How Chocolate Fights Libido Loss

Chocolate on Model

Easter is a time for celebration and chocolate. The history of Easter and its association with chocolate is a varied history depending on the source. The most commonly accepted histories are that the Egg has for thousands of years, dating back to the Ancient Egyptians, been seen as a symbol for fertility and rebirth. The rise of Christianity when it spread across Europe assimilated many pagan rituals and customs including the idea of the egg. Chicken and duck Eggs were and still are given as Easter presents often decorated with dyes and bright colours. From this evolved the rare jewelled pieces from Carl Faberge and egg toys filled with candies and easter gifts – which eventually morphed into the chocolate eggs given today. The eggs are not just given to children, but adults as well and whilst the copious amounts of sugar may be consumed in a single sitting for children, what on earth are you, as a supposedly mature and responsible adult, going to do with all that extra chocolate?! Well, I’m about to tell you something which may make you scheme on how to steal the chocolate back from the kids.

Chocolate contains phenylethylamine or PEA, which triggers the same mood altering endorphins that occur during sex. It’s little wonder that PEA is more colloquially referred to as the love drug, and it is responsible for the feelings of attraction and passion that occur during the throes of sexual relations. That’s right, the consumption of chocolate is comparable to having sex! Now, before you go off and start stuffing your face full of excess chocolate in the hopes of increasing your libido, not only will excess consumption cause you to feel ill, but you only need to have a small bite per day in order to feel the effects of this libido enhancing wonder. Further, the actual scientific basis of the consumption of chocolate increasing libido has not been researched.

Delicious Chococlate
Chococlate Box

The research surrounds the consumption of chocolate and sex in terms of one research group concluded that women who consumed a small amount of chocolate daily reportedly felt more sexually fulfilled, but there has been no direct scientific link between sex and chocolate. There is no denying the chemical factors that chocolate has, and how the brain responds in a similar way to sex. Regardless of whether you view it as an aphrodisiac or not, the health benefits of chocolate, specifically dark chocolate, have been well researched. Daily consumption of a square of dark chocolate lowers blood pressure, improves blood circulation, decreases the risk of heart attacks, fights chronic fatigue, and the improved blood circulation also helps with erectile dysfunction! Sexually, there are many benefits for the consumption of chocolate, and indeed many healthy lifestyle benefits as well.

Now when you combine chocolate with chilli, you can have double the effect! Chilli has an compound in it called capsaicin which increases heart rate and promotes blood flow. An increased blood flow activates the nerve endings increasing states of arousal and stimulating the pleasure centres of the brain! Pair some of that with a glass of red wine as a precursor to some fun times and you’re starting to build a nice collection of foods and drink. Red wine contains resveratrol an antioxidant which also increases blood flow. Even more of a reason now to break out some chocolate body paint, or even turn some of the excess chocolate into some body paint.

Alternatively, assuming it’s a smooth chocolate with no gritty bits such as candies or nuts, measure up 120 grams of chocolate and put it into glass bowl sitting on top of a boiling saucepan and slowly stir until it is dissolved. Add 60 grams of butter in and whisk until the butter has melted and is completely mixed. Add 2-3 tablespoons of water or until the consistency is glossy and paint like. If you like it a little sweeter, add some sugar but ensure that the sugar completely dissolves, alternatively you can add a few drops of your favourite liquor (swap it with the water) for a truly sinful experience.

Grab a paintbrush, and some strawberries and start creating sexual works of art. Don’t put the good bed sheets on for that night else there’ll be some frantic trips to the washing machine in the middle of the night!

Fat Sex

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We live in a world full of different bodies, and different sexual preferences. Now before you fall off your ladder, let me tell you a little secret. Some people enjoy fat sex. They enjoy sleeping with fat people, or they like watching fat sex whether that be where the two bodies are drastically different or whether they are of a similar shape. It’s not at all dissimilar to how many men like sleeping with older women, the same can be said of men enjoying BBW sex, either with women or other men. Fat sex, however, can be slightly different. With some handy tips listed below as well as considering some of the Liberator Sex Furniture you’ll look at not only fat sex, but every kind of sex differently.

