Can All Women Ejaculate?

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Female ejaculation. Squirting. Gushing… is the expulsion of fluids by the paraurethral ducts during or before orgasm. Female Ejaculation is one of the most debated topics when conversing about sex, along with the elusive G Spot – the two are debated and questioned medically and professionally every day. Dr. Ian Kerner the author of She Comes First says:

“Much of the confusion around female ejaculation and squirting is because they’re two separate phenomena that are often discussed indistinguishably. While it’s not correct to refer to squirting as a G-spot orgasm, it may be a simple way to think about the experience. Some women squirt voluntarily, some women do so involuntarily. Some women report pleasure, others do not.”
What is Female Ejaculation & Why Does It Occur?
The Skene’s Gland is anatomically near the G-Spot and is basically like the female prostate gland. Glands produce hormones, however during arousal they also produce fluid. In the female body this fluid can be suddenly released with vigorous or prolonged stimulation.
What Does Female Ejaculation feel like?
The sensation you feel before squirting is similar to the sensation of needing to pee. It is for this reason that most women panic, or even stop masturbating at this point in fear of they’re going to wet themselves. One has to push past this slightly uncomfortable sensation for a few minutes before usually starting to experience unbelievable pleasure. Some people don’t feel anything before or during squirting and get a rather wet surprise mid way through a masturbation session or during sex.
How Do You Squirt?
Typically, a curved toy which has a rigid body is the best for achieving your squirting goal. A few of my top picks for achieving a squirting orgasm would be:
  • Lelo Mona 2
  • Lelo Gigi
  • Curved glass dildo or steel dildo like the Chrome Curve
  • Jopen Key Comet
  • Rock Box Finger
All of these toys have a strong curve or bulbous tip to stimulate the G Spot. This is key to when trying to achieve a squirting orgasm. Not only do you need the correct ‘tool’s (haha), however, but you also need serious arm strength (usually) to achieve the desired result. Some of the key techniques include super fast thrusting or rocking for a decent period of time. I say decent as it is hard to pin point the exact moment that it’s going to happen, if at all – but once you start to feel that strange needing to pee sensation, you’re well on your way!!
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Photo: Female Ejaculation
Can Everybody Squirt?
No. And not because they physically can’t, but they’re merely out of practice. Some people need to almost train themselves to do so, while some people simply cant go without squirting naturally. My favourite sex blogger Girly Juice was frustrated for years saying that if she COULD this toy (whatever toy it was) would definitely make her squirt. She took the whole concept with a grain of salt and decided to just be patient, yet consistent with her efforts. And low and behold, as her twitter account reveals, she regularly achieves squirting orgasms on the daily.
So what’s the big deal media?
In my research, I found it rather horrifying that in December 2014, the British Government outlawed depictions of female ejaculation in pornography. No such ban was put in place for male ejaculation. So basically men’s orgasm = great, women’s orgasm = obscene. Interestingly, I also found in my research that Pornhub, the online porn site released data last year showing that ‘squirting’ was the 7th most searched term for their site in 2014, and that more women are looking for it than men. I think the people searching for it are not just seeking pleasure, but to see it for themselves, or people seeking out whether it is real. Only today I had a man come into the Caringbah store who was rather upset saying he has been married to his wife for 22 years but he still thinks she’s never ‘come’. She too says that she gets the slightly uncomfortable sensation of needing to pee and then refuses to carry on as she thinks something is wrong with her and that she needs to urinate every time they have sex. I explained this most likely is her body pre-squirt, put basically. He couldn’t believe it. So I sent him on his way to do some googling with his wife and here we are now writing this article! So that got me thinking… maybe it’s a lack of knowledge on the subject that has created such a taboo and not the act itself?
In Conclusion:
Achieving a squirting orgasm, if you already haven’t done so, is not an unattainable goal. With practice, the right toys and the ability to just ‘let go’ (literally), you will be well on your way to achieving your squirting goals. Happy Squirting!

