Gay Bondage Play is an exciting new trend that has been introduced into many couples’ bedroom lately.
As a beginner in BDSM, you need to make sure that bondage play is what you and your partner want. That it will be consensual and safe. Leave alcohol and drugs at the door and experience a proper sober experience.
When you are taking part into a new type of sex, be careful. Always experiment before going into depth.
Gay Bondage Play
It is important to understand that all types of bondage play require high levels of trust.
A person will only let you restrain them if they are sure you won’t hurt them. Don’t attempt anything that is not mutually agreed upon. A man will want to know that you won’t hurt him, both physically and psychologically. He will want to be sure that you’re not going to leave him tied up and naked on the bed. Or take pictures of him without his consent.
A man wants to know that what you both do is safe.
Do’s and Don’ts of Gay Bondage Play
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DO buy the basic sex toys
To begin playing around in the room, you are going to need some very hot sex toys. Gay bondage means you have to have a few instruments of sensual delight close by to heighten both of your sexual experiences. You might want a whip, a chain or ropes, a blindfold and a restraint kit.
When you have a few instruments close by, you can begin testing. Experimentation will see whether you get a kick out of the chance to command or if you get a kick out of being submissive.
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DO Agree on a safety word
Before you start tying your man up, you should discuss and set a safety word. Safety words allow you to feel safe. Using the word ensures that you or your partner can stop things if they feel out of control.
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DON’T abuse power
As the dominant, you have to know how critical your part is in a gay servitude situation. You need to be aware and not to abuse that power. Essentially, you have the ability to unfasten somebody when that individual says the safe word. You wouldn’t abuse your power by keeping them held down. Let them go straight away.
Essentially, the submissive one truly has no power in these circumstances. It is dependent upon you to make that individual to feel safe. With regards to gay subjugation sex, trust is inconceivably imperative.
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DO use soft material
For beginners, don’t get out of your depth with advance bondage gear. I advise you to use a tie, a scarf, stockings, cuffs made of Velcro and some rope.
After you both decide what it is you’d want to use, bring it in the bedroom in a seductive way. Let your man wear a sexy tie and untie him. Ask him to spread his arms on the bed posts while you slowly tie him up.
At the same time tease his nipples and slowly go down to his penis. Tell him in a slowly with a gentle voice that you are tying him up and you are going to make him crazy. Give him a stroke, and check with him if he goes with the flow.
Don’t act like it is for your own pleasure. Your man needs to know that you’re doing what you do for both of you.
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Keep some safety scissors next to you
If you want to impress your man, show him that you are the master of ropes.
Get some bondage ropes and explore different knots on his body while stimulating his sensitive parts. Make sure you keep a pair of safety scissors next to you in case you can’t untie a knot.
Gay Bondage Play is a great addition to your bedroom.
If you start slowly and master the basics, you can improve your sex life. You will drive your man crazy and he will be coming back for more.
Gay Online Dating Fetishes!
Let’s face it there are certain urges and fantasies that have sneaked into your mind from time to time. Gay online dating offers the best way to explore these urges and fantasies.
Why? Well, in gay online dating, anything goes.
It does not really matter what your fantasy or fetish is. There is something for everyone. Imagine a stranger approaching you in a bar or somewhere else and asking, “Hey, I’m into restraints. Want to play?” Kind of a weirdo, don’t you think?
Another big advantage of adult gay online dating over the other dating methods is the choice of alternative lifestyle.
What do I mean by Alternative Lifestyle?
It can be described as a way of life, or certain aspects of it that does not fit cultural norms and values.
it’s said that it is more common that gay men are able to talk freely and openly about their sexual kinks when online dating. They have already taken the leap to discover their sexuality with themselves. If they have accepted who they are, they are more likely to let people know who they are,
This will in turn get them what they need sexually as they can let people know what they actually truly want in their sex lives.
Alternative lifestyle may include:
This encompasses bondage, domination, and sadomasochism.
