Female ejaculation, squirting and gushing… is the expulsion of fluids by the paraurethral ducts during or before orgasm. Female ejaculation is one of the most debated topics when conversing about sex, along with the elusive G Spot – the two are debated and questioned medically and professionally every day.
Dr. Ian Kerner the author of She Comes First says.
“Much of the confusion around female ejaculation and squirting is because they’re two separate phenomena that are often discussed indistinguishably. While it’s not correct to refer to squirting as a G-spot orgasm, it may be a simple way to think about the experience. Some women squirt voluntarily, some women do so involuntarily. Some women report pleasure, others do not.”
What is Female Ejaculation & Why Does It Occur?
The Skene’s Gland is anatomically near the G-Spot and is basically like the female prostate gland. Glands produce hormones, however during arousal they also produce fluid. In the female body this fluid can be suddenly released with vigorous or prolonged stimulation.
What Does Female Ejaculation feel like?
The sensation you feel before squirting is similar to the sensation of needing to pee. It is for this reason that most women panic, or even stop masturbating at this point in fear of they’re going to wet themselves.
You have to push past this slightly uncomfortable sensation for a few minutes before usually starting to experience unbelievable pleasure. Some people don’t feel anything before or during squirting and get a rather wet surprise mid way through a masturbation session or during sex.
How Do You Squirt?
Typically, a curved toy which has a rigid body is the best for achieving your squirting goal. A few of my top picks for achieving a squirting orgasm would be.
- Lelo Mona 2.
- Lelo Gigi.
- Curved glass dildo or steel dildo like the Chrome Curve.
- Jopen Key Comet.
- Rock Box Finger.
Stimulating the G Spot
All of these toys have a strong curve or bulbous tip to stimulate the G-Spot. This is key to when trying to achieve a squirting orgasm. Not only do you need the correct ‘tool’s (haha), however, but you also need serious arm strength (usually) to achieve the desired result.
Some of the key techniques include super fast thrusting or rocking for a decent period of time. I say decent as it is hard to pin point the exact moment that it’s going to happen, if at all.
But once you start to feel that strange needing to pee sensation, you’re well on your way!!
Can Everybody Squirt?
No.
And not because they physically can’t, but they’re merely out of practice. Some people need to almost train themselves to do so, while some people simply cant go without squirting naturally.
My favourite sex blogger Girly Juice was frustrated for years saying that if she COULD this toy (whatever toy it was) would definitely make her squirt. She took the whole concept with a grain of salt and decided to just be patient, yet consistent with her efforts.
And low and behold, as her twitter account reveals, she regularly achieves squirting orgasms on the daily.
So What’s the Big Deal?
In my research, I found it rather horrifying that in December 2014, the British Government outlawed depictions of female squirting in pornography.
No such ban was put in place for male ejaculation. So basically men’s orgasm = great, women’s orgasm = obscene. Interestingly, I also found in my research that Pornhub, the online porn site released data last year showing that ‘squirting’ was the 7th most searched term for their site in 2014.
More women are looking for it than men.
I think the people searching for it are not just seeking pleasure. But to see it for themselves, or people seeking out whether it is real. Only today I had a man come into Adultsmart. He was rather upset saying he has been married to his wife for 22 years but he still thinks she’s never ‘come’.
She too says that she gets the slightly uncomfortable sensation of needing to pee. Then refuses to carry on as she thinks something is wrong with her and that she needs to urinate every time they have sex. I explained this most likely is her body pre-squirt, put basically.
He couldn’t believe it.
So I sent him on his way to do some googling with his wife and here we are now writing this article! So that got me thinking… maybe it’s a lack of knowledge on the subject that has created such a taboo and not the act itself?
Final Thoughts
Achieving a squirting orgasm, if you already haven’t done so, is not an unattainable goal. With practice, the right toys and the ability to just ‘let go’ (literally), you will be well on your way to achieving your squirting goals.
Dildo Squirting SmackDown Challenge!
