Technical Intimacy

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We have possibly never been more cut off from the rest of the world than we are now and many of are toying with technical intimacy. This is a bold statement that I make, of course we have! Before we had ships and planes. Because now- we have technology.

Technology gives us the power of moving countries, time and space in a matter of moments. It gives us the power of being able to continue to interact with loved ones whether it is from our own homes to theirs in the same state, or overseas. And during this pandemic that counts for A LOT.

But do you know what else technology has radicalised for us during this “unprecedented” time? Insanely safe, zero proximity sex.

Yes. I did say that. And yes, that baffles the mind. But while we have been on lock down, the business behind industries such as interactive pornography, camgirls, onlyfans and online adult toy shopping have boomed! In fact there has been a rise, and why wouldn’t there be? Even beloved places of teaching “Studio Kink”  took to the internet to assist with keeping kinksters educated during the pandemic in their chosen tutelage of Shibari.

Technical Intimacy

Although interactive sex is only the beginning. Combine cam girling or interactive porn with products such as Kiroo and the experience is taken to the next level. If you haven’t heard of Kiroo, basically you can feel everything that is happening on one end of the toy (for example the Pearl – an innovative straight vibe) and indulge in it in real time on the other toy (in this case, the Onyx – an innovative masturbator)

Toys like these are fantastic for long distance relationships, bringing couples closer and being able to feel like they are having wonderfully hot and intimate moments as close together as they are apart no matter where they are in the world.

We Vibe is another company that boasts a long luxurious line of app controlled toys that are able to be controlled from around the globe no matter where you are provided you have a signal. Bringing you closer to your loved ones, which I am sure we can all agree is something we are more than thankful for during isolation.

Lovense

But then a new challenger arrived, Lovense.

Lovense, similarly had a luxurious line of gorgeous toys that were app controlled same as we vibe. They also had toys that simulated the feel of sex in real time even when you were apart like the Kiroo.

But where the Lovense differed to all those before it is it’s app features.

Lovense, at the time of writing this is one of the only apps that provides the option for people to use a “group play” function during play. Yep – a group function. This enables users of the lovense app to have up to 100 people in a “room” at a time, sharing vibrations and altogether having a good time.

Yes, that’s amazing.

I have heard many people come in and say, “oh wow, yeah an app controlled toy sounds great if you had someone who you could share it with.”

I get it, we are in a period of life where it is harder to find people right now, we have restrictions, and even when the restrictions are lessened, are we always willing to risk bodily fluid exchanges with strangers? It’s a fine line. SO meeting someone new can put a bit of a damper on things.

Lovense has that covered too. On their website Lovense has chat rooms where you can talk to others and join parties under pseudonyms or your lovense account and join large parties or set up some one on one vibe time. But, yes, be careful of bots. They are usually the ones with the repetitive bad sentence structure and as always, never EVER give away personal information or financial information online. Safe cyber play friends.

These functions are so popular that Lovense has just finished hosting their 3rd successful International Digital Orgy! On May 22nd at Midnight Eastern Time for 24hrs registered participants who were 18years or older could log into their Lovense account and share in the vibes that were sent through any use of the hashtag #lovense and #lovenseorgy as well as 15 others that were announced on the day. Completely anonymous, no faces shown just waves of pleasure, tuning in when you could. I mean – a whole 24 hours? That would be a marathon.

This was a wonderful movement to not only bring people together safely during isolation but also a unique way to celebrate Maturbation in May. If you were lucky enough to participate in this year’s Lovense Orgy let us know how you liked it, if you’d like to try next year, stock up on Lovense toys before next year and get some practice in.  It could be the future of sex.

So if you’re looking for something a little new, looking for a little play, without the physical proximity, why not try one of our long distance toys and pop on an anonymous forum? Talk to our wonderful sales consultants and educators to find the best fit and type of play for you and have a look at Wevibe, Kiroo and Lovense. Safely of course. Maybe we should be adding Long distance toy hookups to our online profiles.

