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Review: Lelo Soraya

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“Exquisite Pleasure Both Inside & Out. For the girl who wants it all and refuses to compromise, SORAYA™ blends beauty and brawn for complete satisfaction, time and time again.”

As an avid Lelo Collecter, I couldn’t take my eye’s away from the luxurious Lelo Soraya, it was astonishing. It was one of the first vibrator’s that caught my attention when I walked into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre for the first time in my life. What caught my attention the most was the sleek design with the golden toned metallic sides that seemed to mold in so perfectly with the body safe soft skin like silicone coating. When I first opened up my Lelo Soraya from out of the box, I thought it really should be placed on display in my bedroom with that unmistakable touch of luxury!

I bought the Lelo Soraya because it was sleek and the design wasn’t intimidating at all. The design was simple and not overly complicated, it was something I could easily understand how to use from the “get go”. The Lelo Soraya is a rabbit vibrator that has been made to help you reach a blended g-spot and clitoral orgasmic climax. The two motor’s within the Lelo Soraya work independently for precise stimulation; It has a motor within the thin shaft for vaginal insertion and a motor within the tickling rabbit ear for clitoral stimulation. For a first time rabbit vibrator user, it didn’t scare me with any excess movements or crazy curves that I really didn’t need. I felt like it was easy to use as I could move it without being to rough with myself as the curves are barely there. The design encourages you to be experimental.

Lelo Vibrator
Sex Toy: Lelo Soraya

Lelo Soraya’s button’s are easy to understand and equally easy to reach when the sex toy is fully inserted. The plus button turns it on and highers the vibration intensity, it can be a very powerful vibrator. The minus button lowers the vibration intensity, it can be a very soft and gentle vibrator. The button in the middle changes the modes. There are 8 mode’s that are very exciting and you’ll find on different day’s you may like different modes depending on how you are feeling.  Since the controls are easily reachable, you won’t be hurting your back when your using it. What I have found most useful about the sex toy is actually the insignia grab-able hole that is has on the bottom. This hole is used so you can grab it with your hand so you cane move it on, around and inside your body with ease. You won’t even be aware your holding it either as it is not heavy.

The Lelo Soraya is fully rechargeable and will last up to 4 hours. Since it is rechargeable, it is also super quiet as there are no batteries rattling around within the sex toy. You should always look for a quiet sex toy if you are worried of people hearing you or if the noise will take over your sexual experience. The Lelo Soraya comes in three colours including Cerise which is a Deep Purple, Deep Rose and Black. It is 100% waterproof for shower or bath fun. It can also be travel locked so it doesn’t accidentally turn on when you are out and about.  Inside the sex toy box you will find a black satin bag and a golden Lelo insignia badge. I place the Lelo insignia badge on my black satin so I can tell the difference between m y sex toys easily without have to open up the bags.

The Lelo brand has never failed to create long lasting product’s that can be used time and time again. I can honestly tell you I have never had a problem with any Lelo product I have ever owned. Not one of my Lelo sex toys has ever broken down. The Lelo brand are made so well that when I purchase them, I am never scared of wasting my time or money which says a lot about the brand.  If you would like to have a long lasting, high-end, quality sex toy I can easily say that your money would be well spent when you buy the Lelo Soraya.

About the Author: Elaine is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Finding Your Partners Sexual Fetish

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A fetish is something which arouses a person but deviates from normal sexual expectations. A fetish can be seen as a personal eccentricity. It is believed that a lot of people have a fetish or may develop one over time. But why is it important to understand your partner’s fetish? By taking your time to understand someone’s fetish it will bring them feelings of acceptance, trust and love. These feelings allow the person to fulfill their strong psychological and social need to belong. When they feel they belong in a place in society, they are able to explore their fetish by themselves or in a safe environment with you.

We must be able to tolerate the fetish by decently living aside it. Acceptance is much more than tolerance; we don’t simply just tolerate the fetish but we say that the fetish is okay.  Acceptance is when we are able to live with the person’s fetish and we do not try to change it or argue against it. When we move past acceptance, we are able to understand someone’s fetish. This can be done by taking your time to think about the topic and then communicating or managing social interactions in a respectful and unprejudiced manner.  If you have a live-and-let-live attitude you will easily be able to accept other people’s views. This attitude will assist you to get along with other people.

Your partner must be able to trust you to disclose their fetish to you. Trust is important because people have had their trust broken by a violation of an agreement that may have mentally injured them. For example, there is an agreement between people in a relationship that they must care for the other person. After they disclose their fetish to you; Maybe their fetish was that they watch tentacle porn or maybe they like dressing up as a furry. In response, you may have accidentally humiliated them. They may then feel a sense of betrayal. When the humiliation is left unaddressed, they may develop hurt feelings.  Betrayal of agreements will occur in any relationship. When it occurs you must be able to take responsibility for your actions, apologies whilst deeply feeling remorse.

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To trust one another, we must learn about them and they must learn about us. It is not about putting the best version of yourself forward. It is about consciously being honest with who you are which includes your eccentricities, natures and habits. In this case, trust is built on these very human qualities.  This means your new definition of trust is that you may unintentionally hurt each other, though each of you will take responsibility for your actions and then work towards improving your relationship in a loving environment.

