Finding Your Partners Sexual Fetish

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A fetish is something which arouses a person but deviates from normal sexual expectations. A fetish can be seen as a personal eccentricity. It is believed that a lot of people have a fetish or may develop one over time. There are many different types of fetishes even celebrities have fetishes.

But why is it important to understand your partner’s fetish?

By taking your time to understand someone’s fetish it will bring them feelings of acceptance, trust and love. These feelings allow the person to fulfill their strong psychological and social need to belong. When they feel they belong in a place in society, they are able to explore their fetish by themselves or in a safe environment with you.

We must be able to tolerate the fetish by decently living aside it. Acceptance is much more than tolerance; we don’t simply just tolerate the fetish but we say that the fetish is okay.  Acceptance is when we are able to live with the person’s fetish and we do not try to change it or argue against it. When we move past acceptance, we are able to understand someone’s fetish. This can be done by taking your time to think about the topic and then communicating or managing social interactions in a respectful and unprejudiced manner.  If you have a live-and-let-live attitude you will easily be able to accept other people’s views. This attitude will assist you to get along with other people.

Your partner must be able to trust you to disclose their fetish to you. Trust is important because people have had their trust broken by a violation of an agreement that may have mentally injured them. For example, there is an agreement between people in a relationship that they must care for the other person. After they disclose their fetish to you; Maybe their fetish was that they watch tentacle porn or maybe they like dressing up as a furry. In response, you may have accidentally humiliated them. They may then feel a sense of betrayal. When the humiliation is left unaddressed, they may develop hurt feelings.  Betrayal of agreements will occur in any relationship. When it occurs you must be able to take responsibility for your actions, apologies whilst deeply feeling remorse.

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To trust one another, we must learn about them and they must learn about us. It is not about putting the best version of yourself forward. It is about consciously being honest with who you are which includes your eccentricities, natures and habits. In this case, trust is built on these very human qualities.  This means your new definition of trust is that you may unintentionally hurt each other, though each of you will take responsibility for your actions and then work towards improving your relationship in a loving environment.

If you are in a loving long term relationship, when you touch your partner their fear response gets turned off and their stress levels are relieved. They are instantly comforted by your familiarity and soothed. The loss of stress and inhibition allows them to feel aroused more easily. This environment provides your partner with a feeling of safety.

Safety is the one ingredient that allows people the freedom of sexual exploration, imagination and play. When people feel safe and ready, they can allow themselves to open up to you. Safety is incredibly important, especially when used alongside BDSM which is one of the most popular fetishes.

Questions to ask a lover who has a fetish

Once they have opened up to you, it is important to ask them questions about their fetish so that you can gain enough knowledge about their preferences. The questions may include:

  • What is the name of your fetish?
  • What is the fetish about?
  • How long have you had this fetish for?
  • When did you know you had this fetish?
  • What do you like most about the fetish?
  • What are you psychologically attracted to in the fetish?
  • Are there other aspects of the fetish you don’t like?
  • How often do you think about the fetish?

Experiment or find a workable compromise

You can take your time to tolerate, accept, understand, build trust and provide a loving environment for them to explore their fetish privately by themselves or find a workable compromise or if you would like to take the opportunity to explore it with them in your sexual interactions through role play, costumes, literotica, pornography and sex toys like bondage and fetish gear.

On the other hand, it is also important to be aware of someone else’s fetish as sadly, sometimes people don’t share the same level of enthusiasm for the fetish or the fetish may cause distress through the harm of others. In this case, it is important to question your long term compatibility so that everyone in the situation is taken care of.

Author: Elaine is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle CentresSave

The Oh Zone Shopping Experience

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Today I wanted to write something about The Oh Zone Shopping Experience and work ethic. I have only worked here for a small while but I have learned a lot from being here. This article will introduce you to the type of staff here, our work ethic, an explanation of our type of job, what customers have said and how we make the customer service experience the best it can be. The staff which work here are super friendly and down to earth. Our human resources superviser has spent a lot of time sifting through people to find the nicest and most non-judgemental people on the planet. The people I have worked with are always happy to learn something new, teach people product advice, help each other out with working task’s, turn problems into jokes and most of all, work together. Thanks to some brilliant staff member, we have the following work ethics that include:

“Your attitude determines your direction.”

“Think big, believe big, act big and the results will be big.”

“If hard work pays off then the easy work is worthless.”

“Nothing worth having is easy.”

“Lots of people know that finger pointing is a problem but they blame it on the other guy.”

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As you can appreciate, our consultant job is much different from other day to day jobs. You probably would have already guessed that one as we sell sex toy product’s. All our customer’s who come into our stores, come in from a very vulnerable place and we understand this. The first day I worked here one of my bosses said:

“I don’t look at the sales assistant position as just a customer service position. We help other people to enhance their lifestyle, we try to make their life better and we try to give them the best help we can.”.

Everyone has a different need or want. So depending on who our customer is depends on how The Oh Zone Shopping Experience goes. We are all humans at the end of the day and we all have different types of sexual desires, personalities and hobbies. As you can appreciate, we do our best to look into what you need from your sex toy’s, lubricants, games, sprays, BDSM, steel devices, lingerie, pumps and plus size lingerie. When you tell us what you need, we try to give you the best product and advice possible.

Ever since I started working here, I’ve hard a lot of customer’s thank the Oh Zone branch for being here. We have customer’s that not only visit our Caringbah store, but they also regularly visit all our branches including Kogarah, Penrith and the Sydney City store. Some our customer’s travel large distances to get here. We also have a large range of customers from couples, people shopping for themselves, young adults, mature people, elderly, newbies to the very experienced. We have had a lot of customer’s say really lovely thing’s including:

“You are the only store that sells this type of plus size lingerie that no other store has.”

“The lovely staff member helped me out so much the other day and I need help with this.”
“I was scared to come here at first but the customer service here is friendly.”
“Thank you for helping me, I will definitely have fun tonight!”
“I am back again!”
“I am back again” is one of my favourite quote’s because that mean’s we have done something good to make your experience that good your comfortable to come back and happy to see us. So be sure to visit us, even if you are passing in have a look inside! We have a lot of sex product’s to look at to fulfill your sexual fantasies and a lot of fun testers so you can see how they feel. I really recommend you watch the video below to, so you can understand that we are all nice but different to.
We take the time to review our work flow to make it the best possible experience around. We try to maintain it by:
  • Knowing what you need from us. It may be giving you some friendly advice, teaching you how to use a product, what product suits what you need and how to take care of the product once you take it home
  • Understanding what you expect from us as a sex toy retail store
  • Re-evaluating both positive and negative reviews
  • Asking our customers if they are happy with their service or purchase
  • Doing our best to provide the best customer service experience
  • Continuously look for ways to improve your shopping experience