VIP Interview With Angela Lieben – Brand Ambassador Liberator!

VIP Interview

The adultsmart lifestyle community blog is proud to have with us today Angela Lieben.  Angela is a ‘pleasure activist’ who is in charge of Public Relations and Marketing for the world famous Liberator Brand that creates Bedroom Adventure Gear.  Liberator is well-known for their hand-crafted USA made intimacy furniture that enhances love-making for the ability to innovate positional lovemaking.  The brand focuses on bettering sexual relations and is highly recommended as an aid for people with mobility or physical impairments.


A big hello to you Angela.  We will start with the big questions first.  Tell me something that not everyone knows about you?

It’s my pleasure to take part in your interview. Thank you for inviting me to share my story.

A lot of people think my life revolves around sex, sex, sex and it does. But my first true passion and pleasure is cars, especially vintage! My dad was an import car specialist and he taught me all about foreign automobiles. I spent a lot of my summer vacations hanging around his shop. He eventually taught me how to change the oil in a 1972 Ferrari 365 Daytona. My husband is amazed at my ability to clock any car’s make and model at a glance.

I would love to get my hands on a vintage VW Karmann Ghia (or a 1969 Camaro RS) and do part of the restoration myself. There’s is something about the smell of gasoline and whir of an engine that really turns me on!

You have had quite a history in the adult industry.  I would love to explore some of them in more detail? You are a filmmaker, produced documentaries and also done the make-up for adult movies.  What motivated you to get into this genre?

My dream of working in the adult industry started an early age.

In 6th grade, I was assigned a project of “What You Want to Do When You Grow Up.” It was one of the most exciting projects ever in my young life. My first plan of action was to scour through my dad’s collection “girly” magazines—like Easy Rider, Playboy, Oui, and Penthouse. I spent days methodically cutting and pasting all the pretty, naked women posing with their products on my colorful poster board. The ladies were well-placed and represented my idea of working in the sex industry. But dad was not so pleased when he noticed his magazines were missing a few pages.

I was excited about sharing my hopes and dreams with my class and teacher. Sitting through what felt like hours, my classmates showed off their pursuits of working for the State Department or the FBI or the CIA. (I went to a State Department school.) Bemused, I sat patiently for my turn. I was confident and self-assured that everyone would be happy to see that I was different and going places other than the police academy.

Finally, my name was called. Standing in front of the class, I took a deep breath and shamelessly unfurled my poster and held it up proudly! “I want to work with sexy people,” I stated. (Audible gasps!)

First—nothing but silence. Then suddenly a torrent of nervous, tittering laughter. My poster of beautiful women was instantly snatched from my hands and I was roughly escorted from the classroom. My teacher was not amused, and to find out, neither was the school principal.

My mother, however; was proud of my project and defended my right to dream.

She said to me afterward, “If you’re going to work in the sex industry, then be the best you can be!” She recently told me that she is proud of all the work I’ve been doing.

Here is a chance for a bit of a plug!  Can you give us a list of some of the productions you were involved in?

I was the executive producer for a documentary called the Art of Fetish by Laurence Gartel. It was supposed to air on HBO, but nothing ever happened. From what I understand, the production is still in the can. I spent hours with the artist lining up people who live the BDSM lifestyle in Atlanta and we filmed scenes that featured everything from sploshing to bloodletting to flogging and orgies. People were really eager to share their kinks on film. There was a book released called the Art of Fetish which is available online at Schiffer books.

Angela Lieben Fetish
Fetish Book

I also produced, shot and edited a short documentary called Lightworship. It was for an art opening that I was curating at the Paradigm Art Space in Atlanta. I followed the renowned fetish photographer Victor around for a few months and filmed him working in the studio and darkroom. I’m very proud of that documentary—although I have no idea where the footage is today. I was one of the first people to ever “live-stream” the Lightworship event on the internet. (This was back when we were still using dial-up services.)

You also have owned your own erotic art gallery (Friction Art Gallery) in Atlanta.  Tell us a bit more about that?

