Make Camping Sex A Hot Reality

Camping sex

Easter is just around the corner, and for many that means egg hunts and family gatherings but for many (myself included) Easter means camping! The merciless summer heat has died down (somewhat) and the school holiday crowds have retreated back into suburbia. I can’t help it, the minute March/April rolls around I get an unavoidable urge to pitch a tent and head out into nature. I have been camping my whole life, my first trip was when I was 3 months old (my dad fancied himself an adventurer) and I spent most of my childhood camping. As a teen I would drag my friends out, now my husband and my dog happily come along.

There are millions of camping hack listicle’s on the internet but I have never found one that gives tips and advice for the sometimes tricky art of having sex when exploring the great outdoors. I am here to change that. Please find below a collection of camping sex tips and tricks:

The bed

No matter your camping style (rough and tumble or glamping princess) the bed is one of the most important camping tools you will take with you, and not only for sex. It is hard to have fun camping (in or out of your clothes) if you have a sore back and didn’t sleep a wink. Whatever your preference; there is something for you. If you are a swag or tent camper, buy a size with enough room for you both. Also consider head clearance, you don’t want to be halfway through the deed when you discover you can’t do that move because there isn’t room. Get the double sleeping bag, the nicer air mattress, whatever you are planning on using think about how it will behave during sex.

The space

Campsites are crowded, whether you are paying for a powered site in a park or are hiking into the great unknown, no matter how remote or empty you think it will be expect some guests.  With this in mind it doesn’t mean that stops anything at all, just remember tent walls aren’t real walls and caravans and buses can squeak a lot with some rocking. Be courteous to others (no screaming sessions during the daylight hours… or at all)

If you are finding the campsite a little too restrictive (I’ve never been a fan of an audience) pack a daypack and head to a trail, a remote beach or somewhere a little more quiet for the day and go at it the way god intended,  out in nature. Sex in public has never been more secretive and convenient!

The cleanliness

This is the biggest complaint I hear about camping sex “I feel gross and I don’t want to do it”. I totally get that, I love camping but there is a level of dirt and mess you have to accept and for some that is a total turn off. If that is you or your camping mate, pay attention to the site you have booked, does it have good showers and toilets, are you near a river or beach that you can use to get and feel clean, if this is important to you make these things a priority when booking. If you’re like me and don’t mind as much, my tip is to take baby wipes with you, good for pre and post clean up, you keep a bin inside your tent or swag and no one is any the wiser. Baby wipes are a must for any camping trip but especially the sexy ones.

Road trip sex
Image: Couple on a road trip

Adult toys

I camp to disconnect from technology, unless that technology makes me orgasm; I am not interested in disconnecting from that kind of tech! You can totally bring your toys on your camping trip but remember to think about 3 things:


Charge your rechargeables and put new batteries in your battery operated adult toys (also carry with you extra).


Like I said, there is a lot of dirt camping, make sure you keep your adult toys in a dry clean spot, not only for the ick factor but dirt and sand can get into the inner workings of your adult toys and break them. ☹


To save any embarrassment at the amenities block tomorrow morning make sure you bring your anti-bacterial adult toy cleaner with you camping if you are bringing adult toys. That way you won’t need water and they will be spick and span for their next use.

I took a remote control bullet with us on our last camping trip and I can say that for the first time ever, I actually enjoyed hiking. 😊


Camping is meant to be relaxing but if you have seen a couple pitch a tent together, you understand how it can be anything but. Go into camping with the right attitude, make it about connecting with your partner and nature, don’t pick at her for freaking out about bugs, and don’t be shitty at him for not knowing how to light a fire. For the best and sexiest camping trips be kind and have fun, which puts anyone in the mood.

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Changing The Face Of Pornography

Woman in porn

I want to change the definition of porn and here is why;

I have recently watched the Netflix show Big Mouth (I definitely recommend it) and in one of the episodes a steamy book is circulated around the characters and one of them, Jay is very confused by this “wait a minute, you’re telling me all these girls are walking around reading porn!” And this, along with the recent Fifty Shades release, a few recent documentaries had me thinking, what do we as a society really classify as porn and is it changing?

What Is Porn And How Is It Changing?

Most people know the old adage when it comes to the porn vs art debate of “knowing porn when I see it” but with a society that is increasingly permeated by hypersexualised imagery, easily accessible sex videos etc is that something we can really say anymore?  We adults may “know porn when we see it” but do the kids?  They unlike us have grown up constantly able to easily access this content and are somewhat desensitised to it, so when they are grown ups will they know porn when they see it?

