Revolutionize Sex With Your Primal Instinct

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Through my studies in sexology and explorations in the world of Tantra and finding out what is spiritual sexuality, I have come to view and understand many diverse aspects of human sexuality. Sex is a powerful outlet to connect with different parts of ourselves and allows us to share those parts with others in a beautiful and pleasurable way. From having our need to feel emotionally connected to another human being met to a blissfully ecstatic & orgasmic release, sex allows us to be our most authentic and trues selves if we so desire.

Recently whilst completing an intense training diving into sex and spirituality, I experienced a connection to a part of myself which was incredibly healing and empowering- I refer to this part as my inner animal!!  This primal part of myself is so amazing to connect with and allows me a chance to be completely in tune with my senses and my body.

Today, we human beings spend much of our lives in our minds. We think too much, spend an excessive amount of time being occupied with technology and feel this constant need to experience the world in a logical way. I recall a time not so long ago when I became aware of how disconnected I was from my body. When I tuned in to myself, I realised that I was only really in touch with the feelings in my head, completely switched off from the sensations in the rest of my body. Throughout my life, as with so many people, I was encouraged to think, to analyse and to speak. Apart from incidental times like completing sport and when being in pain, I spent most my life in my head.

Being In Touch With Your Body

It is so clear to me now the need for people to experience more of this life in their body, to feel the subtle sensations that are accessible in every single moment throughout the day. Animals are a great example of this, completely in touch with their bodies, using their senses to guide them in the world. They are present to what is, not worrying about the past and stressing about the future, just living in complete presence of what is.

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How To Embody Your Inner Animal

One of the most exhilarating places to embody your inner animal is when connecting sexually with another. When all your senses are turned on and alive it makes for an extremely fun, pleasurable and energising sexual experience. The most enticing part of sex is how good it feels-what could be better than tuning in and amplifying your senses to increase the pleasure during sexual play? Being out of our minds and completely in our body making love with another is one of the most incredible experiences to have if we dare to step into it.

Approaching sex in an animalistic way can look and feel unique for each person. From roaring, purring or growling in your partner’s ear to crawling on all fours, wrestling or being wild like an animal during foreplay, the possibilities are endless.

Doing this with a partner who you trust and can express yourself freely with is crucial for you to really access that wild animal living inside you. It may feel a bit awkward to start with-not unlike a lion cub finding its roar- but if you really take the time and be courageously vulnerable, you’ll eventually access a primal side of yourself that loves to come out and play!!

One of my favourite ways to connect with my inner animal and my man simultaneously is to wrestle. I highly recommend you trying this one out with a partner if you are both up for an adventure!

Find yourselves a soft floor or mattress with enough space to avoid banging up against anything and ensure any breakables are out of reach. Get on all fours as if you were a lion or tiger (or magical unicorn if that is your thing!) and face your partner. Now depending on how easy it is for you to connect with your wild side, you may or may not want to take some time to close your eyes and connect to yourself. Breathe deeply, notice your heart beating, the energy moving through your body and any sensations that grab your attention. Opening your eyes and bringing a sense of playfulness to the experience, look your partner in the eyes and stare them down as if you are a wolf and they are your prey-ready to devour. Find your growl, express whatever noises want to come out and move around on your hands and knees as if you are stalking them and wanting to catch them. Go wild (with some mindfulness to avoid hurting them of course!) and have fun playing!

Whatever comes next is up to the two of you-sometimes for me it has turned into a hilarious and comical bit of fun where we’re both in hysterics, other times a wild, animalistic lead into amazing sex!! Avoid expectations, enjoy yourselves and use it as an amazing chance to see a different side of yourself and your partner.

Getting in touch with this side of myself has meant I feel more throughout my day to day life and experience more pleasure in my body during sex- purely because I am out of my head and in it. I cannot recommend exploring your inner animal enough-there may be a raging Jaguar roaring inside ready to pounce (or a cute purring kitty cat…only one way to find out!). I also apply these 6 Sure Fire Tantra Methods to my sexual lifestyle to make the experience even better!

