BDSM Acronyms

Starting out in the BDSM scene can be a little intimidating when you see all the different acronyms and letters strung together and think WTF does that mean.

An important aspect of any new exploration is communication and consent, talking about what you are comfortable with or not comfortable with and ensuring that you and anyone you are playing with knows your limits.

A simple system for this is the Traffic Lights system. At any point you can use these colours, asking, or replying.
Green-For go. Everything is good.
Yellow– I’m ok but maybe if we can slow down or change is up a little.
Red– Stop. If anybody uses RED immediately stop what is happening and reassure that everything has stopped, they are safe and if the person feels comfortable discuss why RED was called and how it can be improved next time.

There are several lists online for starting couples and individuals to browse and see what their soft limits (cautious but would consider) and Hard limits (No way not doing it) https://bit.ly/2AzoVGC

So- now that we know our lights, colours and limits lets get into our letters.

let’s break it down together

BDSM stands for three separate dynamics.

BD – Bondage and Discipline. Bondage implies the art of restraining, tying someone up using all sorts of things, cuffs, collars, tape, rope, the art of Shibari, gags – the endless possibilities. Discipline can tie in quite well with Bondage, it is the act of punishment (or “fun”ishment”) and can include spanking, impact, timeout, denial.

DS stands for Dominance and Submission. This is essentially one type of Dynamic that some people utilise during play, and some people may adopting a 24/7 lifestyle. Dominance is where one person assumes the role of the leader, the alpha, the boss. Submission refers to the person who submits to the dominant. Who takes their lead and obeys. Also note: as part of D/s there are also Switches (people who play both the dominant and the submissive either within one scene or depending on who they are playing with) and Brats (who are either Dominants or Submissive- mainly submissive who like to be sassy and take any form of command or protocol with a bit of fun loving attitude)

SM – The art of Sadism and Masochism. Simply put this equates to the enjoyment of pain, physical, emotional, mental, verbal – Pain.
Sadism is the art of enjoying the infliction of pain, either being the one to inflict or watching others inflict pain on someone.
Masochism is the enjoyment of pain being inflicted on yourself. Masochism can be done both individually by yourself or with a sadist who inflicts it upon you.

There are three generalised types of kinky play that the community interacts in. The most common being

SSC– Safe Sane and Consensual where we ask ourselves (and our play partners)Is our kinky thing safe to do?

Is it a sane thing to do?

Do we consent to it?

RACK – Risk-aware Consensual Kink. This is the next advancement where all parties are aware of the risks and how to prevent or play to them as well as the limits

PRICK – is the next level of kink aware play. PR refers to personal responsibility which puts the onus on the individual who is aware of the risks involved in this con sensually kinky play and understands risks and all. you C and K is your Consensually Kinky-ness that should be respected in all play.

Below are some other basic abbreviation that you may find as you begin exploring BDSM, dynamics and Kinks

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24/7
: A relationship where protocols are in place continuously

A-D
AB: Adult baby
ABDL: Adult Baby Diaper Lover
AP: Age Play
ATM: Ass to mouth
BDSM: Bondage Dominance SadoMasochism
CBT: Cock and Ball Torture
CNC: Consensual Non-Consent
DM: Dungeon Monitor/Mediator (usually at kink parties and events)
DD/lg: Daddy/Little Girl dynamic
D/s: Dominance/submission

E-H
ENM: Ethical Non-Monogamy (a general umbrella term for non-monogamous relationships)
FFF FMF FMM MMM refers to different variations of threesomes where F is female and M is male.

I-L
LGBTQAI+: Lesbian Gay Bi Transgender Queer/Questioning Asexual Intersex (the plus stands for all other acronyms and terms on the gender/sexuality spectrum)

M-P
MC: Mind Control
M/s: Master/slave dynamic
NRE: New Relationship Energy (a term generally used in non-monogamous relationships)
OTK: Over the Knee
O/p: Owner/pet Dynamic
Open: An open relationship
PE: Power Exchange
Poly: Polyamorous dynamic

Q-T
R&P: Restraint and Pleasure
R.A.C.K: Risk Aware Consensual Kink
SSC: Safe Sane Consensual
TPE: Total Power Exchange

U-Z
YKINMK: Your Kink Is Not My Kink

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