Review: Lelo Soraya

Lelo Vibrator

“Exquisite Pleasure Both Inside & Out. For the girl who wants it all and refuses to compromise, SORAYA™ blends beauty and brawn for complete satisfaction, time and time again.”

As an avid Lelo Collecter, I couldn’t take my eye’s away from the luxurious Lelo Soraya, it was astonishing. It was one of the first vibrator’s that caught my attention when I walked into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre for the first time in my life. What caught my attention the most was the sleek design with the golden toned metallic sides that seemed to mold in so perfectly with the body safe soft skin like silicone coating. When I first opened up my Lelo Soraya from out of the box, I thought it really should be placed on display in my bedroom with that unmistakable touch of luxury!

I bought the Lelo Soraya because it was sleek and the design wasn’t intimidating at all. The design was simple and not overly complicated, it was something I could easily understand how to use from the “get go”. The Lelo Soraya is a rabbit vibrator that has been made to help you reach a blended g-spot and clitoral orgasmic climax. The two motor’s within the Lelo Soraya work independently for precise stimulation; It has a motor within the thin shaft for vaginal insertion and a motor within the tickling rabbit ear for clitoral stimulation. For a first time rabbit vibrator user, it didn’t scare me with any excess movements or crazy curves that I really didn’t need. I felt like it was easy to use as I could move it without being to rough with myself as the curves are barely there. The design encourages you to be experimental.

Lelo Vibrator
Sex Toy: Lelo Soraya

Lelo Soraya’s button’s are easy to understand and equally easy to reach when the sex toy is fully inserted. The plus button turns it on and highers the vibration intensity, it can be a very powerful vibrator. The minus button lowers the vibration intensity, it can be a very soft and gentle vibrator. The button in the middle changes the modes. There are 8 mode’s that are very exciting and you’ll find on different day’s you may like different modes depending on how you are feeling.  Since the controls are easily reachable, you won’t be hurting your back when your using it. What I have found most useful about the sex toy is actually the insignia grab-able hole that is has on the bottom. This hole is used so you can grab it with your hand so you cane move it on, around and inside your body with ease. You won’t even be aware your holding it either as it is not heavy.

The Lelo Soraya is fully rechargeable and will last up to 4 hours. Since it is rechargeable, it is also super quiet as there are no batteries rattling around within the sex toy. You should always look for a quiet sex toy if you are worried of people hearing you or if the noise will take over your sexual experience. The Lelo Soraya comes in three colours including Cerise which is a Deep Purple, Deep Rose and Black. It is 100% waterproof for shower or bath fun. It can also be travel locked so it doesn’t accidentally turn on when you are out and about.  Inside the sex toy box you will find a black satin bag and a golden Lelo insignia badge. I place the Lelo insignia badge on my black satin so I can tell the difference between m y sex toys easily without have to open up the bags.

The Lelo brand has never failed to create long lasting product’s that can be used time and time again. I can honestly tell you I have never had a problem with any Lelo product I have ever owned. Not one of my Lelo sex toys has ever broken down. The Lelo brand are made so well that when I purchase them, I am never scared of wasting my time or money which says a lot about the brand.  If you would like to have a long lasting, high-end, quality sex toy I can easily say that your money would be well spent when you buy the Lelo Soraya.

About the Author: Elaine is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Finding Your Partners Sexual Fetish

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A fetish is something which arouses a person but deviates from normal sexual expectations. A fetish can be seen as a personal eccentricity. It is believed that a lot of people have a fetish or may develop one over time. But why is it important to understand your partner’s fetish? By taking your time to understand someone’s fetish it will bring them feelings of acceptance, trust and love. These feelings allow the person to fulfill their strong psychological and social need to belong. When they feel they belong in a place in society, they are able to explore their fetish by themselves or in a safe environment with you.

We must be able to tolerate the fetish by decently living aside it. Acceptance is much more than tolerance; we don’t simply just tolerate the fetish but we say that the fetish is okay.  Acceptance is when we are able to live with the person’s fetish and we do not try to change it or argue against it. When we move past acceptance, we are able to understand someone’s fetish. This can be done by taking your time to think about the topic and then communicating or managing social interactions in a respectful and unprejudiced manner.  If you have a live-and-let-live attitude you will easily be able to accept other people’s views. This attitude will assist you to get along with other people.