I live for erotic art and being around creative people. The financial success and media coverage of Lightworship was the impetus for opening Friction Gallery. There were so many amazing fetish artists and photographers not being represented because they were deemed too dark. So, I thought, “what the fuck! I’m going to create a space.” Friction Gallery not only had a monthly art show, we also hosted a series of seminars focused on the BDSM community. Even back in 1999, I knew that BDSM and bondage would one day become mainstream. So, I was not surprised when 50 Shades hit the market.

Friction Gallery was unique in that the shows were invitation only. This concept worked in getting people interested in coming to not only see the art but purchase it too. I created a private space where people would not feel judged for looking at “dirty pictures.”


And to top it all off a sex educator and sex toy tester.  Which do you enjoy more?

I never thought in a million years that I would be a sex toy tester! That’s partly because sex toys were not as evolved as they are today when I first started writing about sex. I first started with Liberator five years ago and owned two vibrators (you know the plastic/jelly kind that takes batteries). Now, I have a collection of 200 sex toys altogether. You name it—I have it!  I enjoy testing sex toys and then sharing my experiences with others in an educational way.


Podcast Interview Liberator
Angela Lieben Podcast Interview


You are vocal about sex-positivity yet so many people get confused with its meaning.  What does it mean to you?

There is a lot of confusion surrounding the sex-positive movement. For me, being sex positive simply means being open to all expressions of sexual pleasure. Basically not yucking someone else’s yum.  What may feel good to one person may not do it for the next. Just because someone gets off on sucking on their partner’s toes does not mean they are deviant or bad. We should never be labeled or judged for enjoying the things that make us feel good. Also, I believe respecting our partner’s boundaries, as well as our own, is an essential component to being sex positive. And that also means getting and confirming consent!

You have your own blog called the pleasure activist.  Do you enjoy sharing your journey and advice on it?


The Liberator UnZipped blog was what started it for me. I thought, “why should I give my best ideas out when I can write them on my own blog.” When I first started my blog, I was a bit reticent about sharing my experiences. Part of that reason was that I went through a terrible breakup with a man who used my sexual history against me in court. But then I realized—who the fuck cares? My journey could actually help someone. There was another reason too—there are so many sex blogs now regurgitating the same information over and over. To stand out amongst the noise, I had to start incorporating personal anecdotes into my narrative. I love being authentic and laying it all out there. The writing is cathartic for me and has really helped me heal through some personal traumas.

Angela Lieben
Pleasure Activist Blog


What is the best piece of sexual advice you would give?

Please, get out of your head! As humans, we are our own worst critic. Stop listening to that judgemental inner-voice that says —Ewww! Sex is the one area of your life where you can be creative—whether it’s playing out fantasies or trying something you saw in a porn video. Release your inner critic and throw caution to the wind. You never know what pleasure you’ll find lurking inside your imagination. Do what makes your tail wag!



A career with the established and esteemed Liberator brand.  How did that come about?

I was working at a neuropsychology center and was extremely unsatisfied. I felt like an imposter because I could not be myself. But living in Atlanta, careers in the sexual wellness industry are limited. So, one day I called the CEO (Louis Friedman) and left him a voicemail saying, “you should hire me because your company needs it!” He called me back about an hour later and asked, “when can you come in?” I sat with him for about two hours sharing my ideas on content and marketing strategies. He and I clicked and have been working together ever since.


What is the best thing about being Liberators PR and Marketing manager?

Sometimes I have to pinch myself and ask, “is this real?” I love having a career in this industry and being able to use my marketing background. Every day is different and I am honored being the voice of such a famous brand! The main part of my job is developing content for the blog, copy for the website, and our email newsletters. I basically have my hands in everything from web development, content creation, art direction, erotic workshops—you name it, I do it. But the best part connecting with Liberator customers via social media. I feel that in order for any brand to be successful, you have to connect with customers on a personal level and communicate with them and share ideas. An added bonus, however; is I get to help with product new designs and testing them with my husband.

If you could describe what it is that makes Liberator a much loved (pardon the pun) company to consumers?