About the author: Stephanie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

Sexpert is our resident full time sex blogger. Having successfully owned and managed a number of blogs relating to women’s lifestyle, she easily blended into her role as chief blogger of the Adultsmart Blog. She is in a long term relationship with her boyfriend. She also runs Good Girl Guide, a sexual lifestyle blog.

The 7 Best G-Spot Sex Positions!

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There are many people who are not able to satisfy their partners in the bed due to various reasons. In fact, the study shows that around 6 out of 10 couples are not satisfied with their sex life, which is actually a serious problem.

Sex Positions And Sexual Satisfaction

There is more than just a climax when it comes to reaching an immense sexual pleasure. Only trying out one sex positions can be really boring for the couple in the long run. In the first few months of marriage, there may not be a need of experimenting with sex positions, but in the long run, it becomes crucial to experiment with different sex positions.

If you are one of the men, who are struggling with various sexual problems or infertility issues, then you should search for the ways to increase fertility in men. At first, we will discuss briefly on what the G-Spot is.

The G-Spot is situated on the anterior wall of the vagina. Women feel immense sexual pleasure if their sexual partners stimulate the G-Spot. Try experimenting with G-Spot to give your partner, a new level of sexual pleasure, if it has never been tried out by you.

There are some specific G-Spot sex positions that can provide an immense pleasure to a female sex partner. We will discuss them in the next part of this article. Men can also add penis enlargement exercises in their fitness routine to enhance their sexual performance for providing enhanced pleasure to their women.

Some Awesome G-Spot Positions To Experiment With

There are many sex positions to experiment with. All of them are different, and all of them provide a separate kind of pleasure. The study shows that trying out various sexual positions is one of the key factors that determine the sexual satisfaction in a long-term relationship.

And, men with sexual disorders also cannot satisfy their women in the bed. The most common sexual disorder among men is an erectile dysfunction. According to the statistic, around 18 million American adults are diagnosed with erectile dysfunction.

Men with sexual disorders must seek out help with a doctor, and they can also adapt to a healthy lifestyle. There are exercises for erectile dysfunction and other sexual disorders. Furthermore, there are also many other natural treatment methods.

However, men with no sexual disorders also have problems satisfying their sexual partner.

Here are 7 of the best G-Spot sex positions that can help people to satisfy their women.

1. Doggy Style

Doggy style is one of the most common sex positions, and it is also one of the best sex positions for G-Spot stimulation. Both men and women can get immense sexual pleasure from using this sex position. A female partner can increase the pressure of a man’s penis against her G-Spot. Most of the women cite this sex position as a way to reach guaranteed orgasms.

There is also an unfortunate side of this position. It is true that most of the men like this sex position because of the depth they can reach. However, there is a chance that the entire sexual intercourse may end up sooner than usual due to the increased depth. This is a great sex position to try with the We-Vibe 4 Plus The Number 1 Couples Vibrator!

2. Cow Girl

The second sex position to experiment with is cow girl. This position puts a woman in a commanding position. She can move forth and back, according to her wish to get a maximum sexual pleasure without asking her partner to adjust the position. This allows her to apply desirable pressure on the G-Spot for satisfying stimulation.

In addition to a woman’s freedom of moving forth and back in this sex position, she can also adjust the pace, angle, depth, and tempo of the sexual intercourse. This is one of the fewer sex positions that give so much control to a woman.

This sex position can maximize the pleasure for a woman, as it is a very comfortable position to be in. For further experimentation, couples can also try out reverse cow girl position.

3. Legs Over Shoulder

This sex position requires a male sex partner to sit up while a female sex partner places her legs up, one at a time and rests her ankles on the man’s shoulder. This sex position assists in creating deep and powerful vaginal penetration for enhanced sexual satisfaction.