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Fetish
When you think about gay fetishes, a lot of people enjoy oral sex and a lot of gay men enjoy cumming all over a mans beard. When you think about it, this is pretty common.
A lot of people enjoy cumming on people’s faces since the beginning of pornography. All things considered, cumming on fellow’s whiskers is quite manageable contrasted with a few fixations with the wide ranges of fetishes available.
From peeing in a man’s anus to coming in a man’s ear there is no fetish left to comprehend. Some people even enjoy motor boating other men’s behinds which can quite fun if you are into that type of thing!
Basically it may be defined as any object or non-genital part of the body that causes a habitual erotic response or fixation. Fetishes include things like foot worship, size of dress, and even racial heritag
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Swinging
This involves consenting adult couples meeting other couples for sexual activity.
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Open Relationships
Even if two men are happy with one another, people can have wild sexual yearnings. Remembering this organic truth that two men together can have an overflow of testosterone.
Numerous gay couples open their bed for another to join in on the fun in a threesome. Even in an open relationship where they let each other date other people.
Whether you have an alternative choice or a fetish, you just want to try something new or want to explore a fantasy; you will find good company in gay online dating.
Gay Online Dating is for Anyone
This dating method is not only for those alternative lifestyle seekers. Those looking for the good old one night stand or other forms of sexual encounters will find a home here as well.
Perhaps the biggest advantage of gay online dating is the availability of consensual like-minded adults. It beats going out to bars and night clubs, in the hopes of bumping into someone with similar interests.
An added advantage is anonymity and comfort.
You can browse gay dating sites anonymously at any time of day or night. Both parties can choose not to know any more about each other than what is really needed.
What are the Disadvantages to Gay Dating Online?
As with almost everything else, gay online dating has some disadvantages also.
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Anonymity
This is also a negative thing that tends to bring out the worst in people. Some people will do bad things online that they would not otherwise do in real life.
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Lies and misrepresentations
Perhaps the greatest complaint in gay online dating. People will lie about their age, profession, social status and the like. Some prostitutes have discovered that it is safer to post an adult ad online than working the streets.
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Scam dating sites
Some gay dating sites are temporary operations while others are fronts for pornographic sites.
All things considered, gay online dating presents an exciting way to explore your fantasies, fetishes and alternatives.
Education of Sexual Health for Young Gay Men!
I’ve spoken before on the failures of the current sexual health education system when it comes to the sexual education of young people.
Our current system is failing young people that identify as straight, let alone individuals that identify as any other sexual orientation or sexuality. It is flawed in that it assumes that the people digesting the content are straight. That they have sexual relations for biological purposes. It doesn’t mention or acknowledge the idea of sex for pleasure.
This quick guide is not meant to replace that information. It’s created to facilitate the sexual education of young non-heterosexual men.
Sexual Health – A Quick Guide
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Consent
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STIs
STI’s can be shared by:
- Skin to skin contact
- Vaginal Sex
- Anal Sex
- Oral Sex
- Needles
- Contact with body fluids such as blood and semen
What Types of Sex is there and How can you do this Safely?
Oral and Penetrative Sex
Male Condoms (Also outside condoms)
You can even use condoms over sex toys!
Say you’re both into bottoming and you have the perfect dildo. Wrap the dildo shaft in a condom. Then before you use it in someone else, change the condom! Simple. It should be noted that in an ideal situation – you’ll want to be cleaning it as well, just in case.
An Important Note
There is no sexuality or gender that places you more at risk for STI and other infections.
How do you Check in with your Sexual Partner’s current Health Status?
Every person regardless of sexual identity or orientation deserves the best information that they can get.
Whilst this doesn’t cover everything it certainly gives you the tool set to begin practicing self-care and taking responsibility for your body!
Meet PJ Weir, former Gay Exchange stalwart and gay rights advocate. Now caring for his mother in Queensland, he reflects on a decade of LGBTQ+ activism.