Sex Toy Materials vs Lube

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Going into buying sex toys can be scary enough if you’ve never gone into a sex shop (it shouldn’t be, all workers at the best adult shops in Sydney are amazing, helpful, open minded, and just want you to have good orgasms), and then when faced with all the choices of lubes it can be overwhelming, not knowing what’s safe with what is another hurdle, so here are the common materials and what they can be used with, with the added bonus of how they should be stored and cleaned!

You would be amazed what are the most popular sex toys in Australia!

Silicone – smooth, no real smell or taste, some with a silky finish. Medical grade silicone is body-safe and is 100% hypoallergenic with no latex or phthalate.
Lubes: safe with water-based, oil-based, and hybrid lubes. (Extremely high quality is safe with silicone lube, Colours triple density dongs are safe.)
Cleaning: 100% silicone can be boiled, others should be washed with a toy cleaner!

Glass – most are made from the same glass as Pyrex, they are heat resistant and shatterproof. They are smooth and sturdy and perfect for temperature play. Glass is incredibly skin safe but be sure to check for cracks and fractures before each used!
Lube: Glass is safe with all lubes.
Cleaning: Can be washed with toy cleaner and water, or even thrown in the dishwasher, or boiled.

Plastic – most commonly made with ABS (the same material as LEGO), used for it’s cheap production value, these toys may be blended with latex. These are hard with no distinct smell or taste. Generally a skin safe material but could be blended with phthalates and latex, which are common allergens and harmful to skin.
Lubes: safe to use with all lube types
Cleaning: can be cleaned with sex toy cleaner, anti-bacterial soap and water, or through boiling.

PVC – man made plastic, can be hard or more flexible, has an intense plastic smell and more often than not contains phthalates and latex so isn’t the most body-safe option in the world.
Lubes: this material should be used with water-based lubes only, as oil and silicone can melt the material.
Cleaning: rigid PVC is non-porous and very easy to clean, flexible PVC can be porous so may be harder to clean. Store these toys away from other materials and preferably in their own casing to avoid chemical reactions and damage to toys.

TPE – the material used to create Real Feel, Cyberskin, Softskin, or Ultraskin. Frequently used for male masturbators. Realistically fleshlike, warms to the touch, incredibly flexible, due to it’s softness it isn’t a great option for vibrators as it can weaken vibrations. Can tend to have a rubbery smell and taste. TPE is non-toxic but is porous so it’s prone to bacterial growth, and can be mixed with product softeners which can be allergens.
Lubes: use water-based only with this material.
Cleaning: as this is a porous material it can be hard to clean, best to use just water and a toy cleaner.
This should be kept away from other toys in storage to be on the safe side. Any discolouration can be a sign of growing mould in the pores of the material, so throw it away. These toys should be replaced every 5 months.

Metal – usually made from medical grade stainless steel, they can occasionally be mixed with other metals (such as nickel WHICH SOME PEOPLE ARE ALLERGIC TO), so be sure to check this. These toys are rigid and smooth but perfect for temperature play, higher densities are good for weighted and pressure play.
Lubes: all lubes are safe to be used with metal! 😊
Cleaning: this is a non-porous material which makes cleaning a breeze, toy cleaner, soap, dishwasher, or boiling all work.

Wood – if made correctly these toys are beautifully smooth with a non-toxic resin coating to prevent splinters. The weight and look will depend on what kind of wood was used to create the toy. If made correctly these toys are super body safe and environmentally friendly. Some manufacturers use scrap wood which is great for conserving rainforests.
Lubes: wood is safe with all lubes, due to it’s smooth finish you only need a small amount.
Cleaning: best washed with just water to prolong life, be sure to check for any damage before and after each use.

Rubber – one of the cheapest materials, will be flexible with a very strong rubber smell and chemical taste. To ensure body safety it is strongly recommended to use a condom with rubber toys as they often contain phthalates which can be harmful to the skin. (They have produced body safe rubber recently but it is not widespread).
Lubes: best used with just water-based, however if using a condom with rubber silicone is okay to be used.
Cleaning: best washed with soap and water and stored away from other materials, just to avoid chemical reaction with other toys.

 

My personal favourite lube is the Wicked Hybrid as it’s super vagina friendly and can be used with most toy materials out there, it has the benefits of the longevity and silkiness of a silicone lube, but the easy cleanup of a water-based!

2021 Sexual Needs

Living in 2021

2020 has been an absolute mess, this whole year is one to put in the bin, 2021 could not come soon enough for majority of the population. Weddings cancelled, no festivals, a whole pandemic, people missing funerals, births, important milestones that should have been celebrated have been put on the back burner. Well, it’s coming to the end of the year and I think we should all have one date, a date with the most important person in your life… You.

