What Real Women Really Think About Strapon Sex

Even though many straight men wouldn’t try any butt play in bed even if their lives depended on it, those who are men enough to give it a try know how spectacular pegging actually is. It gives the men a chance to have multiple orgasms for the first time in their lives, and the reversed power dynamic works wonders in the intimacy and communication departments of a relationship. Most women who have tried pegging their partners loved the experience, so it’s no wonder strapon personals all over the web are full of willing participants! Below we offer insight from real women who swear by the practice and enjoy every aspect of it, just in case you’re a tiny bit curious about it!

It’s the Sounds and Reactions

Women who peg their partners are extremely turned on by the moans and sounds their boyfriends or husbands make during sex. Most men are usually pretty quiet during sex, but when penetrated, they become just as loud as the women, which is an extreme turn-on. The men who have strapon sex with their women become slutty, needy, and sweet, which completely changes the power dynamic in the bedroom.

There are absolutely other ways for women to dominate their men in every aspect of a relationship, but dominating him with a strapon dildo is something else. They become submissive and feminine, which doesn’t make them look weak. On the contrary, it makes them even more masculine because they’re so in tune with their sexuality and not afraid of sexual experimentation and enjoyment.

It’s the Power Dynamic

The switch from being small and submissive and having to spread the legs open to being powerful and strong is what the women get from strapon sex. In addition to being aroused by their partners’ pleasure, women who are into pegging say that penetrating their men feels natural. It’s incredibly exciting to push the men down into the mattress and watch them shiver and shake from pleasure. Most women who are into pegging do it with a long-term partner, and say that it’s an incredible bonding opportunity because the man has to open up and be vulnerable like a little girl – much like women have to be in sexual relationships with straight men.

The fact that pegging gives him incredible pleasure while making him vulnerable at the same time gives him a better understanding of sex, and the partners get to bond over their shared vulnerability and newness. Holding him afterwards when he can barely move his legs and is completely drained is the most exhilarating feeling in the world.

It’s His Masculinity

Society teaches us that it’s the women who need to be submissive and lie down and spread their legs, but when a strong and powerful man wants his woman to peg him it’s incredibly bizarre but incredibly sexy at the same time. After pegging their partners, most women see them as even more manly and secure in their masculinity because they’re so horny and vulnerable, and confident enough to want just another part of their body to be sexually stimulated. To plenty of women out there, pegging their partners is far less about the power dynamic and a lot more about the intensity, pleasure and sheer intimacy.

It’s the Pleasure

Girls who are into pegging say that working up their boyfriends for a pegging session is just as sexy as any other kind of foreplay. Having a guy underneath them while he’s gasping, groaning and moaning with pleasure is spectacular, plus there are so many positions to do it in that girls get sexual pleasure from even the slightest touch of their harness. Giving their men multiple orgasms is such a physical turn-on and incredible mental stimulation, and playing the role of penetrator as a woman in this dynamic-flipping sex act is pleasurable to women as they’re not on the receiving end anymore.

It’s the Toys

Pegging gives couples a chance to try something new and definitely spice things up a little. The toys that they use are usually soft silicone dildos that may or may not include a vibrator for extra pleasure. Some women prefer to warm up their partners first before penetrating them using nitrile gloves to make clean up easy and protect the partners from their nails. Using small butt plugs is usually what comes next, and it’s important that they have a flared base for safety. The grand finale usually comes with a harness that the women put on so their hands are free, plus a harness makes them really get into the role. Last but definitely not least, any kind of penetration requires lots and lots of lube. Water-based and hybrid lubes can be used for pretty much anything, but a thicker lube works wonders for any serious butt play.

It’s the Communication

So many straight men are squeamish about anal sex, but once they try it and become open to it, it boosts intimacy and communication to a whole new level. Just talking about it feels incredibly intense and intimate, and there is absolutely no way around this but to talk about it first. At length! Men who have never tried pegging before need to be prompted a little by their women, but if they’ve done it with someone else and loved it, it’s only a matter of time before they bring it up again. Talking about it for the first time might involve a little alcohol and getting crazy, but if both partners are willing they’re definitely in for a wild ride.

The Games We Play – Introducing BDSM into Your Relationship

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A topic that has been quite a taboo for many years has become mainstream thanks to the now renowned book – 50 Shades of Gray and all the sequels. More and more couples are willing to explore the sub dom relationship as a way of introducing something new into their sex life and also as a sure means of deepening their relationship.

 

The benefits of including BDSM in your relationship are numerous and far exceed the simple carnal pleasure. And in case you are still unsure whether or not you are ready to take the next step, you are welcome to read on and find out a bit more about this particular sex practice.

