Charge Up Your Sex With Neck & Wrist Restraints

OUCH! DELUXE Neck Wrist Restraint Sex Toy

Do you want to spice up your love life?  Let’s face it most people do!  But surprisingly it can easily be done by adding a bit of light bondage play for a changed sexual routine? For a newbie, just imaging the thought of being restrained and surrendering your sexual control to another.  How liberating this can be I find it difficult to express so why not use the words of Fuller,

“Many individuals have this misguided judgment that the individual who’s in control in life all the time needs control in the bedroom,  Often that is totally in reverse. They need to sit back, unwind, and surrender [control] to their partner.”

Always Check How Your Partner Is Feeling

Before you start BDSM role-play it is essential to make the rules of what is acceptable and what is not!  This is the most important part as to surrender you must have trust and if the guidelines are not clearly defined it can cause angst and fear.  Also a clearly defined ‘Safe Word’ between the partners must be agreed upon.  The safe word means that when used both parties must stop what they are doing immediately.  It means that one or even both parties are uncomfortable to where the play is heading and the act is changing from consensual to non-consensual.

When you have your first session start small!  It will probably not be enjoyable if you start by trying to emulate the scenes from the writings of the Marquis De Sade, rather start slowly – perhaps with some silk ties and as you grow more and more comfortable expand your repertoire of bondage aids.  Communication is key, always talk to your partner before and after what could have been done differently, what they really enjoyed and what they would like to try next time.  It will make for hotter and sessions as the trust in each of you grows.

Go together to your local adult shop to see the different things you can add to your erotic sessions or go to a bdsm shop online where you can view all the devices available in the privacy and comfort of your own home.  Whilst in your home work out where you are going to carry out your bondage games and when.  As opposed to regular sex it is more exciting to not know where or when your will be intimate together bondage play is all about planning and control.  The more planning takes place the more comfortable and secure the sessions are.

Having participated in light BDSM play for many years one of my favorite devices to use in the Bondage Sessions is a neck and wrist restraints.  I am not into pain and suffering more in allowing my partner to take control or visa versa.

We like to ‘switch’ roles in different sessions.

These restraints consist of a set of cuffs that are placed around the wrists that are attached to a chain that on the other end has a collar that fits around the neck.  The restraints that I choose to use are comfortable to wear and my preference is to have the wrists to the rear rather than the front as it gives the dominant more control.  We incorporate other toys in our play, generally sensory like feather ticklers and my favorite the wartenberg wheel.  The pin-wheel is my favorite as the needles titillate and I know that if too much pressure was put on them they would draw blood but I know that my partner only uses them with a light touch so they tickle or give ever so slight pricking feeling.

You can position your ankles and wrists in countless ways at the front or back of the body, dependent on whichever manner your wear it. You can also use the cuffs with other bondage accessories like ropes, leashes or tethers that you own already. This undeniably sexy bondage that will definitely help you and your sexy playmate get involved into some undeniably exciting and compromising positions together. You can also use other adult toys in combination with the neck and wrist restraint to create some extremely pleasurable and sensual moments if you like.

Restraints Neck & Wrist
Neck & Wrist Restraints

 

My other favorite is the Neck & Wrist Steel Restraint, crafted from surgical steel and bearing a T-bar neck design and wrist bondage is equally sturdy and sexy. Team it up along with a sensuous mouth gag and have your sexy partner begging like a slave for mercy. Let the amazing experiences take you to another world when you take chances on being the slave. With the collar diameter of 13.2 cm, wrist cuffs diameter of 6cm and length of the in between long bar at 20 cm, the collar sets fittingly on every individual.Buy some Neck & Wrist Steel Restraint. At that point invigorate their erogenous zones with an ice solid shape, plume, flame wax, or vibrator. You could likewise attempt oral or manual incitement.

“There are two ways crimp dreams can go, you can discover this is something you’ve been lost in your sexual coexistence or that the thought was better left as a dream.” says sex teacher Cassie Fuller, Touch of Flavor.

Cassie describes herself on her website as  – ‘Hi! I’m Cassie Fuller, a kink and intimacy expert, educator, and coach. I began teaching in the kink and polyamory communities in 2008. I co-founded TTB Ventures (Touch of Flavor’s parent company) in 2009 with the mission of providing awesome education to kinky and poly folks.We founded Touch of Flavor itself in 2011 after the release of Fifty Shades of Gray. At Touch of Flavor we spent our first few years focused on educating newbies through media appearances and conferences. We had a ton of fun, and along the way were able to educate both the public and media on sex, intimacy, and kink.’

The steel neck and wrist restraints are a great way to get into BDSM Play and of course they are distributed by the best Bondage Supplier Hell’s Couture.  Hell’s Couture fine surgical steel products and leather gear are a cut above what is available in the market.  Click this link to find your nearest seller of hells couture bondage gear. You can also buy their Bondage & Fetish gear on Amazon and ebay.  They not only deal in restraints but stock the largest array of penis plugs selling across the globe discretely and cheaply through DHL.  You will be amazed at the low cost of their products and the quality and range that they stock.  Ask for them by name and if you retailer has not heard of them, then they are not serious about Bondage and Fetish equipment.

