Sounding: Pushing A Rod Up Your Urethra!

Sex was once, to me, a superstition. It was something I found out about from schoolyard friends who’d never done it or from folks who knew little about it and clarified it in a mindfully calm manner. It was something I saw in scenes from terrible films, and it was there in the counter-intuitive syrup of sitcom shows and in music clips of almost every pop tune that I loved. If I put all of this together, it leaves me with the uncanny impression of how sex ought to be, before I ever thought I knew enough to encounter it. When I at long last started having my own sexual encounters my expectations of what sex should be left me feeling like I was missing something even while there was nothing particularly disappointing about any specific experience.

For some time, I started to think about whether something about my penis kept me from giving me the pleasure that I thought I deserved. I thought it might be holding me back from climbing the delightful stepping stool to sexual fulfilment. At whatever point a lover moved her head in joy or snatched a fistful of bed sheet while arching her pelvis upward, I asked why my own arousal never made me do any of that. Sex motivated my suspicion that there were shockingly better types of it that I would need to go outside of myself to find. Which is the reason why I came to be sitting in my room one night, sliding a long metal tube into my penis.

That’s when I started to masturbate with urethral sounds

Urethral sounds look like a moderately strong and threatening individual from the sex toy family. For the most part urethral sounds are made with a long and slim metal chamber intended to slide into the urethra to dilate the urethra in a pleasurable way. Sizes range from 4 to 17 millimetres in circumference, however there is a large variety of sizes. The urethral sounds arrive in an assortment of shapes, some have a gentle S-formed bend, while others have huge barrel shaped dumbbells on their tips. Some are made with different experience levels in mind, others are made with rectangular closures, some have round edges, and of the most threatening looking ones have serious fishhook bends.

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It’s difficult to follow the definite causes of why people began to use urethral sounds, however the act of urethral sounding has been seen throughout history in numerous societies. As indicated by Robert Lawrence, a psychologist and board member from the Center for Sex and Culture in San Francisco, there is proof that doctors in old China utilized a tube which they inserted into the urethra to sample fluid for examination and therapy. In antiquated Rome, catheters, tubes, and tests were utilized to investigate the bladder and expel blockages from different channels and openings. In the most recent century, on the other hand, the act of sounding for pleasure appears to have gotten to be progressively common, with cases of men having used almost everything from pens to weaving needles which are all unsafe methods for sexual stimulation.

The tissue in the urethra is embryologically the same as the labia minora, and it’s loaded with nerve endings all the way down. Simply moving a smooth, decently lubricated urethral sound along these tissues can be pleasurable, there are more profound ways to stimulate through sounding. The urethra has four sections that unite the bladder to the penis, the final one runs through the prostate which is an organ that is integral to the ejaculatory experience amid climax for men. Sudden dilation through the urethra of the prostate can trigger discharge and is very pleasurable.

When compared to most other sex toys, urethral sounds have a high level of daredevilry attached to them and shouldn’t be used without genuine consideration and readiness. The size of the urethral sound makes them best used only by the most experienced urethral sex toy users. The urethra is sensitive and if you are inexperienced and use urethral sounds it can lead to painful tearing and cutting. The urethra is thin and delicate especially against bacteria and disease from outside microorganisms, which is the danger of inserting unhygienic items into it.

Cleaning the sound before every use is very important. This can be done by boiling a surgical stainless steel urethral sound in water for 30 minutes. Be sure to let the urethral sound completely cool down before use.

Before using urethral sounds, it is also very important that you thoroughly wash your hands and the penis. Make a point not to touch anything that hasn’t been washed before insertion. Many people recommend drinking a glass of cranberry juice just before you start, which serves to protect you against unhealthy bacteria developing in the urinary tract. Additionally, antibacterial surgical lubricant must be used with urethral sounds which can act as one final layer of insurance against bacteria being brought into the urethra. After use, the sound must be completely washed to prevent rust and the person who uses the urethral sound should urinate to flush out the urethra. I read a detailed urethral sounding guide before my very first experience.