If you are in a loving long term relationship, when you touch your partner their fear response gets turned off and their stress levels are relieved. They are instantly comforted by your familiarity and soothed. The loss of stress and inhibition allows them to feel aroused more easily. This environment provides your partner with a feeling of safety.

Safety is the one ingredient that allows people the freedom of sexual exploration, imagination and play. When people feel safe and ready, they can allow themselves to open up to you. Once they have opened up to you, it is important to ask them questions about their fetish so that you can gain enough knowledge about their preferences. Your questions may include –

“What is the name of your fetish? What is the fetish about? How long have you had this fetish for? When did you know you had this fetish? What do you like most about the fetish? What are you psychologically attracted to in the fetish? Are there other aspects of the fetish you don’t like? How often do you think about the fetish?”

You can take your time to tolerate, accept, understand, build trust and provide a loving environment for them to explore their fetish privately by themselves or find a workable compromise or if you would like to take the opportunity to explore it with them in your sexual interactions through role play, costumes, literotica, pornography and sex toys. On the other hand, it is also important to be aware of someone else’s fetish as sadly, sometimes people don’t share the same level of enthusiasm for the fetish or the fetish may cause distress through the harm of others. In this case, it is important to question your long term compatibility so that everyone in the situation is taken care of.

About the Author: Elaine is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

12 Causes of Low Libido

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This afternoon at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre in Kogarah, a women came in with some questions regarding medication resulting in loss of libido. She was quite concerned and was seeking advice on whether this was normal and what you can do to prevent this from happening. We talked for a while about sexual dysfunction and the causes of this as well as bonding over similar experiences. As someone who has previously been on medication that has effected my libido, I knew how frustrated this woman was.  So I took to the internet and did some research on the medication this lady was taking, as well as other causes for sexual dysfunction.
A sexual dysfunction or sexual disorder refers to experiencing difficulty during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents an individual from experiencing desire, physical pleasure, arousal or achieving orgasm.  HealthDirect Australia says that 30% (!!!) of all women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This can be linked to a number of things, some of which I have previously touched base on (certain birth controls such as the pill or the implanon), as well as some causes being as simple as feeling stressed. There are a number of Physical, as well as Psychological Causes of Loss of Libido in women.
Physical Causes:
  1. Vaginal Dryness: The number one cause of Sexual Dysfunction is improper lubrication or the inability to self lubricate. You can naturally enhance your ability to self lubricate by eating foods that are rich in estrogen. Foods that are high in (o)estrogen are foods like trail nuts, dried fruits, flax seeds, beans, tofu, soy milk and salmon. In the mean time, don’t be afraid to grab a bottle of SuperSlyde!
  2. Depression
  3. Anxiety
  4. Medications for Depression & Anxiety
  5. Other medications like contraception and antibiotics

 

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Psychological Causes:
  1. Stress: From being stressed at work, to carrying the world on your shoulders every day it’s no wonder you’re having trouble unwinding and concentrating on yourself during sex. If you’re stressed you should try to do something relaxing before intercourse. Try have a cup of green tea, or a bath, or even getting a massage from your partner.
  2. Mental illness: having a mental illness can distort the way you are thinking with your physical response. Once you’re convinced that you’re not going to be able to achieve orgasm, it is very difficult to get out of this mind frame. An option that you could consider is seeking advice from a sex therapist/sexologist.
  3. Emotional, Physical or Psychological Sexual Abuse: You should consider seeking counseling if you’re experiencing traumatic stress. The emotional toll of a traumatic event can cause life long emotions that can make day to day life frightening – if you’re experiencing traumatic stress you can call helplines 24/7 to help (Ph: 1800 18 7263 Australia) or visit BeyondBlue.
  4. History of Poor Relationships: Closely linked to the above as well as the fear of the relationship or experience turning out the same as previous relationships.
  5. Substance Abuse: Any substance that changes your state of mind can effect your sexual response.
  6. Emotional Response: A females emotional response to the ability to orgasm is also a massive factor contributing towards Sexual Dysfunction. How frustrating – it’s like a never ending circle!
  7. Inability to relax – Refer to #1
Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction often combines medical and psychological approaches. If you are on medication that is affecting your libido, contact your doctor and ask for a review of your medication. You can ask to change doses or change medications completely if you so wish.  If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or traumatic stress, seeking professional advice is highly recommended. More often than not, behavioral approaches that promote an attitude shift, encourage relaxation and reduce stress will be recommended. Try increasing the amount you exercise, or do more things that help you to relax and make you feel good like taking a bath or listening to a certain type of music.
The brain is a wonderful, yet extremely complex thing and more often than not we have just conditioned ourselves to believe that we can only do a certain thing or are UN-able to achieve or do a certain thing, such as the inability to achieve an orgasm. But hey, realizing that you’re doing this is the first step to getting out of that rut – so go you!  Maybe even just try something new, you never know it just might work! I hope these Causes of Loss of Libido help you learn what is happening in your body.

About the Author: Chloe a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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