Your partner must be able to trust you to disclose their fetish to you. Trust is important because people have had their trust broken by a violation of an agreement that may have mentally injured them. For example, there is an agreement between people in a relationship that they must care for the other person. After they disclose their fetish to you; Maybe their fetish was that they watch tentacle porn or maybe they like dressing up as a furry. In response, you may have accidentally humiliated them. They may then feel a sense of betrayal. When the humiliation is left unaddressed, they may develop hurt feelings.  Betrayal of agreements will occur in any relationship. When it occurs you must be able to take responsibility for your actions, apologies whilst deeply feeling remorse.

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To trust one another, we must learn about them and they must learn about us. It is not about putting the best version of yourself forward. It is about consciously being honest with who you are which includes your eccentricities, natures and habits. In this case, trust is built on these very human qualities.  This means your new definition of trust is that you may unintentionally hurt each other, though each of you will take responsibility for your actions and then work towards improving your relationship in a loving environment.

If you are in a loving long term relationship, when you touch your partner their fear response gets turned off and their stress levels are relieved. They are instantly comforted by your familiarity and soothed. The loss of stress and inhibition allows them to feel aroused more easily. This environment provides your partner with a feeling of safety.

Safety is the one ingredient that allows people the freedom of sexual exploration, imagination and play. When people feel safe and ready, they can allow themselves to open up to you. Once they have opened up to you, it is important to ask them questions about their fetish so that you can gain enough knowledge about their preferences. Your questions may include –

“What is the name of your fetish? What is the fetish about? How long have you had this fetish for? When did you know you had this fetish? What do you like most about the fetish? What are you psychologically attracted to in the fetish? Are there other aspects of the fetish you don’t like? How often do you think about the fetish?”

You can take your time to tolerate, accept, understand, build trust and provide a loving environment for them to explore their fetish privately by themselves or find a workable compromise or if you would like to take the opportunity to explore it with them in your sexual interactions through role play, costumes, literotica, pornography and sex toys. On the other hand, it is also important to be aware of someone else’s fetish as sadly, sometimes people don’t share the same level of enthusiasm for the fetish or the fetish may cause distress through the harm of others. In this case, it is important to question your long term compatibility so that everyone in the situation is taken care of.

About the Author: Elaine is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

12 Causes of Low Libido

Low Libido
This afternoon at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre in Kogarah, a women came in with some questions regarding medication resulting in loss of libido. She was quite concerned and was seeking advice on whether this was normal and what you can do to prevent this from happening. We talked for a while about sexual dysfunction and the causes of this as well as bonding over similar experiences. As someone who has previously been on medication that has effected my libido, I knew how frustrated this woman was.  So I took to the internet and did some research on the medication this lady was taking, as well as other causes for sexual dysfunction.
A sexual dysfunction or sexual disorder refers to experiencing difficulty during any phase of the sexual response cycle that prevents an individual from experiencing desire, physical pleasure, arousal or achieving orgasm.  HealthDirect Australia says that 30% (!!!) of all women have difficulty reaching orgasm. This can be linked to a number of things, some of which I have previously touched base on (certain birth controls such as the pill or the implanon), as well as some causes being as simple as feeling stressed. There are a number of Physical, as well as Psychological Causes of Loss of Libido in women.
Physical Causes:
  1. Vaginal Dryness: The number one cause of Sexual Dysfunction is improper lubrication or the inability to self lubricate. You can naturally enhance your ability to self lubricate by eating foods that are rich in estrogen. Foods that are high in (o)estrogen are foods like trail nuts, dried fruits, flax seeds, beans, tofu, soy milk and salmon. In the mean time, don’t be afraid to grab a bottle of SuperSlyde!
  2. Depression
  3. Anxiety
  4. Medications for Depression & Anxiety
  5. Other medications like contraception and antibiotics

 