What other people thought of urethral sounding

When I looked into using urethral sounds, the vast majority of my male friends drew back with dismay, either overpowered by the thought of painfully hurting the penis or the thought of receiving a chlamydia-test by inserting a Q-tip into the urethra and sending it to a lab to be tested. The lack of accessible data about urethral sounding appeared to heighten the confusion. One review of more than 2000 men found that approximately 10 percent who performed urethral sounding likewise reported higher STI rates. Another study, from the University of South Florida collected the data collected of patients going by the doctor’s office after they had placed items in their urethra including a ballpoint pen and a speaker wires. This study noted that all the patients had been diagnosed with schizophrenia. These articles have been found to be biased, which makes it look like using the urethra for stimulation to be out of this world. Another study asked “why would you do that?” and one of the replies was “It felt great” but this answer couldn’t in any way, shape or form defend the drawbacks.

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In my neighbourhood in Manhattan, there are various sex-toy shops and peep show venues. Thick dark window ornaments hung over the front entryways with a threatening “NO MINORS” sign making the scene feel like a universe of danger, where going in to any shop may guarantee some type of risk. These shops appear to be one stage away from liquidation with cramped walkways and police sirens heard in the distance.

As I began shopping, I perceived that each urethral sound in sight was alarmingly huge. Indeed the littlest one I could see was marginally bigger than a pencil, it looked like something that would be difficult to get into my urethra without some genuine dilation. I inquired as to whether they had any littler ones that may be more receptive for a beginner. He let me know that I could by a range of urethral sounds in a set which work their way up from beginners to more experienced users. He showed me all the different types of urethral sounds. With the urethral sounds he showed me, he said that it would be best to start not with the thinnest one but with one that was similar in size to the opening of my urethra. A thin urethral sound in unexperienced hands can evidently slide and slip around, making them less secure which can lead to potential tears or punctures. The thicker ones stays in place but can prevent them from masturbating too rapidly. I picked the littlest one among those sparkling torpedoes and brought it home with some surgical lube in one of those slim, dark plastic sacks that just ever appear to come from an alcohol store or the sex shop.

What really happened when I began using urethral sounds

Utilizing the urethral sound reminded me of the first time I stroked off. I wasn’t certain what I was doing then either, however I took some time and got used of it. Soon a confounding warmth went through my body. I had controlled my body into doing something it shouldn’t have been made to do. The translucent glob of cum saturated my rug was an indication that something new had been broken inside me, in the same way a pool of fluid underneath a car in the parking space is an indication of something beginning to go into disrepair.

I placed the urethral sound in a bubbling pot of hot water to disinfect. I thought about how my right hand would hold the pole and touch nothing else, while my left hand would do the work: get some lubricant, lift the cover off the bubbling pot of water, open and close my door, turn on some porn. It took near to an hour to set up the whole experience.

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When I at long last shut my room door and grasped the sound, an excess of clear lube coagulated around its narrowest half, I considered the way that I was presently going to be fucked by a manufactured item. The vast majority of the sex toys I’ve known were fetishized impressions of another human body part in some conceptual way. Dildos and Fleshlights were direct copies of genitalia, while vibrators evoked in some way what someone else may do to you. At the same time I was all alone with the urethral sound when I felt the metal spread open my penis. There was no anticipation; I was pleasing myself with a bit of metal.

I chose it would be simplest to begin on the off chance with an erection. The pole went in delicately and easily, the whole five centimetres was effectively inside my small opening (which had resembled a vast, eyeless mouth as I gazed down on it). There was no pain, nor was there any huge joy. The main feeling I was aware of was the unbendable hardness of the metal pole, and a thick, moderate moving wetness some place inside me. I slid it up and down. Everything happened gradually. It was like the inverse of sex, with its impacting surfaces and musical spells. I had never been touched so profoundly, and I started to feel something like a blazing sensation inside, a typical reaction that happens during a first encounter. It was an inaccessible feeling, it was a new sensation from a piece of my body that had no memory of being touched.

