Reasons To Use Dating Sites For Adults

Apps For Dating

You’ve probably thought about joining a dating website or two in order to meet someone who will meet your sexual needs and desires. Nowadays, finding a place like this is not that difficult. There are so many of them out there that your head will probably start spinning once you start searching. Tell me, what are you even waiting for? Why don’t start searching right now?

I know one thing that could be stopping you. After hearing a bit about these sites, you are either worried that they don’t work, or you believe that you need to put in an effort into actually taking someone out for multiple dates before you two end up in bed. I understand your concerns but, as you can see at, there are those online places that function in a different way.

There are those night bars and clubs where people all come for the same reason, aren’t there? We have all been there at some point in our lives. You get all ready, you go there, meet a person of interest and you two spend the night together, without ever having exchanged your numbers. If you are one of those who likes to exchange numbers, that’s fine too. Although, I bet you received quite a few fake ones.

That’s all nice and does the trick, but it’s getting a bit tired, isn’t it? Do you really have to go to a place like that whenever you feel like having a mind-blowing, meaningless one night stand? You have to chat those people up at a bar and, at the end of the night, nobody can even guarantee you that you’ll succeed and take someone to bed. But, you have to take that risk.

Or, do you? I want you to imagine a combination of the online dating sites we have mentioned above and these hookup bars and clubs. What do you get? The answer is quite clear. You get online hookup websites, or, as they are also called, dating sites for adults and here are a few reasons why people like them.

No-Strings-Attached Sex

The absolutely biggest reason why people join these sites is because they want to get laid. The best part is, everyone there has that same intention, so there’s no need for you to worry about overstepping the line or doing something similar. If we’re being completely honest, most regular dating sites serve almost the same purpose, but there’s one crucial difference.

When you join a traditional dating site, you will definitely come across those individuals who are looking for a meaningful relationship and that can make “getting laid” a bit difficult. That’s not the case with the places known as sites for adults, because they are specialized in connecting people for sex. If you are one of those romantic souls, you might want to consider a different approach. If, however, you want no-strings-attached sex, then these places are made for you.

It’s All So Easy

There is something else that attracts people to these places. The simplicity of it all makes the whole process rather appealing. When I say that things are easy on these sites, I have two things in mind. For starters, using the services will be easy and then, finding DTF people will be easy too. As I have already mentioned, everyone is there with the same intention – to get laid.

Time Is Not An Obstacle

We are all living in a fast paced world and finding people ready to give us what we need at the exact time we need it can be a bit difficult. Even when you are in a serious relationship, it might be difficult to find the time to go out on a date with the person you are committed to. Now, when you are single, things get even more difficult and especially sex-wise.

It doesn’t have to be that way, though. Time isn’t an obstacle when online dating sites for adults are in question. You can get horny in the middle of the night, find someone on a website like this in no time and schedule a sex-date for the very next day. Time will only be an excuse and definitely not a real obstacle.

Hookup vs Dating: What is the Difference?

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In the modern world, there are two basic ways to go about having sex. One way is the tried and true method of dating. You get together with someone and start a relationship with them. You have to dedicate yourselves and be monogamous. At least that’s the long term dating way of doing it. There’s also the short term dating way that’s always an option. The next big way is simply by hooking up. It’s what a whole lot of people prefer. You seem to get it all with this option. You meet up with someone, have sex, then you just go your separate ways. It’s as easy and simple as that.

There’s a lot more to is, though. There are hundreds of different variables that can affect your ultimate decision on how you get yourself laid. Realistically, there’s no right answer. It’s just about what’s right for you. You also need to keep in mind that what’s right for you today may not be right for you tomorrow. That can have huge consequences down the line. So, what are all these details? We spoke with hookup expert Tony Parker from Kinky Hookup to understand some of the fundamental differences between a long-term relationship and short-term sexual encounters and here’s what he had to say on the subject.