We put a lot of love into all of our products. Everyone who works here counts and plays an integral role in creating a product that is meant to enhance sex on all levels. There is a lot of thought and consideration that goes into every collection. For Liberator, we want to truly make a difference in people’s sex lives. Whether it’s helping with mobility or having a deeper, intimate connection with a lover, our products truly stand the test of time. Manufacturing Liberator in the USA gives us greater control over the product quality.


You were bullied as a teenager.  How did you overcome that?

Bullying is no joke! I am thankful for coming of age at a time when the internet and social media did not exist. There were days when I truly wanted to become invisible. My mother was the one person who helped me overcome the pain and trauma of being relentlessly bullied. She empathized with what was happening because she too was bullied when she was a teenager for being a refugee from East Germany. She taught me that it does not matter what anyone thinks and that I was meant to do great things with my life. She said that “the Lieben’s are tough and strong —and this time is only temporary.” Being reminded of the impermanence of life helped me push through and become the strong woman I am today.

Ange on Porn Set
Angie Lieben

Being labeled ‘a slut’ in your earlier years must have been difficult.  How has that motivated you being an advocate for women’s issues?

The word SLUT, when said out loud, has a very powerful effect. That one syllable word feels like a gut punch it’s being hurled at you! Whether it’s being whispered or yelled, the impact is always the same. It’s even more challenging for teenager girls who are still trying to figure out sexuality.

What I realize now, and wish I knew back then, is that slut used to demean—make someone feel small and bad for exploring sexuality. What I find appalling is men can sleep with a shit ton of women and they are labeled as STUD!

I want young girls and women to know there is absolutely nothing wrong in exploring sexuality. There is nothing wrong in having control over your own sexuality. Sex is power, especially for women. The ancient Greeks honored women for possessing sexual power! They held them to a higher standard. So, now when someone slut shames a woman—they are basically recognizing and acknowledging that inner power.


So, now when anyone calls me a slut—I tell them “thank you!”

Who do you most admire and why?

Hands down—Amber Rose. She’s a powerhouse and is unapologetic for the choices she’s made throughout her career. On top of that, she is extremely intelligent and not afraid to speak out about issues facing women today. There is a spark in her eye and personality that says, “don’t mess with me.” What I also love about her most the massive call-to-action with the Los Angeles SlutWalk. I went a few years ago and the energy was positively overwhelming. She is a warrior and is leading the charge for change in the way we view slut-shaming. God, I wish I could be more like her and not be so introverted.


Where do you see yourself in 10 years’ time?

That’s really hard to say! I’m working on a few projects right now. One is a book aimed at teenage girls and sexual self-discovery. The other a podcast with my husband. A lot can happen between now and 10 years—I see myself being surprised and grateful for all the opportunities. But in all honesty, I see myself being the CEO of a luxury sex to brand!


Once again thanks again for taking the time to do this interview with us.  I know that your time is extremely tight and valuable being the busy woman that you are.  We hope to catch up again with you sometime in the near future as your answers are both enlightening and honest.

Rick is the owner of the Adultsmart, an online sex toy shop that stocks over 13,000 products. He has been involved in the adult lifestyle industry for more than 25 years. Rick is an active sex blogger who provides a wealth of information and experience. He is an advocate of equality for gender and sexuality.

Intimidating Sex Toys!

sex toy advice

I have worked in an adult shop now for just under a year, within that time I have broken up with one partner, been single, found myself again and met someone new who is pretty damn amazing.

I am a relationship girl through and through, I do not enjoy being single, I do not enjoy meaningless connections, meaningless sex or the so-called “freedom” that comes with not being tied emotionally and physically to anyone. my sexual resume would resemble that of a student who has just left school and only had a couple of part-time jobs, but yet I found myself working in an adult shop and thus selling, recommending and purchasing adult toys. There does seem to be a lot of assumptions made of those of us who choose to work in such an industry, to me the motives behind me working in the adult industry was to bring my confidence to the surface, to be sure of myself, to be able to hold my ground, the help those who need it when it comes to happiness and give a different point of view about the more intimate side of relationships. Also, it was to challenge my interpersonal skills with an area of knowledge I only know a slim surface of.