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A Damsel In Restraints!

BDSM Restraints

Have you ever been restrained during sex play?

If you have answered ‘Yes’ you will probably be aware of what I am going to write below.  If you have answered ‘No’ then I suggest you read on as adding BDSM Role Playing to an existing relationship can be the spark that gets a couple back on track and creates new found admiration or respect and trust in your partner.  For me, light subjugation is the most freeing and attractive type of BDSM role playing.  I am not into pain or heavy bondage but having my lover restrain me gently in comfortable cuffs gives me the feeling that I am ready to surrender absolute control with pre-set boundaries that makes me simply feel sexually free and liberated with without stressing over anything. I do not mind even adding a blindfold that due to the sensory deprivation of sight allows my other senses to heighten and thereby not limit my experience giving me one hell of a ride.  The cuffs have to secured but not in a manner that they are too tight or give me discomfort in any way.  When we first started delving into the world of light bondage we used silk cuffs.

One of the exciting things that I experience when being bound is the fact that I cannot touch my lover at all during the process. He totally takes control of the action and his soft touch against my vulnerable body sends sensual shivers up  my spine each and every time.  For me to put my total trust in him that he will treat me right and not abuse the total control I have given him, whilst relinquishing mine makes us a much stronger couple.  Since experiencing this bondage play we have become a team and there is very little that can come between us.  These experiences have special meaning to us, and like all games we have made the rules first.

For me the most important part of BDSM is making the rules.  The first and number on rule is to have a safe word.  A word that either of you say and it means stop – No if’s or buts!  Then the boundaries of your play should be set.  Safety and consent are priorities as well as pre and after care.  It opens up a whole new world of loving and caring for each other.  Below I have listed some tips on what to do when you have your partner tied up.

Tips To Follow When You Are Tied Up

  • Have your partner wear a set of wrist and ankle cuffs around the house when you’re not home, as a reminder of what’s in store when you do get home.
  • Wear the cuffs discreetly as you go about your normal routine outside the house, as a secret reminder of the things to come. This is particularly easy to do with ankle shackle cuffs, which can easily be concealed beneath clothing.
  • Wear a set of cuffs while you sleep, giving your partner an invitation and an opportunity to restrain you during the night or in the morning.
  • Going into your beau or spouse’s wardrobe and getting a few bow-ties out and laying them on the bed and tie your partner up to see what it’s all about.

Whether you enjoy just your hands or legs being restrained or both it is an experience that I certainly treasure and trust that you will too.  Some couples will even swap roles – I guess like they did in 50 Shades – that one time the man can be the dominant, and the next time a switch of roles happens and the female is.  There is a term for it and it is called a ‘Switch’.  Switching roles whilst in the middle of a scene or session is very rare but it is very common between couples for switching to take place on separate sessions.

Planning For Your First BDSM Session

My personal advice to anyone wanting to experience this out of a long term relationship (and even those in one) is before you begin your first session you –

  • Read and study everything you can on Bondage and BDSM.
  • Find out what you want to do first.
  • Take your time learning how to do it safely.
  • Be careful of the type of attention you attract.

Going into unkown territory will make this all seem daunting and scary when that is not the purpose of it all. Remember not to go directly into “50 Shades of Gray” region for your first time. That can be an exceptionally overwhelming circumstance even for the most sexually experienced. Begin light. Work from that point. Appreciate investigating and taking in you and your partners cut off points. This ultimately is about HAVING FUN and playing it SAFE!

BDSM Spreader Bars
Sex Toy: Talea Spreader Bar Bolster

Bondage wrist and ankle cuffs can be very attractive and they come in all types of material and styles.  They can be in comfortable silicone, faux leather, rope, genuine leather, steel, silk and be welcoming or intimidating.  Most cuffs will have a locking mechanism to ensure that they stay closed and the ‘pet’ stays bound and restrained.  Most also have ‘D Rings’ or ‘O Rings’ that allow the restraints to be joined together, a lead be attached or the sub be restrained to a pillar or some other securing station.  There are many BDSM shops online and designers that sell a myriad of variations at reasonable pricing.

One of my favourite cuff sets is the ‘Ballsy Blue Leather Restraints’ made by the manufacturer Hell’s Couture.  I love these cuffs because they are supple enough to be worn comfortably but solid enough to keep me secured.  All my life I have enjoyed colorful things and the vibrant blue color sets it apart from the standard Black or Red. These cuffs are securely structured and after fastening them to the ankle and/or wrist, they can be attached to other objects via the O-ring attachments.  The beauty of having these secure rings is that they can be attached to other bondage devices for the more adventurous like a hogtie set or a leg spreader.   I find these are much safer and more comfortable that the option of using metal handcuffs or ankle shackles.