I went in as deep as I could, around three inches. When I moved it is far as, I hauled it out and afterward inserted it back in, squeezing somewhat more profoundly around it with my hand. I shook it in and out, tenderly and gently as I was worried I’ll break something inside. I hauled it out once more, placed it on the towel, and stroked off to the porn film. In the long run, I came.

I spent the accompanying days in an industrious fixation as to what happened to me with the urethral sound. It brought me a great happiness. Anyway something had been inside me and whatever I could feel now was the new inadequacy that it had cleared out. I needed to be touched again, however every time the idea came up, it was joined by the dissuasive memory of the amount of time and consideration must be spent on making the arrangements.

It was the farthest thing from a climax or, rather, it was the modified picture of it. Once I discovered it, I wanted to discover it once more, again and again. Possibly next time there’ll really be someone else there too.

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Win A Coco De Mer Emma Giveaway – Valued At $299

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Adultsmart has teamed up with Coco de Mer to bring to you this latest giveaway. Win the Coco de Mer Emma Love Egg valued at $299! This exclusive sex toy which was featured in the Fifty Shades Freed movie is only available in a select few adult stores in Australia but you could win one of your very own if you enter this competition.

What’s prizes are up for grabs?

1 x Coco de Mer Emma Love Egg

1 x Remote Control

1 x leather travel and storage case for discretion and hygiene

1 x USB cable for convenient charging


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How do I enter the competition?

Simply place a comment with a valid email address at the comment box at the footer of this page OR –

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Who can enter the competition?

You must be over 18 years of age to enter. The competition is open to people worldwide.

When does the competition begin?

The competition begins on the 18th of July, 2018

When does the competition close?

Entries close on the 5th of September and the draw will be conducted on the 4th of September. The winner will be contacted via email to arrange delivery.

About the Coco De Mer Emma Love Egg

My Lady, entrust intimate arousal to your beloved and abandon yourself to ethereal pleasures

Take charge of your pleasure with Emma, the first remote-controlled toy in Coco de Mer’s exquisite Pleasure Collection. Crafted from smooth, high-quality silicone, the slender shape of the love egg is designed for easy insertion and maximum pleasure. Simply press the button on the Emma love egg to activate it, then apply some water-based lubricant before insertion.

Boasting a range of eight different vibration settings and twelve incremental levels, Emma’s true potential is unlocked with the easy to use remote. Activate it by gently pressing the Coco de Mer seed emblem, with which you can select your pulse setting. From there, increase or decrease the intensity with the plus and minus buttons to customise your delight.

Perfect for using with a lover, it can heighten the intimacy of using a toy together by letting the partner holding the remote take control, dictating the speed and pacing for a truly dizzying climax – whether in the boudoir or out and about. The 8ft range makes this an ideal toy for risqué play in a public setting, as the quiet vibrations will leave onlookers none the wiser and the subtle tones of the remote make it easy to conceal.

Emma is presented in a gorgeous coco brown leather carrying case, complete with instruction booklet and USB charging cable. Whilst Emma will contain a small amount of pre-charge, it is advised that you allow for a full 2hr charging session before use, allowing for 60 minutes of play time. Emma is charged by unscrewing the base of the egg and plugging it is, allowing your toy to remain discreet whilst charging.

Inspired by Lady Emma Hamilton, the 18th century artist and socialite who took Europe by storm, becoming a household name and later one half of the era’s most iconic power couple with Admiral Nelson, the packaging and manual bear her portrait as well as her name.

Pleasure is redefined with the Coco de Mer Pleasure Collection, a range of indulgent products carefully crafted to let you explore your erotic imagination.

Material of the Coco De Mer Emma Love Egg

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Features of the Coco De Mer Emma Love Egg

  • Weight 0.384 kg
    Dimensions 15 x 11.7 x 6.5 cm
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Read Adultsmart’s Coco De Mer Emma Love Egg product review for more information about this amazing product!  Don’t want to wait?