I have met, spoken too, been introduced, read, learned, discovered a world in which men, women and anything in between chose to spice up, control, involve, discover and even replace, all ways in which we as human beings have sex and thus achieve and experience orgasms.

Don’t get me wrong I am all for sexual exploration, sexual awareness and the right to orgasm, however, I am very happy to admit sex is a lot more about connection then it is just for the physical. I have gone for months- years between relationships without having any sexual encounters with any other person because I believe in relationships. I believe in sex as expressing feelings, love, and connection in those relationships, but I also believe in not judging someone for their own decisions or own outlook on life. To me sex is always a 2-way street and not just about my own sexual gratification, to me, sex is giving your whole self to your partner, your insecurities, vulnerabilities, wants needs, passions, and desires. It’s about satisfying your partner to give them complete enjoyment as well as enjoying yourself.

The concern I notice most in-store and also within my own relationship is an almost fear of toys, I am an incredibly empathetic person, and the concerns and issues of most people resonate within me. I’ve witnessed it many times, a couple come into store mainly the boyfriends or husbands idea first then as they move further into the store they are overwhelmed by vibrators, dildos, contraptions, of everything and anything in between, and their facial expressions change. This is the point where the guy no longer feels comfortable, and the stress of intimidation overcomes their eyes in a clouded haze. On the other hand, the girlfriend or wife seems to no longer feel timid or scared and are fairly amazed at the products and their capabilities, they are inquisitive and ask a multitude of questions. As a woman I know toys don’t replace men, and if I had to choose id throw out my toys in a heartbeat if my partner was that threatened because I do think sexual satisfaction should come from your partner and not be relied upon by toys.

Controversial I know! Have you ever heard the saying –

“everything in moderation”

same rule applies to toys in the bedroom, they are an aid, not a replacement, and I believe that 100% you may be able to orgasm in under 3 minutes with your womanizer but try using it while with your partner and tell me it doesn’t increase the mood by at least 50%.

My job is to endorse orgasm, and I want everyone to be able to fulfill their needs without the fear of intimidation so to ease you and your partner into the world of toys the ones listed below are an awesome way to bring yourselves into toy play without hurting anyone’s feelings.

Remeber you’re trying to spice things up, not replace anyone! 

my top picks for nonintimidating toys to bring a little extra spark to your already incredible sex life are: 

vibrating eggs: these little eggs are gold mines, small and discrete and your partner can control them with remote your phone! there are so many possibilities with these all you need is your imagination,

cock rings: small, simple, sleek multiple possibilities and advantages and amazing for both partners. 

Lube: who can forget lube, its sensual, slippery, tantalizing, and its uses are endless, not to mention it also helps women to orgasm easier. 

what are you waiting for, try one!


morgan x 

Although relatively young Morgan has lived a life filled with experiences that have made her grow as a person. She has completed and is a product and interior designer who is a strong believer in equality between sexes and speaks out against violence. Working in the adult industry has allowed her to grow as a person and come out of her emotional and sexual shell.

Stepping Into Stilettos And Into A Brand New, More Exciting Version Of Me!

Angel Hardly Biography

It all started over Seventeen years ago with my wanting to be a mermaid. Okay, maybe not a real one, but close enough. See, I as well as a few friends of mine applied for a job at a local seafood place as a mermaid character. Long story short; I didn’t get the job. And even all these years later, I couldn’t be happier about it.


As bummed as I was about not landing what I believed to be my “dream job”, I couldn’t sit back and pout about it. I was on my own, fresh outta high school, and had to take care of myself. I still needed a job. So I once again combed the classified section and there it was in big bold lettering: Attractive girls with good personalities wanted for lingerie bar. Cash daily. Must be 18+. Come by today for on the spot interviews and hiring.


Cash daily?! And all I had to do was strut around wearing lingerie and serving drinks? I had a good personality and my looks weren’t too shabby either so I figured I’d give it a go and see what happened.


I realized very quickly when I walked into the place it was not what I had imagined it to be. The ad may have said “lingerie bar”, but even with my younger naiveness, I knew it was a strip club.


It was earlier in the day so there weren’t that many people around. On the stage, a tall, slender, blonde woman in high-stilettos was climbing the pole in the center. She worked her way to the top and seductively removed her bikini top.