By Chloe a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Review: Liberator Sex Furniture

Liberator Sex Housewares

Liberator Sex Furniture is a sex houseware manufacturer founded in America in 2001. Liberator Sex Furniture is extremely hard to locate within Australian brick and mortar stores which can be really disappointing because they are sex furniture which is aimed to be a beautifully designed sexual aid for all people. Liberator Sex Furniture can help take the strain off wrist, backs, knees, necks and a whole host of other areas. If you have any type of pain during sexual intercourse Liberator Sex Furniture can really put you into the correct position to allow sex to occur naturally without having to worry about the stresses of causing pain during the heat of the moment. The boxes do suggest some sex positions but liberator also produces other bedroom adventure gear that makes these pieces free thought flowing and easy to experiment with.

Liberator Sex Furniture packaging is wonderous! its black and white with a very sultry photo of a beautiful woman in lingerie demonstrating the product. The packaging is actually quite artistic and tasteful. There is also a small flap you can lift up which gives you a few tips and tricks for using your new furniture and what shapes you can stack them with. The boxes are extremely deceitful. The only product I’ve had the luxury of seeing is the Talea spreader bar and its box and I’m literally mystified as to how such a long bar came from a teeny tiny box. I’m going to ruin the magic, Vacuum sealed and origami folded into their boxes which is actually great for everyone and the environment. They call it eco-compression. Once the shape is unsealed it begins to instantly take shape in minutes. If you give this furniture a whole day to expand complately so that all the material is evenly distributed.

 

Celebrity photo George Clooney Sex Furniture
Photo: Celebrity George Clooney with Liberator Furniture

 

The liberator shapes are comprised of three main components the core, liner ad the outer cover.The liberator foam core is made of a high density foam or liberators technical term is “champagne foam”. its quick like a memory foam with a lot less give it is very good at retaining it shape when in use and can support 2 people with only minimal dipping. The foam core stabilizes, cushions and supports bodies in a way that regular memory foam or pillows lack. The liner is already in place when the product is sealed in the box it is a moisture resistant  polyester. The liner is machine washable and aids in protecting the foam from bodily fluids, lubricants and massage oils. The velvet touch microfiber outer layer is extremely soft to the touch and softens with each wash.The reason Liberator choose this particular blend of microfiber is that it helps to keep you and the other shapes in place! the material basically stick to itself like a super soft Velcro. it also prevents overheating and stays cool whilst being a low skin irritant and is also machine washable.

What I love most about the Liberator Sex Furniture are the wonderful velvety feel and luxurious looking materials they are made from. The Liberator Sex Furniture look so sexually seductive, almost as if it were placing the person lying on it on display in an elevated position. The velvet material gently changes depending on the light in the room, for the ultimate seductive encounter. The material is made so that the person who lays on it, will help them to eliminate movement due to the frictional material will keep them in place during sex so that all you have to worry about is the pleasure of the experience and helps to keep yoursef within the moment.

The Liberator Sex Furniture has also been used in the comedy movie  “Meet the Fockers” staring Ben stiller and “Burn after Reading” with George Clooney.

Liberator is currently only available at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre at Kogarah in New South Wales and through the sex shop AdultSmart online.   If you are interested we can sort something out and when I say we I certainly mean Belinda our manager, who we should all thank for getting in such a bad ass product that will beautifully help so many people to have a wonderful sexual lifestyle.

Review: I-Vibe Rabbit

I-Vibe Rabbit The Original Vibrator

The I-Vibe Rabbit is a rabbit vibrator sex toy manufactured by adult company Doc Johnson. Doc Johnson is located in California originally created back in 1976 which probably is one of the oldest running sex toy companies I have heard of. The I-Vibe Rabbit is a famous sex toy which gained notoriety when it was featured in the TV seriese “Sex And The City”. The Sex and the City girls referred to it as “The Rabbit” which is obviously a joke given it’s name. The I-Vibe Rabbit is also featured  in the Showtime series “House Of Lies”. The I-Vibe Rabbit has always been one of those vibrators that have maintained its popularity due to its multiple functionality whilst it reaches all the important pleasurable spots. I have found that once someone get’s hookied on the I-Vibe Rabbit regardless of how many years they have used it for, they always re-purchase it.