A hook up should never last more than a night

To get to the real meat of what a hookup is, we’ll have to look at the definition. Informally, it’s “An instance of people meeting, communicating, or cooperating.” The meeting part is simple. You’re obviously getting together with someone. The cooperating part comes next. That’s when you both work together to make each other orgasm. It’s the sex part of the hookup. The biggest thing to look at is the word “instance”. It says right there that it’s only a moment in time. You’re hooking up for a night, not a lifetime. If you have someone that you sleep with, but not date, then you have a fuck buddy. That’s something completely different that would take a whole other conversation to fully understand. If you want to hook up, it has to be for a single night. That’s the whole concept behind it and it’s what keeps a lot of people from trying it. There are far too many Hollywood movies that make you believe you’ll develop feelings for the other person and have your heart broken. That’s just not how it works.

Hookups are fun and invigorating

Human beings are designed to like attention. We all want to be the best at everything and we need the adulation for it. Just look at a politician or movie star. They’re constantly forcing themselves into issues that they barely understand and have no chance of actually contributing to. It’s their egos making them do it and we all have them. There’s nothing more life affirming than believing that the people around you want to have sex with you. It gives you a rush of dopamine that nothing else can compare to. That’s why hooking up is so much fun. It makes us feel sexy and desirable. If we can go out and have sex with a stranger, then we must be extremely desirable. Why else would the other person want to have sex with us?

Hooking up as a fetish

Of course, the act of hooking up can be worth a whole lot more to certain people. These are the men and women who fetishize it. The best part about hooking up for them is the sex with strangers. Not knowing the person you’re being intimate with is a thrill. It’s what really turns them on. Some even seek out hook up partners who agree to share as little information about themselves as possible. Other still will willingly blindfold themselves and let the stranger take them anyway they want. They’ll never know what they look like or who they are. That’s what they like and desire about it. Hooking up as a fetish is growing by the day and more and more people are willing to try it out. Even if they never do it again, they’ll always have this one experience to look back on.

Long term dating

So what about long term dating? Well, simply put, you’re dedicating yourself to one other person in a relationship that’s about much more than sex. At the beginning of the relationship, you’re sharing memories and moments both in and out of the bedroom. You’re traveling and learning together while maintaining a sexual relationship at the end of it. As the relationship grows, you share more and more. You and your significant other share lives, bills, homes and sex. It’s the basis for most of western civilization and the main goal of most people on the planet. Men and women strive to get married and have families. Everything else they do is in service to it. It’s what their lives are based on and always will be. It’s a fine thought, but often a struggle for human beings. It turns out we were never really meant to be monogamous for our entire lives.

Short term dating

So we make our way to short term dating. This is a mix of the two concepts. With short term dating, you’re sharing your lives with each other, but not forever. The easiest example of this is with high school or college students. Men and women will date, but once their time in school ends, so does the relationship. They move on to a new one until that one expires. It fulfills our need for companionship, as well as out primal need to fuck as many people as possible in our lifetimes.

Things can change

People who seek out long term relationships often find themselves in the same bad position. After spending so much of your life with someone, you begin to feel that you’re missing out. Maybe there’s someone better for you out there. Maybe the sex can be hotter. These men and women often turn to hookups outside of their relationships and behind their partner’s backs. It can seem unpalatable, but it’s a fact of life. Anyone seeking a hookup can always find one if they look hard enough.

The Dating Game!

