Risk Aware Consensual Kink

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In the world of BDSM and kink there is a well-known phrase ‘Safe Sane Consensual’ or ‘SSC’. This term has been the most popular and well-known “rule” that all good kinksters follow. It has been “the” rule of thumb for a while but now there’s RACK. RACK is a newer acronym standing for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, and it also just happens to be a great pun. Now, why not both, why is one better than the other? Here I will compare RACK and SSC to give you a better idea of the difference.

SSC, Safe Sane and Consensual, sounds great right? Let’s break it down.

Safe

What is safe? Nothing we do as kinksters is truly safe really, there are huge risks to both our physical and psychological well-being involved in BDSM and other fetish and kink activities. We can obviously make attempts at safety but at the end of the day there is risk involved, yet safe implies no risk.

Sane

Kinksters, just like the rest of society, are holistic human beings and this includes mental illness, making the word sane here potentially offensive and exclusionary. Should someone with a mental illness not be allowed to make the executive decision to involve themselves in kink? Many kinksters I know use BDSM as a form of self-care and therapy, nothing soothes them more than being bound and tied or having a good session on a St Andrews cross to relax after a hard week of work. I assume this was meant to imply that everyone involved in the kinky activities was not doing it from a place of rage or an abusive mindset, unfortunately, abuse is still common in the world of kink as it is possible in any interpersonal relationship, but it is the wrong choice of word. Not everyone with a mental illness is abusive and not everyone who is abusive has a mental illness. In short, having sane as part of our community’s unofficial rule for kink is ableist.

Consensual

Consent: there’s no kink without it. It’s the main thing that separates the wonderful world of kink from abuse. We love consent in all its forms and it’s something that doesn’t happen just once, it’s constant and something to routinely check in on. Consent absolutely belongs in this acronym and is the only part of SSC I agree with wholeheartedly. Consent has to be freely given by a person of legally consenting age.

On a surface level, SSC sounds good, but let’s look at RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) and why it’s – in my opinion – better.

 

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Risk Aware

Risk aware more accurately describes what we do, and also ties into consent, everyone involved in a BDSM or a kinky activity should be well aware of what they’re getting themselves into. For example, rope bunnies and riggers alike should be aware of the risks in rigging and rope play, as you can permanently damage someone’s nerves with the wrong knot, dislocate something, or there’s the potential risk of being dropped.

The more risk aware you are, the more educated on the activity, and that is what BDSM and kink should be about. Being aware of the risk also includes the risk to your mental health – sub drop and Dom/me drop is a thing and should be taken seriously. Also, the risk that the person you are playing with is potentially an abusive person. Being risk aware means being vigilant about who you choose to engage in play with, it can mean asking around for references and learning to trust your gut.

Consensual Kink

Consensual kink replaces both the Sane and Consensual parts of SSC. Someone with mental illness doesn’t have to be “sane” (which is a loaded word anyway), to participate in what they want to. If anyone, mentally ill or otherwise, is lucid and can consent – meaning a sober and INFORMED* – then they have just as much right as anyone else to be involved.

Consent can be revoked at any time. This goes for kink, general romantic and sexual activities. Consent is something that should be checked before, during and after play. If someone feels their consent was violated it’s something that needs to be discussed. In the world of kink we have ‘safe words’ and having a safe word (and in some cases a hand signal, noise, or nonverbal cue) is a big important part of consensual kink.

Consent can be formal, like in some D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships people will write up a contract of everything they are agreeing to, but it should never end there. Consent should be given before, during and after and this doesn’t have to be formal, it can be fun, sexy and part of the experience. A simple “harder?”, “softer?”, or “do you like that?” are examples of refreshing consent in the middle of an activity. Consent is never because you feel pressured or obligated, even in kink and D/s you don’t owe anyone anything.

* Someone cannot consent to something unless you have explicitly laid it out for them. Kink is all about truthful communication. Details are mandatory.

I hope now you can make an informed decision on which suits you, SSC vs RACK or even something else, it’s really up to you. At the end of the day all that matters is that you are informed and consenting/have consent but also that you are enjoying yourself and getting what you need and want from the experience. You will need to take note of the risks of BDSM Play and be aware of the steps needed to stay safe during couples sex.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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Control Your Sex Slave With A Leash

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XR Brands brings us this chain leash from their Tom of Finland series, XR Brands are the people who bring us some amazing lines that you may have heard of including; Master Series, CleanStream, STRICT, Strict Leather, Prostatic Play and of course Tom of Finland, all six of these lines being available here at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres or on Adultsmart our online store.