Woman with Low Libido
Photo: Causes of Loss of Libido – Unhappy Woman
Psychological Causes:
  1. Stress: From being stressed at work, to carrying the world on your shoulders every day it’s no wonder you’re having trouble unwinding and concentrating on yourself during sex. If you’re stressed you should try to do something relaxing before intercourse. Try have a cup of green tea, or a bath, or even getting a massage from your partner.
  2. Mental illness: having a mental illness can distort the way you are thinking with your physical response. Once you’re convinced that you’re not going to be able to achieve orgasm, it is very difficult to get out of this mind frame. An option that you could consider is seeking advice from a sex therapist/sexologist.
  3. Emotional, Physical or Psychological Sexual Abuse: You should consider seeking counseling if you’re experiencing traumatic stress. The emotional toll of a traumatic event can cause life long emotions that can make day to day life frightening – if you’re experiencing traumatic stress you can call helplines 24/7 to help (Ph: 1800 18 7263 Australia) or visit BeyondBlue.
  4. History of Poor Relationships: Closely linked to the above as well as the fear of the relationship or experience turning out the same as previous relationships.
  5. Substance Abuse: Any substance that changes your state of mind can effect your sexual response.
  6. Emotional Response: A females emotional response to the ability to orgasm is also a massive factor contributing towards Sexual Dysfunction. How frustrating – it’s like a never ending circle!
  7. Inability to relax – Refer to #1
Treatment of Sexual Dysfunction often combines medical and psychological approaches. If you are on medication that is affecting your libido, contact your doctor and ask for a review of your medication. You can ask to change doses or change medications completely if you so wish.  If you are experiencing depression, anxiety, or traumatic stress, seeking professional advice is highly recommended. More often than not, behavioral approaches that promote an attitude shift, encourage relaxation and reduce stress will be recommended. Try increasing the amount you exercise, or do more things that help you to relax and make you feel good like taking a bath or listening to a certain type of music.
The brain is a wonderful, yet extremely complex thing and more often than not we have just conditioned ourselves to believe that we can only do a certain thing or are UN-able to achieve or do a certain thing, such as the inability to achieve an orgasm. But hey, realizing that you’re doing this is the first step to getting out of that rut – so go you!  Maybe even just try something new, you never know it just might work! I hope these Causes of Loss of Libido help you learn what is happening in your body.

About the Author: Chloe a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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8 Sex Bucket List Suggestions

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Review: NU Sensuelle Curve Vs Precious Metal Slims

Sensuelle G-Spot Vibrator

Tonight I had a look at two similarly priced hard g spot vibes to see how they compared. Both sell well and seem to be pretty effective going off the number of repeat buyers, they’re also handily sized to fit in even a small handbag so great for getting your sex play out of your bedroom or for taking to your date’s place and also quite discreet because of that small size. So here we go friends, the Sensuelle Curve and the Precious Metal Slims.

I will start out with the Sensuelle Curve which is a G-Spot sex toy made by Novel Creations. The G-Spot orgasm is most commonly involved with female ejaculation, so whether you are a regular squirter or have never squirted but would like to, this could be the toy for you. I am reviewing this sex toy first, simply because it was the first one I picked up and looked at. The silicone is high quality, luxurious, body-safe and feels silky smooth to the touch. The little number that comes in two different colours which are pink and purple – these two colours are surprisingly the most bought colours at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres. The Sensuelle Curve is on the bigger size measuring measures 13.5 cm x 3 cm which I enjoy so the width can cover a bigger surface in my vagina. It also has 20 different functions so you are completely covered to find a multitude of powerful vibrations that will suit any type of orgasmic experience you would enjoy. You can achieve pin point stimulation of the tip of the Sensuelle Curve so you can use it for clitoral stimulation to. To recharge place it in it’s rechargeable docking station which will also keep it safe from falling over. Since it is rechargable, this vibrator is on the quiet side unlike anything which is battery operated.

This Sensuelle Curve has one operating button placed on the very base of the toy so it’s quite simple to use – press the button once to turn it on, press it again to scroll through the different functions, each press will change it to the next function. You can turn it off without having to scroll through all the functions too, which is always a good thing I think. Just hold the button down for a couple of seconds in a long press and the vibrator will turn off.  Now once you have turned the vibe on you will immediately notice how strong the vibrations are. This is characteristic of all the Novel Creations Sensuelle range of vibrating sex toys and is one of the main reasons they are so popular. The motors are so strong in fact that many people find their highest settings too strong to handle but they also always seem to feature a good range of speeds and vibration patterns so there is a strength to suit almost everyone. The Sensuelle Curve is no exception. The Sensuelle Curve also comes with 12 month warranty.
Precious Metal G-Spot Sex Toy
Sex Toy: Precious Metal Slims
Now the Precious Metal Slims is much more slimmer than the Sensuelle Curve. It is also much harder and the finish is not velvety, instead it’s the smooth plastic kind of feel. It comes in several pretty and eye-catching metallic shades. So if you’re a disco diva this could be the toy for you! This is also a battery powered sex toy although it uses 2 x AAA batteries.  Since it is powered by batteries, the vibration sound will be quite louder. You will also have to replace the batteries when they run out. There is just one function button also so again simple use but unfortunately with this sex toy you do have to scroll through all the functions before turning it off. Boo 🙁 There are 10 functions to scroll through when all you want to do is lie there in post orgasmic bliss and exhaustion, but hey, you can’t have everything, right? At least those 10 functions won’t leave you wanting for variety. The Precious Metal Slims vibrations on this sex toy are not as strong as the Sensuelle Curve. If you like them really strong this may not be the one for you but if instead you are more sensitive and only prefer or need a lighter touch then this will be a plus for you. After all, there is not ‘one vibe fits all’ and variety is a good thing. The Precious Metal Slims Vibe is also very reasonably priced so gets a tick from me in that department.
Both these vibrators are waterproof so you can take your play to the bath or shower.  Now it’s hard for me to choose which is the better because they both have some great features so I would say that the main point to consider in choosing which is the right toy for you is the motor strength. If you want power or luxury, I would say go with Sensuelle Curve and you will be a happy camper. If you love a slightly more gentle vibration and shiney treat yourself to some Precious Metal. Either way you should have loads of G-Spot fun with these sex toys, and don’t forget you can use a separate clitoral toy at the same time for a super orgasmic experience, so enjoy babes xx

