In the BDSM world, the apparel is just as important as the toys you use. The apparel sets the mood, and it's mostly female apparel in the BDSM world. There is a good reason for that. Experts have known for a long time that men are sexually aroused by the image while women are sexually aroused by touch. This is why Playboy is a multi-billion dollar business and Playgirl, featuring men in the magazine is not. When a woman walks in in a mesh outfit that covers nothing, a man knows what is on her mind. Unless it's Lady Gaga, and then not so much. (read more)
Bondage and fetish apparel comes in many different materials. There is of course the mesh outfit which covers nothing but is attractive enough to make removing it part of the sex play. Some are made of a thin satin or elastic that when stretched over delicate curves appears to be almost transparent. A lot of the BDSM bondage apparel is made of leather. The leather nipple covers stay firmly in place and some come with tassels that hang from the nipple area. The leather outfits come in classically designed corset models to more modern ones with a Goth appearance. Other apparel is partly leather and partly metal. Of course, fantasy is a large part of the BDSM sex play so many of the choices in apparel are more like costumes than clothing. Costumes like the Naughty Nurse set lingerie. It's a sexy number consists of a skimpy bikini, stockings and a nurses hat.
One tool that is used include bondage tape. In bondage play where some get sexually aroused by the power of binding their lover as some are aroused when their movement is restricted sometimes tape is used to keep them still. Bondage tape is a special material that only sticks to itself. Using real tape can end up ripping hair up from the roots or leaving sticky residue on the skin. Depending on the type of tape used you could also end up causing a great deal of pain. The bondage tape is specifically designed to lay soft and supple against the skin without sticking to it. The bondage tape comes in neon pink, orange, green, and blue.
If bondage and binding is your thing but you don't want to go the tape route, there are always the matching love ties that are made of a reusable silky smooth material to keep your lover's arms and legs firmly secured together or to a bed post or other piece of handy furniture.
Another tool that is used are the blindfolds. Sex without the sense of sight can result in a heightening of the other senses. Some men who have used blindfolds as a bondage toy report having a longer period of uninterrupted sex before climax. Experts cite the male arousal by image example to back up this claim. Especially during anal sex the man is stimulated by the sight of the woman's back and buttocks as he is thrusting his cock into her anus. The extra stimuli of the sight can cause men to cum faster. By wearing a bondage blindfold the sense of sight is cut off leading to a more intense arousal.
Some of these blindfolds come in satin, others in canvas or suede while the more popular ones come in leather. Using blindfolds during sex has the distinct advantage of being able to explain their accidental discovery by children or nosy people in your bedroom as being a sleeping aid. If they open the drawer to find handcuffs, riding crops and whips, the explanation may have to be a little more creative. And speaking of handcuffs…
There is no greater restriction of movement that can be accomplished than through the judicious use of handcuffs. Of course regulation police handcuffs will work great, sometimes the simple silver metallic coating just doesn't go with the rest of the apparel. The good news is that there are actually fuzzy pink handcuffs. The iconic symbol of a first night together after the wedding! Bondage handcuffs come in furry, fuzzy and sparkle laced patterns. In role play with handcuffs sometimes one partner can be the cop and the other the criminal. It could be a kidnap fantasy or something more sinister, whatever the case may be role playing can be a lot of fun.
For the BDSM beginner there are sensual bondage kits that come complete with a blindfold, a suede flogger and handcuffs. In one box, all you need for a kinky party of two, or more. The good news about the types of bondage and fetish toys out there is that the only limits are those of your own imagination.
Another type of toy used in bondage and fetish fantasy sex is the cock ring. The cock ring is the small tight ring that is stretched over the width of an erection to keep the erection in place and hard enough to keep fucking. Cock rings come in silicone, leather and metal. Remember that you always want to have a cock ring be about a quarter of an inch smaller than your cock, otherwise it will fall off mid-thrust and may be lost forever. Don't forget that a good amount of lube on a cock ring before slipping it on will make it easier to do so.
And let's not forget the anal toys when discussing bondage and fetish toys. Anal sex has been around for as long as regular sex. Anal toys range from the small anal eggs and beads to the rather large dildos and cocks. Anal toys can be made from silicone, glass or steel. The anal toys typically have a tapered end that widens to a degree and then narrows to allow for deeper insertion. In all anal toys there is a safety feature that is the most important and that is the wide base. For butt plugs this wide base may be a suction cup to keep it rooted firmly and on dildos and cocks it is the ball sack that keeps it from slipping too deeply inside. (close)