Finding The G-Spot: Now What?

The elusive G-Spot is one of the most debated topics when it comes to women’s sexual health. Some of you may be thinking this part of the vagina is a total phantom.  You’ve tried finding the G-Spot but you’ve never found it and you’ve never experienced a G-Spot orgasm.  On the other hand, some of you may be gasping in confusion thinking then why is that spot always the killer to helping me reach orgasm?

Like anything, there’s always going to be conflicted arguments.  If you prefer your sexual dilemmas served with a facebook analogy.

Let me tell you “It’s complicated.”

What is the G-Spot?

If you have experienced a G-Spot orgasm, then maybe your closest comparison would be similar to when Harry Potter goes for his first ride on Buck Beak the Hippogriff in the Prisoner of Azkaban (for you Harry Potter nerds).

G-spot is often described as being about roughly 2 inches inside the front wall of the vagina. With that description it makes it sound like the G-spot is something that is physically inside the vagina and part of the vaginal tissue.

This is not the case. 

It’s Not Part of the Vaginal Tissue

According to many sexuality educators and researchers, the G-spot is a collection of ’spongy’ erectile nerve tissue that surrounds the urethra.  Commonly called the para-urethral ducts, blood vessels and glands.

This tissue is comparable to the prostate in men and it becomes engorged with fluid when a woman is aroused.  When the tissue fills with fluid, pressure on that area can feel pleasurable to some women.  But since the para-urethral sponge is an internal organ, like the prostate, it’s not possible to touch it directly.

You can indirectly put pressure on this area by pressing upward on the front wall of the vagina, since the urethra is in front of the vagina. For some women, putting pressure on the front wall of the vagina at exactly 2 inches inside. With fingers at exactly the 12 o’clock position, might really ring some chimes.

Everyone’s body is different.  Some women might prefer shallower or deeper penetration, light pressure or firm pressure, gentle stroking or hard rocking.

What do Medical Professionals think of the G-Spot?

Many sexual medical care providers do not fully embrace the concept of the ‘G-spot’.  So if you were to ask your doctor this question, he or she might say “no.”

In fact, a recent British study claims to have found no hard evidence that the G-spot even exists. So, depending on where you seek your information, you will receive different answers to this question.  Personally, I fall straight into the boat of sexuality educators who believe that there is, in fact, a G-spot.

Much of the gossip about its existence is due to the fact that our society is somewhat not used to the idea of women’s sexual pleasure.  Our research and medical care reflect this.  Just because all women have a G-spot this doesn’t necessarily mean that all women actually enjoy having it stimulated.

Does Penis Size Matter in Finding the G-Spot?

A common misconception that some woman have is that the longer the penis the easier it will be to “reach” my g-spot.  So many women tend to gravitate towards longer vibrators.  Women ultimately believe that a man with a small penis wont be able to satisfy them.

Now I’m sure you have heard of the saying “its not about the size its about how you use it”.  But then also have the corresponding argument saying that “size does actually matter”.   

Pleasure can be obtained in so many different ways both internally and externally.

To know if your actually hitting the “g-spot” is actually a lot more difficult than you would think.  How would you know if you actually getting pressure from this mysterious erogenous zones or some other sensitive spot inside you? 

This said “g-spot” is said to be closer to the front rather then the back.  So for people who claim size does matter might be actually experiencing a completely different pleasure that isn’t from the g-spot.  But because the g-spot is towards the front also explains why men with average or smaller sized penis can still make their woman go crazy.

 Why do some woman say that they get no pleasure from small dongs and dicks? 

Maybe it’s because the guy doesn’t know what he is doing.  But could it be that not all woman have a g-spot.  

How Do You Find The G-Spot?

We all know that there are sex toy’s out there shaped and designed to hit that magical G-Spot.  But how are you supposed to know where it is if you don’t have a feel for yourself?

When you’re aroused, more blood rushes to your pelvic region and the spot becomes raised and rougher then the rest of the inside of your vagina this increases your chances of discovering the G-Spot. If you’re not aroused, it will be near impossible to find this area.