Jade is a consultant at the Oh Zone Stores.

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The Birds & the Bees

Child on Mobile In Car
My 9 year old picked up his dads phone yesterday.  My partner had obviously gone to bed the previous night watching porn. My son came running to show me immediately,laughing and asking what it was. I just grabbed it from him and told him it he wasn’t old enough yet. He obviously had an idea about what it was all about and ran off jumping up and down excited.  I loved the fact that I was the first person he showed it to.  I would never have gone to my parents with anything “rude” I would have kept it to myself and told my friends the next day. I hope he continues to feel like things like that are not anything you have to hide from anyone. I want sex for him to be like driving a car, something great that you really look forward to doing when you are old enough and responsible enough. I also have older kids in the family that I talk to  and quite frankly in this internet era, with all that they are bombarded with,  I am amazed so many  kids survive unscathed. We might flippantly say that “it wasn’t like that in my day” but this time it’s true, It really isn’t!
The internet has catapulted a whole generation into a world that their parents have no experience of.  Kids in school now have had unprecedented access to everything to do with sex at their fingertips ,literally. and they are soaking it up like sponges and often it is in the form of hardcore porn. It isn’t the teen health websites they are looking at that is for sure.  Cosmopolitan magazine was my idea of hardcore sex education, that, and what was passed down from friends. It just isn’t the case anymore and the results are  heartbreaking. There is nothing wrong with pornography when it is seen as a fantasy, which it is mostly when we get older, but that isn’t happening with the young people now, They have been brought up swamped with it.  There is often  a huge disconnect between children and their parents.   I see it in store some days, we have people in their forties and fifties the adult parents of these kids, umming and ahhing at the bottom of the stairs, frightened to come up and see what we sell because anything to do with sex is still seen as a bit  taboo and afraid to walk out in case someone sees them.
Teenagers are going to watch porn, they are teenagers they are curious, this is never going to change. The problem is it  tends to be more and more violent pornography that is often very degrading to women. Thanks to a lot of parent’s current prudish and archaic attitudes, this is where a lot of teenagers now get their sex education. And whether or not a child wants to see it or intends to see it, they are likely to see it. Healthy sexual exploration is distorted in a pornified world. The importance of consent and respect  become clouded. Boys are copying what they see online and find that girls don’t always moan with pleasure at a porn-style sexual pounding.
Pornography is shaping their sexual imaginations, expectations and practices. Young men are  genuinely surprised that when they enact what they see in porn, their partner doesn’t like what they are doing, because the women they see on screen always seem to. When a young guy watches porn and thinks he wants to try out what he sees. He is going to pressure his girlfriend, because he thinks that is what everyone is doing . The sad thing is, they actually are, so peer pressure is there too.  He thinks if he pressures her enough she will do what he wants, and that she will like it. That’s what his mates are telling him and the girl thinks she has to do it because it is expected.  The level of dis-empowerment in some of the  girls at the moment is so sad. Girls feel disconnected from their own sense of pleasure and intimacy. They can end up pretending to like certain acts to keep a boy happy. These days flirting for a 13 year old girl  is sending a nude picture to a boy she barely knows because he demands one.  A 15 year old  doesn’t consider oral sex, sex.  It is what a french kiss used to be in my day.  For a boy, to ejaculate on a girls face and expect her to swallow, is normal, for a girl to express distaste at either practice, unusual. Guys are pressuring for anal and threesomes as if that is a normal thing to expect all girls to be into and girls are feeling they have to do these things just to fit in.
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Photo: Sex Education
There is a huge gap that needs filling in with sex education in schools, and if they cant do it there, then it is up to us as parents. It should not still be taboo for anyone over 18 to come into a sex shop, to a place that is all about making sex what it should be, pleasurable. A lot of men still don’t realize the majority of women need a bit of extra help when it comes to clitoral stimulation during sex. Those aren’t the facts teens are learning from watching porn. They are not learning important facts like that anywhere. They are being taught that shoving a penis inside a vagina is enough to make girls, orgasm, often extremely loudly.