Immediately two things terrified me enough to tinker with the idea of hauling butt out of there as quickly as I could. Not only was there the very high possibility I might break my neck trying to wear those heels should I get hired, but I too would be on that same stage with my goodies exposed to the world.


Still, I decided to go through with the interview.


It went pretty much like an interview for a vanilla job would go. The only difference being I had to go into a private room and dance for the owner. Now, that part had me nervous. Even I knew my dance moves were an embarrassment, but the owner was a female, plus I had already come this far, so I figured why not?


I still remember wondering if the woman who would later become not only my boss but also my mentor and friend, could see how badly my body was shaking as I performed my best reenactment of the sexy stripteases I had seen in movies. If she did, she sure didn’t make it known.


To my surprise; I was hired. She handed me her business card with instructions to come back later that evening with outfits and the other stuff for my “performances.” Looking back on it now; I think she saw something in me and she thought it would surface once I got on the stage. I’m not sure. All I know is, I’m glad she gave me a chance.


I’ll spare you the long and boring details of what I wore and such. To be honest; I don’t remember. It was probably something cheap and thrown together being I was broke as could be at the time.


As expected; I was completely terrified while sitting in the dressing room awaiting the moment the DJ would call my stage name. When I heard my name, I made my way to the stage and took the very first step into the role that would become my identity for the duration of my career as an adult entertainment industry performer.


I was told the DJ would play three songs and a few seconds into the third, I was to remove my top. I was nervous but I told myself to pretend like there weren’t a bunch of pairs of eyeballs staring at me. I was alone, in my bedroom. Surprisingly it worked. A bit better than I anticipated.


What surprised me most was the almost instantaneous change that took place in myself. The minute I heard “holy (insert expletive here) she’s hot!” it was on! As cliche as it may sound; something inside of me awakened. I became an entirely different person. I was no longer the “good girl” everyone knew me as. I was Jenna; a sexy, adult entertainment performer. And I loved it!


I went through the first two songs, taking extra care to do a little more teasing towards the ones who were throwing their money onto the stage floor. Honestly; I had no clue what I was doing. I figured I’d do what any woman would do if she were trying to seduce a man.


When the third song came on, I slowly took off my top and revealed my boobs to the crowd. If there were a time where I would have “snapped back into reality” it was then, but it didn’t happen. I was unaware of my near nakedness. Instead; I was liberated. I felt free. I felt alive!


For the first time in my life, I wasn’t obsessed with being the good girl who played by the rules. I wasn’t worried about what others thought of me. I was no longer concerned with the humdrumness of the everyday world. In fact, to sum it up; I was the polar opposite of my vanilla self.


And it was those feelings and others that made me realize I was already hooked. I also learned quite a few things that I have used extensively to further my success in the adult industry; both as a performer and behind the scenes. Some of those are:


  • You don’t have to be “supermodel” gorgeous to attract a tribe of devoted fans.
  • Personality goes a long way.
  • Never judge a book by its cover.
  • Anyone can be a success if they’re willing to put in the work.
  • Standing out is a good thing.
Adult Actress Story
True Life Story

I also learned just how easy (not to mention, fun!) it is to have a man darn near worshipping the ground you walk on once you “push the right buttons”, but that’s a story I’ll share in a future post. 😉


Stay Tuned For Part Two In This Biopic Story!


About the author:  Angel Hardly

I usually refer to myself as a good girl who fell in love with the spicier side of life, but you can call me Angel. 🙂

My journey in the Adult Entertainment Industry began over 17 years ago, the same as most who got into the industry back then; as an exotic dancer. ie; stripper. I did that for a few years until I discovered the world of online adult entertainment.

Since hanging up my stilettos for good; I’ve had the pleasure of being able to delve into the many exciting avenues and aspects of the Adult Entertainment Industry. This includes; webcam modeling and studio owner, phone sex operator, sexting operator, online domination with a specialization in fetish and financial domination. Currently; I am a skilled creator of adult natured content and author of erotic short stories.