It’s been tough and you need to treat yourself for getting through it like the absolute trooper that you are, self-care has never been more important. Honestly celebrate you however you do it, but this is my step by step guide to taking yourself on a date.

Step One:
Order your favourite take out (or cook your favourite comfort food), I don’t care if you’re on a diet, you have earned this. In a year where a lot of huge things have been taken from us, you deserve this little thing as a congratulations for getting through it. Eat that, eat dessert, have seconds and thirds and fourths, whatever fills the void that 2020 has made in all of us.

Step Two:
Run yourself a bath, get some bubbles going, light some candles, play some music (in my case I usually pop on my favourite show), and just relax. I really cannot recommend Wildfire Black more, it’s such an amazing 4 in 1 oil, but a pump or two in the bath will leave you feeling amazing inside and out! Now what you do in the bath is totally up to you, you can start the big celebrations in here if you like, nothing better than masturbating in the bath sometimes. I like to take the time to wash everything super slow and just take my time taking care of myself. It really is the little things and taking the time to go over every part of your body slowly while cleaning is so relaxing, this is definitely one of the things we skip over with the day to day happening.

Step 3:
Do your skin care! Moisturise everything! All the lotions and serums and whatever!! It doesn’t matter if it’s a 12 step routine or a 2 step, do whatever makes you feel comfortable and nourish from the outside in. COVID has really made some people forget that taking care of yourself and simply existing is so important, especially to help you de-stress from everything going on. Fuck it, put on a facemask and keep watching your shows, or listening to music, just find your zen in this time, use it to really remind yourself that you’re doing great and this year hasn’t gotten the best of you.

Step 4:
Do something you love, have a dance, bake some cookies, read a bit, go on a google deep dive, SIT ON TIKTOK FOR AN HOUR. It doesn’t matter what you do here, as long as it makes you happy you’re doing it right, self care is about making the heart happy and full. I should probably take my own advice and do some reading, I bought Midnight Sun as soon as it came out and I’m still only 15 pages in… Anyway!

Step 5:
My favourite step, of course. Masturbate!! I cannot write about de-stressing from a horrific year without including masturbation, it’s the good vibe hot spot. Again, dim the lights (or don’t 😉), light some candles, or use an oil burner you can go to the Wildfire Black again for this one as it can be used as an aroma and it includes aphrodisiacs so if the bath didn’t get you in the mood that definitely will. Get your favourite sex toy out, dress up if you want. And do you (pun intended). Nothing releases happy hormones quite like a bit of one on one time with yourself! And then tuck yourself into bed, you’ll have the best sleep of your life, trust me!

 

This is obviously just my advice and how I would do it, but the point is you don’t have to follow this, just be sure to take some time to do the things that you like, that help you feel the best you can.

2020 has been rough for everyone, it really has, and we all deserve a night dedicated to ourselves. Whether that’s from you to you, with a partner, going to a gym class, working on your car, or as I said taking care of yourself and taking care of your sexual needs.

Just be sure to make it so that at least one day this year was all about you, and end it on a good note, let’s go into 2021 taking care of ourselves and existing happily in the world, and let’s hopefully leave COVID in 2020 where it belongs.

2020, An End In Sight

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I think we can all agree that 2020 has been a flaming mess, we started the year with most of the country on fire, and it was downhill from there.

I remember New Year’s Eve being a wonderous night, I came in to 2020 sober, bouncing from house to house being surrounded by those I loved most. I spent midnight with my two best friends at a party just realising I have surrounded myself with people who  are truly a light source in this world. (Even without a relationship anywhere on the horizon I know I’ve met two soulmates in those two, shoutout to Peter and Charley for being my missing pieces). I remember thinking how maybe 2020 will be my year and how I’m going to get my life sorted and settle down… It didn’t quite happen, as we all have at some point I got played (but did have some incredible sex so that’s a plus I guess?), and got played again.

Then, of course, we got hit with COVID-19, as most did I thought “Oh, we’ll look down for a few weeks and then we’ll be fine”, we’ll it’s 8 months later and we’ve just gotten hit with another round of lockdowns. I lost my job at the start of the pandemic, which is awesome, I had just taken out a loan, literally was starting to get on my feet again and 2020 absolutely destroyed me.

I started an Onlyfans, which hasn’t just been beneficial financially, I’ve found my power, I’ve harnessed my sex appeal into something that’s beneficial to me. It’s removed the need to be validated by men in the real world, I was basically at a point where as long as I was getting some kind of attention from men, whether physical or otherwise (let’s be real, it’s mostly physical, men have not been good so far haha). Now I don’t care for that, men need to be in it for more than sex, because there’s men paying good money for my nudes online and they validate me far more than a Tinder hookup ever could. It’s reminded me the kind of person that I am, and that I’m more than just a warm body, if a men wants my time they better be serious about more than sex.
It’s also gotten me more in touch with my own body, I know what I like, I know how to please myself better than I ever did before because I have to do it quite a lot more often than I did before. (And if the men are paying and I have to do it, I may as well enjoy it!).