Porn has also contributed to body-image dissatisfaction. Kids have always obsessed and worried about appearance but it is usually something that can be disguised with the right clothing or some make up.  Now boys think they need bigger penises. Girls want huge breasts and lips and designer vaginas. They have to shave everywhere. Shaving  is not optional these days in school.  As early as year seven, girls are shaving. If you don’t, there is no two ways about it, you are dirty and will be ostracized. When I was young, if a guy had suggested I completely shaved myself I would have thought he was a pedophile!   Do we want our 12 year old’s locking themselves in the bathroom with dad’s razor blade and no idea what they are doing?
It isn’t just porn either. It is social media and the culture of celebrity.  Young girls are building their self esteem with the number of likes they get for pictures they post on Facebook, particularly from the opposite sex. They don’t care who likes them it is all about the amount of likes. A picture of you winning a school race might get you a few, but one where you look like you are about to put out will get you an instant ‘like like like” confidence hit.  If all boys and girls are worth are either hyper- masculinised   or hyper -feminized images of themselves , they are reduced to something two dimensional that we just swipe across. The best way to counter all the tacky commercialized messages about sex and bodies we are flooded with, is to start talking about sex in a positive way, If you tell your kids  what you want for them, you are filling a vacuum that is otherwise filled by commercial interests.
If you think I am exaggerating about any of this, just ask any school aged kids you know. That is the problem though.  No one IS asking or discussing. If we can’t even confront and discuss healthy sex attitudes openly and comfortably then how can we be expected to make any headway when it comes to dispelling the myths in teenagers heads that exist. This is not a joke, this is an unprecedented experiment on the sexual development of young people. It has been shown that there is a strong relationship between exposure to hardcore explicit material and sexual behaviour that then leads to adverse sexual and mental health outcomes. Who knows what other consequences there may be.
A lot of adults are so worried about saying the right thing when it comes to broaching things like this, they end up saying nothing at all. If we want our children to abstain from sex until they are old enough to understand the emotions involved, then the best strategy is to talk about it frequently and acknowledge the pleasures. Negativity about sex is what drives teens to alternative sources of information.  Research shows that to be true. You only have to look at the statistics for countries like Holland where there is a much more relaxed attitude to sex and America that preaches abstinence. They have polar opposite rates of teen pregnancies and std’s.  The less guidance and knowledge children have, the more likely they are to have sex earlier and less safely. If you are only talking about the dangers of sex, then you are not credible, kids will go elsewhere to find out the truth. Dads should always be involved in these discussions too, especially when it comes to boys. Boys need to see examples of men taking responsibility when it comes to matters of sex.
We desperately need to bring sex out into the open in a body positive healthy way. Thankfully we are making progress in some areas . Stores like Oh Zone and blogs like Adultsmart help create and shape attitudes towards sex and move things in a really positive direction. Here sex is celebrated, as it should be, in an open honest way.  It is that kind of knowledge that we should be bringing into our schools. An informed choice is a better choice. Lets keep our kids informed and keep the conversations open so that they make the best choices too.

About the Author: Emily is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Review: Evolved Warming Summer Lovin Vibrator

Evolved Sex Toy Vibrator

Rising Trend of Designer Vagina’s

Vagian Tightening

In a world where one can easily take a holiday to an exotic country to get their medical procedures done, it’s no shock that cosmetic surgery is on the rise. But it’s not Botox or boob jobs that are the latest trend, it’s “Designer Vaginas“. A Designer Vaginas is when a woman has her labia surgically altered to her specification which is otherwise known as Labiaplasty. A recent study shows that 80% of vaginal surgeries are to reduce or reshape the labia.

