If you are a woman that climaxes easily during sex count yourself lucky! Many women are not able to achieve an orgasm during penetrative sex unless they have their clitoris stimulated at the same time. A lot of people do not realise that clitoral stimulation is needed and often leave their partner orgasmless! Having sex and not orgasming can often make it feel more like a chore if they are not gaining anything from it.
The easiest way this problem can be solved is by communicating clearly what you really need before, during and after sex! Being honest and open with what you need will help your lover learn what stimulation you need to reach orgasm.
Step 1 – Work Out What Makes You Orgasm
The first thing you need to do is figure out the best way to reach orgasm on your own. Take some time to yourself to masturbation. You should read an article to find out where the G-Spot is located and what the G-Spot feelings like. Once you understand what you are searching for, you can use an ergonomically designed sex toy to help you find the area. You may need clitoral stimulation at the same time as G-Spot stimulation to achieve an orgasm.
Step 2 – Replicate The Orgasm During Mutual Masturbation
The next thing you need to do is replicate what you did during solo masturbation with your lover. You can do this by allowing your lover control of the sex toy to stimulate you. Ensure you communicate clearly on the things that you do enjoy and what you don’t enjoy.
Step 3 – Replicate The Orgasm During Penetration Sex
Once your lover has worked out how to give you an orgasm during mutual masturbation, you can now begin to learn the different sex positions that are recommended to use to reach orgasm. With experience you will find out what works for you. Listed below are 6 of the best sex positions you can try.
The 6 Best Sex Positions For Women
The Cat Position
Lovers face each other with the man lying on top. He thrusts gently inside and pushes his erection as deeply as he can. Rather than the man thrusting in and out. He gently pushes and massages his erection into the G-Spot. This sex position is also called the “Coital Alignment Technique”. The man can place his legs on the outside or on the inside of her legs. The lovers can also rock their bodies together for added stimulation.
The Free As Air Position
The man lies down flat on his back. The woman sit’s on top and lowers her body until his erection is fully inside. She that lays herself down so she is completely lying on top of him. It is said that when women are in this position they feeling weightless. The man can also easily extend his hand to stimulate her clitoris.
The Pinner Position
In the Pinner Position a women is able to touch her clitoris secretly without a lower knowing. The women lays down flat on her stomach. The man lays on her back and penetrates comfortably from behind. Since both lovers are completely level with the bed, the women can use her hand to stimulate her clitoris without him knowing.
The Spoons Position
The Spoons Position is reminiscent of spoons that are lying next to each other in a drawer. The women lies in front and the man spoons her from behind with his erection below her buttox. Some women love this position but not everyone is able to reach orgasm as they are on their side. The man can also easily reach around to her clitoris for added stimulation. The advantage of this position is that neither of you is taking on the other person’s bodyweight.
The Standing Spoon
As the name suggests the Standing Spoon is done with both people standing up. The stands up facing forward as the man spoons her from behind. He can embrace the woman whilst she can place her hand behind his neck to push him towards her. People often find that it works best when both lovers bends their knees slightly and gently learn into each other for support. As he penetrates her, she is able to push back into him and relax. If G-Spot stimulation is your thing this is the perfect position to use.
The Crab On Its Back
There is another sex position called Crab On Its Back. This position allows for extremely deep penetration with a lot of body contact. On a bed, the women bends her knees to her breasts. The man sits in a crab position and uses his hands for support. The women is able to move her hips as he penetrates deep inside of her. This is a position that you may have to try a few times to get right but once you do, be prepared to feel physically and emotionally connected.
We hope these sex positions offer a new insight into how to orgasm during sex with a lover. If you would like to learn new ways to orgasm, read our lazy sex and orgasm guide for more information!