The point I am getting to is that maybe we need to start, as a society, begin to have a conversation around porn, its place and definition. Not to limit or sensor but to tackle the issues that are arising out of porn’s increased sales, accessibility, use and participation.

Talking to my little brother who is now 15 it becomes very clear that this conversation is far overdue. Last time I was home I made him sit down with me and have a talk. He knows what I do for work and because of that he feels that I am the best person to talk to (I’m not sure about best but if he is talking I’m happy) and what started out with questions and clarifying terms has begun to evolve into a discussion around porn and how it should be viewed.

Porn And How It Is Viewed

Many kids first contact with porn is way before their parents believe it is (kids as young as 7 or 8 have reported regularly accessing pornography via the internet) and because these young minds are entering this very confronting world with little to no guidance they begin to form their opinions on sex based on what they see on the screen. My little brother did.  He believed that if the size of his penis wasn’t close to that of the guys on the screen, girls wouldn’t like him. And the penis size question was just the start.

We then began talk about how the act of sex is nothing like it is depicted on the screen. I came to him with his analogy, porn is like an action movie. In real life most days you will walk down the street with little to no car chases, explosions etc it’s the same with porn. When you have sex it will be much less over the top and more real. This seemed to help something click with how he viewed porn and I hope this has moved him to a place where he can enjoy porn but see it for what it really is, a fantasy.

The problem is not every family has a loud mouth older sister who works in a sex shop and is constantly thinking about these issues and that can make it harder. Couple this with the fact that porn seems to becoming part of the societal norm and we have the makings for a perfect storm of confused horned up kids that need guidance.

The First Step Is To Define What Porn Is

For me the first step is about defining what porn is and I think for so many people my definition will make them uncomfortable. I think we should define porn as any content (image, book, video and advertisement) that aims to arouse. Now, before we continue I know this will include images and content that is currently not considered porn and I want that. But do not misunderstand me I’m not asking for these things to be gotten rid of or kept for adult eyes only rather I would like people to engage in a conversation with their children around the meaning of these images, their repercussions and effects so when they do come to sex videos and imagery (what is considered porn now) that will have some context into how they can approach this content. I want to remove the stigma and whispers from the word “porn” and use it as a correct term for sexualised images.

Sexy woman in lingerie
Image: Sexualised Imagery

I also believe that this re-definition of porn would force a lot of people to reconsider the images and content they engage with and hopefully bring a level of awareness to sex’s real presence in our daily lives. This increased discussion could mean that the types of conversations I have with my brother can be a regular occurrence in houses with teenagers, it could mean that people who have worked in porn experience less stigma later in life, we as a society could see a change of our attitudes towards sex that have us being more open and more honest.

The reality is my wanting to change the definition of porn and consider more things under this term doesn’t change a thing, sex and porn will still be there, so will advertising using sex to sell but at least if we give it a name hopefully channels of discussion will open up and our young people won’t feel lost by the often confusing and unspoken rules we are all meant to learn but no one is teaching.

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

14 Essential Tips For The Perfect Blow Job!

Blow job

When I first started high school, I remember a girl, you know the type, the one who was really loud and confident and already had boobs! Well, she passed around a survey for us to all fill in and it was titled “Are you square test” (Yes, I am old enough that people actually used the word “square” without irony).  Basically it was a list of sexual terms, we had to write what they meant and whether we had done them… it was totally mortifying. The furthest I had gone was to first base with a pillow and the back of my own hand!

Now, thankfully I have blocked out the aftermath of that test from my memory, but I still remember blow job being on there. Giving head, oral sex, going down – with any of these phrases maybe I could have hazarded a guess. God only knows why it’s a popular euphemism that happens to have nothing in common with the act itself. This was in the days before the internet. Boy, Google could have helped me out of a few sexual embarrassments, that’s for sure.

Well, now I know that the simple act of putting a man’s penis into one’s mouth is one of the most important sexual practices to get right. Nearly all men love them, a big number of those even prefer them to sex, and an unwillingness to give them will certainly have been the cause of many relationship break ups.