 

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Image: Tom Of Finland Banner

 

About Tom Of Finland

Touko Valio Laaksonen, a Finnish artist known for his stylized highly masculinized homoerotic fetish art, and better known by his pseudonym Tom of Finland produced over 3500 illustrations in his 71 years of life, mostly all of them featuring men wearing tight clothing, fetish gear or little to no clothing at all with exaggerated sexual features.

 

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He has been called the “most influential creator of gay pornographic images” by cultural historian Joseph W. Slade and has had a big impact on gay culture throughout the 20th century and continues to, to this day with the Tom of Finland Foundation and his artwork still inspiring, turning on, reassuring and unifying its viewers.

“Tom of Finland is one of the five most influential artists of the twentieth century. As an artist he was superb, as an influence he was transcendent.”- Harvey S. Shipley Mille

Obviously the Tom of Finland series has a lot to live up to, luckily XR brands have created some wonderful and quality items in their Tom of Finland range including collars, leads, restraints, clamps, insertables and more.

Tom of Finland Leash Packaging

The Tom of Finland Leash comes in wonderful packaging featuring Touko Valio Laaksonen’s artwork on the box that is metallic and reflective in places, it is so nice you may have the urge to preserve the packing itself like I considered doing but to my delight I discovered that inside as a bonus each product in the Tom of Finland range includes a collectable, exclusive art print with a portion of proceeds going to the Tom of Finland Foundation, dedicated to protecting, preserving, and promoting erotic art.

Tom of Finland Leash Design

Now for what’s inside the box! The leash is a lovely gun metal grey colour of the chain is beautiful and different to other leashes I’ve seen out there that tend to just come in either black or silver metal, I adore this colour and it really set this leash apart looking incredibly stylish with the black neoprene hand strap that is soft yet sturdily made, there is a silver metal look plastic plate on the handle embossed with the Tom of Finland logo.

 

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Sex Toy: Tom of Finland Leash Material

 

Neoprene is a synthetic rubber that resists degradation more than natural or other synthetic rubbers and is easy to clean if the need arises just use a warm wet cloth to wipe down the surface of the leash and its handle with water only as neoprene is sensitive to household chemicals and urine, so if golden showers are your thing be careful to not be wearing any of the neoprene range when participating in those activities. Neoprene is also vegan-friendly making the entire Tom of Finland matching collar, leash, ankle and wrist cuff set the perfect choice for those who wish to avoid purchasing or using animal products or if you simply do not like leather or silicone it is a good alternative.

The Tom of Finland gun metal chain leash is 42 inches (106.68cm) in total length, the chain without handle being 30 inches (76.2cm) this is a good length in my opinion for a leash intended for human use, when using my leash I’ve never thought it was too long which can be a pain having excess chain in the way or too short which can cause unwanted tugging on the person who has it attached to their collar being led around.

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This leash is an excellent addition to anyone into or considering collar and leash play, stylish, high quality and with a rich history behind it, you will feel confident and in charge with its bold dark metallic grey glinting as you show off your submissive or as you’re being shown off. Using the Tom Of Finland Leash is an incredible way to introduce dominance and submission into your sexual lifestyle.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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I’m A Flogging Sex God!

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The Black Rose line of toys and accessories comes to us from Doc Johnson, Doc Johnson is one of THE big names in the adult sex toy industry, they have been around since 1976 manufacturing innovative and trusted adult products from their home base in California. With over 500 employees they are ever expanding and improving themselves striving to set the bar for industry standards worldwide.

Priding themselves on being American made at their in house laboratory where their chemist makes sure that the material being made and chosen suits the products perfectly that will do nothing but impress and better the sexual experience of every customer. The Black Rose line includes restraints, insertables, harnesses, accessories, lotions and impact play equipment.

Black Rose Whipping Colour Choices

The line all shares the same theme, purple and black and where possible including a rose, the packaging design of the Black Rose line is very eye catching and sensual, glossy black boxing with a model who was born for the role, she sets the scene extremely well for you to imagine yourself using these products.