• Once you’re all hot and bothered insert two or three well lubricated fingers into the vagina.
• Palm faced up, about two inches in.
• Curve your finger gently towards your belly button.
• Feel around for that rough patch as it will feel different from the rest of your vagina.
• It will feel more textured and raised.
• Bear in mind, it can be as small as your pinky fingernail or as large as a dollar coin. So take your time and just relax.

Once you find it, congratulations this is the spot of wonder for sexual pleasures all year round!

• Use firm rhythmic movements including stroking motions, circular motions or come hither motions on the area.
• G-Spot isn’t located directly on that front wall of your vagina. It’s something you can feel through the wall of your vagina.  So you might need to apply more pressure then you initially thought to get that magical orgasm.
• A problem most people experience is that they think it is on the fleshy area but it is slightly deeper then that.  So massage gently until you feel that tingle of pleasure.
• Try using a curved dildo or vibrator to explore stroking, pressing, or rocking back and forth against the front wall of the vagina.
• Vary your depth, speed and pressure.
• Some women find that light pressure on the lower abdomen, above the pubic bone, can also stimulate the G-spot, so don’t limit your exploration to the vagina alone.
• Enjoy exploring your/ your partners body, and don’t put too pressure on the need or expectation of a particular type of reaction.
• Even if the G-spot doesn’t turn out to be a hot spot, you may discover some others in the process.

What If I Can’t Find the G-Spot?

Even though every woman does have paraurethral glands, that doesn’t mean that this is a site of sexual pleasure for all women. I think of it as being somewhat comparable to anal sex. Everyone has an anus, but not everyone enjoys anal play.

Does that mean that there’s something wrong with folks who aren’t into backdoor play?

Of course not. It’s just not their cup of tea, and that’s perfectly okay. One of the negative consequences of all the media attention that the G-spot has received over the past couple of decades is that women and their partners feel like there’s something wrong with them if they can’t “find” the G-spot.  Or don’t experience pleasure when the area near the G-spot is stimulated.

If that’s the case, the G-spot may not be their thing. 

And that’s fine. Concentrate on what is pleasurable for you and your partner, and keep exploring to find new erogenous zones that you do like. 

Do not fret!!  You’re not abnormal, alien or missing a body part. To put it to you simply, just as some people are stimulated from only clitoral stimulation, that area of the vagina may not be an erogenous zone for you.

No one person reaches orgasm the same way as the next

Everyone has certain spots which when stimulated feel better then others. This doesn’t mean you need to file out a complaint form to your parents for creating you without a G-Spot, I promise.

Sometimes, it can also take a lot of time and experience to find it.  Your body can feel quite unfamiliar especially when you are starting out. So you might find it with given time depending on how your body wishes to work. If you simply won’t take no for an answer, maybe you’re just getting frustrated and making it impossible for yourself to find it.

Make sure you’re relaxed and in an environment where you almost “accidentally” stumble across your G-Spot instead of frantically trying to find it like a needle in a hay stack (sorry in advance for the imagery). So take your time, relax, light some candles, and learn from yourself and your body.

Happy G-Spot finding!

Mystery Behind The G-Spot Revealed!

While the G-Spot has always been there it is only in recent years that attention is finally being paid to this area of the female body. This article will explain the what, where and why of the G-Spot.  And will also recommend some specific sex toys that will pay special attention to this sometimes elusive erogenous zone.

What Is The G-spot?

The G-spot (also called the Grafenberg spot- named after German gynaecologist Ernst Grafenberg) is a particular position within a woman’s vagina with increased sensitivity that reacts when rubbed, touched, penetrated etc.

There has been much debate (since around the 1940’s) as to whether the G-spot is real or not.  Scientists have had difficulty defining the G-spots structure and make up as well as what it could be connected or linked too.

Many say the g-spot could be linked to the clitoris while others say it is a female prostate.  Another issue is the ability to “test” and “prove” the g-spots existence. Most “proof” available is known as anecdotal (meaning that it is individual stories and accounts not a scientific study that can be recreated to prove results.) This doesn’t mean that the G-spot isn’t real, it just means that scientists aren’t able with the current technologies to confirm its existence.

Side Note

Some studies using ultra sound have found physical evidence of the g-spot in women who can achieve orgasms through vaginal intercourse.