Why God chose to plant our favorite sexual pleasure gardens right next to the sewers eludes me, all I know is you can look and sound like Pauline Hanson but if you give him really good head, he is probably coming back. With the help of some chats with friends, an experienced professional escort and a bit of Google, I will attempt in a few paragraphs to give you some hot tips. Before you get too excited I have to say that unfortunately as with most things sexual, one size does not fit all, all men are different. I don’t think the majority of men will complain if you follow a few of these simple tips.

14 Tips To Give A Perfect Blow Job

Dress Up For It!

Even if you haven’t got a clue what you are doing you can disguise that by being completely overdressed for the occasion. Fellatio is as much about the look as the sensations. I always think it is best to kneel down in front of your man, preferably in front of a mirror. Because you still have your clothes on, it makes it clear that you only want to concentrate on one thing. Men love that.

Take Your Time And Try Edge Play

Which brings me to the most important thing of all. If you are not in the mood to make some effort then don’t bother. This should be taking you at least 20 minutes! Don’t think of it in terms of what you do and don’t like doing, think of it in terms of how you can give your man the most amount of pleasure. Take your time and then take even more time. I know my partner and those of many of my friends are big on this. The aim of the game is to take them to the edge as many times as you can if you feel him about to cum, then change tempo and tease.

Make Some Delicious Noises

Make lots of appreciative noises, the “mmmms” will vibrate too and feel great.

Show Your Appreciation

Don’t just dive down there, talk dirty about how much you want it, if you can (nothing worse than awkward dirty talk). Don’t worry if you can’t do it, just maintaining eye contact while you kiss and lick your way down his body will do the trick. Hopefully, he will be rock hard before you even get his zip undone and don’t forget to make sure you show how much you admire his dick once it is there in front of you.

Giving head
Image: Woman licking lollipop

Keep Your Teeth Away

You don’t have to blow, it isn’t a trumpet. Turns out, you don’t even have to suck, and if you have false teeth this is one time it is an absolute advantage. Cocks and teeth don’t mix unless requested of course and then you will require exact instructions, as I don’t have to tell you it is very sensitive down there, particularly if he is uncircumcised. Yes keep your teeth away, you can even close your lips over them to make sure.

Keep Him As Wet As Possible

The other main thing is it needs to be as wet as possible, down there. We sell loads of flavoured lubes that are absolutely gorgeous. They will help you on your way and make it more pleasant for you, I personally recommend the flavoured lube brand Wicked especially the salted caramel flavour. Muster up as much spit and saliva as you possibly can. You are also not bobbing for apples, use your hands too. My escort friend suggested rubbing the shaft gently at first then more firmly twisting your palms, a bit like a fire stick but without the speed and pressure.

Keep His Balls Satisfied And Experiment With Anal Play

Take his balls in your mouth too, humming or gently sucking and rub your finger on his perineum, the little line between his anus and testicles. Some guys like a sneaky pinky up the bum too, especially when it is near cum time, the more adventurous and experienced amongst you might like to gently pull out anal beads during the money shot.

Use Different Areas Of The Mouth

Start as gently on his most sensitive areas as you would on your own, use your tongue, roof, and sides of your mouth. It is in his interest to let you know what he likes, so he will probably send you signals if he wants it firmer. Stay in control.

Always Stay Safe

Two other quick tips, don’t let him fuck your mouth and push your head onto his dick if it isn’t your thing.  To be honest, and I might be wrong, but this is the stuff that readily available free internet porn sells us as the norm. Beware of a guy that grabs hold of your ears… (Yes, that happened to me once).

Ask Him What He Likes

As I said before, all men are unique so ideally ask him what he likes, good sex is a process of discovery about each other. If you are intent on deep throat action, then I suggest practice on a dildo from our adult stores.

Try Gagging

You are not expected to be a sword swallower and some guys love it when you gag, never be embarrassed, it makes them think they have a massive cock.

Remember To Breathe

Try to breathe through your nose too so you don’t have to come up for air too often.

Experiment With Temperature Play

Make it fun, experiment with temperature, drinking a mouthful of hot tea, spitting it back and resuming the action, alternate tea with iced water.

Should You Spit Or Swallow?

When it is time to cum then there is the question of whether you want to spit or swallow. If you spit then make sure you have a tissue nearby. If he wants you to swallow but you really don’t want to but at the same time you want to please him, just pretend and let it all dribble out of the side of your mouth like a porn star. You can always say I really want you to cum on my tits. If you do swallow then that is all good, although he had better be willing to kiss you afterwards!