One of the many questions I hear when discussing differently shaped bodies is ‘how does it fit’, how do two (Or more) bodies so drastically outside the ‘average’ fit together in such a pleasurable and intimate way? Or, how can they find such a body pleasurable? Isn’t it gross? I’m so often intrigued by what people find abnormal and I sometimes feel that the idea of fat sex is so grossly exaggerated and abhorred by so many people yet the same people are quite comfortable with open relationships, kink sex, water sports, urethral stimulation and a wide variety of sexual deviancy. I especially find this in the queer world, the world I’m most closely familiar with, where anything outside the six pack masculine swinging hung male is treated with utter blasé-ness whereas those that have worked hard on their body, or have insane genetic capabilities are treated like the Greek Gods reincarnated.

Before we get too into depth concerning sex and ‘fat’ – let’s explore the reasoning and some aspects of the mind that need to be addressed first. The thing is, that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there is no need to feel so vulnerable or so exposed. We spend so much time consumed with our own self-image that we develop a paranoia about our own bodies and how they behave/react/appear during sex. Let it go. If you truly want the best sex of your life, you need to understand that your sexual partner finds you attractive, that they want to sleep with you. They’re not concerned with your own self-destructive thoughts, they’re concerned with whatever it is they are attracted to. It’s as simple as that. I read an article where a woman described how during sex she would refuse to put herself in unflattering positions, where she would drape a pillow across her during sex, or clutch (attempting to be seductive) a blanket in order to hide what she could not accept. This, she states, prevented her from enjoying the moment. From enjoying the sex because she was too pre-occupied in her own mental state that that was the only thing that consumed her during the act. Her epiphany came during one moment when she turned the lights off, because in her mind she had deduced that he wouldn’t know just how fat she was if he couldn’t see her. The thing she didn’t realise was, he had already seen her. Which meant, he wanted to have sex with her, and further, he loved it. She then realised that her sexual partners were having sex with her because of the way she looked, it wasn’t a pity fuck, it wasn’t that they found other parts of her attractive and they merely ‘tolerated’ her body, they wanted to have sex with her and her body.

Fat Acceptance Woman Model Photoshoot
Photo: Fat Acceptance Woman

This is something we can all relate to. In sex, we are at or most vulnerable, we are literally sharing everything about ourselves in front of our sexual partner. Now, when it comes to the mechanics of sex with differently shaped bodies, it is by no means impossible, just a little extra care needs to be taken. For women, excess fat can pool around the vaginal region including the mons pubis and and labia. This means that when having penetrative vaginal intercourse, you will need to take care ensuring the object that’s being inserted (toy or dick) is well lubricated and that you spread the area around the vagina to help ease the entry. For boys and anal play the same care needs to be taken, for boys penetrating, you need to ensure that your dick is lubricated and that you select a comfortable position designed for maximum entry – some of the best are missionary, partner on top, and doggie style. It depends on where the fat is situated, whether you have a low belly or a high belly or a variety of different things. For missionary when your submissive partner has big thighs or a belly you need to note that these will get in the way during sex. The best way to deal with this is to bring your knees up and pull your thighs to your chest.

If you’re struggling with this position some strategically placed firm pillows placed under the lower back or the butt will work wonders. Or even better yet, the Adult Lifestyle Centre has just obtained some liberator sex furniture in stock. The liberator wedge (Plus-Sized) is absolutely ideal for trying different positions, and is absolutely fantastic for people with different body shapes or even simply those trying to reach the ultimate sexual positions. The high density foam of the of the Liberator Wedge works by preventing the body from sinking – which is one of the unfortunate results of having a larger body. You’ll be laying there enjoying the moment and all of a sudden you’ll realise that you’re beautifully soft bed is actually working against you and undermining your sexual positioning. What’s more is that the microfiber cover not only feels great against the skin, but if you’re working up a sweat it’s moisture resistant and machine washable covering will certainly come in handy.

If you’re going with the partner on top position, be aware that there is no way you are going to crush your partner. It’s just not possible – it’s about maneuvering yourself into the ideal position and sometimes you may have to move your fat around as well and readjust how everything sits on your body. Grab a liberator wedge and stick it under your partners but to elevate them so you can achieve the maximum type of penetration. If you find yourself tiring, just maintain position and get your partner to thrust! It can be a tiring position, but if you’re tiring easily, you need to reconsider the way your body is distributing the weight and adjust it. Just remember this; if you have a large ass, use that to thrust down on your partner. The extra momentum will really rock his world!