Occasionally, some women will need to have Labiaplasty surgery for medical reasons, such as labia so large that it causes extreme chaffing and pain during every day activities; though it is completely normal for a women to have folds around the vaginal opening and usually nothing to worry about.  Increasingly, a lot of women are getting Labiaplasty surgery as they are displeased with the appearance or presentation of their labia, even though their ‘junk’ is medically seen as perfectly normal.

This was shown recently in a controversial and rather horrifying story where a mother has sent her 15 year old daughter to a specialist to get a Designer Vagina because she thought her daughter’s genitals were “abnormal”. The mother is causing a huge scene worldwide after fighting against doctors professional opinions, exclaiming that:

“Normal women are neater”

And that her daughter:

 “Will never be able to have sex looking like that”.

This is literally the craziest story I’ve ever read… First of all: My mum has seen me naked on lots of occasions, but never right up and personal. She was definitely not close enough to make a comment on the aesthetic of my labia, that’s for sure! Second of all, those early teen years are full of enough insecurities and social anxieties without your OWN MOTHER unnecessarily saying you’re abnormal and that no one is every going to want to have sex with you. What a horrible thing to say to your child!

 

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Painting: Vagina Types

 

Statistics are saying that whilst many people think insecurities come about by pornography, the truth is many women say they’ve seen their friends, family members and other people undressing in change rooms and they “just didn’t look the same”. Fair enough, though no excuse to publicly humiliate your daughter for the way her labia looks.  The trouble is, there is no:

“‘Measurable’ way to tell what’s ‘normal'”

With regards to labia and their size/appearance. Cultures play a massive part in determining the ‘normal’ size of a labia and what is desired. For example, it is well known that in Japanese cultures, larger labia are more desired and thought to be more appealing, whilst in our culture a smaller and ‘neater’ labia is more sought after.

So, what are the risks associated with Labiaplasty Surgery?

  • Loss of sensitivity
  • Over cutting
  • Under cutting
  • Patient not happy with the result
  • You cannot wear tampons, have sex or work out for 6 weeks (sometimes longer) after the surgery
  • Risks of infection
  • Sitting down and walking is uncomfortable for a few weeks
  • Time off of work is necessary

So even after taking into consideration all of the above risks and that under the law, the surgery is not even legally allowed to be done to a minor (a child under the age of 18) for just ‘aesthetic’, the mother is still fighting to get her daughter a “designer vagina”.  While the surgery remains controversial and definitely not for everyone, it would be unfair to rule out ALL reasons for getting Designer Vaginas and one must understand the extreme distress the surgery may relieve to some women.

Our vagina’s are equally as unique as any other thing that is on our body whether its our body types, our face shape, hair or eye colours. There is absolutely no normal type of way a vagina or labia should look. Over time our bodies do change due to hormones, age or changes in lifestyles. You may even find due to your weight your vagina may get bigger or thinner. Or even depending how much your body naturally lubricates may effect its texture. Maybe there is a place for Designer Vagina’s, after all we can do is what make’s us feel better about ourselves to improve our self esteem or we might need it for sexual health reasons.

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The Modern Dating Age

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Furry Culture

Furry Sex Lifestyle

When it comes to expression – more and more people are opting to go individual and often unique ways of expressing themselves. As the world becomes a more populated place we will inevitably diverge into various sub cultures, the more people in a central location the higher the chances that there will be more and more people which whom will associate with a particular identity, or sub-culture. This situation is exacerbated as we become a more interconnected world – even if one is not in the physical location of a particular group then they can still become connected and interact with that group through technology and thus we are seeing sub-sets of culture spring up all over the place.

When individual expression diverges from mainstream expression – it is often seen as ‘weird’, ‘odd’, ‘perverse’ and various other negative connotations. As with anything, things that are not widely understood are often shunned, ridiculed and pushed to the side for seemingly more mainstream expressions; the lifestyles of those that identify as being a furry fall into this category. This identity is quite often misunderstood and is often labelled as a sexual perversion, linked to paedophilia, beastiality and other illegal behaviours. This article seeks to break down that barrier, and provide an insight into such a misunderstood sub culture.