So given that it is one of the first sex toys to be flaunted publicly it has amassed a following of fans (much like the 50 Shades of Grey “cult”) and that is a great thing! Making it easy to talk about sex and owning toys doesn’t seem as taboo as it once did, chances are we know somebody who uses one of these Rabbits so why not do a review on it, right?  On the inside shaft as you can see are some round pearls which when powered up rotate giving an intense pleasant feeling as it oscillates inside of you. For woman who are new to masturbation, I recommend before using the pearl feature of the sex toy that you have done a lot of foreplay to loosen your body and naturally lubricate for the experience. Or you can substitute it for a water based lubricant. One of our favourite all rounder lubricants is SuperSlyde.

I-Vibe Rabbit The Original Vibrator
Sex Toy: I-Vibe Rabbit The Original

 

The I-Vibe Rabbit also has 3 unique pleasure functions, 8 different speeds that you can set the pearls to and also  the rabbit clitoral stimulation has 8 speed stimulation all the while you can choose how you want to use it, you can set either the shaft on and clitoral stimulation off and vice versa. The tip of the penis head pivots in rhythmic circular motions. It is also designed to look very similar to a realistic penis. The I-Vibe Rabbit comes with a clitoris tickler that is shaped like bunny ears. The clitoral stimulator will lightly flicker on the clitoris for gently or high speed stimulation. The clitoral stimulation can get quite intense, which is a lot of fun to experiment with.   It’s completely Water-proof and it’s completely body friendly!  Unlike other vibrators it’s very soft textured  and a lot of woman and couples prefer this because hard plastic can cause discomfort. Due to just how popular this sex toy type is, Doc Johnson have made a whole range of I-Vibe rabbits so every colour selection or body type is taken care of. The insertable length Is 12cm and girth ranging from 11cm to 12.5cm.  The entire length of the vibrator is 26.5cm.  Don’t be put off by the size even if you are a novice because this is a fantastic starting point.

All that said it is the original rabbit, there have been many many many different companies who have tried to match or one up Doc Johnson but as a company that has been around since 1976 and support some of the biggest stars in the industry such as Belladonna, Jenna Jameson it is hard to compete with it.

Doc Johnson I-Vibe Rabbit The Original Advantages:

  • Has thousands upon thousands of customers who swear by it.
  • Waterproof (How could that not be a plus? You never know where you’re going to end up when you’re having fun!)
  • IC Chip Built in so you can control exactly how you use it.
  • Great for beginners to advanced!

Doc Johnson I-Vibe Rabbit The Original Disadvantages:

  • Price can be issue for some but as I mentioned before a lot of companies have their own version, my recommendation would be an Odeco Rabbit which is just as great in my opinion!
  • If you’re very tight the beads might not rotate once they’ve been compressed too much.

You can also buy an I-Vibe Rabbit with a suction cup. The suction cup version is not exactly the same as the original. Obviously the suction cup part is different, but some of its other features differ as well. The swirling shaft, rotating beads and rabbit eared clit tickler remain though, and this makes me very happy. The suction cup feature is pretty self explanatory – it enables hands-free play. Attach it to a smooth surface and bounce and grind the night away (or at least, until you need to run out for more batteries haha). Some users have reported however that the suction isn’t that strong. But the wider base also means it is suitable to use in a strap-on harness, which really takes the toy up a notch in versatility and I feel a little sunbeam of joy for my strap-on using sisters and brothers that they can use such an awesome toy, and I will definitely be bringing it up as an option to customers in the future.