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Sex After Pregnancy!

Post Pregnant Sex
Well, I have recently returned to work after giving birth to my third baby, I wrote an article about sex and pregnancy on this site a while back, before I gave birth about having sex during pregnancy,  so. I thought I would do a follow up on sex ‘ after’ having a baby. Now I know some of you boys out there might want to switch off, put your fingers in your ears and sing “la la la” really loudly!  Some of you girls may even want to switch off now! It isn’t something that gets talked about often. I can honestly say in all the baby groups and library sing-song  sessions I attended over the last 10 months, not one lady has come up to me and said

” hey how”s ya vagina?”

So sit back, get comfortable, and get the popcorn out!….
The truth is after expelling the equivalent of a watermelon out of my privates…Even I couldn’t bring myself to touch or look at my vagina, let alone let anyone else near it! It felt like a god damn crime scene!  Joking aside though, Most nurses advise at least 4 – 6 weeks before you have any kind of sex, it actually isn’t safe, so I think the thoughts and feelings I had was just my body telling me to hold off….and maybe spend a bit of time bonding with baby, which obviously is amazing.
Then the next set of untalked about thoughts and feelings kicks in. What if I don’t ever ever feel like sex again? Well, that is a normal and natural thought too. Libido is scientifically lowered and as well as being completely emotionally overwhelmed, you are really bloody exhausted! The lower levels of estrogen you now have cause vaginal dryness, on top of that, breastfeeding can cause dryness as well.
Boy oh boy, that was depressing! The good news is that we are made to make babies! it is what sex is for. Thankfully there is now contraception to make sure the whole baby thing only happens when you are ready for it, and we can have recreational fun! I can tell you though, I had anxious feelings about my sex life post-pregnancy all 3 times and every time I have been amazed by how the body and mind heal. I would like to be able to say I still have the vagina of a 16-year-old…I maybe should have asked the doctor to pop a cheeky couple of extra stitches in for hubby! For me, thankfully it is all well that ends well.
It can be emotionally and physically  consuming and may require some proactive measures, Go down to your local Ohzone store for some decent Lube, Superslyde is great and maybe for Mum, a new toy to play with, just to get yourselves back into the mood without having pressure from each other… and  most importantly  some Kegels to strengthen the muscles down there! There are plenty of articles on Kegels and the benefits of using them on the Adultsmart Blog. I can’t stress the importance of these, especially as you have more pregnancies and get older. When you piss every time you sneeze, it t sure isn’t sexy!  Kegels should be mandatorily prescribed pre and post pregnancy.
Sex After Birth
Baby Jealousy
The other thing that can be challenging, is your partner’s jealousy over the bond you have with the new baby. Try to find time for each other, even if it is just a kiss and a cuddle. A baby can make a couple more intimate but sometimes it does the exact opposite, so, on a daily basis both parties need to make a bit of an extra effort in thinking about each other’s feelings.
Just when you thought it was all dry vaginas and bad moods, there are the leaking breasts! Now there are a whole lot of men out there paying good money to watch lactating women. I know that for a fact, but it can be a bit strange for a couple to associate where the baby feeds from to something sexual. It becomes less of an erogenous zone for a woman, but at the same time, they can squirt if intimately touched. My advice about that one is if it isn’t your “thing”  to have a good laugh about it.
So whilst I was convinced I would never be able to have enjoyable sex again, I can vouch for the fact that it happens. Slowly but surely the mind and body work in ways that can be beyond our control, although we can certainly help the process with some decent advice and products.
About the Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Sex Toy Stores

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The A-Z Sex Toy List For Women!

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The A to Z of Amazing Sex Products for Women

Adrenaline Spikes by Fifty Shades Darker-Pinwheels are incredible toys for sensory play. This is really intense when used with a whole range of different sensory objects whilst blindfolded.

Sensory BDSM

BVibe Novice-Silky silicone and powerful vibrations, this but plug is perfect for anal newbies. It even comes with a remote control.