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Its a tough old world out there being in the dating game. Us singles crew really do not get it easy out there. I am 26 years old and everyone always say to me “Awww do not worry, you will find someone good one day”, “You are only young stop worrying, have fun”.
It is safe to say that I have had every strange, unique and weird characters there is out there that have giving me some memorable situations to be in. No one can shock me now with dating with my experiences. I feel like everything that could go wrong i have definitely witnessed it all! But theirs no point in giving up or feeling sorry for yourself. You just got to dust yourself down and get yourself back out there. Mr right is waiting for me I just have to keep looking and kiss a few frogs to find him!
Look, working in an adult llifestyle center has it’s perks but it also open you up to a whole new world of ideas.
I thought i would share a couple of my memorable dates that have had happen to me to try show people that they are not the only ones out there with horror dating stories and to not get so put off as its memories and stories to tell the grand children one day and lets be serious we can all look back and have a good giggle about them.
The lovely old tinder and plenty of fish has a lot to answer for the majority of my top 6 worst dates. They have let me meet up with a lot of colourful characters. Surprisingly the only thing that has not happened to me yet is being stood up but am sure with my luck i have probably jinks my next date. As much as i have had some bad dates it has also opened up some doors to some lovely guys that just didn’t work for me but i have had some lovely conversations and company for the night.
Lets start back to my first ever POF date. It was an Irish man, handsome enough big fella with good banter to chat away to. We had a lovely lunch and left with a cuddle which was nice and simple for a first meeting. I never got much of a spark but thought lets not knock it straight away and maybe try to have a second date before cutting him off. Few days after he messaged me to tell me he was moving to my area, which before our date he had never even heard of or stepped foot in the area i lived. He also at that moment lived around 45 minutes away from me. So yeah was safe to say he started to get a little creepy after that. That weekend i had a girls night out in the city. He continued to harass my phone with constant messages on what i was doing, where i was going. After the 15th message i nicely asked him to leave me alone as i was on a night out and wanted to enjoy it. I had a fun night until 4 am in the morning when i was on the late night bus home and who do i find sitting in the front of the bus. Yep my new stalker!!! After that i blocked him on everything i could and luckily have never bumped into him again!
I went on one date with this next guy. He seem decent enough, not sleazy just a normal john doe. We went to put put indoor golf to just have a bit of fun. I managed to win both games and he went into a massive mood because i had beat him. When he finally got rid of his pouted lip we went for a frozen yogurt. He then decided to sit there and tell me his beliefs and what he didn’t think was right with this country. Now baring in mind I have only lived in Australia for 3 years at this point as i am from over seas. He also told me that his father was born in New Zealand, his mother was Dutch and his grandmother was English/German back ground. So he believed that cultures and countries should not be mixed together and it was wrong. Now I am sitting thinking is this dude for real!! Do not get me wrong am very laid back on peoples beliefs and opinions being their own.   I would never knock anyone on that but i couldn’t understand why he would bother dating me as i wasn’t born in this country and with his background being all mixed i just could not understand him at all. Another blocked and deleted after the first date.
I was starting to get a little bored with meeting the same people so thought i would get out of my comfort zone and start chatting with different people. This lead me to start chatting with an Italian guy. He had a bit of broken English when he typed but i thought ok lets see how this will go. He wanted to make the effort by getting an hour train to meet me so i thought that was a massive effort he was making. I started to chat away to him and he just had no clue what i was saying as i have a very strong accent. That meant any joke i made he just had no idea why i was laughing. It just turned out to be a very dull and awkward date unfortunately. We went to lunch and had a nice meal then went for a little walk about. Now you know people say Italians can eat, well i had never realised this until i meet him. He had ordered two plates on our lunch date and then after the walk he said he was still starving, Really have no clue how they were both massive plates. We managed to find a nearby pub to have a few drinks before he left.  He decided to ordered a family size bucket of chicken wings and totally demolished it in a couple of minutes. He was a total grub and had the sauce half way up his face. It made me want to enter him into eating competitions after watching that. We finally called it a day and were saying our goodbyes when he decided to go in like an octopus and try tongue my face. I kind of panic and put my hand up to my mouth and went “STOPPPP! I don’t kiss on first dates”. Poor guy looked mortified but it was just so inappropriate and bad timing in front of so many people. Guess he couldn’t tell the vibes that i was just not feeling it.
The thing that annoys me the most about online dating is that a few days can go past that your chatting away to someone and think yeah this is going quiet well then boom they just stop talking. Just nothing! Whats with that. Always wondered was it something i said or do they just get bored and move onto another person.
The next guy wasn’t an online man. This one i actually i got to meet in person at a club and he seem really keen to take me out on a date. I had only been here a couple of months and hadn’t really dated much before so thought it would be a great way to just get out and about. He was a little bit older than me so that was a bit intimating to start with. He also had to cancel my first date as he had fell off a roof and broke his arm. I thought this was just a crappy excuse until he set another date up and picked me up with his arm all wrapped up and in the sling. The nervous got the better of me for this date and made me loose my appetite. We went to order and he decided to order every starter i think was possible from the menu even though i had told him about five times already i wasn’t hungry and wouldn’t be able to eat any of it. The starters arrived and he spent 10 minutes trying to force me to eat something which made the date very uncomfortable. Started to feel bit strange like he was my father giving me into trouble for not eating my vegetables. We then got round to ordering our main meals. Now with my chat before i had told him i can’t stand fish, anything about it makes me feel sick and put off. So have a guess what he decided to order for his dinner….. Salmon!! Was safe to say at that moment there wasn’t going to be a goodbye kiss coming anywhere near me.
Had a few guys with fetishes i just couldn’t handle. Now each to your own, like what you like. But when you cant stand anything about feet, someone having a foot fetish just isn’t going to work for me. I had been talking to this guy for about a week but still hadn’t meet up yet thank god. He had been open about his foot fetish and yeah that should of been a red card for me but i explained to him that feet wasn’t ever going to be my thing. He rang me up one day and started to ask me about what would happen if i drove over his little small convertible car with a big 4×4 truck. I said well obviously your would be crushed. His reply was and this was with a very panting voice “Awwww yeah you would wouldn’t you”. It started to click that he also had a squashing fetish and i would say he was actually masturbating over the other side of the phone while i was answering back. Yep another one to be blocked and never to reply to again.
I could tell you so many more disappointing dates that have happened to you but don’t want to scare you off dating too much. Sometimes it can get hard and feel a little like a let down but each male has opened my eyes up to what i am looking for in a partner and what i am not. Not to mention gave all my friends some giggles along the way. Its all about learning to just relax and not take it too serious. Have some fun and explore whats out there. It also gave me so much more confidence with dating and brought me out my shell.
And if in doubt – don’t.  It may be better to stay at home and just play with some of your sex toys.

