In the BDSM scene, Submission and Dominance is a common theme to many of the toys that are available. One popular type of toy to express this common theme is found in slave collars. Of course you can't really have a slave collar without a leash too. Experts recommend using role play and fantasy to spice up a sex life that needs a little help. Sex is more than just an enjoyable experience, it's a great way to release stress. (read more)
Hundreds of years ago, the significance of a slave collar identified the person or family that owned you and they were worn by both male and female slaves. The collars were worn for visibility to let everyone know that they were different from the people in the rest of the society. Typically the slave collars were large enough to be seen from a distance. The collar showed the slaves' relationship to their masters. It was the master's claim on slaves and set them apart from being taken by another master.
The slave collars puts one partner into the role of being the submissive slave, the serf while the partner with the leash is the dominant one. The level of trust involved between two people participating in this type of play is tremendous. The submissive partner can relax during the sex play and lends itself to a unique bonding between the two.
The dominant one is in charge and can make demands of the submissive, lead them around with the slave collar and leash. The submissive must obey the 'orders' from the 'Leader' or be punished. And in BDSM activities being punished is a part of the sex act. Combining slave collars with rope, binders and cuffs can make it easy to fall completely into the role play and live it out to the extremes.
With no choice but to obey, the submissive learns to trust the dominant one. Sometimes it's the male that is the dominant, but not necessarily all the time. A Dom Female is not only possible, but is a draw for many men who feel that they want some part of their lives that are not under their control. These slave collars typically come with a locking pin to keep it firmly in place during the roughest of play. Some of the locking mechanisms on slave collars utilize a padlock style lock complete with mini keys.
One word of caution with these toys. Make sure you keep the spare key somewhere safe in case the first one gets lost. It should be somewhere easily accessible and easy for you to remember too. The last thing you want is to have to go to work in a slave collar you couldn't remove.
Many of these slave collars have a soft lining inside to allow for comfort. Of course if punishment is part of your play, you may want to go with the simple steel slave collar without lining, without comfort. Some of them are made of leather. Though the leather slave collars are more comfortable, they are a little bit harder to clean than the steel collars. More on this later. Visually, the leather collars are more appealing and will fit the more Goth motif than the metal ones will.
The last and final collar is the Graduation Collar. The male has graduated to being a successful trainee in the BDSM relationship with his dominant female. This collar is usually more decorative with studs, restraining rings and sometimes jewels. It represents a full relationship between slave and master, much like a wedding ring represents a full relationship between husband and wife.
For some, the slave collar is not enough. That's why some collars come with restraining rings so that wrist collars can be chained to the neck collar. The bondage theme continues with the addition of ankle restraints and hooks in waist level. It gives the appearance of a total slave or prisoner that is under the complete control of the master.
Some slave collars come with what are called nose hooks. These are small, non pointed hooks attached to a leather strap and connected to the collar at the back of the slave's neck. This widens the nostrils and increases the amount of humiliation and stimulates more of a submissive response to the dominant one. Some people get aroused when they are humiliated while others get aroused by humiliating others. It's a good pair up for the two of them.
While the choking game using collars, ropes or similar materials has an element of ultimate arousal to them, these games should never be played alone. While most slave collars are constructed with safety in mind, using them in ways they were not intended to be used for can lead to serious injury or death. Have the fun, enjoy the BDSM lifestyle and playtime, but always, always do it with a partner. Be there for the next time your partner wants to degrade and humiliate you. When cleaning metal collars make sure to apply a layer of oil on the hinges and lock to keep them easy to open for years. When cleaning leather collars make sure to use a leather cleaner. Water can sometimes affect the feel of leather and can degrade the material. (close)