9 Ways To Manage Chronic Pain

Pain hurts, no matter which way you look at it, pain is uncomfortable and distressing. Even the most stoic people among us, when faced with chronic pain, will find themselves faltering. Given that so much of sexual arousal is directly related to the psychology of a person, it’s no wonder that pain can hamper sex and intimacy. Pain makes you tired, it makes it hard to concentrate, it makes it hard to tease apart the fact you are aroused away from the actual sensation of pain. In spite of feeling mentally aroused, pain can make it difficult to ascertain that a sexual response has started physically.

Pain can also rapidly shut down a sexual response and completely ruin any pleasure one was feeling. Pain can make you hurt so much you can’t continue and leave you feeling like a sexual failure. As well, if all that wasn’t enough, pharmacological treatments for pain can reduce libido, impede the physical sexual response by reducing erections and can hinder women from producing natural lubrication. All of these symptoms added together can make you anorgasmic, whereby despite sexual stimulation you are unable to reach climax and orgasm. It feels… nice, but you never really start to climb the crescendo towards the pinnacle of orgasm because you can not maintain the orgasmic feeling.

As a warrior of chronic pain for 12 years, I’ve personally felt the impact pain has had on my sex life. I’ve felt the sexual failures as I’ve struggled to navigate pain, intimacy and sex. I’ve learned that what one feels is always valid. With plenty of patience, compassion and communication it is vital to you and your partner enjoying yourselves with a mind-blowing sexual encounter.

Chronic Pain Ramp

From my personal experience, here are some things I’ve learnt so far:

  1. If medications help to ease pain levels, ensure you’ve taken these medications with enough time for them to be active prior to sexual encounters to give you the best chance at enjoying yourself. If medications are impeding your arousal and ability to orgasm, speak with your doctor/pain team about alternatives.
  2. Experiment with different positions and use as many objects as needed to ensure you are comfortable at all times. Pillows, cushions, rolled up blankets and towels etc can be used to support whichever positions you find yourselves in. Use lounges, chairs, tables and bench tops to positions yourselves. There is a wonderful range of products designed to help with positioning. The companies Liberator and Sportsheets offer products to help with positioning during sex.
  3. Discover products at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres that can enhance arousal and shorten time to orgasm. There are products like sexual arousal gels, vibrating adult toys and lubricants.
  4. This point cannot be emphasized enough – Communicate!  To have the best sexual experience it is important to be always open an honest. It’s OK to start a sexual encounter and find yourself not enjoying it and wanting to stop. Let your partner know your sexual needs so that both of you can be flexible and open to your approaches. If you become disinterested with sex, switch from sexual activity to intimacy. Try being close to one another naked, enjoying skin on skin contact. You can also enjoy a massage together as the feeling of closeness and relaxation may make it easier to continue on to have sex.
  5. Create a new definition of what sex means to you and your partner. Sex doesn’t have to mean either of you reach a pinnacle climax or orgasm. If you change your definition of sex to being something like “We deserve to be sexually intimate with one another. Let’s do our best to pleasure each other.”
  6. Change what you think about intimacy and sexual encounters. Perhaps you can wear sexy lingerie and talk dirty whilst your partner admires you and masturbates themselves to orgasm. Relish in non-sexual contact such as hugs and massages. Watch pornography together and masturbate simultaneously. Read aloud from an erotic novel whilst touching each other.
  7. Never underestimate the greatness of the quickie! Quickie will make the experience short and the outcome can be generous for both of you.
  8. Most importantly, look after yourself. Listen to your body and stop if you’re not feeling it. Chronic pain does not make you a sexual failure. You’re a warrior for handling chronic pain. Remember that people without pain have their sexual bad days.
  9. There’s always tomorrow and lots of hugs.

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By Alicia an consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Review: Fun Factory Tiger, ShareVibe and Harness