At your Service,

Tiffany

OhZone Sales Consultant, Educator and Online Playmate

Attending a Munch (Kinky social gathering in a Vanilla setting)

Your first munch – Attending A Munch

 

For those who have ever wondered or wanted to know more about the Sydney scene, but were a little nervous to start off, I get it. It can be a little daunting and overwhelming. You have flirted with the idea, seen the pictures, heard the stories, browsed the aisles and sections at OhZone or on Adultsmart and talked shop with our lovely sales assistants. You may even have an account on Fetlife.

 

So perhaps the next step is attending a Munch. Whether you go with a friend or go on your own is up to you. If you have never been before, click attending on Fetlife or Facebook and maybe shoot the organiser a quick message, introducing yourself and saying that this is your first munch.

 

So what is a munch?

 

A munch is a gathering of kinky people in a very open, very vanilla setting without the pressure of play, or BDSM. It usually takes place in bars, pubs or venues such as restaurants. People dress in everyday attire that they feel comfortable and can attend for the whole event, for a couple of hours, or for a small amount of time just to see what it’s like.

 

The organisers usually post rules for the events on the event pages but will adhere to the basics of; consent is key, any untoward behaviour will be asked to leave, this is a safe space, this is an open and diverse space where everyone is welcome.

 

Some Munches will be more specific, Gamer Munches (for kinksters who also enjoy tabletop games), Under 35 munches (for kinksters who are 35 years and under), Newbie Munches (for Kinkster who are generally new to the scene etc.)

 

Though it has been a while since I regularly used to attend. I still know of Munches to be a wondrous space for those starting out, and those who have been around the scene for a bit longer.

 

What to expect:

 

After letting the organiser know that you will be attending, they will probably let you know that you are most welcome and if you have any questions to let them know. They are wonderful and friendly humans, that’s why they have taken it upon themselves to organise these events. Many of them will also have the option that if you are new and have never been to a munch before and are nervous about coming in by yourself that you can message them and they will walk you in and make some introductions. This can be quite wonderful for those who are easily overwhelmed by the idea of going in alone but would really like to attend.

 

Most of the time, munches are located somewhere where there is a bar, so fix yourself a drink, whether it is made of liquid courage or sparkling water and take in your surroundings. There are bound to be many faces there. If you don’t feel like talking, you are within your rights to say, I’m not ready to talk yet. Or I’m just easing in. It will help to tell people that this is your first munch.

 

If you feel more comfortable sitting in one spot, do so. People will probably come up to you and ask if they can sit with you and say hi. Or you might try saying hi to a few new faces yourself. Ask people if they have been to munches before. You don’t need to talk about your kinks or preferences, you can talk about what you do for work, or if you do want, you can talk about how you or the people you are chatting with got into kink. If someone says, I’m not comfortable, respect that, if someone asks you something and you aren’t comfortable, say so. This is a safe space.

 

These are not hunting grounds. They are definitely not intended to be so. Occasionally some people may attend with the notion that that’s what they are, or that it will be easier to find a partner, a one night stand or a hookup. But these are not what these events are intended as. They are to make friends, to network, to find like minded people and to give you the ability to feel included and feel like you are accepted in all your wondrous preferences, shapes, forms. A place for you to feel like you belong, for you to feel that you can become who you are.

 

Judgment free.

 

Ask our Wonderful Sales Staff if they know of any munches in the nearby areas or in Sydney that you can explore.

 

At your Service,

 

Tiffany,

Oh Zone Sales Consultant, Educator, Friend of Munches.

Touch Starved

The pandemic has created a very strange time for many of us and has changed the way that we interact with people to great lengths. Not only that, but many of us now lead much more reserved life’s and are experiencing

Skin Hunger.

 

Yep, it’s a thing.

 

Skin hunger, or touch starvation comes from the deprivation of physical contact. With the pandemic and the regulations it’s any wonder that many of the world’s population is currently suffering through this.

 

So what is it?

 

Skin hunger is not just intimate touch. It’s any touch. Any physical touch. Shaking hands, a pat on the back, a hug, a kiss on the cheek. Hell, being squished in Sydney trains during peak hour. It all contributes. All of these contribute to the production of oxytocin which is the superfighting hormone Oxytocin which if you really want to simplify it, is the arch nemesis to Cortisol, which in large quantities is the stress hormone.