Oral sex
Image: Woman licking a cherry

Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

Bi & Married Dilemma Of A Woman At Mardis Gras!

Mardi Gras

Happy Mardi Gras everyone! I love this time of year, everyone is gearing up in their rainbow kit and is ready to take to the streets loud and proud like it should be. Mardi Gras is one of the many things that makes me so proud to be Australian. I am so thankful for the work of the 78’ers and the groups and activists that came before and after them, because of these people our LGBTQIA+ sisters, brothers and non-binary family enjoy a level of equality that seemed unattainable 20 years ago (that isn’t to say the work is done *cough* Trans rights *cough*). We are celebrating the achievements of this marginalised community, showing up in support of them and finally at long last celebrating that we now have marriage equality!

LGBTQIA+ marriage equality passed
Image: Marriage Equality

Is this for me? A married bi girl’s interesting relationship with Mardi Gras!

However for a bi girl who is in a relationship with a man (whom I also married) Mardi Gras can be a conflicting time for me. While I love Mardi Gras soooo much (seriously we need to start decorating our houses for Mardi Gras the way we do for Christmas) it is hard to see it as a celebration that I can be completely involved in. I feel this way because I have been told repeatedly to my face that I am, “not really queer” and while that pisses me right off, I also totally get where that perception comes from. As a white, straight seeming woman, I have not experienced the same level of discrimination and hard ship that some members of my LGBTQIA+ family have. I have never received an odd look or worse for holding my husband’s hand down the street; no one has ever threatened violence towards me because of my outwardly perceived sexuality or any of the other awful bullshit that is thrown unfairly towards the community.  I have had a charmed queer experience by comparison, but that doesn’t mean I haven’t had a queer experience. My queer experience may have been quieter than some others but it was profound and extremely important to me and the person I am still becoming.

So here is my problem, I am queer; I know this in my heart and my pants. But I also see people’s points to the contrary as well, I haven’t experienced the hardships that other members of the LGBTQIA+ community has; and because of this I understand how this may to some jade my “queer status.”

But this year, with Mardi Gras around the corner it got me thinking does a queer person have to go through a degree of torment to be considered properly queer or are we now getting to a point in our society (White Anglo-Saxon society, I acknowledge that this isn’t the case for many people both in and outside of Australia) where a queer person doesn’t have to have battle scars to be accepted. Isn’t that what the 78’ers were marching for in the first place?  Wide spread societal acceptance? I think so. I love hearing about young people now who didn’t have to “come out” to their parents, they just brought home the person they liked and were accepted for it, I love hearing about how queerness is now becoming part of normalness.

That doesn’t mean for a damn second I want us to lose our identity as a community, I want us to expand the idea of what the queer experience is. So that means for out, loud and wonderful queens, acceptance.  The button down corporate girl who isn’t all about her sexuality, acceptance. A non-binary person just existing, acceptance.

This is in no way a critique of the LGBTQIA+ community (in fact, the only people to tell me I wasn’t queer were straight people) it is rather a catch cry for wider society to expand its idea and definition of queerness so queer people can be whoever the hell they want. At last.

Happy Mardi Gras 😊  If you are looking for help or support, check out the LGBTQIA+ services available in your local community.

Author: Jamie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

FetLife Sub Finds A Daddy Dom!

Woman being dominated

“What? I’m supposed to start off slow in the BDSM lifestyle…”

This is the question that I asked myself after diving headlong in to the deep end of the proverbial BDSM pool. I’m sure that there would have been less shocking and more nurturing ways to ease myself in to the kind of level that I started on, where my limits that I thought were rock solid, became rather fluid and the lines of what I was and wasn’t willing to do became blurred. I’ll start at the beginning to give you a better idea of where I was and where I am now.

After a sudden break up late last year, I ventured once again, into the judgmental world of Tinder. Not expecting much this time around, but I thought it might be good for some laughs. After a few weeks of messaging and flirty phone calls, I took the leap and arranged a ‘date’ with a man who I thought may be strong enough to fulfil my newly found need to be dominated; alas this was not the case. Pre-breakup, I possibly would have been satisfied with a bit of rough, but fairly vanilla play. Apparently, this was not the case anymore.

