My name is Philip, i am 47 years old and i've had prostate surgery. Having prostate surgery isn't nice, the pressure that it put on my family, my wife in particularly, was more devastating and embarassing than actual cancer. I remember the fear that i felt, the uselessness of the entire situation. My cancer wasn't highly developed, i don't know how, but a routine visit to the doctor and he insisted i have a check up caught it early. I had a prostatectomy, unfortunately despite it being fairly early, they were forced to cut some of the nerves affecting my penis. I didn't think much of it post surgery, and neither did my wife. But after recovering, going back to work, spending time with the family and not taking life so much for granted, a few cracks began to appear. Point is, i couldn't have sex. I couldn't get hard. You might not think that's a big deal, especially when i'd already had kids who'd reached their late teens. However, what i've since learnt is what sex is, it's not about having fun, or getting off - it's about intimacy. Without the physicality of intimacy my relationship was affected, i was used to sex providing that and didn't quite know how to achieve it without sex. One of my work mates recommended a urologist down near Miranda, as i wasn't happy with my current one, and off i went. My urologist recommended some further surgical procedures including an internal pump, but i wasn't so keen on more surgery. He then recommended i head down to Caringbah Adult Lifestyle Centre - and he gave me a short little list of things i could check out. It'd had been over twelve months since the surgery and i was getting anxious, so i put my embarrassment aside and headed off. Unfortunately, there was a young girl behind the counter and i didn't really want to talk about anything, so i just gave her the list and asked if she had any of those in stock. Have you had prostate surgery recently she asked, and that simple question kind of took it all out of me, i nodded and she put the list down and off we went. She was incredibly helpful, and kind, and whilst i was still a bit uncomfortable it wasn't something i couldn't handle. We went through about half a dozen strap ons before i settled on one, they've got a large selection. She ended up giving me a hollow strap on called the Ever-Laster Wishbone - she told me about it, and opened it up and showed it to me and i bought it. It's a strap on that you wear kind of like a belt, and it puts a hollow dildo over your penis. The aim is so that you can still have 'sex' even if you can't get an erection whether that be from Erectile Dysfunction, Premature Ejaculation, Prostate Surgery or other reasons. I like this strap on because, unlike the other ones, the strap seems soft and comfortable it's a polyester fabric, rather than a plastic, or a leather. The leather looked nice, but i didn't think it would feel so nice around my balls. The everlaster wishbone has a fully adjustable strap and will certainly fit bigger boys. The attachment itself seems a little plasticy - but thats just the nature of the products. All of the strap ons felt a little plasticy - but this one seemed a lot softer than the other ones. This one is a 6.5inch strap on, so it's also not overly big and it has a nice gentle curve for what i've been told is optimal g-spot stimulation. When i took it home, my wife was a little uncomfortable by it, but i think she was intrigued, it took about a week before she said let's try it, and to be perfectly honest the first time was an unmitigated disaster, but it was about the closeness that we shared during that time and that was where it was beneficial to us as a couple. We've sinced used it several times and had an absolute blast with it. It's not a replacement, but it allows us to channel our intimacy for each other in a physical manner, and i thoroughly enjoy watching her be satisfied by it.