G-Spot Vibrator
I hope you’ve all had a wonderful week so far. This week I have decided to review 3 items that I purchased last week and have all become my new favorite toys out of my draw of fun!I bought the fun factory harness, share vibe and tiger dildo. So at first I was originally only going to buy the sharevibe and harness but because Chloe is such a fantastic sales person she some how convinced me to grab the tiger as well.
Fun Factory Tiger
Fun Factory Bed
But oh how glad I am that she did! At first I was a little bit intimidated by it’s size as it has been a while since using a toy that big but in the end it was absolutely perfect! From the g spot curve, the length is just right and don’t even get me started on the ridges… HOLY S#@%!!! Remember a while back I sent out a review on the a spot that a lot of you had never even heard about? Well, if you’re still looking for it this toy will be fantastic with helping you find it. So it will still hit your g spot with the curve but it’s the ridges that helps you get that a spot stimulated! (in the correct positions of course). Being face to face or being the person on top will be the easiest way to find it, as long as you can feel the ridges pushing up against the front wall of your vagina you’ll be on the way to the best orgasm of your life.. Or it should at least make the top 5!
Suggested Lubrication
Water Based Lubrication
For the people who don’t produce a lot of natural body fluids make sure to use a good, long lasting lubricant so you don’t have to sit there constantly adding more to it. I’d either recommend wet stuff gold or pjur aqua, make sure it’s water based as the toy is made out of silicone. The bonus of this toy is that you have two options with it, you can either chuck it in a harness and use it as a strap on or you can use it for single use as it suctions at the bottom to pretty much anything other than carpet. Caution: Make sure if you’re using it in the shower to be very careful, maybe grab one of the suction handles we also stock in store.
Fun Factory ShareVibe
Fun Factory Share
Now for the sharevibe. Now you don’t need the harness to use this toy as it’s a double ended but I like to use it anyway just for that extra support, don’t get me wrong though it’s light enough for you be able to hold it in on your own. It has multiple speeds and vibration patterns which is awesome but you also have the option of using it without the vibes, I know there’s a share toy without vibrations but I like to have options. The toy is 100% waterproof so you can also use this one in the shower or bath and it should last a few hours in play before you have to charge it up again. I honestly think it’s one of the best share toys I’ve ever come across! It’s a solid toy, it has a lovely feel to it as it’s made out of silicone, it’s not too big so the beginners shouldn’t have to stress about it being too painful to use and personally I prefer to use toys that don’t look like a penis (I’m a huge lesbian I know) so for anyone who has the same feels as me you’ll love it!
Fun Factory ShareVibe and Harness
Dildo HarnessAnd lastly the harness. It’s my favorite harness that we stock and I’ve been eyeing it off since the first day I started working here and I regret not buying it sooner! It’s absolutely perfect! I’ve always struggled to find a harness that fits me and this one not only fits me perfectly but it would fit anyone else who were to use it to. It’s fully adjustable in the waist and the legs. It’s made out of denim so it’s easy to wash and for all you vegans out there it’s vegan friendly! I’ve sold a fair few of these harnesses and I even managed to convince one of my best friends who isn’t from Sydney to purchase one online and she loves it just as much as I do. So definitely a 10/10.
Thank you Chloe for getting me into the fun factory game, I’m totally on your level now.

By Elliana a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Review: BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo

BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo Vaca Photo

We just got some new BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo into the Penrith store. I’m a bit in love with them. Well not just a bit, I mean a lot in love with them. They’re just so pretty, well shaped and sized just for perfect G-Spot orgasm. Tantus, the company which makes them is BS Atelier. BS Atelier motto is “Offers erotic goods for nice sex which is a bit quirky. Their motto tickles my fancy and I agree hardheartedly with them. From what I have seen so far I think they have definitely lived up to their motto). These g-spot dildos come in several different colours/patterns and three different sizes, a smaller one perfect for those who prefer a slimmer sized insert-able toy (e.g. women who have not given birth, customers who are new to anal sex), and a medium size and a larger size for those who prefer something longer and more girth. They also make a double dildo in a lovely dark blue shade called ‘Olga’ and a range of other products including butt plugs and harnesses. We have two of their curved dildos in the store currently so I will take a look at them today.

Firstly, we have a BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo in the small size. This baby was what first caught my eye cause is the striped multi-coloured dildo reminiscent of licorice all sorts or some other delicious candy. I can’t say I have ever seen a prettier dildo, to be honest. It’s super appealing to me, at any rate, with a summery 70’s vibe that just needs some roller derby chicks, giant lollipops and of course giant shades for the perfect retro party scene. One of my favourite happy places for sure. This dildo is approximately 14 cm in length and 13cm in insertable length with a 3cm width. It’s curved to be perfect for G spot (or P spot) stimulation, and has a flared base so it’s suitable for use in a strap on harness and safe for anal play. The tip is slightly blunted which is a popular and effective style for g spot toys.

 

Coloured Hand Made Sex Toy
Sex Toy: BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo

 

BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo’s are hand made in BS Atelier’s company’s studio located in Madrid, Spain. Spain is known for the artistic tapestries, culture and talents. I’m really loving that Spain brought there characteristics into a sex toy design. The silicone is 100% hypoallergenic made from body safe material. The texture is silky and lovely to touch. It is firm yet flexible to mould with many different types body shapes. These BS Atelier’s G-Spot Dildo’s are hand made so all of them will be slightly unique with characteristic charm. They giver people the feeling of owning something special. There’s is a coloured dildo for everyone’s personality as you can buy one depending on your personal likes and dislikes.