Trust Is the Most Important Factor

Trust is key for any relationship to work. But introducing unorthodox sex practices into your bedroom asks for a far higher level of trust. First, you need to feel comfortable with your partner to open up and tell them exactly what you want to try and explore. Then if you opt for introducing BDSM into your relationship, especially the role of the submissive and dominant side you need to be comfortable with relinquishing control.

 

Not only that, but you also need to trust your partner sufficiently in order to be able to show this side of yourself completely and without restraint, otherwise the pleasure and satisfaction that comes from this particular sex practice will be left out and you both might end up disappointed.

Don’t Rush Into It

Now that we have discussed the importance of trust for this particular kind of sex practice, it is essential that we talk about the time it will take to introduce it into your relationship and your bedroom. It is imperative that you don’t just jump into it trying out anything and everything at the same time. Yes, you might be excited, even quite inspired, but rushing is definitely not the right option for this particular activity.

 

You are still unfamiliar with either your own or your partner’s boundaries, so introducing it little by little is the best possible option. Start with a bit of bondage, this we will discuss further on in the text, then continue with some more straight forward verbal communication and then finally finish up with the introduction of some props. Each step will show what causes you pleasure and what you don’t feel comfortable with.

Try Role-Playing for Size

Of course, BDSM practices include a bit of theatrics and dramatization. But actual role-playing might help you relax more and feel freer to explore. You can use different names, think of various scenarios you want to explore or even go so far as to use masks. Why not? If you are insecure when it comes to expressing your innermost desire, maybe doing that while being someone else might help you feel more liberated. And it can also be very fun and pleasurable, if nothing else, it will definitely introduce something fresh into your sex life.

 

The planning period is as important as the execution itself, especially with BDSM. You need to state clearly what you want and don’t want to happen, which practices you are comfortable with and which ones you don’t want to try out. And finally, you both need to decide on the safeword, especially during role-playing when it can be unclear whether you want someone to stop or continue, especially in a sub dom interaction.

Learn to Use Costumes and Props

In the past, BDSM was usually associated with black latex and leather, but a lot has changed in the last couple of years. Of course, if leather and latex are a part of your sexual fantasy, by all means, use away. However, if you are new to these practices you can start off light. First and foremost use light bondage options like silk scarves and complement that with gentle whips. And as you go on further with exploring that intricate boundary between pleasure and pain you can use sturdier rope and more effective toys and bondage techniques.

 

But remember, a lot of BDSM practice is related to verbal communication as well, so be prepared to use words in combination with props to get the ultimate experience. In addition, when it comes to purely costume options, there are no strict rules, and a lot of it depends on the scenario you chose to go with for that particular role-playing session.

 

You are now more than ready to start this journey of sexual exploration. But keep in mind that both you and your partner need to be on board for this and that open communication is key for a successful implementation of BDSM into your sex life and more importantly your relationship. As you have concluded based on this article, it is more than just a sexual game, it has an effect on your entire relationship, pushing you to be more open and honest with each other.

How to Be a Better Submissive in Your Relationship

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From the sound of it, you’re already quite aware of what a submissive/dominant relationship is. You’ve probably been a submissive for some time, and have already found the kinks which turn you on. Now, you’re looking for ways to become better at it. Wanting to improve yourself and evolve as a sub is a step to improve the relationship with your dominant. The good thing is that the sub/dom relationship isn’t static; it’s a relationship that both bdsm partners can develop through time. If you’re looking for ways to improve your kinky relationship, you’ve come to the right spot. We’re going to talk about how to be a better submissive.

 

Exercise your safeword

All BDSM relationships have a safeword which lets each partner know where the line is. However, many people are still scared about using it; thinking it’ll disappoint their partner. But the thing is the safeword was created for a reason. A dominant cannot fully enjoy the experience if they have the feeling their submissive isn’t into what they’re doing.

 

Moreover, it builds distrust and insecurity. Instead of letting go and being in the moment, your dominant is trying to figure out if you’re enjoying it. You have a safe word both you and your dominant agreed upon beforehand; don’t be afraid to use it.

 

Incorporate your submissive behavior outside of the bedroom

No, this doesn’t mean you should let your dominant take control of everything outside of the bedroom. Rather, you can let your dominant exercise their power in small ways – only if you want to. For example, they can choose which restaurant you’ll go tonight or what movie to see. Of course, this should only be done healthily, and if you want it. This can create a stronger submissive/dominant dynamic.

 

Take a little control

Oh, you’re probably surprised by this one, but you shouldn’t be. The entire point of being a submissive is giving up control, but sometimes, you can take control. Being a dominant isn’t easy; it’s a lot of work. Now, you don’t need to become a dominant, but initiating sex or suggesting a fantasy is an excellent way to show your investment in the relationship. There’s nothing wrong with being active in the relationship; it’ll probably alleviate some of the pressure your dominant is feeling. They want you to enjoy the experience, so why not take the initiative from time to time?