I still vividly remember the lightbulb moment that occurred during my first session with a Dom and how the submissive experience freed me from all of the social constraints that I was hiding behind. It left me feeling fulfilled and I knew then, that was what had been missing from my sexual experience. The feeling of the blindfold blocking my sight, the collar restricting my movement and the feeling of handing over control to another person put me in to a state of a complete and fulfilling calm that I had never felt before.

Fast forward a few weeks of fruitless Tinder matches and an introduction to KiK Messenger, along came Mr. K and Mr. V, neither of which have anything about being Dom in nature, on their profiles, but both of which I seem to be intrinsically drawn to. After short pleasantries and ‘getting to know you’ conversations, we move the interaction across to KiK Messenger. For those who aren’t familiar with the Tinder app, it is a little limiting, you can’t send pictures or live chat. Since, I make it a point to not give out my phone number or email address until I have met with the person and am happy that they’re not just a creepy stalker, KiK Messenger works well for me.

So, both Mr. V and Mr. K made their preferences very clear as soon as we switched platforms, apparently my profile picture on KiK screams ‘I’m submissive!’, the conversation back and forth with Mr. K escalated quickly and a few days later I was on my way to meet him for our first session. For safety reasons, when meeting with someone new, I will always let a friend know where I am and also have them call for a safety check within a certain timeframe. Little did I know that I was about to experience my very first true submissive experience.

Since we had discussed limits and how the scene was going to play out, there wasn’t much in the way of conversation when I arrived. It was straight in to the scene. Mr. K did have me confirm that ‘No, means no’, which I found reassuring. But I was completely blindsided by his borderline sadist style, and what surprised me even more, was how much I enjoyed it. Being spanked hard until my arse was an angry shade of red, gagging so much that I had tears running down my cheeks and being used as a fuck toy, these were all new experiences. Once the scene was over and our clothing was back on, we spent time just getting to know each other and discussing the session.

Soon after Mr. K, I had my first and only session with Mr. V, who has a completely different style and thus led to a different experience. For me, the intimacy aspects of Mr. V’s play made me uncomfortable and it took me longer to get in to the scene than it did with Mr. K. I have always had an issue with intimacy, especially when it comes to looking people in the eye and expressing love. I just find it uncomfortable. This session pushed the boundaries of my limits. It was a mixture of age play, degradation and orgasm denial. All of which, again was new to me. I never thought that I would enjoy being spat on in a scene (spit still grosses me out in everyday life), but surprise, it added to the intensity of the scene. There was not much in the way of aftercare with Mr. V, I just hadn’t left enough time for aftercare. I was meeting a friend after our session, but we have kept in contact since he returned to the US.

Woman who's sexually submissive
Image: Submissive woman

Somewhere between session 2 and session 3 with Mr. K, he introduced me to FetLife and Whiplr, both specific sites and apps for those in the kink community. That’s where the fun really began! I almost felt like a virgin again. Actually a more accurate description would be that I really felt like ‘fresh meat’. It was such an eye opening experience. I have never relied on urban dictionary more than I did in that first week of signing up for the site and app.

It was on FetLife that I found a link to a kink based personality test which I thought was going to be great for a laugh at how ambiguous the profile analysis was, but it turns out that the results are pretty true to my personality and preferences. The site allows you to take the test in several forms: Dominant Questions Only; Submissive Questions Only; Full Test Questions. Since I was pretty sure that I had no dominance in my personality, I opted to take the submissive only questions.

Like I said, I wasn’t expecting any life changing revelations hidden in my results. It was partially true, but what I did find very interesting, was the detailed explanations on what each part of the result was. I would really encourage everyone to take the test, for most, the results are a real eye opener. My results, combined with my FetLife profile, led to me finding a Daddy Dom who is helping me to find my limits in a more controlled way. The further I got in to the kink community, the more I felt that it was necessary for me to take a step back, go back to the starting point that I skipped over at the start of my journey an solidify my limits to make further exploration and play safer in the long run.

In our last catch up, Mr.K and I were talking about how far I had come in the 5 weeks since we had met. So much so, that he was unaware that I had little to no experience when we started, which I was pretty sure that I had disclosed before our initial meeting. This brought home how important communication is between play/life partners so that lines are not crossed or misunderstood and how swiftly miscommunication can lead to a potentially dangerous situation especially with the use of of BDSM sex toys and gear like whips and crops.

All of which has led to me embracing my sexuality, being a more confident person, becoming a part of the Adultsmart family and sharing my learning experiences with the wider community.

Author: Mia is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!