Calexotics Lovers Tape-Bondage tape is an easy way to restrain your partner, with this tape sticking to itself rather than your skin to avoid the excruciating rip when taking it off.

Doc Johnson Japanese Drip Candles-Warm wax dripping on your body when you least expect it is a thrill when restrained. These candles come in red, black and purple.

BDSM Candles

Eva Dame– A hands free clitoral vibrator, this cute little toy sits in between your labia so no need to hold onto it when having sex with your partner. It has 3 levels of intensity which is more than enough to have you experiencing a tonne of pleasure.

Electrifying Sex – Find out the A-Z guide!!!

Fun Factory Stronic G– The latest in Fun Factory’s pulsator line, this toy is incredible. If you’re yet to discover your G-Spot, give this toy a go and then we’ll talk.

Games-Nookii is a sexy game for couples to play to generate a steamy night together.

Hot Octopus Atom-The vibrations on this bad boy are deep & intense. This is so important when it comes to a cock ring because weak, ticklish vibrations defeat the purpose of your man wearing one in the first place.

Icicles No. 69– I swear I didn’t mean to pick this number as my favourite, it really is an awesome glass dildo! With ribbing and a unique curved shape, this toy is sure to be a winner.

Je Joue Mimi– A plush, compact vibrator with rumbly vibes. I love using this for clitoral stimulation during sex. If you haven’t checked out the vibes of Je Joue toys I suggest you head into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre pronto!

Kegel Exercisers. Ok so I use way too many to pick one so I’ve decided to rattle off a couple of my favourites. The Lelo Luna Beads, Je Joue Ami & Aneros Evie are all Kegel exercisers I recommend for unique reasons. Check out more in depth reviews on these toys.

Lelo Gigi-This high-quality vibrator is one of my favourites, with the bulbous head perfect for G-Spot stimulation. I sell this toy to many vibrator first times because its small enough to use for clitoral stimulation as well-just in case they discover that it’s more their preference.

Mini plug by Nu Sensuelle- A great but plug with strong vibrations at an affordable price.

Nu Sensuelle

Nu Sensuelle Petite Egg. The vibrations can be controlled through a remote and are really powerful. A great companion to take out on a hot date to spice things up with your partner. I especially love the aqua colour of this toy!

ON ICE Arousal Oil. Prior to trying these products, I thought that the warming oils would be my preference for sure. It was a surprise to discover that the cooling products are my go to. I love using this when I’m yearning for different, heightened sensations during foreplay & sex.

Pjur Nude for Women Water Based Lubricant. I’ve used thus lubricant for over a year and it continues to be my favourite Water Based. It is never stick or tacky like many others and doesn’t require constant reapplication. I also love that it is free of preservatives, parabens & glycerine.

Queen Bee by Hot Octopus-Using Pulse Plate Technology, this toy brings about an orgasm like no other toy

Rabbit Company Beaded Rabbit. Gone are the days of battery operated TPR plastic rabbits that don’t stand the test of time. This silicone vibrator has a 5-year warranty and induces incredible orgasms through the rotating beads and head.

Satisfyer Pro 2. What can I say about this toy that hasn’t already been said? It’s one of my favourite bath companions, with the stimulation likened to a mini spa jet for my clitoris. It’s an affordable toy that is sure to become your best friend.

Tenga Egg-Ok these are technically for men with penises but that doesn’t mean I don’t get fun out of them. I love using these to edge my partner to climax.

Satisfyer sex toy

Underwear-More specifically, lingerie. Wearing lingerie throughout your day will mean you’re probably half way there when you enter the bedroom in the evening

Verge by We Vibe– Again, a toy for men but if you don’t enjoy seeing your male partner in pleasure then something is not quite right. The feedback I have from this toy is great, with the powerful vibrations around the cock & balls and on the perineum leading to more intense orgasms.

We Vibe Wish-I reviewed the Wish over a year ago and it remains one of my favourite We Vibe vibrators. The plush exterior along with the deep rumbly vibrations makes for an incredible external vibrator. I love how the shape of this toy makes it perfect for pleasure all over the vulva, not just the clitoris.