Secondly we have a BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo which has a Cow Patterned in a medium size. The material, make and proportions is the same as the smaller dildo. The differences are in size, colour and pattern. The Cow Patterned G-Spot Dildo is 16.5cm long with around 16cm of insertable length. At its widest insertable section it’s about 4.5cm in diameter and the slimmest part is around 3cm or just over. Through most of the length of the shaft the diameter is 3.5cm. The colour and pattern on this one is so cute, as the name implies it is reminiscent of a beautiful cow’s coat. The base colour is white and it has brown-black splotches of colouring near and on the base. I personally think it would make a super cute addition to anyone’s collection. There is also a BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo in a large size which is 18.5cm in total length with an 18cm insertable length and is 4cm in average diameter.

BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo have a flared base making it perfect use in a harness for pegging and strap-on play! Flared base also makes safe to be used anally. The curvature is a dream when it comes to gently rubbing against the P-spot when inserted and extra pressure can be applied for a more intense sensation.  A great feature of this dildo is that its curve is less defined than other dildos so for women who find that the more defined curved G-spot stimulators such as the Jopen Comet or  Lelo Ella get caught or rub uncomfortably on their pelvic bone. The head of the BS Atelier is similar to the Lelo Ella head which is amazingly pronounced and just snubbed on the tip enough to lightly massage the G-spot.

These delightful dildos are perfect for lovers of art, colour and are aesthetically fun to look at. I would say they are made for very practical use with a very effective G-Spot design which is known to give consistent orgasms. They will appeal to those of us who want something a little bit special and unique in life. My favourite is the darker striped one with black, red, purple, orange etc but their are so many great options.

BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo are 100% high quality silicone dildo is unique to each owner. The silicone is soft and supple its got a delightful spring in it when pressed, its easily bended in half but doesn’t droop at all. The silicone is firm but pliable enough to not cause any discomfort when being used. These dildos have no texture but its matte finish and irregular surface texture gives it a sort of dragginess when in use  a quality water-based lubricant should be used to aid insertion. The complete smoothness and lack of texture make BS G-Spot excellent for thrusting.

The packaging is as minimalist as they come it is a clear snap lock bag with white branding and a blurb of information on the back. The clear bag is absolute perfection as it beautifully, wonderfully showcases the artisan masterpiece. The thing that blows all the other dongs out of the water at Oh! Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre Kogarah is their candy coloured striped g-spotters! Paris (photographed below) are the brightest and my personal favourite and they also come in animal prints and vacca (cow) is definitely in my top three!  The BS Atelier G-Spot Dildo is a sex blogger cult favourite.  BS Atelier (or BS is nice) and damn its fancy!

 

 

Seasonal & Sex Material Allergies

Red Head Girl Blowing Her Nose

Another type of allergy could effect your body could be sensitive to is the material the adult product is made from. Genitals are a sensitive thing and if you put the wrong thing on them they can get very upset. The vagina is particularly sensitive, and as such if people have sensitive skin then there are a range of products I recommend that you should avoid.

  • Jelly Sex Toys: Any soft jelly rubber sex toys use a range of chemicals to keep them soft. You’ll notice that some toys, give off a slight odour. These toys can cause skin irritation and mild to severe burning sensations. Further, some of the jelly toys will give off a slight greasy appearance and when you run your hands on them and smell your hands the smell will transfer on them. Whilst the safety of these toys, which contains phalates, is debatable as it is considered by some academics to be carcinogenic (cancer causing). If it burns, you need to immediately stop using them, have a shower with a skin friendly soap and wipe off what you can. If you just can’t get past the softnessd of these toys, wrap them in a condom before use. As the ‘greasy’ toys are essentially decomposing in a way you must ensure that you keep these toys seperate from others because if they come into contact with others they have a tendency to ‘melt’ over each other.
  • Phthlate Sex Toys
    • Cheap Sex Toys: The cheaper the dildo – the more of a guarantee it is toxic. You may be tempted to buy the $10 bright red see-through dildo (they are kind of cool looking)…but you will get what you pay for. Though those brilliantly colored crystal jelly dildos are cheap – they are toxic! In fact the word “jelly” is pretty much synonymous with toxic in the sex toys world.
    • Smelly Sex Toys:  Toxic sex toys have a strong chemical smell, which never goes away completely even after repeated washes.
    • Elastomers: Some see through dildos are toxic. If it is see-though and flexible and soft, it’s probably toxic. A few see-though dildos are made with a substance called “elastomers”; those are safer in terms of not containing phthalates but are still porous and unsterilizable so should be used with a condom and ideally not anally. See-through hard plastic is safe, too, but a much less desirable texture for a toy.
  • Lubrication: If you find that your lubricant is causing you sensitivity issues, have a look at the ingredients. If it contains methyl Paraben then chances are you have an allergy to it. Make sure you either stick to a silicone lubricant which doesn’t cause any irritation, switch to a natural lubricant, or avoid any lubricants with any kind of parabens with it. Most warming and cooling lubricants contain parabens but there are a few, including the Pjur Med Warming glide which uses natural warming ingredients as opposed to parabens
  • Condoms: If you have a reaction to a condom you could be allergic t either the lubricant or the latex. Switch to a lubricant free condom and add your own safe lubricant, or move to a latex free condom like the Skyns. Once you work out whether you’re allergic to the lubricant or the condom you’ll be able to get back to having some clean dirty fun!