Fun Factory is one of my favorite brands to sell at Adultsmart and the new Pop Dildo they have released is a prime example as to why they are so great.
Fun Factory have something for everyone. From their single and double motored vibrators to their thrusting vibrators, they have butt plugs, a cock ring, kegel balls, penis head massagers, double ended dildos, strapless strap-ons, vegan-friendly straps and lots of different shaped and sized dildos and more.
All of their sex toys are made out of 100% medical grade silicone and are non-porous and hypoallergenic which means they are super easy to keep clean. So you can have them in your sex toy collection for a fair while and the dildos you can boil to sanitize if using with different partners.
Colour Range of Fun Factory
Another thing I love about Fun Factory is their colour range especially with their dildos. They have the more realistic looking dildos with realistic colour options. Then you also have the subtle colours to choose from and the more out there/brighter colours.
To top that off Fun Factory Won 8 iF World Design Guide Awards .
About The Fun Factory Pop Dildo
Now, the Pop is the same shape and size as their Big Boss Dildo just with a little bit of extra added fun and a little bit more realistic.
When you open up your new sex toy you’ll find the dildo (6.5″ insertable length and 1.65″ in girth) and a bag with 3 pieces of tubing (silicone, made with FDA compliant resins), 3 lock fittings (plastic), 3 tip plugs (casted urethane polymer and 1 bulb (platinum cure silicone).
So basically all you have to do is thread the tube through the hole at the bottom of the dildo till you see it pop out at the top. There’s a space at the bottom for you to place the tube in so it doesn’t get in the way when in use.
You also have a clear attachment that you place on the tube at the top for a nice realistic flow of whatever liquid you decide to put in your tube. So that the tube doesn’t fall out, then the white attachment is for the bottom of the tube so you can then attach your bulb. Now all you have to do is choose your liquid and your new Pop Dildo is ready to go!
Recommended Liquids
- Water-based Lubricants
- King Cock Jizzle Juice
- Water
DO NOT USE
- Silicone Based Lubricants
- Flavored Lubricants
Getting the liquid in your tube is super simple. Just place the top of the tube in a cup of the liquid of your choice and then give the bulb a squeeze and watch your tube fill up.
Make sure to only fill up your cup with a little bit of liquid at a time so that you don’t end up having to waste a lot that you don’t use.
Pop Dildo Features
- Hypoallergenic.
- Made out of 100% medical grade silicone so make sure you never use silicone based lubricant with this one.
- Your Pop is water friendly which means you can use it in the bath or shower and that also means it is super easy to keep clean.
- For cleaning, you can either use any of the sex toy cleaners that we stock.
- Or because it is made out of great quality silicone you can boil to sanitize.
- With the way that the Pop is designed I’d probably recommend either using the masturbator toy cleaner because it is shaped like a tomato sauce bottle. You can just place the tip in one of the holes of the sex toy so that you can always have the inside of the sex toy nice and clean
- Boiling water method would work really well as well.
Who Can Use The Pop Dildo
The way that this beautiful sex toy is designed and shaped any sex can get good use out of the Pop whether it’s for g-spot or p-spot stimulation. Because it has a curve at the end it’ll hit all the happy spots. And because it’s got veins popping out around the bottom half of the sex toy it will feel a lot more realistic than the rest of the Fun Factory dildo range.
Pop Dildo Dislikes And Likes
Now for my favorite and least favorite thing about the Pop Dildo…
My favorite thing is the colour choices that they have to offer!
You have 2 choices of skin tones which are chocolate and caramel (they could have maybe had one more lighter colour in my opinion though). They also come in black and blackberry for your not so realistic look. I really like that they are darker colours rather than their usual florescent colour choices.
So the only thing I’m not too happy about is the price
Pop is priced as a luxury item in store which I think is a little bit too pricey in my opinion.
Honestly I love Fun Factory products and for such a great quality sex toy it definitely is worth it.
Jennifer is a marketer at Adultsmart! Embracing a non-judgmental stance, she believes in pleasure without limits—if it feels good and right, why not?