If you haven’t noticed, fat sex is not that much different to every other kind of sex. It’s about positioning, and about finding those key spots. There are loads more positions you can consider including the crouched turtle, but I’ll let you find out those ones. Just remember you need to let go of your mind and ride the moment (literally), get some leverage in the form of a pillow or liberator wedge, and find a position or a multiple of positions that work for you.

Author: Stephen Smith – BA Of Social Sciences, M.Ed


Effortless Tips For Great Sex

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If you think about your ex-partners you’ll fondly remember the good and the bad things that they did during sex. You’d remember which ones hit the spot, and which ones didn’t. Which ones you had to fake it with, and which ones you could barely stop the drool on your chin from anticipation of that moment because of the great sex. It’s pretty amazing really when you think about it because the ultimate end goal is the same with each one. But there are so many variables to sex that it seems pretty complex.

For research purposes I looked up what other people thought made great sex partners. The Women’s Magazines were pretty generic and included things such as not being judgmental, focusing on your partner’s needs, ability to laugh at yourself and stuff relating to your mental state as opposed to your physical state. In Essence, they were targeting the right areas but just not saying going that one crucial step further.

The Men’s magazine like Australian Men’s Health had such delightful comments such as; they love giving head, they are physically fit, and they have a good body shape. Yeah, um, no. Both of them focused on the idea that paying attention to your partner is important and that you need to forgo your own sexual desires at times to please them. This is probably the most accurate of the statements, but still it’s simplistic. It’s more than that, yet it’s not as complex as how redbookmag makes a hand job seem.

‘Men love to be stroked, fondled and handled with authority by expert female hands—and they love watching a woman take manual erotic control of them’.

I laughed for a long time when I read that sentence. Are they speaking plainly or are they sugar coating a hand job to make it sound seductive. What? It’s a hand job – not an atrociously bad Mills and Boone Novel with ‘Manual Erotic Control’. It’s almost akin to drving a car – Wheres the fun in that? Expert hands? (I’m taking the gender pronoun out of this – because I’m sick of the lack of sexual diversity in these ‘tips’). It’s bullshit. Not everyone likes hand jobs, not everyone likes giving/receiving oral pleasure and to reduce great sex to these tips. The tips are generally so heteronormative with stock photos of good looking couples, but they generally focus on the physical pleasure of the situation. The tips that focus on the mental pleasure are the way to go.

Body Confidence Women
Photo: Body Confidence

See, the fact is we all do things differently, our movements, our rhythms, our bodies, our shapes and sizes, even the way we move our tongue. It’s about a connection. You’ve seen those couples, and you’re wondering why they are together. We’ve all done it, sitting there during lunch, brunch dinner, or having a drink at a bar and you make the offhand comment to your friend/partner/colleague and you giggle as you wonder why they’re together. None of these so called sex tips speak about ‘connection’. I’ve been working in the Sex Industry for almost a decade and I’ve seen all sorts of couples. I distinctly remember this one couple, loved up, cute and apparently having the best sex of their lives. They’d tell me about it, how they’d have a long afternoon session and it wasn’t even all about penetrative sex or tongues, or even body parts. For them, an afternoon of sex was about intimacy, about touching, feeling and laughing. You could hear it when they spoke about it, some strange mysterious connection that whenever they got together, they didn’t give a damn about the rest of the world – they created their own world, their own space and when it shattered they laughed about it and moved on. They were two bodies together, exploring, having fun, and absolutely being in the moment.

So you’re sitting there thinking well what is this guy on about – what makes great sex? The answer is as simple as it is complex – not giving a damn. Being in the moment, let it flow and just follow the grind. It’s about pleasuring the mind, which is most likely why that time you had sex in the change room despite it being an awkward quickie was probably mind-blowing sex. That ex who you’d fight with constantly, but the second their arms were around you you turned into a quivering and horny mess.