Black Rose Whipping Willow Quality

​While the quality of this line is average (which is not to say bad but by no means luxury items) I want the entire range of Black Rose products, being a reasonable price that matches the mid-range, decent quality of these items, they are so incredibly aesthetically pleasing they make up for not being ultra-high quality with just being absolutely gorgeous.

Who Should Use The Black Rose Whipping Willow?

The Black Rose Whipping Willow is a small to medium sized flogger, it is made of a vegan-friendly leatherette and the falls of the flogger are soft and deliver a nice stingy hit with just enough weight to give it some slight thud, it will leave you nice and pink but without any lasting welts or heavy bruising and because of this the Whipping Willow is perfect for beginner to intermediate kinksters, sadism and masochism lovers, or for experienced or mild impact players to add to their warm up repertoire.

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Black Rose Whipping Willow Features

The handle of the flogger also includes a wrist strap to help control your flogger and stop it potentially flying out of your hands across the room if you were to accidentally lose control, which of course we hope never happens.​

While the Black Rose Whipping Willow could be considered pretty with its lighter toned and ever so slightly almost metallic purple leatherette handle, with the leatherette wrapped thinly around it in a spiraling design secured with a silver stud and black decorative leatherette rose at the base of the handle it is still an intimidating weapon, a seductive and alluring looking tool for pleasure and pain.

The length of the Black Rose Whipping Willow is 29.5inches (74.93cm) long including the handle, the handle is 2 inches (roughly 5cm) across, the falls (otherwise known as tails) of the Whipping Willow are 16.5 inches (41.91 cm) long and weighing in under 1kg at 0.48lbs it is a very light weight and easy to swing flogger.

How To Clean The Black Rose Whipping Willow

Cleaning the Black Rose Whipping Willow is simple, just hand clean it by wiping it down with a warm wet cloth or dry clean only, don’t use harsher toy cleaners or any chemicals to clean this toy because of the fabric and its porous nature you may damage the leatherette. If you do get your flogger wet and after cleaning make sure you dry it somewhere in the sun or use a hair dryer on a very low heat so that no moisture settles and has a chance to grow any nasties.

Black Rose Whipping Willow Safety

Lastly but certainly not least, be safe. This flogger is perfect for beginners as I’ve said but that also means being extra careful while you and a partner discover the joys of impact play and flogging together and of course remember, have fun! It is a great blogger to begin your Fifty Shades of Grey experience!

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Pleasure & Pain You Lil Devil!

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The Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel comes to us from the Master Series line of fetish toys made by XR Brands, XR Brands are the people who bring us some amazing lines that you may have heard of including; Tom Of Finland, CleanStream, STRICT, Strict Leather, Prostatic Play and of course Master Series, all six of these lines being available at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and Adultsmart. Master Series has something for everyone catering to lots of different BDSM and kink fantasies, go check out their range to discover something if there’s something for you.

 

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Master Series Packaging

Maser Series ‘Master your Domain’ the line of BDSM and fetish toys and equipment from XR Brands is one of my favourite fetish toy and equipment lines I’ve found to date. Firstly I’m a sucker for packaging and the design alone of the Master Series packaging was enough to immediately draw my eye.

​The Lil Devil sits in a box with clear plastic packaging, as is the same for the rest of the Master Series range so you can fully see the item you’re purchasing not just a photo, to me this increases my chance of buying a product so I’m not disappointed when I get home and unbox my item only to find the size, colour or something else didn’t match the image I saw on the packaging. The Master Series logo and style, in general, is sleek and reminiscent of cool metal, which is all the better for getting me in the mood for a kink session.

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Sex Toy: Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel In Packaging

 

Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel

The Master Series Lil Devil mini sensation wheel itself is small, the handle is easily held in your thumb and finger having an indented surface for your thumb to sit perfectly and to aid your grip as it is such a mini size wheel. At 3.5 inches long (8.89cm) and 1 inch (254cm) in diameter, the Lil Devil mini sensation wheel is perfect to take with you to kink events or clubs it fits in even a small handbag or purse without issue or even your pocket, just take it out and discreetly run it along your partners arms or legs for some simple and mild public play.

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Sex Toy: Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel

 

What Is A Wartenberg Wheel?

Wartenberg wheels or sometimes more commonly known as Pinwheels are very popular in sensation play, originally (as with many items used in kink) the Wartenberg wheel was invented to test a patients nerve reaction to the wheel being run across their body, this is perfect for sensation play for extreme and more gentle kinksters alike, you can gently run the wheel across your partners skin for a mild pricking sensation or push down hard for something more painful, common places to use the wheel are the shaft of a penis or the bottoms of feet to really stimulate your partners nerves. They are often used by people who gain pleasure from pain. I wonder if Professor Robert Wartenberg foresaw this use of his invention?

Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel Material

The Lil Devil mini sensation wheel is on the sharp side! Even sharper that some of the metal ones I own, this little guy definitely packs a punch. The Lil Devil is made from ABS plastic and comes in a glossy black, the ABS plastic is easy to clean just wash it with hot soapy water and then spray with a toy cleaner, leave for a minute and then rinse off, easy as!

I Love The Master Series Lil Devil Mini

I love my Lil Devil mini sensation wheel, it lives in my hand bag (along with a pair of nipple clamps) so I’m always prepared for some kink on the go, sharp and to the point, it is a great little addition to any kinksters and sadists artillery. Be sure to stop by our retail sex toy stores to browse the XR Brands Master Series sex toy range and pick up your very own Lil Devil! See below a youtube video of a Wartenberg PinWheel by Hell’s Couture.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

 

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5 Ways Tantus Delivers Corporal Punishment

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Tantus is an industry leader in body safe and environmentally friendly products a dream that Metis Black had since 1997 when she started to make beautiful hand poured products and from that Black helped develop the unique, pure and superior silicone formula that helps make Tantus the well-known and trusted brand that is, setting the bar for industry standards today.

Tantus Silicone Paddles

Tantus makes a variety of products including this range of silicone paddles that I absolutely adore and they are the pride and joy in my collection of impact play toys. There are 5 different shapes and types to choose from each with a name that gives you an indicator of the way the toy will feel. Tantus Silicone Paddles include:

  1. Pelt
  2. Twack
  3. Wham Bam
  4. Snap Strap
  5. Plunge Paddle
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Product: Tantus Pelt

 

Complete Guide On The Tantus Pelt

The Pelt is made from Tantus’s unique premium silicone blend that is absolutely the best silicone I’ve ever held in my hands, it is so beautifully silky smooth you just want to rub it all over your face which I did and do whenever I pick up one of my Tantus paddles. The ultra-premium silicone is also eco-friendly and hypoallergenic which is definitely a bonus and a credit to Tantus and their quality and care they put into their products keeping the buyer in mind first and foremost.

While holding the Pelt you can feel it has a well designed balanced weight, the Pelt is a shorter oval shaped paddle giving it a wonderful centralised and mildly heavy sensation (yet still having a wonderful sting) meaning you have more control over it during impact play and you will have a better aim and an easier time targeting the right spot for when you do pelt your partner, making it a good paddle for beginners and experienced players alike. Its name does fit the Pelt perfectly as it’s the exact word that comes to mind to describe this sensation from both giving and receiving ends of the paddle.

The Pelt is 11.6″ (29.5cm) long and 3′ (7.6cm) wide, all of the Tantus paddle range coming in a beautifully smooth satin finish black. These paddles are thick, sturdy yet flexible.

The craftsmanship of Tantus products is flawless, the Pelt having an almost seamless and totally smooth surface bar the upraised ‘Tantus’ stamp just above the handle, with the handle having a small hole in it for you to easily attach rope, chain, string or whatever you wish so you’re able to hang up your Tantus Pelt.

 

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How To Take Care Of Tantus Paddles

I store my Tantus paddles out on a glass table and they are not dust collectors like some silicone and other toy materials can be, in saying this cleaning your Tantus paddle is a breeze, it is dishwasher safe but the premium grade silicone from Tantus is of such a high quality you can even boil or bleach your toys if you so wish.

I personally use hot water and a toy cleaner after each use, you may not have thought about cleaning your toys if they are not being inserted or worn but I highly recommend it especially if you are playing with multiple partners, during impact play there is a chance of breaking the skin or the toy coming into contact with skin that is already broken so keeping your toys 100% free from bacteria is important,Tantus is after all about good, clean fun! You can also read the Guide To Cleaning Leather And Fetish Gear to learn all about taking care of your products.

Overall Review On The Tantus Pelt

If you are looking for a fantastic long lasting quality item to begin or add to your toy collection the Tantus Pelt is an excellent place to start, more than reasonably priced you are getting your money’s worth with Tantus. It is a great product especially if you are a beginner engaging in BDSM play.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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