BDSM Dating 101: What to Look for in a Master

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A successful BDSM relationship truly depends on the people involved. Though your attention is focused on sexual activities, you should focus on finding the right partner and also being a good partner. And that’s easier said than done. If you’re interested in exploring master online dating, then you should know what to look for in a master. That way, you’ll choose a partner who will provide you with a safe and fun S&M experience. Here are eight qualities to look for when finding a master.


They focus on aftercare

Many people make the mistake of assuming the most important part of an S&M relationship are the sessions themselves. That’s not true. The most important part of an S&M relationship, aside from communication, is aftercare. These sessions take a physical and emotional toll on both master and slave; aftercare is crucial to process the experience and wind down. A good master is someone who values aftercare and sees the importance in it. If a master doesn’t appreciate or invest in aftercare, they’re not concerned about the emotional and mental health of either person.



Without honesty, your S&M relationship won’t last. In any relationship, honesty is a must. Your master needs to be completely honest and open with you and vice versa. Nothing should be hidden from you; you both need to be open books. He should be able to discuss his previous relationships and answer any questions you have. If he’s hiding information or blaming the failings of his past relationships on his exes, that’s a huge red flag. Before anything, honesty needs to be a foundation in your relationship.


They have experience with S&M

Of course, you may meet a master that’s relatively new in the community, and that doesn’t mean they’re going to be bad. But this does mean they lack experience. And if you’re new in the community, it’s always a good idea to start off with someone who has some experience under their belt and a positive reputation. With an experienced master, you’ll be able to learn the rules and techniques that new masters may not know.


There’s vanilla chemistry

If you want to have a good S&M relationship, there needs to be basic chemistry between you two. If you’re not attracted to them as a person, then how can you allow them to be your master? He also needs to like you as well. You don’t need to be in love with each other, but you need to like each other. You’re entering a very intense dynamic, and if you’re not interested in them as a person, it will be a problem.


They have limits

If a master tells you they don’t have a safeword or they don’t have any personal boundaries, run. Everyone in BDSM needs to have personal boundaries and limitations. BDSM isn’t the wild west where you can do whatever you want to someone else. This doesn’t mean the boundaries are static; with time they can change. However, everyone has their limits. A good master understands this and respects their slaves physical and emotional boundaries.


They’re interested in self-development

In BDSM relationships, both people need to be interested in self-development. That’s the only way you can progress and become a better slave/master. A good master is interested in self-development and is constantly working on themselves. He wants to learn from his mistakes and be the best master possible for his slave. That is the type of master you want, someone who wants to be the best they can be for the relationship.


You share the same life pattern

Having chemistry is essential, but you need more than that for a successful S&M relationship. You and your master also need to have the same lifestyle. If he’s working nights and you’re working days, there’s a conflicting schedule. If he’s very social, but you’re more of a homebody, that could become a problem. Finding a master with a similar lifestyle will make things easier to manage. Considering how everyone’s schedule is very busy today, this is more important than you think.