Great sex is about accepting who you are, accepting your flaws, having body confidence and accepting theirs. The ability to have a laugh when it doesn’t go to ‘plan’, the idea of not actually having a formulaic plan to please your lover.

Here’s the secret. There’s no one way to have great sex. You can read all the tips on the internet, know exactly how to move your tongue, and physically please your partner. But you can still not be the best in bed. People are reluctant to let go of the idea of having great sex. So hell bent they are on discovering the secret they are absolutely convinced that there must be something tangible that gives access to great sex. There’s not. You can be reductive and say that it’s about understanding your partner’s body and mind and you’re not going to be wrong. But how can you teach someone to understand their partner’s body? You can learn, but without that connection you’re not quite going to reach that final step. Most people insist that it is some physical way of moving (Because, like, they tried this move on three chicks last week and they all went nuts man. Or, I moved my tongue like this and two dudes last week came like that *Snaps fingers dramatically*). People sometimes feel that they must sacrifice a part of themselves to have great sex, or forgo their own likes and dislikes to achieve that mysterious mind blowing sex that your best friend seems to have. All. The. Freaking. Time. Leaving you sitting there, wondering am I bad in bed?

If you forgo your likes and dislikes you’ve already lost the battle. If you’re doing something you can’t stand, you’ll never achieve the pinnacle because you’ll be focused on the idea that you’re doing something you don’t like to please someone else. If you’re on your knees sucking dick or whatever it is your doing and you’re wondering if they’re liking it, you’ve lost the battle. Let go, seriously. Just let it go. Relax in the moment and just do it. It’s like your special pair of underwear, the pants that you put on when the world seems dark, that instantly boost your mood, your lucky pants. There’s absolutely no reason why they’re special, no foundation but for some reason they make you feel better. Grab that feeling, that blasé-ness, and ride it all the way to the top.

By Stephen Smith a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo For Double The Pleasure

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Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo is easily my favourite designed sex object as It looks like something you’d find in an art gallery inside a glass cube with an exorbitant price tag. This is an extremely versatile toy, and I think anyone can certainly find a good use for the curve. This sex toy is considerably heavier than other G/P-spotting alternative but due to its design, its less likely you will get sore wrists or your arm will tire from use. This weight also aids in stimulation letting gravity take the wheel can make for a sensation that may not be easily obtainable with other toys! The heft of this toy should not intimidate users as it is an aid, not a hindrance!

Steel is highly conductive, so Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo perfect for temperature play. It warms up quickly in your hands and holds the warmth for quite a long time. To warm it before play – a few minutes in warm water will fasten the warming period if starting off with a cold steel bulb isn’t your idea of fun. For those who do find the icy side of things more adventurous, a couple of minutes in cold water or the refrigerator will certainly cool things down! make sure to test the temperature before use and never use the freezer to cool down steel! cause you might get stuck to it!

If you feel you’d get bored with Hell’s Couture’s Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo as it is a non-vibrational toy a quick way to remedy this is to add on a powerful vibrating C-ring for a little extra kick and see how interesting things can get from there! The larger end of the curve can also be used and an exerciser for the kegel muscles by inserting, squeezing and clenching, pulling the curve, relax and finally repeat. An alternate use of the Chrome Curve is as a massage wand team with a good massage oil such as wildfire black and you’ve got a super slick massage wand that is great for pinpoint stimulation to work out those knots from the day’s stresses! If the mood strikes its lucky that wildfire is safe as a personal lubricant!

Sex Toy: Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo

Chrome curve is made from stainless steel which is an ultra safe material as it is latex free, non-porous, and phthalate free. HC’s Steel toys are pretty much indestructible, so this will be a toy that will last you a lifetime. It is very firm, so this material may not be for everyone, especially those who prefer something softer such as a silicone you could try the Jopen comet or the Lelo Ella both available at Oh! Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres.

The craftsmanship on the Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo is top notch there isn’t a nick or a scratch to report. The steel is polished to such an outstanding quality it feels smoother than glass. As this toy is steel it is compatible with silicone-based, water-based, and oil-based lubricant, but you should avoid oil-based if you’re using it for vaginal play. This double ended dildo has a bulb on each end  One that’s great for more of a pin-point stimulation and will work best for P-spot stimulation, and another that’s larger and better at providing a broad stimulation a delight to use on the G-spot. If use finds the larger side is too big initially, you can always start off with the smaller end or use as a warm up.

