Attending a Munch (Kinky social gathering in a Vanilla setting)

Thinking about attending a munch? You’ve come to the right place.  For those who have ever wondered or wanted to know more about the Sydney scene, but were a little nervous to start off, I get it.

It can be a little daunting and overwhelming. You have flirted with the idea, seen the pictures, heard the stories, browsed the aisles and sections at OhZone.  Or on Adultsmart and talked shop with our lovely sales assistants. You may even have an account on Fetlife.

So Perhaps the next step is Attending a Munch.

Whether you go with a friend or go on your own is up to you. If you have never been before, click attending on Fetlife or Facebook.  Maybe shoot the organiser a quick message, introducing yourself and saying that this is your first munch.

So What is a Munch? 

A bdsm munch is a gathering of kinky people in a very open, very vanilla setting without the pressure of play, or BDSM.

It usually takes place in bars, pubs or venues such as restaurants. People dress in everyday attire that they feel comfortable.  They can attend for the whole event, for a couple of hours.  Or for a small amount of time just to see what it’s like.

Organisers usually post rules for the events on the event pages but will adhere to the basic rules.

• Consent is key.
• Any untoward behaviour will be asked to leave.
• This is a safe space.
• An open and diverse space where everyone is welcome.

Some Munches will be more specific

• Gamer Munches (for kinksters who also enjoy tabletop games).
• Under 35 munches (for kinksters who are 35 years and under).
• Newbie Munches (for Kinkster who are generally new to the scene etc.)

Though it has been a while since I regularly used to attend. I still know of Munches to be a wondrous space for those starting out.  And those who have been around the scene for a bit longer.

What to Expect at a Munch

After letting the organiser know that you will be attending, they will probably let you know that you are most welcome.  And if you have any questions to let them know. They are wonderful and friendly humans.  That’s why they have taken it upon themselves to organise these events.

Many of them will also have the option that if you are new and have never been to a munch before and are nervous about coming in by yourself.  That you can message them and they will walk you in and make some introductions.

This can be quite wonderful for those who are easily overwhelmed by the idea of going in alone.  But would really like to attend.

• Where are Munches Held?

Most of the time, bdsm munches are located somewhere where there is a bar.  So fix yourself a drink, whether it is made of liquid courage or sparkling water and take in your surroundings.

There are bound to be many faces there. If you don’t feel like talking, you are within your rights to say, I’m not ready to talk yet.  Or I’m just easing in.  It will help to tell people that this is your first munch.

• If you feel more comfortable sitting in one spot, do so.

People will probably come up to you and ask if they can sit with you and say hi. Or you might try saying hi to a few new faces yourself.  Ask people if they have been to munches before.

• You don’t need to talk about your kinks or preferences.

Talk about what you do for work, or if you do want, you can talk about how you or the people you are chatting with got into kink.  If someone says, I’m not comfortable, respect that.  And if someone asks you something and you aren’t comfortable, say so.  This is a safe space.

• These are not hunting grounds.

They are definitely not intended to be so.  Occasionally some people may attend with the notion that that’s what they are.  Or that it will be easier to find a partner, a one night stand or a hookup.

But these are not what these events are intended as. They are to make friends, to network.  To find like minded people and to give you the ability to feel included and feel like you are accepted in all your wondrous preferences, shapes, forms.

A place for you to feel like you belong, for you to feel that you can become who you are.

Judgment free.

Ask our Wonderful Sales Staff if they know of any munches in the nearby areas or in Sydney that you can explore.

Easiest Kinks to Try Out with a Hookup Partner

Introducing kinks to your bedroom is one of the most fun and fulfilling experiences that a couple can have.

But there are some kinks that are a little easier to mention and insert into everyday life than others. That’s why we are going to examine the best possible options for when you are trying to have some fun with a hookup partner.  They might not be well-versed in this kind of play just yet.

We’ll give you some great ideas on how to start off slow.

• Spanking and Tickling

A first kink that you will want to try out with a hookup partner will be spanking and tickling.  These are two forms of play that are very easy to get started with and require minimal tools.  This can start out with a little bit of spanking within the framework of sex or just light kinky spanking whenever.

Tickling is the other side of that coin that is easy to do and pleasurable for the right person.  Both of these actions are best done with some toys that will aid in the process so that you don’t have to use your bare hands.

• Light Bondage

Another form of kink play that you can have when you are with a hookup partner is light bondage.  You can think of fluffy handcuffs as being the easiest example of what you can expect of a light bondage. Some people just use rope that they have around the house.  But you want something that is made for the act so that you don’t bother your skin.

Either way, the loss of the control over your movement is a lot of fun.  And can be introduced to just about anyone and get a positive response.

• Fetish Clothes

One other sort of fun that you can have in the realm of kink play is fetish clothing.  These clothes come in many forms. For example, you could look at clothes that are edible such as candy panties. These are meant to be worn short-term while your partner eats them off of you.

This can also be candy G-strings that are meant to be eaten one piece at a time.  There are also non-edible options that are designed to get a rise out of your hookup partner.

For example, you can have crotch-less panties, cutout bras.  And a lot of other clothes that are meant to help you have fun with people that love the idea of having some clothes on. But still being exposed.

• Blindfolding

Another great kink practice that is easy to introduce to your partner is blindfolds. This practice is rooted in the ability to take away the sensation of sight from the partner.  While also giving the seeing person the chance to surprise their partner.

This is a great way for people that are already unfamiliar with a hookup partner to add some more excitement to the bedroom experience. Blindfolding is something that can be done with a lot of household implements. But the key is to have something that is going to be clean and dark enough to block out the light.

There are So Many Kink Options

As you can see, there are plenty of different kinks that you can use with a hookup partner.  I’m talking about adult hookup sites or picked up out on the town.  Spanking and tickling, light bondage, fetish clothes, and blindfolding area just a few of the most mundane fetishes that you can have when you are with a short-term partner.

Over time, you can easily find more people who are interested in more forms of hardcore kinks that will satisfy but your needs.  But these are a good way to get started.