Along with a powerful vaginal penetration, it allows a male sex partner to hit the G-Spot for better stimulation and pleasure. There are many ways to experiment with this sex position. A female sex partner can either wrap her legs, all the way around the man’s shoulders or she can also keep one leg up and put the other one on the bed.

4. Woman On Top

It’s not a necessity for a man to always be on the top. In this sex position, a female partner is on the top of the male sex partner. Ask your partner to lean back at a 45-degree angle. Put some soft pillows on the back for enhanced comfort. When you are on top, lower down onto your partner.

A woman being on top gives more control over the stimulation. It also gives an opportunity for women to find the angle that creates the best stimulation on the G-Spot. In this position, the man’s penis is backward, which helps in rubbing up against the anterior wall of the vagina.

5. Modified Doggy Style

The modified doggy style position starts with a normal doggy style sex position. After being in a normal doggy style, both partners should lower themselves until a female is flat on her stomach.

The great thing about this position is that it allows a man to hit all the angles perfectly. A man can afterward rest on his forearm while a woman can spread her legs so they can become closer to each other.

6. X Marks

At first, you need to find the bed that is hip height of your partner. And, as the name suggests, a female partner should lay in the bed with her legs in the air in an X position where the man stands in between her legs. The X position creates a very tight fit for better pleasure. This is also a great position to stroke right against the female’s G-Spot.

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7. Spooning

This is a sex position, which requires both the partners to lie, facing the same direction. A female partner may need to raise her legs and change the angle of the body for better penetration.

In this position, the guy stands behind a female partner, which allows him to stimulate right up against her G-Spot. This is not an intense position, which allows both the partners to feel close and connected.

Conclusion

One of the best ways to satisfy a woman in bed is through G-spot stimulation. Experiment with these sex positions and experience the level of difference in sexual pleasure before and after the stimulation of G-spot.

However, do not try to experiment with every single position mentioned on the list above in a hurry. Try one at a time, as there is no hurry to experiment with everything. Maintaining some level of suspense with your partner on the bed can always be very useful in making your sex life interesting.

Along with experimenting with various sex positions, also try to maintain a healthy relationship with your partner to enhance your marital and sexual satisfaction.

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He has been a Health & Fitness Advisor for Consumer Health Digest. He loves to write about General Health & Fitness topics. Will also believes in providing knowledgeable information to readers and constantly motivates them to achieve their goals. He is also passionate about traveling, arts and discovers and writes for people.

6 Sure Fire Tantra Methods!

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My 25 years on this earth have led me to many conclusions and realisations, the most relevant right now being that sex is one of the most exciting topics of conversation. I don’t know if it’s the people I seem to attract into my life or my own willingness to turn any conversation into one about sex but I end up talking about it all the time (Working in an Adult Store and studying Sexology, it’s expected with the territory too I guess!!).

I notice how so many men and women light up when given the space to discuss one of the most intimate areas of their lives. It fills me with so much joy when I have people come into an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres shy and nervous initially and then leave talking explicitly about sex and not wanting to stop.

Sex and the overt representation of sexuality is everywhere in our lives, from advertising and social media to pornography and films. Despite this, there is a lack of frank conversation about sexuality meaning many people have a warped perception of what healthy sexuality looks and feels like. One of the concerns with society’s widespread unwillingness to discuss sexuality is that when it comes to developing healthy sexual relationships, many people are unsure of how to speak of sex with the people they’re actually having it with.

I know of many people who struggle to talk openly with their intimate partners about sex sometimes resulting in unhealthy consequences. The repercussions of leaving things unspoken with our intimate partners can result in unnecessary conflicts, physical and emotional trauma and general unfulfilling sex lives.

We miss out on accessing the potential of our capacity to feel exquisite pleasure because we struggle to ask for what we like and we remain silent when something doesn’t feel good.