Most beginners can accommodate the smaller grape sized end. The larger end will presumably be comfortable for most with a small amount of lubricant and a warm up. The curve is extremely ergonomic and perfect for masturbation as it is easier to wield. It works well for partner play too, but just be careful with it and be gentle and listen to your partner for cues as steel can be very unforgiving and may result in discomfort such as a bruised cervix. The chrome curve as its name suggests has quite a sharp curve that some women may find uncomfortable due to the placement of their pubic bone.

The Curve measurements:

  • Overall length: 200mm
  • Insertable length: 170mm
  • Width at slimmest end: 25mm
  • Width at widest end: 37mm

Due to the Chrome Crescent Double Ended Dildo being constructed of steel which is body safe and non porous a wipe over with toy cleaner and a rinse off is adequate enough to clean this toy but steel also allows for it to be sterilized via the top rack of the dishwasher, a 10% bleach solution or boiling for a few minutes. The curve arrives in hell’s couture’s signature hard case, A leather covered box with a red velvet lining inside. There is a foam cut out that perfectly fits and cushions your chrome curve. The packaging is so sturdy and luxurious it can be kept and used as full time storage for your curve if you weren’t interested in displaying it as a beautiful steel sculpture in your home.

Tighten, Tone & Enjoy With FunToys Geisha Balls

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The pelvic floor muscles are the foundation for the core of the body. They help stabilize the pelvis, and they support the organs of the lower abdomen, bladder, and uterus. You can think of the pelvic floor muscles as a web of interrelated muscles, tendons, and ligaments that form a supportive hammock at the base of the pelvic bowl. One of these muscles, the pubococcygeus, also known as the PC muscle, goes around the openings for the urethra, vagina, and anus. When the pelvic floor muscles are weak or damaged, the integrity of these openings can be compromised.

Childbirth, chronic coughing, aging, and inactivity are among the causes of weakened or damaged pelvic floor muscles. A weak pelvic floor can lead to problems like incontinence, diminished sexual enjoyment, and a dropping of the organs into the pelvic muscles which is the case with problems like a prolapsed uterus or bladder. So! As you can see, it is extremely important to maintain and strengthen the pelvic floor muscles! This is where kegel exercising comes in (named after Dr. Kegel), that is highly recommended for strengthening the pelvic floor.

Sex Toy: Funtoys Geisha Ball


Geisha Balls:
A product that I highly recommend to use for kegel exercising is Funtoys Geisha Balls. They’re a bright and beautiful 5 stage system of muscle training, made from body safe materials. Inside the box, comes 4 different colour/weighted balls, a special silicone strap and a user manual. The idea is that you start with the combination of smaller weights and gradually increase in weight as you become more advanced.

What do you get from using Geisha Balls?

  • Strengthened vaginal muscles
  • More intense orgasms
  • Improved bladder control

It should be noted that prior to performing Kegel exercises, it is recommended to empty the bladder completely. Kegel exercise should be performed up too three times a day for optimal results (note: this has been the general consensus online). In some cases, it takes up to 12 weeks of practice for individuals to notice any change in their symptoms! So remind people to stay patient! Like anything, it’s not going to be an overnight change.
Furthermore, once more experienced/advanced, you can wear your Geisha Balls anywhere! I would recommend starting at home though, to save the embarrassment of them falling out at the shops or whilst walking down the street… can you imagine?!

What I Love About Fun Toys Geisha Balls:

  • The strap is silicone, not material like LELO’s similar version
  • It’s colourful and pleasing to the eye
  • Its ridges would also make it stimulating whilst in use
  • There are 4 different weighted balls providing lots of different combinations of weights

The Funtoys Geisha Balls the silicone strap allows for a different type of exercise you pose in many positions and pull on the strap and force your muscles to resist and pull back on the balls strengthening them in other ways rather than the set and forget method and the geisha balls trump the Lelo Luna Beads tenfold. I have all sized Lelo Luna Beads and I far prefer the geisha.