Adultsmart welcomes Guest Bloggers to submit 800 word articles with original content about topics relating to sexual lifestyle, health and wellness. If you would like to participate, send an email to with your ideas or an article that you wish to submit. If you publish multiple articles on Adultsmart’s Blog you will become an Adultsmart Expert.

How To Make A Lesbian MOAN!!

Firstly, a quick shout out to Stephen for all the blog ideas! I’ve been trying to come up with something new to write about other than my usual toy reviews.

I know it is every straight man’s dream to be taught how to make a girl orgasm by a lesbian. Seriously though, if this post gets your penis in a twist and you feel less like a man after reading this then honestly you should know I don’t really care and you should probably grow up.

So, my friends get your notepads ready because I am about to give you all the tips and tricks on how to make your queen orgasm without a penis. I know for some men this might come as a shock to you as I have heard a lot of you think that the only way is to stick it in and go… Well, that definitely is not the case.

Before I start though I just need to quickly clarify that I’m not going to sit here and tell you a list of all the stuff I personally like because we all get off to different things. What I will do though is tell you all the things you definitely shouldn’t do…


^^^ Just in case you forgot what a vagina looks like.

Pussy Anatomy
Anatomy Of Vagina

Oral Sex

I understand when people watch porn to teach themselves how to give a good blowjob or handjob. Obviously, a lot of men watch porn and get off to the facial expressions the person’s making while they’re giving head and whatever it is that they’re doing with their hands or mouth. But honestly, it doesn’t matter if I am watching straight or lesbian porn, I usually skip past the scene where the girl is receiving oral because it makes me cringe! Usually, you can see what the persons tongue is doing and the facial expressions that they’re pulling while they’re doing it and most of the time it looks horrible.

^^^ perfect example!

If someone did that to me down there I would probably just laugh. I also know some tv shows and magazines tell you to do the alphabet… DON’T! Unless you really want to look like a clueless twat.

The build-up is key. Tease your girl and take it slow, show her that you’re there because you want to be and that you’re prepared to be there all night if she wants you to be. No one should feel rushed and under pressure when they’re most vulnerable.. Unless it’s a quickly before work or something like that. If you make her feel pressured then you’re most likely not going to have her relaxed enough to orgasm. Plus, when you build up an orgasm it makes it a much stronger and enjoyable one at the end.

Female Orgasms
G-Spot Manipulation


As you can see in the image above the G-spot is located at the top of the vaginal wall and it only takes about half a finger length to find it. Once you have inserted your fingers, do the come here motion to push up against the G-spot. The G-spot will feel like a rough bit of skin whereas the rest of the area feels quite smooth so this should make it a lot easier for you to find it.

On that note, I never want hear someone complaining about dick sizes ever again. It’s not about the size, it is about how it is used. I usually ask the woman who complain that their partners of 20+ years haven’t made them orgasm, if they’ve ever made themselves orgasm and the answer is usually no. I’m sorry but if you don’t even know how to please yourself, then how do expect someone else to?

My favorite part about the beginning of any of my relationships has been the first few months of learning each other’s bodies and teaching each other how we like to be pleased. Listen and observe how your sexual partner is reacting to the different things that you are doing, try and remember the things you did that she liked and damn it if she tells you to go harder, faster or to continue doing that exact thing you’re doing, don’t think it’s a great idea to change it up or stop!!

The learning/teaching stage might be a little awkward at first, but at least you’ll have a laugh together and honestly, this ends up helping you in the long run when it comes to feeling completely comfortable with each other. This will help quiet down that little voice inside your head that likes to scream all your deepest, most painful insecurities at you while you’re trying to cum!

Extra tips

  • Labia stimulation
  • Urethral stimulation
  • Arch her back for easier access to the G-spot
  • G-spot and clitoral stimulation at the same time (the G-spot and clitoris are connected)
  • Use toys during foreplay to add to the fun
  • Make her wet before penetration
  • Don’t bite unless she asks!

One last tip…

A blessing in disguise that most people don’t take advantage of… LUBE! 