I recall a time a couple of years ago when I was being intimate with a new lover and he asked what it was I wanted. I remember freezing in fear and had no idea how to put what felt good for my body in words. I think I ended up saying something along the lines of “what you’re doing” just because I was so mortified that I didn’t know how to ask for what I desired.

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Throwing myself in the deep end shortly after this experience, I discovered the world of Tantra and Conscious Sexuality which provided me with some tools I needed to communicate clearly with my intimate partners. I’ve including the following tips that if applied, have the potential to lead to greater levels of intimacy, connection and pleasure in your sexual relationships:

1. Be Open To Talk About Sex

Speaking of any discomforts you may have around talking about sex is an excellent first step. Let your partner know that you would like to be more open discussing sex and acknowledge the fact that it may be a difficult conversation to begin for the both of you. Express the importance of opening this conversation and speak with honesty.

2. Use Explicit Words

If the thought of even speaking words associated with sex makes you cringe, I recommend trying this exercise with your partner. Jump in the deep end and throw explicit words at one another. It may go something like this “Cock, pussy, lick, anal, orgasm, cum, wet, squirt.” Think of this as the ultimate “ice-breaker.” Come up with as many words as you can that you identify as sexual and get used to saying them to each other. In little to no time, it will be a breeze to say what you need without shame or embarrassment. Make it fun and playful because sex is supposed to be!

3. Take Ownership Of Your Feelings

Stay away from blame and take ownership of how you feel. Instead of “You’re really bad in bed and you need to change” turn it into “I am feeling like there is so much more I want to experience sexually and I would love to try this with you next time.”

4. Try The Palm Exercise

Take in turns tickling each other’s palms with your fingers and make adjustments that will lead to a more pleasurable experience. “May I have a softer touch?” “Can you move your finger faster/slower?” “Can you give the top right hand corner more attention?” Becoming used to asking for what you need in a non-sexual activity will translate to greater comfort and ease asking for what we desire sexually.

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6. Get To Know Your Body

Last but certainly not least, get to know your own body and what feels pleasurable to you. I cannot express the importance of this enough!! If you don’t know what feels good to your body, how can you expect that you can communicate clearly to your partner? Sex can be a hit or miss and expecting your partner to know everything that turns you on is a lot of pressure.

When talking about sex with your partner/s becomes easeful, the possibilities to explore sexuality and sexual expression are endless. You can try different things, express fantasies and desires and get to know your partner more deeply…in more ways than one!! You can also talk about what is Tantra Sex and how to incorporate into your lifestyle.

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

You Are What You Underwear!

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Boxers/Granny Panties

If you’re the type of person who chose to put this atrocious piece of fabric over your most intimate bits, you my friend are asking for cuddles from your pillow. Your choice of undergarment is a clear indication of how you’ve given up on yourself as a sexual being. You don’t see yourself as sexy, nor do you want to be seen as sexy by anyone else. Please think of the paramedic or hospital staff that have to cut your pants away if you are (Heaven Forbid) in an accident of some kind. They deserve some eye candy on their 12- 14-hour shift. Forget the skinny jeans, no chance of squishing all that fabric into them. If you are wearing boxers or granny panties it is a good idea to read up on how body image and self esteem impacts mental health.

Briefs/Thong

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To be blunt, you’re a bad ass with clear intentions. You’ve put on this pair of underwear that so perfectly draws attention to your smooth curve line body. You want eyes on you as you undress. You’re not ready to meet someone’s parents, but you are ready to let someone get to know you, for a brief period! If this is your everyday underwear, you’re most likely the leader of your group, confident and sure, always ready for a good time.

(Men’s Thongs- DONT DO IT! It’s just wrong unless you’re modelling for a fitness competition.)

Boxer Briefs

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You are a true blue loyal kind of person. The one all your friends turn to for help or advice. You never let anyone down. You live a carefree yet very responsible life. Forget the little things, you’re in control. Forget dating games and the “Chase” you want meaning and depth. None of this 3 am booty call or the back room of some dive bar for you. Always a lover, not a fighter. But just because your choice of underwear is relaxed doesn’t mean the sex will be. Watch out, when this relaxed underwear comes off the wild tamed beast is unleashed!