Furry culture is often misunderstood because it can be so incredibly complex as there are sub sections of furry cultures, and people will associate with the culture and interact with it differently. There are many kinds of identities within the culture and as such, it would be a tragedy to attempt to define the culture through generalisations. At its core – Furry Culture relates to people that identify, and have a keen interest, with anthropomorphised animals. Anthropomorphism is giving animals human like qualities and behaviours. This could involve giving an animal the ability to talk, walk on two legs, have distinctly human facial expressions, ability to convey emotions, human like intelligence or even the ability to wear clothes. Winnie The Pooh, George Orwells Animal Farm, Mickey Mouse, most Disney films all contain examples of anthropomorphised animals. 48% of the Furry community consider themselves more of a fandom such as other Cosplayers and it is not, or at least not a major, part of their sex lives. They just love to get dressed up, emulate their favourite anthropomorphic characters from books, tv, art and games, have conventions and get together’s with other Furries and feel the sense of fun and belonging of being in a community with a shared passion.

Contrastingly, flipper, lassie, and other such animal characters are not furries as they do not display human qualities in the slightest, though Thomas the Tank engine and the teapots from Beauty and The Beast have human qualities, they are not considered to be furries as they are not animals. Thus, it is quite clear that furry interests often originate within childhood and an appreciation of various children’s shows and cartoons. This is a rudimentary understanding of the origins of furry culture, as there are a myriad of other aspects to it which include artworks, literature, films, comics, pop culture etc. One of the most recent events involved a condemnation of the film Zootopia, which saw Pop Icon Shakira portrayed as a singing Gazelle surrounded by, arguably Queer, dancing tigers. People were unhappy with this film as they saw it as supportive of the furry lifestyle, and they argued that it was a dangerous film to show this to kids as it was inappropriate to expose them to a perverse lifestyle.

Some Furries even feel that they are in fact not entirely, or not at all human. Some feel that they have an animal or anthropomorphic ‘spirit’ in a human body or are a different species altogether. (If you are interested in learning more about this, try googling ‘Otherkin’.) Some Furries report that their gender is actually an animal or anthropomorphic expression rather than a traditional gender.These are more unusual, however, though 35% of Furries do report that they don’t ‘feel 100% human’.  Most of the Furry community feel that they are human, just having a strong interest in animals and anthropomorphic creatures, and have a more traditional gender, or identify under the trans umbrella, are intersex, agender, gender fluid, bi gender, etc.Interestingly, on average, Furries are more likely to be young, male, and identifying on the LGBTQI+ spectrum than the rest of the population. However anyone can be a Furry if they want to be and there is a diverse population involved.

Even Buzzfeed generalised furry culture by stating that there were ‘already furry artists at work drawing the female rabbit character in the nude’. The assumption here is that furry culture is sexualised, and that furry culture contains strong sexual aspects. The thing is – whilst furry culture does have a sexual aspect to it, it is not primarily or exclusively sexual and people will connect to the culture in various ways. This could include the simple act of wearing ears, or some other animal feature such as a tail. They may dress ‘normally’, but behave in animal like ways adopting a persona which in furry culture is called a Fursona.The Fursona is a representation of themselves in their chosen anthropomorphic or animal form and may be of a particular animal including big cats, wolves, foxes, horses, cat, dog and even dragons. A Furry may have more than one Fursona. They may not demonstrate or display a fursona in real life, but adopt one through online interaction in chatroom’s, through Avatars, or through dedicated furry websites. They may disregard any of these features and simply enjoy Furry based art, pop culture, comics etc.

These are all basic interactions with furry culture and as you can see are not harmful to anyone, nor anything remotely perverse.  From that point they may choose to purchase fursuits, dress up specifically as an animal of their choice, wear masks, or other identifying features. Furry costumes can be quite expensive, especially for good quality ‘Fursuits’. Many Furry fans wear partial costumes instead – ears and tail, for example. Fursuits are made from faux fur such as you would buy a a fabric store, not real animal fur. Typically Furries take extremely good care of their fursuits, as they are both expensive and treasured items. This is often called Furry Life-styling and it describes furry behaviour that transcends simply liking artwork and a love of the furry culture and involves actually living and/or experiencing it. This could simply mean exhibiting a specific sound within a social group, or painting, or wearing various costumes. Often ‘scritching’, such as you would do to a pet, and other animal-related shows of affection are shared between Furry friends.

People Dressed as Animals
Photo: Furry Lifestyle

From here it gets a little complex, as with personalities, there are different fursonas and most furries will identify with or as a particular species of animal. It is at this point where many people assume that furries get involved for sexual reasons, but in actual fact due to the price of the suits there are very few people that engage in sexual activity whilst wearing a suit. Many people have strong imagery of people dressed up as animals engaging in sexual play, when in actual fact, this is rare. Furry culture for the most part, excepting Furry Porn, is not focused on sex and sexuality.