Size-wise it is comparable to the Mini Ivibe Rabbit rather than the larger original. Which is not that mini, it’s definitely a satisfying size for most especially when you factor in the swirling shaft. Now this baby also comes with a cord attached remote controller, which I have mixed feelings about. On the one hand, it obviously makes it much easier to change the settings while you’re using it. On the other hand, I hate cord-attached controllers as compared to non-attached remotes and also the settings are not as varied as on the original rabbit. The wider base also makes it suitable for a bit of butt play if you’re feeling adventurous or are already into anal play and looking for something different. I’m guessing that swirling shaft would be pretty crazy/amazing for prostate or A spot stimulation!

 

 About the Author: Jade is a consultant at the Oh Zone Stores, Sydney.

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Review: Vibratex Mini Magic Massager

Vibratex Body Wand
Body wands are one of the most preferred items among adult toys because of their strong vibrations, versatility and easy to use. Although we got used to seeing body wands in big sizes, I am going to tell you about the Vibratex Mini Magic Massager and how handy it is. The Vibratex Mini Magic Massager comes in a transparent package which includes the wand, charger, storage pouch and user manual. The total length of the wand is 6.25 inches and the erogenous zones and place different amounts of pressure. Body wands can be used as an all over body massager and clitoris massager. If you have a clitoris that enjoys higher powered vibrations body wands are one of the ultimate choices to pick.
Vibratex Mini Magic Massager has 6 different vibration modes which include:
  1. Consistent low
  2. Consistent medium
  3. Consistent high
  4. One low short pulses followed by one high long pulse
  5. Five pulses starting at low going to high and then restarting the cycle
  6. A rumbly low pulse that escalates to a medium pulse, stopped by two quick medium pulses then it escalates again

You can control the modes by a single button placed on the shaft of the wand. It is not the easiest control button (you need to complete the cycle to go back to the beginning) but it prevents the toy from turning on/off accidentally and you can hold the button down for 3 seconds when you want to turn it off without completing the cycle.

Vibratex Body Wand
Sex Toy: Vibratex Mini Magic Massager
Vibratex Mini Magic Massager vibrations are pretty powerful and in my opinion will be strong enough to satisfy most users. Moreover, the head is really flexible so feel free to bend it to maximise your pleasure in a way that you’d like to. I admit that the toy is a bit noisy but nobody hears nothing behind the closed doors. It has ridges on the head as well, if you think that the vibrations are not that strong for you, the ridges will help you during play.
Vibratex Mini Magic Massager is appropriate both solo and couple plays and can be used to stimulate clitoris, G-spot and nipples. It is available in three colours as black, blue and pink in the market. The wand is easy to clean with mild soap and warm water. Pay more attention while cleaning to make sure no dirt gets stuck in between two ridges. Unfortunately, the Mini Magic Massager is not waterproof so you are not going to have a chance to use it under water but don’t worry, it will make you wet even in dry use.
The best advantage of the Vibratex Mini Magic Massager is its charge unit. It has a USB charging port but also has 7 of other ports such as Iphone, Blackberry, most cell phone chargers they fit. It is written on the package that the toy should be charged overnight before the first use, After that, each charge takes 1 hour and fully charged wand gives you 1-1.5 hour of play.
You can use the Vibratex Mini Magic Massager externally on your clitoris whilst you use a G-Spot or straight vibrator for a duel orgasm experience. Erogenous zones that you can massager include the nipples, testicles and on the frenulum. Body Wands are also powerful enough to use through your clothes. When you use it on top of your jeans, through your underwear or through the bed sheets, the cloth will help to soothe the vibration throughout your vagina creating a more sensual experience leaving you wanting more. It is a good way to soother the vibrations, if you find the body wand getting to much.
All in all, if you are a beginner or an intermediate user of toys and into the wands (not the ones being too strong) the Vibratex Mini Magic Massager rechargeable, sleek, mini massager will suit you well! The Vibratex Mini Magic Massager is incredibly affordable at online $45 within the Adult Smart online sex shop. If you enjoy high powered clitoris massager’s Adult Smart and Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centre also recommend the bullet We-Vibe Tango. If you would like to have a look at another high powered, palm sized body wand, we also really love the Palm Power Rechargable.