Now while it may only be anecdotal evidence I can say that the sheer number of women who came into our stores looking for products that focus on the g-spot and  claiming not only its existence but how it has changed their sex life, is well… a lot.  That’s all I need to know.

When in doubt I always trust the person who owns the equipment to best know how to use it.

Where Is The G-Spot?

This is the million dollar question that has everyone wondering. Generally (and I mean generally it may be different for you) the G-Spot is located about 50-80mm inside the front wall of the vagina.

For those of us who don’t want to get a ruler out during sex that is roughly the length of a female middle or index finger (yes I did measure my finger to double check.)

If you are unsure where it is, the best advice is, with clean hands do some personal investigation. It is very important you become familiar with your vagina, vulva and where your G-spot is. If you don’t know how can you give directions to anyone else?

Once you have located your g-spot find what is pleasurable for you.

Is it tapping and penetration? Is it gentle massage? Or is it something completely different? Take the time to learn what your G-Spot likes so you know where it is, so you can pick sex toys that work for you and give partners direction.

Why The G-Spot?

So you’ve read all this and are thinking “OK but what is the point of all this?” The short answer is it will make your sex life better. The stimulation of the G-spot can increase sexual arousal, give you more powerful orgasms and may even allow women to ejaculate (squirt).

Now as we discussed earlier there is varying scientific proof.  But the anecdotal (stories from people who have experienced it) it is overwhelming. Most people who have experienced G-spot stimulation agree that all this can happen when the G-spot is used.

A case study in 1981

Reported “That stimulation of the anterior vaginal wall (where the G-Spot is located) made the area “grow” by up to 50% and that self-reported levels of arousal and orgasm were “deeper” when the G-spot was simulated.”

What this suggests is that stimulation of the G-spot increases blood flow to the area and the increased blood flow heightens sensitivity resulting in a more powerful sexual experience.

Side note

I do want to take a moment to say that some women are unable to find or claim not to have a G-spot. Without understanding the G-Spot completely it is hard to understand why this may be.  But I do believe that every woman owes it herself to at least investigate your g-spot.

Sex Toys That Love Your G-Spot

OK now we know the what where and why of the G-Spot.  It is time to talk about some of the sex toys that will help you further explore this pleasure zone.

Brand.  Nu-Toys for adults.

Name: Sensuelle G.

G-Spot Function: As well as being a vibe this sex toy has a rolling ball massager that creates intense G-Spot stimulation. With 3 speeds and 10 different functions this is a great sex toy for G-Spot beginners.

Brand: Svakom

Name: Trysta

G-Spot Function: A beautiful sex toy that also employs the rolling ball massager function. The Trysta is a compact little gem that also has a clitoral stimulator and is waterproof. Great for those who know what they have and how to use it.

Brand: Lelo

Name: Gigi 2

G-Spot Function: The Gigi has a flattened tip which is perfect for exploring the G-Spot. It is waterproof and can be taken in the bath or shower. The Gigi is for the G-Spot that likes some focused vibrations.

Brand: Lelo

Name: Mona Wave

G-Spot Function: Where the Gigi brings the vibrations the Mona brings the “wave” function. This function simulates penetration and is designed to rise and plunge like “lovers fingers.” The Mona is for the G-Spot who doesn’t mind a bit of pressure.

Brand: Fun Factory

Name: Sharevibe Couple Toy

G-Spot Function: Amazingly shaped and flexible the Sharevibe isn’t specially made as a G-Spot sex toy (nor is it specifically made as any kind of sex toy) but it will do the job. A beautiful silicone sex toy has the ability to work on many different spots and on many different people. The Sharevibe is for the couple who knows the value of the G-spot but doesn’t want to ignore anywhere else either.

Brand: Lelo

Name: Loki Wave

G-Spot Function: OK hear me out! This is technically a prostate massager but just looking at this thing you know any G-Spot would love it. The Loki has the same “wave” motion as the Mona but also has a smaller vibrating shaft that would provide amazing clitoral stimulation. Loki with a little imagination could be a great HIS AND HERS sex toy for those who want a little more luxury in their lives.