No matter how awesome we think we are in bed we all should learn new tricks. To be better at gay topping there are a few things that you should know first. Gay anal sex can hurt.
The biggest problem most tops have is that they don’t pay attention to their partner. If you are going to top remember that if you injure your partner before you even get started nobody is going to have a good time.
So, you’ve engaged in some foreplay, petting, kissing, rubbing and feeling and now you’d both like to enjoy some anal play. Sometimes not everyone likes anal play.
Unless you’ve discussed this beforehand, be prepared for some fun that may or may not involve ass!
Gay Topping – Getting it Right
Always start by gently rubbing with the pads of your fingers or licking around the anus. This sexual foreplay is also known as rimming.
For the health conscious, I myself, prefer to do this in the shower that way O know that we are clean. There’s nothing more sensual and erotic than a scrub down in the shower to get everyone relaxed!
This feels awesome and you will notice when your partner is relaxed. It’s simply about distracting them and making them feel at ease. At this point that you can be a little more intense, and direct and a little rougher.
Sucking and biting is incredibly uncomfortable so don’t do that. Read more in the guide to anal sex.
Gay Topping – Start Slowly
The worst thing you can do is just push it in. A best way to start is to slowly slide it in with plenty of lube. Just watch and listen to their reaction. It gives them time to relax.
Nibble on their ear. Play with their nipples. Hold your dick on the outside of the ass and push gently. And then wait.
Don’t keep trying to ram it in.
At this point its about patience and relaxation and you need to take it slow. Once you’re in, take it slow. The muscles need to get used to having something there. This can take anywhere for a few thrusts to a lot of thrusts before you can speed it up.
It’s the in and out that can be painful in the beginning so grind slow.
If it remains painful then this is a sure indication that you need more lube, or better lube.
As the heat increases your instincts should take over.
Pulling out your penis completely and then pushing it back looks great in porn but in reality can feel more like getting stabbed than pleasurable.
Don’t rush to cum. Vary the speed and tempo, tease and build. That’s the way to do it.
Gay Topping – Don’t Cum and Go.
Don’t be selfish. Make sure your partner gets off too. If you’re good you can time it so you get off together at the same time.
Always change your positions.
Remember if your bottom is going off then you’re going to have a much better time too. Move around and see what works and what makes it fun for both of you.
Try to grunt, groan, and call out his name and a little dirty talk.
These are all great ways of letting him know you like something. Letting him know you like it, has the added bonus of encouraging him to do it more.
Your partner has a mouth, two nipples, two arms and two legs. Not to mention any number of “spots”. Use them.
Biting and moaning in his ear as you thrust.
Licking his neck and gently pulling his hair as you are pushing it in and jerking him off as you fuck are a few tips that can improve Gay Sex.
For those who are bigger than average, going deep might not be the most comfortable act for your partner.
Use common sense
Always use a condom unless you are already in a long term relationship with him and you trust him.
Sex is fun and there are no hard and fast rules. But if you want to spice up your gay sex life the easiest way to do it is to pay attention to what works and doesn’t work for your partner.
Now relax and enjoy.
How To Prepare For A Gay Orgy!
Have you been dreaming of participating in group sex with lots of pleasure, entertainment and fun? Then you should consider attending the next gay sex party.
This is not a new concept as it has been in existence for years and most men not only enjoy participating in group sex but feel surges of pleasure watching other men have a good time. It is a fantasy like no other that has been streamlined today.
Gay exchange programs make it a possibility for any gay person in the world to feel at home wherever he travels.
Considering Hosting a Gay Sex Party?
If you are considering hosting a gay orgy, you must realize that it is a lot of work to hold a successful sex party gay. Be prepared to sift through so many hot pics.
Sending out the invite to the right persons will add value to the whole party and at the same time ensure that all guests enjoy themselves. Some parties are spontaneous.
But the best ones are staged complete with a guest list, chronological flow of events and even some rules that all guests have to stick to for a successful bash.
Getting the Word Out
Earlier, getting the word out that you are planning to throw a gay party used to be tricky. There were only but a few gay magazines around. Today, thanks to the internet, this should be the easiest part of the preparation.
With social media, you can post on any gay group on Facebook and in a few hours get so many confirmations to kickoff your preparations.
Note that you have to be specific in your invites so that the right persons are invited to the right party.
Make it clear what you are looking for
If you need only persons interested in group sex, state it so. You can post your ad on Craig lists, Yahoo Classified, gay blogs, among others.
If you want huge gay party turnout, you need to be able to accommodate them all. Some private parties insist on a photo with every confirmation.
Even though doing this might knockout some potential great guests, you will only get the best for the right party that you’re after.
Ensure that you get comprehensive and accurate descriptions from the guests and what they will be expecting from the party.
In fact, make it known that you will not hesitate to throw out anyone who shows with inaccurate description. It is a sex gay party and not a church conference.]
Get a Good Balance of Guests and Diversity
You should balance the guests well so that they blend well based on their desires and expectations from the party and their ages.
Also provide a bunch of differently sized condoms (hey, you never know) or if guests prefer their own brand then they should be encouraged to bring them.
If you can, find some racial and ethnic blend as well to bring out the diversity. Pulling this one off can be a bit tricky unless you reside in a really diversified city. Otherwise, don’t bother.
Don’t Disclose Venue Straightaway
If you are keen in ensuring that you get the best from a gay exchange program with its many members, don’t disclose the venue on the initial communication. Only provide a general location or suburb to ensure guests know where they are roughly headed to.
This will bar any gate crushers from spoiling your party and only send the location out on the specific day.
Bags for Clothes
You should provide a bag so that each guest can place their normal clothes in there so no one clothes or item’s get mixed together.
Different Coloured Clothing for different types of Sex
You can also ask guests to wear different types of clothing to show what type of sex they’ll like. Or what they prefer sexually so that people are connect with likewise people.
For example, you can ask people who like being bottoms to wear orange hats or people who like oral play to wear pink necklaces.
On the invitation you can also suggest item’s they will need for the party. Like the type of lubrication, what type of condoms, how many people are going and what themed party it is.
If there are any rules for this party you can also include them on the invitation.
Meet PJ Weir, former Gay Exchange stalwart and gay rights advocate. Now caring for his mother in Queensland, he reflects on a decade of LGBTQ+ activism.