They have empathy

Your master needs to be good at reading and understanding you. With time, your master should be able to predict your responses to specific acts. Of course, communication is an essential element of empathy. They not only should understand and sense how you feel, but they need to communicate these thoughts with you. If you’re sensing a master lacks empathy, run. If they lack empathy, they could cause physical and emotional harm to you.


Finding a master isn’t hard, but you want to find the right master for you. Take your time and find a master who has these qualities. It may take some time, but patience pays off.


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5 Things You Can Learn From Dating a Dominatrix

Over the past couple of years, BDSM has become widely spoken of. Though no one wants to admit it, its sudden popularity can be attributed to Fifty Shades of Grey. Aside from the cringe-worthy script, the movie gave people a better idea of what BDSM is. As a result, dominatrix dating is less of a taboo than ever. People are now more open to exploring their sexuality and moving outside of their comfort zones, which is great. Not only are they sexually satisfied, but they’re also learning valuable lessons about life and sex itself.


But, even though BDSM is dropping its taboo label, when we look at the dominatrix/submissive relationship, most of us have preconceived notions of it. We think the dominatrix is there to punish the submissive, controlling their every move. However, there’s more to the relationship than what you’ve been told. In fact, there are some insightful relationship lessons you can learn from dating a dominatrix.


The meaning of sex is subjective

For centuries, sex was only seen as vaginal intercourse with someone you’re committed to. If you were married, you’d have sex. There wasn’t anything more to it. However, today, sex is much more subjective. It isn’t good or bad; it’s a natural act everyone does. Whether you choose to have sex with someone in a non-committed relationship or not, its meaning is different for everyone. You decide what sex is for you and what it means to you. If you have a foot fetish, like being smacked in the face, or have wax poured on your back, if it’s sexually satisfying, it’s sex.


Intimacy is more mental than anything

Many people who seek a dominatrix are looking for someone to share their kinky experience. But when it comes to our sexual desires, it’s more than just the physical. When you date a dominatrix, you soon realize there’s more to it than just being kinky. This is the mistake many people make when engaging with a dominatrix for the first time. Of course, it leaves them disappointed.

But when it comes to intimacy, you’re learning how to communicate your deepest sexual desires and accepting who you are. No one wants to run the risk of being rejected or laughed at, but a dominatrix allows you to be yourself and let your guard down in a safe space. If you want intimacy, you’ll need to be with someone who doesn’t judge you for your sexual fantasies. Or better yet, someone who pushes you to explore and experiment with them.


Sessions can be therapeutic

From the outside, the submissive is seen as someone who requests different forms of punishment. But, it’s much deeper than that. Sessions with a sub and domme can be very intimate and emotionally therapeutic. Typically, subs and dommesdevelop trust between each other over time,which allows for a deeper and more meaningful experience. This can be applied to any relationship. Trust takes time to grow; it’s not something that happens overnight. But once there is trust between two people, the sex can only get better.


Not all subs are the same

Even though Fifty Shades of Grey brought the spotlight onto BDSM, it certainly did it using all the wrong cliches. Sub men are usually stereotyped as being corporate CEOs who need a way to destress from their alpha role. But in reality, subs come from a wide range of economic backgrounds, ethnicities, and religions. In other words, anyone can be submissive; there are no stereotypes when it comes to sexual desires. When it comes to your sexual desires, it doesn’t matter who you are. You’re allowed to have sexual needs, regardless of what they are.


Dommes have boundaries

Before dating a domme, people assume there are no boundaries. But just because they have the title of a domme, doesn’t mean they’ll do anything. Whether you’re dating a domme or not, all relationships require healthy boundaries of what you’re comfortable doing. For example, some dommes will not allow wrestling, roman showers, or brown showers. It’s not that these sexual acts are wrong, but everyone has their personal preferences whether you’re a domme or not.


Sex has no age limit

When we think about sex, we rarely think about what will happen when we become old. We assume that after a certain age, you stop having sex. There’s a saying, “age is just a number,” and it’s true. A dominatrix has subs ranging from young to old. The need to play doesn’t disappear when you hit fifty or sixty-years-old. When it comes to sex, age doesn’t play a part in it. The human spirit does.

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