 

You’re probably thinking right about now, that your cortisol levels have probably increased this last year. You would probably be right. Not only that, but the lack of touch has also been shown to contribute to the rise in cortisol. In past studies in offices, research found that after shaking hands, staff felt happier or more at peace than those who routinely did not engage in shaking hands.

 

Many people interpret Skin hunger as wanting sex, but thi might not be the case, it might just be the need for physical contact. Any physical contact. As Humans we are hardwired to seek touch. In fact our bodies, our senses are primarily made up of “touch” with our skin being our largest organ, making up a large portion of our senses.

 

So yes, while we are stuck at home, or not able to go around touching as many people as we did before, how do we combat our need for physical touch and closeness? I get it, it’s hard, and nothing is going to beat the real thing. I understand. I am not suggesting that we say screw the system and go around touching. That would be ludicrous.

 

Instead, what I have is several self touch techniques that are here to help promote your oxytocin levels, that will stimulate your physical touch reserves and help with Touch Hunger. It is important to note that with these, it is very very very important to couple this with keeping in touch with friends and family, phone calls, texts, skype, video call to keep social. We need to feed our social beasties as well for this to work long term.

 

You would be surprised how often we neglect our own bodies and forget to enjoy ourselves and be mindful of the way that we touch, feel and stimulate our own senses.

 

Some simple ways to promote self touch:

 

Run a warm bath – Add bath salts or oil.

Wrap yourself in heavy blankets or pillows. The pressure of these will stimulate the receptors that will trigger the oxytocin as a by-product of the vagus nerve.

 

Massage Techniques for Self touch

Using a rubber ball, place the ball beneath the arch of your foot either sitting or standing. Applying pressure (how hard is up to you) roll the ball up and down your foot and breathe deeply, activating the vagus nerve.

 

Face One hand (B) palm up. Using the other hand (A), clasp around the forearm of your other arm (B)  and squeeze ever so gently. Now turn Arm B so that your palm faces the sky then the ground. Repeat for 5. You should feel a warm tightening sensation in your muscles. Try moving your Hand (A) further up or down your forearm of (B). Switch arms and repeat.

 

Placing one arm bent behind in a fist in the centre of your back, pull your elbow back to feel a stretch across your chest, shoulder and upper arm. Close your eyes and breathe. Using your other hand, rub up and down the bent arm, continue to rub, moving further and further along your shoulder and chest. Repeat this exercise on the other side.

 

Sitting down, take both your hands and start near your ears and temples, place your thumbs under the lobes of your ears and your fingers from the top of your ears along your temple. Move your hands back and forth across your scalp with varied pressure.

 

Use oils and creams to lubricate your skin as you run your fingers along your body in long slow movements. This will activate your nervous system and help your body to connect. Not feeling it? That’s perfectly normal, as weird as it may seem. Closing your eyes, taking away your sight (one of your other senses) will help you to connect with your body and stimulate that oxytocin that your body needs. Don’t believe me? Try it. Even if it is just a little, simply rubbing your hand feels different when you close your eyes.

 

Masturbate

Masturbating is a wonderful way to get closer to yourself, not to fill a hole, but rather to get in touch with yourself and your desires. Being mindful of masturbation can be very rewarding and fulfilling. Try a new position you have never tried before. Use a toy you haven’t thought to use. Use edging and denial, bring yourself close to climax and stop. Tease yourself and see how many times you can make it to the edge. Can you make it to ten? Try warming or cooling lubricant or arousal oils. And who said libido enhancers have to be used only with company?

 

BDSM – Solo

BDSM doesn’t need to be something that is sacrificed during a pandemic. It just means that we need to get creative. We have touched on denying yourself orgasms. Wear a cock cage, enjoy that feeling of chastity, your hands exploring your body over the device. This feeling will also increase your oxytocin levels which will help your feeling of Touch Starvation.