So if you want to be daring and explore your sexuality more I highly recommend adding restraints to your sexual lifestyle.

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Chastity Devices Explained

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Many people will ask what a chastity device is, how it works and how to choose the best one available out there in the marketplace that is right for them. A chastity belt is a harness,or belt or cage, even a ring or clamp that is fitted with a locking mechanism that is used to stop the wearer from having sexual intercourse or masturbating. It is said that such belts in Medieval times were used for protecting the wearer from temptation or rape whilst their husband or betrothed was away for extended periods visiting other lands or fighting wars. The steel belts enforced strict denial of all forms of sexual stimulation including the ability to masturbate and achieve an orgasm. More recent chastity devices, especially those designed for men have been provisioned with additional features from punishment, to stop masturbation and more and often the wearing of the device is controlled by a ‘keyholder’ whom determines when, where and how the device is to be worn. Others who are part of the NoFap community believe that by controlling the penis and its desires allows one to think with the logical head and allows them  to live a better and more empowered life.  Of course finally there is the distrusting spouse, whom may have been cheated on before, that requires the use of such a device so that they can better ‘trust’ their partner not to be unfaithful again.

Chastity refers to a sexual behavior of people (whether they are men or women), acceptable to the moral standards as well as guidelines of a religion, civilization or culture. In Western Culture, it’s also referred to as Sexual Abstinence especially before marriage. Chastity restraints are devices that are used to control sexual behavior for men as well as women. These devices are also used to safeguard their virginity as well as people also use these devices for sexual pleasure with the involvement of their intimate partner or without involvement of a partner. There are varieties of such products available in terms of design & shape for men well as women and they can use them as per their special needs and requirements.

Chastity BDSM Control

There are many companies that manufacture chastity devices, each having their own specific design or trademark. Similar attributes are shared by most devices however small changes in build quality and style can create a huge differences in the manner of how the human body responds to them. Diversified materials are used to create these products and they include stainless steel, polycarbonate, silicone, glass, chromium, rubber and even titanium. So it is important for you to analyze various factors such as intention, cost, comfort, safety, convenience and aesthetics before you go out and buy a chastity device.  It is also very important for you to know how to size your chastity device.

Some chastity devices and belts are quite difficult to get off and on while others are relatively easy going. The thing to be considered here is that if you want to wear a device for extended periods it has to be comfortable to wear, easy to clean whilst worn and allow the user to take care of their bodily functions whilst it is being worn.. Although convenience and comfort are essential factors for long term wear, safety has its own area of importance that cannot be overlooked. Some of the devices might be dangerous because of poor quality in build or materials while others may be inherently dangerous because the fit is too tight or material toxic. Although you might experience a little chafing and soreness initially with any device – if it is the right size and a quality device that should be the extent caused by it being worn.  If you are planning for long term use, you ought to make sure that you are not potentially taking the risk of getting abrasions and cuts and check the device thoroughly for any scratches, indents or other potential areas that may cause injury..

People are learning to open up about their sexuality. These are some encouraging signs that a broader acceptance of sexual health and wellbeing and the FetLife community becoming so large it has instilled in people notions have led to such devices becoming more acceptable and common place in their usage. Every advantage comes with a series of disadvantages and so is the case with chastity belts. No chastity device as of now is completely safe or secure. Most of them can be removed with simple tools that are available in most home garages, however removal without using the key or proper tools has its own inherent dangers of physical injury. But with enough determination and effort, most men or women can cheat and get themselves to orgasm even when they are wearing chastity devices.

Wearing a chastity device can feel really odd to start off with. When you first begin using it your feelings may be imbalanced as it is not usual to not have control of your own private parts. It will be quite a shock to not be able to touch or pleasure yourself down there. Many devices are designed to allow a flacid penis in them but when a man becomes aroused whilst wearing one it will cause extreme discomfort and even pain.  This is exactly what the people in the NoFap Community want – they want to train themselves to be able to control their erection. A lot of people who are accustomed to this lifestyle (cuckolds), love the amount of control and power another human being has over their sexual needs (the keyholder).  It is good to get familiar with these terms and this can easily be done by reading a chastity guide.

A male in chastity will often experience a sense of relief relinquishing control to the person who holds the key to the device. If you are wearing a chastity device for the first time it can feel a bit uncomfortable depending on the material that it is made from though you will get used of that feelings. With a combination of not being able to fulfill your own needs and the uncomfortable nature of the device you might have trouble falling asleep the first night. Ensure you and your partner, take the time to study and pick out a chastity cage that fulfills both of your needs. For example, some devices allow you more movement so you can easily clean yourself without having to take the device off. With the right device your will feel unbelievably sexual!

You can buy from trusted adult and bondage stores online products that include chastity restraints, male masturbators, CBT gear along with many other types. Male Chastity online resources would be helpful for you to make a more informed choice in selecting the right type for you.  These things will be helpful for you in choosing one of the best places to get your device according to your sexual needs and requirements.

 

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