Elliana has been working in the Oh Zone stores for the past 2 and a half years now. During this time she has discovered a lot about herself through the different adult products that she has experimented with. Elliana likes to write reviews on the good quality products that she has either purchased for herself or has her eyes on in the stores and she isn’t afraid to tell you if she thinks a toy or a companies ethics are rubbish. She also openly came out as a lesbian at the age of 14 and loves to talk about all the great LGBTQIA events that she has been to in Sydney.

Will You Be My Sex Doll?

About Adult Dolls

The Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres surely have some interesting products for sale. From vibrators that twirl, rotate & double penetrate to penis plugs in all shapes, colours & sizes, there’s something in here for everyone. I love to see customers coming in and discovering toys they may never have been exposed to before. Out of all the gadgets & toys in the store, sex dolls would have to be the products that cause the most reaction from customers. Sometimes they cause laughter & disbelief, other times there’s a genuine curiosity & fascination;

“Do people actually buy these?!”

The answer is: Hell yes!! I get customers buying sex dolls for a gag gift at birthday parties & I also sell them to men who are interested in a lifelike masturbating device. The technology with sex dolls is becoming even more advanced, with so many options available to suit all people & all budgets.


The history of commercially manufactured sex dolls dates back to 1908, where a Sexologist called Iwan Bloch wrote about dolls available for purchase in Paris that secreted oil to replicate vaginal lubrication. They took 3 months to build and cost a small fortune. I’m not sure what they were made from but I can’t imagine it felt as pleasant as the lifelike materials that are available today. The creation of softer plastics and higher quality materials have led to sex dolls that are eerily similar to an actual human being. Sex dolls have come so far over the last 100 years, with so many options to build your own “dream doll” available online. You can choose the body type, breast size & shape, skin, hair & eye colour, hair design (pubic & head), piercings and tattoos on your custom doll and have it delivered to your door.   


There can sometimes be harsh judgements associated with certain sex toys, with products for men, such as sex dolls, probably the most stigmatised. In an article published in The Journal of Positive Sexuality

“Sex dolls-Creepy or Healthy”

(Knox & Huff, 2017), it is noted that many people stigmatize those that buy sex dolls & see the men who use them as unable to attract a sexual partner. I find the male sex toy stigma to be such a double standard as women do not get judged for having a plethora of sex toys tucked away in their bedside table the way men do. I like to point this out to men & women who express judgement for those who have male sex toys as it quickly gets them to question their opinions (and more often than not they usually end up buying one for themselves or their partners shortly after!!). Sex dolls can be a great masturbating toy for those seeking a life like experience so no need to be ashamed.


I have had multiple discussions with people & read valid concerns from those who work in the field of human sexuality about the effects sex dolls have on human relationships. There exists a reasonable fear that the use of sex dolls will ultimately shut men off from real human connections, especially those who are shy or have difficulties with interpersonal relationships to begin with. There are also concerns of further objectification & exploitation of women through the availability and use of sex dolls. It is no wonder the line between reality and fantasy is becoming blurry as there are so many products that are unbelievably lifelike. The birth rates in Japan are the lowest they have been since the 1970’s, with the use of sex dolls and love robots said to be one of the biggest causes for this decline.


I think that it is important for those using sex dolls to understand that a sex doll is a masturbating device & not a substitute for human connection. With such a widespread addiction to technology, I can see how the use of sex dolls can cause alienation & isolation for certain people so feel they need to be used with awareness. I am not saying that men who use a sex doll must also be having sex with an actual human being or must be limiting the use of their sex doll. I just feel it is important for men using them to not get so far into fantasy that they forget to have connections with others. Because at the end of the day, regardless of how advanced sex doll technology becomes, nothing could ever replace the love & compassion that a human being can offer. 


Human Like Doll
Robotic Sex Doll

Sex dolls can be a fun and pleasurable masturbation device that gives a more life-like experience compared to other masturbators.   Before you buy why not check out the sex doll buyers guide.

Meet the newest member to our team of experts. Stephanie Curtis is a sexologist with a huge capacity to care. Involved in spirituality and tantra her articles are professional, articulate and interesting. Enjoy Steph’s writings at the adultsmart sexual wellness and health blog.