I also started working for the Oh Zone adult stores, which has been one of the best decisions of the year, it is such a fulfilling job, spending the last 6 months being able to help people in such an intimate way, hearing the stories of peoples lives, their sex lives, and journey’s to discovering their kinks and fetishes. Having people come back and get excited to give you feed back, our regulars coming back to tell us what’s been happening in their lives and how their sex toys are going.
I’ve worked for quite a few companies that have been “customer focused” but not actually been, but with this work it’s all about making people happy and comfortable and I love it, I couldn’t ask for a better job.

 

I guess what I’m saying is 2020 has been terrible, it’s been such a hard year for myself and so many others. Having to be isolated, people being away from their partners, the immunocompromised, all those (like myself) who have lost their jobs, it has well and truly sucked.

But I have a few things to be thankful for, and I think a lot of us will, it’s been a journey for me and I think I have done the growing and achieving that I wanted to, maybe not exactly how I envisioned it or as smoothly as I thought it would be; but it has happened and I think 2021 will be a much better year, for everyone… Because honestly, it can’t get much worse.

 

Even if you aren’t thankful for anything this year that’s completely fine, 2020 has officially handed out a “pass” on being thankful this year, and here’s to 2021 being a great big step up.
Be sure to go into the next year with your nearest and dearest (with a 1.5m socially distanced hug) and be grateful for those you still have around. Get drunk and do what you need to do to forget 2020 and leave it in the past, as best as you can of course.

 

HERE’S TO A NEW YEAR, A BETTER YEAR, BETTER SEX, AND AMAZING TIMES!

The 6 Types of Customers in an Adult Store

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Working at Oh Zone adult stores for a few months now I feel like I’ve met every kind of customer possible, all the different reactions you could get to the kind of products we sell. So I thought why not compile a little list of the 6 different categories I’ve discovered so far, you can read along and check yourself, your friends, or your partner(s) off as you go, I know which I am!

 

Young Kids in for a Laugh

We get it, sex it funny when you’re young, when the craziest thing you’ve done is finger Jess in a park, sex toys seem out of this world hilarious. But honestly this is the easiest way to have your local adult store worker roll their eyes when they see you next time. A little giggle here and there is fine, but we need to be cautious and remember that other people do shop here and while you guys may think it’s this weird thing, another person may be into it and your laughs genuinely could be hurtful. Sex shops are fun but remember we’re in adult stores because we’re adults everybody.

Shy Couples

Honestly I love shy couples, you can try to chat and help as much as you like, but they get nervous or embarrassed and it’s quite sweet to watch. The things you’re looking at buying in these stores are very intimate and not everyone is comfortable enough to have that conversation with a stranger. I usually try to joke around in this case to break the ice but if that fails I leave them to it, either they’ll figure it out themselves or finally break and ask a few questions and either is fine by me. My favourite thing is the breakthrough moment, you won’t always get it but if you tread carefully but bond with them JUST enough they’ll open up and have these amazing conversations with you… And I just love that moment, it’s special.

The Open Partner With a Shy Partner

Probably the funniest combo I’ll ever see (THIS GOES FOR FRIENDS TOO). When one person is too shy to say a word, while going red as a tomato and the other just goes straight into it without a second thought. You can always tell the shy one would rather be anywhere else but here, but the outgoing one will tell you the ins and outs of what they like, what they don’t like, what they’re looking for, what they’ve already tried, all while the shy one stands there absolutely mortified! It’s almost as if they’ll go into far more detail than necessary just to really get under the shy one’s skin. It’s a fun dynamic and a really common to be honest. (Two out going partners/friends are HILARIOUS most of the time and very down for a joke, but there’s something about the comical amount of embarrassment that make this pairing one of my favourites.)

The Vanillas

My sweet cherubs, I really do love them, bless their cotton socks. It’s amazing to watch their eyes widen each turn they make into the store, each new product a total mystery to them. They’re sweet because they’ll usually ask the most questions out of everyone because most things in the store are a whole new world to them, no idea that there were so many kinds of sex toys with so many functions that go SO MANY PLACES.

This is where we usually take a lap and give a brief tour while getting to know the customers, “what do you like”, “what would you like to try”, “what did we come in here looking for” all the things that will help us crack down on the best options for the newbies.