X-Rated-For the life of me, I could not find a sex toy that begins with X…use your imagination with this one!

Your Hand– At the end of the day, our hands are capable of being a great source of pleasure. There are so many amazing toys out there but at the end of the day, nothing will ever compare to skin on skin.

Erotic Hands

Zumio Caress-If you’re seeking a toy for high intensity clitoral stimulation then the Zumio Caress is perfect for you. The silicone covering on the tip of the Caress makes it slightly more comfortable compared to the original, with no sacrifice on the quality or intensity.

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Being A REAL Red-Head – Ginger Baby!

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The things people say and do when you have red hair!

I spent many years of my life changing my hair colour often weekly, much to the horror of my hairdresser. As a self-confessed commitmentphobe, I never allowed myself the chance to really love a colour before moving onto the next colour on the chart, I’ve literally have been every colour possible. However, I have had vibrant red hair for about 4 years now, I will agree this colour choice is not for the faint of heart.

Vibrant red hair will inevitably attract the crazies,

the questions and unfortunately a horde of creeps. There are plenty fallacies surrounding redheads and trust me strangers are happy to discuss them with you given the chance.

People will ask you if the carpets match the drapes, seriously. You’re out enjoying a bevvy with your friends, minding your own business and next thing you know some dude is in your face asking about the shade of your pubes – something that never happened to me as any other colour. Which leads me to my next point: ‘What carpet’ is not a good response – ever! Seriously, trust me, ever.

You will be touched and as a person who does not liked to be touched this bothers me highly.

Dude at bar: “Can I touch it?”

Me: “No.”

Me: “Dude, no… and you’re touching me anyway.”

The touching is followed by several stupid questions: Is it real? What? My hair? Yes. The colour? No. Can you touch it? No. Can you call me Red? No. (Despite your response, your new nickname is forever Red) Oh, you always wanted to fuck a redhead? That’s nice. Please go away.

At this point you’re annoyed and people will just assume you’re feisty and fiery, even if you’re not. And if you are feisty, people will assume it’s your hair making you feisty. Yes, the dye magically seeps into my skull and makes me perpetually angry, it’s not your bullshit questions.

People assume you’re a freak in bed and will ask about your sexuality, I might be a freak in the sheets, I might be a dud root… You’ll never know.   Dude, walk the fuck away.

Red Hair Sex
Red Sexual Desire

Did you know that in medieval times red hair was associated with moral degradation and intense sexual desire?

If you see a natural redhead out and about, just know they now automatically hate you, particularly if you’re at bar fending off creeps. You see because natural redheads are seeing you getting positive attention from men for a hair colour they’ve had since birth and were mocked for relentlessly throughout puberty so natural redheads everywhere now hate you – don’t even bother trying.

                Being a fake redhead you will also never be mocked like a natural redhead, names like ‘ginger’ and ‘ranga’ never will be bestowed upon you, you also get to keep your soul, winning!

The Red hair accompanied with my blue eyes is like the rarest combination in the world – I am a walking anomaly, which every dude wants to get on top of apparently. #WERK!

People will compare you to Ariel from the little mermaid. Yep, and I am totally okay with this. You can touch my hair. What carpet? Didn’t you just say you wanted to fuck a redhead? God, I am such a Merslut.

So basically, to sum up, if you chose to come to the red side. Prepare to be touched a lot, be prepared for lots of people to tell you they’ve always wanted to fuck a redhead – seriously, I was not prepared for this. It’s a lot of people.

So if you’re thinking of being a red head – do it, be the object of everyone’s desire!

Adultsmart welcomes Guest Bloggers to submit 800 word articles with original content about topics relating to sexual lifestyle, health and wellness. If you would like to participate, send an email to with your ideas or an article that you wish to submit. If you publish multiple articles on Adultsmart’s Blog you will become an Adultsmart Expert.