 

Dominants need TLC too

Submissive aftercare usually happens in most BDSM relationships, but what about dominants? Well, dominant aftercare is rarely spoken about. However, being a dominant puts you in a different mindset. If you and your dominant’s shared experiences involve degradation or violence, aftercare is essential for both of you.

 

A dominant’s aftercare will be mental and emotional; you need to reassure them you understand they don’t want to hurt you, and that you care about them. It’s easy for a dominant to feel they crossed the line (this is why exercising a safeword is essential). If they did, you need to voice this, and also work on using your safeword. But, if they didn’t, then reassure them of that. A simple “thank you” works wonders as well. It shows them you enjoyed the experience which is what they need to know.

 

You can mix things up

Many people think a BDSM relationship is very serious and physical. Of course, there are many moments when it is. But, you’re also allowed to laugh and enjoy the experience. Naturally, timing does matter, but if the time is right, why not be funny or silly? Yes, your BDSM relationship can be sexy, violent, and degrading, but you can also mix things up and throw in some light moments.

 

Follow the rules

Ah yes, the rules. In the beginner’s BDSM guide, creating rules is usually in the top three things you need to do before even engaging in anything physical. Naturally, you don’t need to follow the rules strictly. There are some times where you both want to adjust the rules, and that’s fine. However, if you’re breaking the rules without your dominant knowing, it affects the relationship.

 

If you agreed not to masturbate when your dominant isn’t around, then don’t do it. Outside of a BDSM relationship, this rule may seem silly, but, for your relationship, it’s not. If you’ve broken a rule, tell your dominant right away; otherwise, it’s as though you’re cheating on the relationship.

 

Being in a BDSM relationship is a fun and adventurous experience for both you and your dominant. Of course, as an active partner, you want the relationship to continue to grow and evolve. Try out these tips to become a better submissive for your partner.

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6 Different Styles of Dominance in BDSM

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If you’re new in the world of bdsm hookups, when you hear the word “dominant” you have a specific image in your mind of what it is. And this is entirely normal, considering popular culture focuses heavily on the dominant stereotype. But if you’re just starting to dip your toes into this world, you’ll realize that there are different ways for a dominant to express themselves with their submissive. This is the beauty of the BDSM world; you’re free to express and explore your dominant energy without judgment. Of course, you need to find a submissive who’s connected to the same pleasure as you, but that shouldn’t be too hard.

 

If you’re interested in exploring dominant energy, the good thing is there’s no “right” way to do it. We recommend taking the time to try out different roles, seeing which ones suits you best. So, let’s look at the different styles of dominance in BDSM.

 

The Mentor

A mentor is someone who sees themselves more than just a positive aspect in a submissive’s sexual life. They also find pleasure taking on the role of a teacher in and outside of the bedroom. Of course, mentors make sure they sexually dominate their submissive, but they also take the time to guide them through life. This includes teaching their submissive about exercise, financial management, nutrition, and self-care. The mentor can come in a variety of styles. Whether it’s teacher, Mommy/Daddy or ABDL (Adult Baby/Diaper Lover), they treat their submissive as someone who needs to be nurtured and guided through life.

 

The Sadist

Sadists are technically dominants who receive sexual pleasure from causing pain to their submissive. This pain can be either mental or physical. There are a couple of forms of sadism. For example, laughing sadists are dominants who crack jokes and laugh as they perform on their submissive,whereas sensual sadists are dominants who match pain with pleasure. You also have the classic sadist who doesn’t find pleasure in emotional domination. Instead, they’re focused on the physical actions.

 

The Owner

Some dominants just want it all, and this is where the Owner comes into play. They may feel they encapsulate more than one type of dominant or find that none of these types really suit them. Be that as it may, their main goal as a dominant is to have complete ownership over another individual. This level of control can extend to monitoring their submissive’s diet and exercise. This form of dominance isn’t usually something you start off with; rather, it’s a goal. It requires a lot of communication; if you’re a beginner, this isn’t something you should start off with.

 

The Royal

Well, the title of this dominant is probably a giveaway. To keep it gender inclusive, we named this dominant the Royal. Even though, it’s also commonly known as either “Gentlemen” or “Gentlewoman.” The Royal is a dominant who is well-kept, elegant, and self-controlled. The best example of a Royal would be Dr. Hannibal Lecter. Of course, minus the cannibalism. But if you simply focus on his behavior, the level of self-control and refinement he exudes, he’s a perfect example of a Royal. But, don’t be fooled. Yes, a Royal may be highly controlled and sophisticated, but they’re shockingly intense.

 

Controlled Dominant

A controlled dominant is someone who’s under the control of another dominant or mentor. This usually happens because the controlled dominant is learning a new technique or set of rules. But this only occurs during a scene. It’s not long-term. A junior top is a dominant who’s learning under the guidance of a mentor for a longer period. If you’re a beginner, you’ll most likely be a controlled dominant at one point in time.