Trunks/Bikini

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You sit between style and comfort. Most likely you work a solid 9-5 every day and want to be comfortable but ready for after work drinks that just might lead elsewhere. Your job is not your dream, you’re always dreaming of being elsewhere. It’s not that you’re a lazy person, it’s that you have bigger aspirations than the mundane life you are accustomed to. You’ll probably never quite your 9-5 job and move to that tropical dreamland, you’re just too comfortable. Change is unsettling, but you won’t stop dreaming or bigger and better things.

Tighty Whities/Boy Shorts

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​Taking it back to a simpler time, when very few people saw your undergarments. You’re still living in your childhood. You’ve never left that high school gym class. You’re afraid to step outside of your shell and be the person you want to be. You think because a very very small group of people think this underwear is sexy that it’s perfect for you. You think it says you’re above caring what others might think of you, but it just screams of a child trapped in an adults body to afraid to develop a sense of self.

Jockstrap/G-String

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​Wearing these it’s very clear you enjoy the company of men. They can also help to raise your body image and self-esteem.

You have moved past the wanting to look sexy for others. Everything in your life is hyper sexual and it’s empowering. You know how sexy you are and want to dress for you. You enjoy the sexy feeling in your skimpiest underwear. This is not just your “special occasion” underwear. You’re more than proud wearing this to the grocery store. You exude confidence and are the life of every event. You’ll try anything twice and never back down from a dare. Not because you have something to prove, but because why not?

Commando

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If you regularly go commando, you’re the person who thinks because you read in Cosmo or Maxim magazine in the 00’s that it’s healthy for your bits to get some air. You’ve thrown hygiene out the window. If we went into your house I’d bet the smell of last Friday night still lingers. Your fridge has a potentially out dated milk and a few condiment bottles. Your supplement and vitamin game are probably strong because you think that’s the key to a healthy life.

I can only hope you’re doing this because your house caught fire? Maybe going to or from the gym? Even then, no! Unless your intention is to show off that VPL (If you have a P)? If so please show away!

Whatever your underwear choice is, wear it with pride. You’ll never be judged for your choice with us.

Check out the amazing collections we carry at an Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres nearest to you or at a trusted online sex toy store. We have all your favourite brands in all styles, we might even have something you’ve never tried so give it a chance!

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Jennifer works marketing at Adultsmart an online sex toy shop. She has a non-judgemental approach to sex, sex toys and sexuality. Her favorite saying is if it feels good and right and is not illegal then why not!

3 Things People Fear About Anal Sex

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There’s a lot of fear when it comes to anal play and yet, there’s still much curiosity about it. I was reminded of this idea when a young straight lad came into one of the stores this evening and asked a few questions regarding anal – despite the fear there’s still an abundance of curiosity regarding this type of play. More so, as we slowly move beyond the idea that sex is purely for reproduction and instead focus on the more sex positive attitude that sex is for pleasure as well.  This article is about breaking down the fear of anal play and we will do that by first acknowledging those fears, stripping them back and then talking about the ways to engage in anal play in a safe and comfortable way.

Anal Sex’s Ick Factor

There’s the whole shit on the dick thing. We’ve all heard the story about that one time when so and so’s friend had that awful experience when it came to that one night. This fear is fairly common, and it stems from our upbringing. The studies have shown that when a small impressionable child starts curiously playing with their genitals, and they’re told that that’s a dirty thing to do – then obviously they associate that feeling with their genitals. Some people grow out of it, some do not, and as a result whether we acknowledge it or not, our relationship with sex, sexuality and our bodies stems largely from our upbringing and the way those around us deal with issues of sex.  Our relationship with anal is largely because many individuals associate it with part of the human waste system. It’s an out not an in, is a common phrase which reinforces this idea. Let’s debunk this. Unless the body is just about to pass waste, or has recently done so – then there is actually very little chance of the dreaded shit on the dick factor. The anal cavity actually has a very thorough self-cleaning system which works really well. Yes, there are some risks if you’re playing rough, or you’re dealing with long toys or dicks, but in general the risk is actually quite small. The more you know!