 

Have you tried wax play? Now might be the time. It’s a wonderful sensation play perfect for solo adventurers. Start with massage candles and their low low burning temperatures before moving onto the sweet thick trails of the warm then hot wax.

 

Nipple clamps, clamps, cupping and suction have always had the ability to be lovingly used solo and leave loving little marks

 

Vampire mits and paddles can also administer perfect little kisses for your attention.

 

Impact play can be self-inflicted at varying degrees as well for the solo masochist. It is not the same, I am aware, it is not supposed to be the same, and we are not condoning nor suggesting this as an exercise as self harm, but merely as another form of self touch. Think of it as a slightly more extreme massage such as a gentle whack with a paddle to the thigh.

 

Bondage is a little harder solo. Cuffing yourself can be a little dangerous so we do not condone it safely. Rope play can be stimulating for the sense however, tying hip harnesses or futomomos provided that you have safety shears close at hand. These ties will give you the pressure as well as the delight and sensory feel that may appease in symptoms of Touch Starvation. There are some wonderful online tutorials for simple self-ties to try like through Rory’s Brainworks or Studio Kink’s online courses.

 

Craving touch and closeness is not something new, nor is it something that we should be ashamed of. It is indeed a very human trait. That want for sex you may be craving may in fact be personal closeness and it is important to recognise this during this strange time where it may be harder to go out and meet new people.

Visit our Stores in Ohzone Caringbah, Ohzone Penrith and Adultsmart Kogarah for other tips and toys to add to your self pleasure routine to better know your body and kickstart your system’s touch reserves.

 

As always, At your Service,

Tiffany

Oh Zone Sales Consultant, Educator and Touch aware.

Boosting Sexual Satisfaction In Couples

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5 Sure Fire Ways To Boost Sexual Satisfaction

The pandemic changed our lives completely, especially our sexual practices. While some of us staying with our partners got too much time for action, others staying without them missed all of it. And unfortunately, following the safety guidelines, there is no way even to get sexual satisfaction from the best hookup sites. However, irrespective of the current relationship status, gender, and even age the sexual satisfaction remains the topmost concern for most people. Hence, a discussion about the subject grabs attention without any effort. So let us dig in deep into the wetlands and find out the secrets of sexual satisfaction and relationship happiness with the following tips:

Tip 1: Foreplay Has More Power Than You Believe For Sexual Satisfaction

Sexual satisfaction doesn’t come from sex alone. It is the build-up of arousal that makes the release so pleasurable. So, instead of doing it like a duty, enjoy the process the way you did initially in a relationship.

For example- Watching romantic movies with intimate scenes in dim lighting can set the mood well.

Tip 2: Experiment For Sexual Satisfaction

If you keep eating your favorite dish every day all day, it becomes boring. Experimentation helps with excitement in bed and boosts sexual activity in couples for longer years. Not all experimentation will be satisfying, but you might some that give you more sexual satisfaction than others. It also stops sex from becoming a routine activity.

For example- Try new positions, role-plays, toys, etc.

Tip 3: Communicate For Sexual Satisfaction

Another most essential step we often neglect in a relationship is talking about sex. Many couples find it uncomfortable and even unnecessary to discuss their likes and dislikes. It can change the experience, increase the comfort level & trust in a relationship. While it is easier to satisfy a man, men face problems understanding how to know if a lady is sexually satisfied.

How To know If A Woman Is Sexually Satisfied?

Sexual satisfaction is best determined by facial expressions and responsive actions. If your moves and actions arouse your partner, then they will respond with their touch and eagerness for your body. Women try to express their satisfaction with post-sex cuddles, hip movements showing interest in round two, kisses, moans (gibberish statements lost in the air).

Tip 4: Find the Turn Offs For Sexual Satisfaction

As individuals, we always think of activities that ensure sexual satisfaction for the partner and us. But how many times do we talk about the turn-offs? Instead of avoiding doing something stating you are not in the mood, talking it out helps. Your turn-off could be a particular action, body hair, odor, or anything else. Tell your partner and ask them about theirs. It supports both of you to address the issues and feel more wanted. Also, in the case of actions, you can easily opt for other alternatives and ensure sexual satisfaction to your partner without being unsatisfied yourself.