 

The Leather Classic

The BDSM world is rich with history. This isn’t something that’s just been developed. Sure, it’s gaining mainstream popularity, but BDSM has been around for a long time. The leather classic dominants are those who are deeply involved in the culture of BDSM. They’re well educated on the rituals and the hanky code. Though this isn’t something you become overnight. In the beginning, if you choose to be a student of a leather classic, you’ll learn the codes of behavior and how traditions are kept. This role is a little more complex than the others as you’re more involved in the traditions and deep culture of BDSM.

 

The beauty of BDSM is there are no set limits as to what type of dominant you can be. There are many more styles of dominance, so if you don’t connect with one from this article, that’s okay. It’ll take some time to figure out what you enjoy, and that’s half of the fun in BDSM.

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Here’s How You Can Keep a Cougar Happy and Horny

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I’ve heard a thousand times that men are like wine – the older they are, the better they get. However, we live in a time when women are insanely gorgeous in their 40s and 50s, and it’s no wonder you’ve found yourself wondering how to seduce a cougar. Whether you’re just looking for a cougar sex date or have already fallen head over heels for someone, fear not because I’ve got you covered. Below I discuss my top 5 tips on how you can keep your cougar wanting you like you’re the sexiest beast that ever walked the earth.

#1: Shower Her with Attention and then Pull Away

You’ll keep a cougar always wanting more if you shower her with the right kind of attention, and then pull away every once in a while. Tease her with your words, whisper into her ear how much you want her, don’t spare her the details about the kind of pleasure you want to give her, and then disappear into the night like nothing ever happened. You’ll soon wake up to find your inbox full of messages from her wondering what happened to you, and where you’ve gone. This way you’ll keep her guessing, and she’ll never be certain about what your next movies going to be. Cougars love a challenge, and you could definitely be her new ‘project’ if you play your cards right. Mind you, chances are you’ll meet your match in a cougar, and if she happens to tame you before you make her purr in your arms, you’ll pretty much fall into your own trap and find yourself crazy about her.

#2: Be a Fireball in the Bedroom

It’s perfectly fine to play the hot and cold game during the day, but you have to step your game up and blow her mind in the bedroom at night. Remember that she’s got all the confidence in the world, so you better bring your A-game when you come over on Saturday night. You’ll be expected to make love to her as much as she wants, any way she wants it, and if you’re able to make her scream, she’ll be yours for as long as you want her. Pleasing a mature girl isn’t as easy as it sounds because she’s seen it all, which means you’ll need to take your time to explore her body and see what works and what doesn’t to give her pleasure. If you make it all about her, she’ll always keep coming back for more and will be more than willing to reciprocate in ways you’ve never thought possible.

#3: Never Lie to Her

Never lie to a cougar because she’ll find out anyway. Most cougars investigate better than the FBI. She may be out-of-this-world crazy about you, but if she catches you suggestively talking to another girl, sees steamy texts you’ve sent to someone else or suspects you may be stepping out on her, you’ll be history. Cougars don’t like to share their prey. You must not be available all the time if you want to keep her interested, but you have to be honest with her. If she expects you to be monogamous, you simply have two choices: either comply or walk away for good. Never will she feel the same passion with you if she sees you putting those same moves on other girls that you put on her.

#4: Buy Her Pricey Gifts

A cougar who’s feeling crazy chemistry with you doesn’t care if you fill up her gas tank (no pun intended) or if you pick up her groceries. That’s for a boyfriend of a 22-year-old to do, not you. She wants pricey lingerie, dinners at fine dining restaurants, and designer dresses. Not that she can’t afford them herself, but if you are the one to drop some big bucks on her you’ll become that much more important in her life. Remember, a cougar has probably been married, maybe even has children, and doesn’t need you to get her a diamond ring, give her a fancy wedding so she can wear the white dress or give her kids. She wants you to treat her like a queen, not an equal partner, and a queen only deserves the finest things in life.

#5: Let Her Take Control

Sure, a cougar wants you to take charge and sweep her off her feet with your smooth talking at the beginning, to see your ability to get a table at the most sought-after restaurant in town on short notice or give her back-aching, toe-curling, screaming orgasms. However, as your relationship progresses, she’ll want to take charge and show you what she’s capable of. By all means, let her sit in the driver’s seat for as long as she wants. Cougars are very self-sufficient and proud of it, and they don’t need men to take care of them. Don’t feel threatened by her ability to make money and spend it, give orders or doll up like a cover girl. She’ll probably dress up to stimulate you visually, expect some dirty role-playing from you, and will dominate you feather, fur, massage candles and all. You need to be able to keep up as effortlessly as possible and let her be in charge of every sphere of your relationship she pleases.

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