Review: Sqweel XT Oral Sex Stimulator

Sqweel XT Oral Sex Stimulator

I’m always curious about masturbators that push the boundaries from simply inserting your dick, waving it around and thrusting until you ejaculate and then cleaning the product and going home. Sometimes you just want to be lazy, lean back hands behind your head and let your toy do all the hard work. Toys such as the Cobra, the Pulsa and the electronic Piston do decently in this regard, and now Sqweel has brought it’s version to the game. Traditionally electronic masturbators work with a ‘thrusting’ mechanic, think of the A10 piston and how the masturbator goes back and forth as you would when using the hand. The pulse is a little different with a pulsator for the frenulum and the Sqweel XT is different again.

By first impressions it almost looks like a mini Dyson fan, it’s electronic and rechargeable and comes with two wheels. Sqweel call these Turbo Tongue and they’ve patented this name. Not sure if I like the name turbo tongue on my dick, but sure, I’m willing to give it a go. The two wheels are two different styles, one is super soft, squishy and for sensual appeal, the other is firm. So i guess you can mix and match your masturbatory experience with sensations that you like. This kind of tech isn’t new. Tenga comes in both a soft and hard version and the VerSpanken (Apparently that’s a German name – sounds hot!). You can customise your experience by adding a combo of two different edges out of a choice of many.

Oral Stimulator Masturbation

The actual design is super simple, stylish and sleek. Along the edges it has an easy grip texture so that you can easily grip on, and unlike something like the Fleshlight which is a super slick plastic and difficult to hold with lubricant, the Sqweel XT uses a Matte Rubber like finish. Even if you used sticky and slick lube, you still won’t have any trouble holding onto this. It also has a sleek blue edging (the Female Sqweel has a pink edge, go figure) and over all it looks pretty sweet. First up though, the button seem a little small and because you can virtually hold this toy in any direction you’re going to have to get used to the buttons being in different spots if you’re holding the toy ‘upside down’ for example. It will require a bit of co-ordination which is not a complete buzz kill for me, so long as the rest goes really well.

It’s a rechargeable toy which takes about a 2 hour charge and will be with a one hour play and it is waterproof! It also comes with a travel lock as well, which you can turn on and off by holding both of the buttons down for 3 seconds. Little on the short side, but realistically it’s unlikely you’re going to be playing with a single toy for that length of time. After charging, I’m ready to turn it on and I’m pretty happy with the power and noise. My main issue with the original Sqweel for women was the buzzing noise that it made which was a complete distraction from the task. Whilst this buzzes, it’s certainly a lot quieter than something like the A10 piston, and I don’t think that the noise from this is going to detract from the experience.

It has 6 settings on it, 3 speeds and 3 different patterns. The patterns don’t seem especially unique. You have a stop start motion, a crescendo setting, and a slow to fast to slow setting as well. This toy seems decent, it’s unique, it spins, it strokes, the tongues feel great once you lube it up and it’s certainly different to any toy out there. You could hold this toy around the head and have it ‘turbo licking’ the frenulum, just under the ridge, or you could have it licking up and down the shaft with a bit of movement of the toy.

My only concern in regards to this toy is the size of the masturbator. For an average dick thickness of about two fingers you’re not going to have any issues and for that size this toy is perfect for you. It’ll hit the spots without too much pressure, and I can tell you that it’s going to feel amazing for you. However, if you’re bigger than two fingers wide then you’re going to struggle. At that thickness there’s not going to be much difference between the soft and the firm because both of the wheel are going to be pressing snugly against your shaft, perhaps a little too snugly.

If you’re a fan of snug fits then sure by all means give it a go, just keep in mind that if you’re up to 3 fingers wide then the tongues are going to be quite tight and the motor is going to start to struggle against the pressure. Anything wider than 3 fingers and you’re out. Nope, you’re just not going to fit and you’re going to need to try a different toy completely because there’s no way this will work for you. The diameter of this toy on the inner circle from edge to edge is 5.5 cm (2.16″). That gives the circumference at around 15.7cm (6.18″) When you take into account that the average penis circumference is 4.8″, coming in at 12.19 cm’s there’s not a lot of room to move in this toy which I feel is a shame. They’ve limited the use of the toy to the average male, which is fantastic in terms of marketability, but disappointing in terms of inclusivity. Just something to keep in mind when considering this toy.

 

By Stephen from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres