during play though, so I think this is a massive positive!

Your Le Wand needs approximately 2 hours of charging for a full charge and can last up to 1 hour in play depending on the settings that you are using. When charging the lights with flash and when complete the lights will go to a still. If you are using your wand and the lights start rapidly flashing this means your toy is telling you that it needs to be charged.

Warranty 

Le Wand offers a one-year manufacturing warranty.

Extra Info

Le Wand also has attachment options that we also stock that are sold separately. They have 3 different texture sleeves that you can put over the top of the head of the wand for a different feel. There are also 2 different internal, silicone attachments for either g-spot or anal play.

Have fun and be safe ❤

Elliana

Consultant at the Oh Zone Stores

Elliana has been working in the Oh Zone stores for the past 2 and a half years now. During this time she has discovered a lot about herself through the different adult products that she has experimented with. Elliana likes to write reviews on the good quality products that she has either purchased for herself or has her eyes on in the stores and she isn’t afraid to tell you if she thinks a toy or a companies ethics are rubbish. She also openly came out as a lesbian at the age of 14 and loves to talk about all the great LGBTQIA events that she has been to in Sydney.