The term ‘yiff’ is often used to refer to Furry sexual activity and some of the ways it is expressed are through Furry themed pornography and erotica, cybersex between Fursonas, sex while wearing fursuits and role-playing. There is a definite subsection of Furries who view being a Furry as a strong part of their sexual life.  A small percentage of Furries report an interest in zoophilia (a sexual attraction to real animals) and a smaller percentage in ‘plushophilia’ (a sexual attraction to ‘plushy’ toy animals.) It should never be presumed that because a someone is a Furry that they harm animals, however. Even the small percentage interested in zoophilia do not necessarily engage in actual sexual activity with non human animals (bestiality.)

So where does furry culture come from? The birth of furry culture is argued, some argue that it originated through the novels of Felix Salten which were published between 1926 and 1945, others  argue that it developed through the work of other artists. However, according to Fred Patten a historian in fandom folklore, it wasn’t until a science fiction convention in 1980 that the term Furry was coined. Many people feel that furry culture is a new concept, however the furry culture has existed online from the early 1990’s which is basically when the internet started to become accessible in households. It has been theorised through social studies that there is a correlation to exposure of cartoons during childhood and this has led some parental groups to refuse to allow their children to watch cartoons. However, as with any study – there are other studies that find no such link. Dr Gerbasi completed a study published in 2008 titled Furries from A to Z (Anthropomorphism to Zoomorphism) in an attempt to ascertain whether people who identified as furries exhibited signs of some form of personality disorder. The data that Gerbasi put forward resulted in the determination that furries are a male dominated sub-culture with a very wide range of sexual orientation and that ultimately, the subjects that were interviewed did not demonstrate any known traits of current personality disorders, which leads us to the question that if there is not a specific reason for being a furry – why is it such a significant sub-culture?

As with any sub-culture – when it comes to media representation of the culture they often focus on the darkest, more perverse aspects of a culture regardless of how small a part of the culture that is. This tendency towards sensationalised news and for the purpose of click-baiting and the development of an ‘interesting story’, is where the majority of the general public derive their understanding of ‘furry’ from. It’s deeper than that. Furry is an expression, a form of expression that is unique to that individuals feelings, personality, and conduct – that expression has the opportunity to create a liberating and safe place for a variety of reasons. They may use that to explore sexual identities, or to become more comfortable and aware of themselves and others. One academic researcher has suggested that it is an ideal way for people with social difficulties to become more confident within themselves by taking away all of, or some of, the ‘human’ element of their social interactions.

The sexual aspect is a sub-culture of furries, and it is often the most over and misrepresented aspect of furry culture. It is for the most part, a harmless sexual expression. However many people are disturbed by it because it appears to be foreign to them. The same can be said of a lot of fetishes out there, as well as a lot of sexual behaviour. Furry sexuality is viewed as slightly different however, due to its perceived removal from humanity and social culture. Realistically, fursuits are expensive and take a conceivable amount of time to create. A quick glance online will reveal that full fur suits start upwards of $400 dollars, and can take up to four months to complete, with the most detailed fursuits costing thousands. As such, it is inconceivable that people are going to engage in sexual activity within a fur suit. The fact of the matter is that this aspect of furries is often the hot topic, as when one searches for furries it is inevitably of a pornographic nature. It is important to note however, that furry porn is completely different, though admittedly a part of, furry culture.

10 Misconceptions Regarding Furry Culture:

  1. Furries are sexual deviants  and is always a sexual thing.
  2. Being a furry means that you must appreciate art and artistic talent
  3. Furries feel betrayed by the media – (Furries are often categorised in the darkest parts of the fandom as the media focuses here for the purpose of click baiting and sensationalised news stories.)
  4. Being a Furry is always safe.  (People that do not understand furries or their sub-cultures will often bully or be aggressive).
  5. Fursuits are not complex works of art. (And can be very expensive)
  6. Furries are a secretive and exclusive group.
  7. Furries are not a vastly diverse group of people. (Like most sub cultures there are a myriad of identities, sexualities, ethnicities etc when it comes to identifying as a furry.)
  8. The Furry Fandom is not seen as a safe place.
  9. Finding your ‘species’/Fursona takes no time. (Some people take years to develop their true fursona)
  10. Fursuits are a requirement
Although Furries have copped their fair share of negative media, it seems like being a Furry is nothing to be afraid of and has the potential for a lot of fun and friendship. You can take it as casually or as seriously as you wish, and invest as much or as little time as you like as well.

 

About the author:  Jade is a consultant at the Oh Zone Stores.

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