The “Not Here To Mess Around”

These people come barrelling through the door, they have a list, they know names, styles, colours, everything you could think of. There’s no time to chat, no time for questions they came here for their particular thing/s and they need it now! These guys are the easiest people to deal with… Mostly because they’re in and then bam they’re gone, you’ve barely got time to put all their items through before they’re leaving again. They know what they’re after and I respect them for that/

The Regulars

My all time favourites, my regulars! These are the people I see once a week, once every two weeks, maybe more! I know the ins and outs of they’re sex lives, we keep updated on each others lives, they bring in their other friends, partners, aunts etc, we’re basically friends at this point… Friends that only catch up in the local sex shop haha.

Being regulars you can usually ask “how was the xyz” you bought last time, “how’s the fight going that you had with your boyfriend/girlfriend”, “how was the toy you got as a surprise for your anniversary?” and it’s fun getting the little updates and reviews, especially when they’re good because it’s just nice to know that you’re helping them to some degree!

 

A Very Kinky Christmas

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So you want to give the gift of kink this Christmas, but have no clue where to start? Well lucky you, you’re in exactly the right place to find out! We can start basic and work our way up, whether you’re an amateur or a real A list Dom we’ll have something for everyone.

First things first, are we talking just adding a bit of spice via sex toys to have orgasms? If so, here are a few for all my people out there looking;

You can start with the basics, even just a bullet vibrator to help rest some wrists and fingers (even they deserve a few public holidays off). For this I’ve got two obvious choices:

Maia Jessi
This bad boy is one of the strongest bullets you’ll get that won’t break the bank, this one comes with 10 functions, 3 speeds (which will rock your world) and 7 pulse settings, fully waterproof, rechargeable, and comes with a 1 year warranty? This gets a big yes from me, as I tell all my customers this guy was my best friend for 2 years, and fixed my life after a breakup, before I delved further into the toy life.

Lovense Ambi

Now we’re getting a little further up the chain with this guy, but as we all know Lovense is my one true love of the sex toy word. Ambi is shaped like a T, with a little handle for you to hold (good bye numb fingers and hand cramps), one end of the top is the standard bullet shaped while the other sports a pointed tip for pin point vibrations and leg shaking orgasms. As with all Lovense toys Ambi here connects to an app on your phone, so whether you’re spending Christmas with your person or not, the connection will still be there and you can have your very own version of holiday sex thanks to the internet!

Now we’ve got the option of toys that you can use together.

We-Vibe’s Chorus

This toy is a crowd favourite, with it’s bendable shape making it perfectly fit to the contours of your body, it’s ability to be used during sex and on it’s own get it’s very far. My favourite part is how versatile it is though, if you’re not a fan of using it during sex that’s totally normal, you can wrap it in your hand for handjobs, it can be placed under the chin to turn your tongue into a vibrator, and of course you can use it as (what I like to call) Sexy Clicker Training, where one party wears the Chorus internally while they give the other head. The  one receiving the head controls the squeeze remote and squeezes when they get a sensation they like!

 

Okay that’s enough toys… For now. Onto the little things.
You want to try a little more, you’re thinking fluffy cuffs. I think otherwise.

 

Scandal

I’ve done a whole blog about this so I’ll keep it brief, but the intricate red design contrasted on the black is amazing, the softness of the inside of their cuffs, collars, everything. I’m really anal (pun intended) about all my things matching to a degree and the fact that their whole range sports the same patterns and colours just itches my brain in the right way.

 

Blindfolds
This is a good and pretty inexpensive way to spice things up, taking vision away from someone is an awesome form of sensory play, I’m sure we’re all aware that taking a sense away heightens the others, blindfolding during sex is no different. Taking sight away means running a feather across the body is going to feel 10x more exciting.

Massage Oils
I don’t need to say much on this, who doesn’t love a massage? Buying any of the oils in the Wildfire range will get you ready to go, they’re not overpowering but they still smell great and include aphrodisiacs, need I say more?

Bed Restraints
What could possible be better than having your partner tied to the beg and waiting. It’s so sexy when they’re not able to use their hands and can only use their words. By the way, it’s a good idea to have a safe word for this, I know it’s nothing too crazy but when trying out new things you never know what that person is going to feel.

Ball gags
You can get breathable ones for the beginners, you can get elastic straps, buckles, chewable silicone balls, hard plastics, everything to suit everyone, they’re a fun little step into bondage.

Paddles
These are a good replacement for your hand, regular round paddles are fun for an even dispersion of the hit, spit tip crops are awesome for getting the perfect smacking sound, and then regular floggers are super good for getting a lot of little hits in one go.

 

There’s more but we’d be here forever, whatever it is you get your people for Christmas I’m sure they’d love it, and coming in to see your friendly experts at Oh Zone will guarantee a Very Kinky Christmas.