Anal Sex’s Gay Factor

Butt sex, ass play, has long been considered the domain of gay men. There are countless ‘help me’ articles in magazines from concerned girlfriends who are worried that they’re beautiful boy is suddenly about to turn into a drag queen because he likes a bit of finger action. I’m not too sure where this one started, but anal play is not the domain of gay men. What might even surprise you, is that there are a lot of gay men in the world that don’t enjoy anal sex.  In an article by the Journal of sexual health and medicine, a study involving 25,000 gay and bisexual identifying men, stated that over 75% of participants responded with that their most recent sexual encounter involved the receiving or giving of oral sex. Contrast that with 36% of participants responding with their most recent sexual encounter involving anal play. In fact, mutual masturbation, kissing, genital and genital contact is a far more frequent occurrence among gay men.This is actually an issue which is fading over time. As people are becoming more in tune with their bodies, more comfortable in their sexuality and their openness about sex and sexuality – the stigma about anal play is slowly being broken down. Considering that prostate play is some of the most intense orgasmic experiences that a male can feel and massaging the prostate has benefits – then there’s a lot of people missing out on great sex because they think it’s a bit gay. The thing is, that anal play is not synonymous with a sexuality.

Anal Sex’s Ouch Factor

Anal sex can hurt. In saying that, there’s usually a few very select reasons as to why it hurts. One of the main reasons as to why it hurts, is because you think it’s going to hurt.  Consider the first time that you had sex, the awkwardness of it, the way it hurt a little and the way that it might have been over in just a few minutes. Very few first times are awesome, and what happens is they might have a bad experience which tarnishes any future experiences towards anal play. What we generally find, especially with younger partners, is they might rush through anal play for the first time, and this in turn can cause discomfort. Anal sex is not like other variation of penetrative sex. It requires patience, lubricant, and a recognition that the body might take time to adjust. There’s a myriad of different factors that need to be considered, but the main one that’s often ignored – is the fear. The anxiety. Which in turn affects the body’s ability to relax and you’ll tense up and it will hurt.

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Tips for Anal Sex

Anal sex is not necessary. You’re not obligated to add it to your sexual to do list, and quite frankly, the best way to have anal sex is to want it. When you want it, when you’re curious, when you’re relaxed and able to enjoy it is the best time to have anal sex. And, if I’m being honest, when you’re horny as all hell.  This combination of things is going to make anal play so much easier.  Once you’re used to it, you’ll find it much easier to add to your routine.

Patience. Patience is necessary when it comes to anal play. The muscles are involuntary, therefore it will take time for them to adjust to having something there which is not normally so. Lubricate some, put more lubricant on, and breathe.

If you’re really worried about some mess, then you can use a douche to help prepare. But one following the instructions on a douche you will need to wait about an hour before having sex. Also, don’t use that one hour to travel to your playmates house as the water needs to dry up and could end up on your favourite underwear. Douche, wait half an hour, and then start moving.

Follow these tricks will help you in riding that pole like a pro.

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Stephen is a cis-gendered gay male who spends far too much time with his two cats and eating tim tams. A self-identified sex-positive advocate he cares deeply about gender equality, disabilities, sexual education and social issues. Opinionated and bold he isn’t afraid to speak his mind and say what others won’t. With a yearning for knowledge and experience in all things relating to sex, he is a prolific writer that has developed the content for a myriad of informative Sexual Health and Wellness websites.

Stephen’s articles and writings tends to focus on social issues, sexual education, queer issues and all things fetish and absurd. He comes qualified with the completion of a double Bachelor degree in Social Sciences and literature, and a Masters in Education.