Medical Play Fetishism

Baci Nurse Costume

The definition of a sexual fetish is the need for an object, body part or material to achieve an elevated state of sexual arousal. Realistically anything can be turned into a fetish; it just depends on a person’s desires and preferences. I’ll be going over one in particular and a few instruments used to achieve heightened sexual arousal, the Medical Play Fetishism.

Medical Play Fetishism is that compulsive desire to explore one another in various ways. Most people grow up feeling scared or ashamed to explore their fetish, it’s not until we grow older and find out that they are not alone and there are hundreds and thousands of others that share a similar interest or fetish. With the Medical Play Fetishism there various medical instruments designed for a certain use then over time eventually became sexualised or used to stimulate and create a heightened sexual experience. These tools range from forceps, gags to percussion hammers and sounding rods. Now, I could spend all day going over every single Medical Play Fetishism but instead I choose 3 sex toys that I found most interesting and curious to investigate.

The first Medical Play Fetishism sex toy out of the trio that I’m going to talk about is the wartenberg wheel. A pinwheel looking device, the wartenberg wheel is a very popular bdsm toy that’s original purpose was to test nerve reactions as it systematically rolled up the skin but it didn’t take long for someone to use this instrument for sexual arousal and stimulation. Looks scary I know but it does what it does best and that create sensation that most people haven’t ever felt before. Depending on how you use the wartenberg wheel depends on the experience and sensation you will have. When used quickly, it can create a ticket sensation and when used slow and hard it can create a more knife-like sensation. Use a blindfold, heat up the toy with warm water or cool down in the freezer, there are many different simple ways you can create new and unique experiences with just this toy and if you combo it with a “violet wand body contact electrode” for entirely new experience all together.

 

Wartenberg PinWheels Surgical Steel
Sex Toy: Wartenberg PinWheels

 

Next on our list is urethral sounds, when I first knew what these were for I was like “hell no, stuff that ” but that was my own naïvety and with some research I found that they have many uses for both medical and sexual purposes. Urethral sounds or sounding rods are used  to go up the male or female urethra, medically they are for measuring and or gradually enlarging the urethra. In BDSM medical scene they can be a source of exceptional sensual stimulation. The rods are curved due to urethra naturally have a slight curve as well. Urethral play is defiantly not something you should engage in without experience or if you don’t understand all the necessary precautions otherwise, your fun can result in infection, injury, or other traumatic problems…… Besides that the pleasure that can be achieved by these toys is incomparable and should not be overlooked.

Last but not least on our list is another enormously popular Medical Play Fetishism device for both males and females in the medical BDSM scene is the speculum. The actual medical application is examination of the rectum or the vagina. Usually, it is made of steel in a duckbill shape with two “jaws” which open with a screw-type mechanism, thus, stretching the opening to give a clear view down the center into the vagina or rectum. There are also plastic disposable variations of speculum. Objects such as swabs can be inserted through the opening into the orifice. It also allows for pouring cool or warm water into the opening, just don’t use ice or water that isn’t too hot.

Using instruments for Medical Play Fetishism comes with its own set of precautions and ways to ensure safe medical play, knowing how to look after and clean your tools will keep them in safe and playable condition. The first recommendation would be to go through an autoclave cycle, this is a medical device designed to sterilise medical/dental/tattoo/piercing equipment. Another alternative would to boil the instruments for a minimum of 15 minutes but for just a everyday clean a simple soapy water solution is also acceptable. When using medical toys you also need to use the right lube, surgilube which is a sterile lube used for surgical equipment is my best recommendation.