For example- toys and hands can replace oral pleasure.

Tip 5: Invest In the Relationship for Sexual Satisfaction

Sex is not just about physical attachment. The need for touch comes from the mental requirement of being close to your partner. Love is the essence of sexual satisfaction; hence, putting efforts to show love to your partner outside the bed can show beautiful results on the bed. Leaving something for your partner’s pleasure or doing something specifically for their liking can have a more profound effect on your partner.

For example, a massage, a small gift, cooking their favorite food, deleting the number of someones your partner doesn’t like.

Research on sexual satisfaction has found that mental health affects the relationship and pleasure. Hence, doing activities like yoga and meditation can help improve the mental health of couples and, in turn, increase sexual satisfaction. What do you think is missing in your relationship that is hindering your desired pleasure? Comment below!

Author’s bio:  

Miranda Davis is a freelance writer in the relation and psychology area. Miranda is interested in such topics as building healthy relationships between people, love/sex compatibility, and how to find the right balance in life in general. She is currently doing specific research on the topic. Miranda loves cooking and long-distance walking.

Tips For Going To A Sex Party Event For The First Time

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Are you thinking about going to a sex party event? Sex parties, or similar events, are becoming increasingly popular. The capital of Great Britain, London, is said to have one of the best sex party scenes in Europe. Not only are the parties sophisticated, but they are well organized. Organization is really important when it comes to staying safe.

If you have not been to a sex party event before, here are a few tips which you will find handy.

Contact The Organizers

Most quality sex party events will have a responsible organization behind them. It is important to make sure that other party goers are vetted and checked out. After all, you don’t want to end up at a sex party where safe sex is not practised.

Make sure that condoms are available at the party. It may sound like a good idea to bring your own, but how can you really trust the quality of the condom? That is why you want to make sure the organizers provide guests with brand name condoms.

Are cameras allowed? That is the other question that you should ask. People are quick to take advantage. You don’t want to end up finding yourself plastered all over social media in a compromising position.

Is It Your Kind Of Fun?

Not all of us like to play the same way at sex parties. For instance, if you are not into BDSM, going to a party which is just for BDSM followers, is not going to be for you. Once again, it is important to ask before hand.

There are parties that focus on one fetish such as BDSM or role play. Other sex party events may have been divided into rooms or scenarios, where you can enjoy a variety of adult fun.

Should I Bring A Friend?

If you have a like-minded friend, it is a good idea to bring him or her. Not very many of us have friends that we can take to sex party events.

The good news is that sex party regulars are a friendly crowd. It will not take you long to find a friend or two. As a matter of fact, most people who go to sex parties are regulars and enjoy meeting up with each other. It is not easy to recruit for sex party events. That is why the crowds that go, are nice to each other.

Are Sex Parties Legal?

Most sex parties are legal, but it is important to know a little bit about local laws. You don’t want to end up getting arrested for something which is not a legal activity in your state or country.

In some countries such as Holland, sex parties are registered. The Dutch have always been liberal minded when it comes to sex and adult pleasure. It is not a bad idea because Holland has very few problems with sex parties getting out of control.

What Is The Difference Between Sex Parties And Swinging?

When compared to swinging, a sex party event is normally less formal. If you are into swinging, swapping partners or having sex with different people, you are often a member of a club. When you want to join a swinger’s club, you would normally have to apply to the club secretary.

Once he or she has improved your application, and you have paid a member’s fee, you can go to the swinger’s club when you are in the mood. You will still have to pay for drinks, but in general, your membership fee covers the cost of the location.

A sex party event is normally paid per event. Going to sex party events can easily work out more expensive than swinging. The upside is that sex parties are often set in a better location and drinks are included in the ticket price.

A sex party event is a great way to try adult fun for a beginner. You will soon get to know people and learn how to let go. If you find that it is not for you, all you have to do is to walk away. It is very unlikely that other party goers will be offended.

Above all, take things slow and don’t rush into things. Also, don’t forget that safe sex really matters and you should always practice safe sex.