Bella Talks Tantric Massage. You Should Listen!

Spiritual And Sexual Massage Hands

The Sydney Tantric Massage opening line perfectly describes what a tantric massage experience is:

“Your sexual energy is awoken and spread around your entire body, causing a full body response, new sensations, a new understanding of the potential for pleasure within you. A Tantric Massage honours you in your entirety.”

A Tantra Massage is explained as where a person is taken to a place of deep relaxation. The experience will encourage you to breathe deeply and become more mindfully aware of every touch you experience and it allows for your body to naturally sexually respond. With Tantra Massage you are not expected to climax but it can lead to a powerful full body orgasm. It is one of the ways for men to learn how to orgasm without ejaculation.

There are two main types of Tantra Massages including a Yoni Massage which focuses on honouring the vagina and a Lingam Massage which focuses on honouring the male penis. I have to say, it sounds like an amazing experience which honestly connects all aspects of psychology, sexuality and spirituality together in a harmonious environment. Who doesn’t want all those benefits?

Sydney Tantric Massage have a large range of practitioners who specialise in areas including Intimacy Coaching, Spiritual Healing, Tantric Counselling, Energy Work, Bondassage and more. This is an interview with Bella, the Manager of the Sydney Tantric Massage Website.

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Photo: Bella, The Manager Of The Sydney Tantric Massage Website

Tell me about yourself?

My name is Bella.  I’m a Tantric Practitioner based in Sydney.  I manage the STM website, where independent and professionally trained Tantric practitioners advertise their Tantric services.

How did you get into Tantra Massage?

I was certainly interested in Tantra through my 20s, but it wasn’t until my early 30s that i started to have full body energetic and orgasmic experiences. Sometimes during sex, sometimes while dancing, and sometimes just literally out of the blue for no reason.  This gave me experiential insight into the fact that sexual energy is life force energy, and is not dependent on genital stimulation.  We have more of a powerful and full body orgasmic capacity for pleasure than many of us realise.  As my personal experiences of sexual energy were so far outside the mainstream norm of what we are told sex is, I became passionate about deepening my studies of Tantra and sacred sexuality. Soon enough I realised that this was my true passion, I accepted that I had a gift worth sharing, and that I had the personal qualities and skills necessary to become a Tantric practitioner.  I studied a lot of courses and workshops, and started offering sessions.  That was 9 years ago.

What are the main principles of Tantra and how does it connect you to spirituality?

Tantra is the art of relaxing through arousal, the art of love, the art of meditating on pleasure.  The main principles are to slow everything down, be more mindful and present with every nuance of sensation, breathe deeply, let sounds flow, and move our sexual energy from the genitals around the body using imagination and intention to create full body orgasmic pleasure.   The tantric approach can create valley orgasms,  orgasmic states that last for hours.  It is spiritual because when we are outside the normal confines of our ego we are closest to ‘god’, and sex is the fast track way to get there.  We can achieve much more in a short space of time when we are present with our partner and sexual energy is flowing than we ever could through meditating alone for years. By combining sex and meditation, we can access states of consciousness not available with either practice alone.   Sex has an evolutionary function: when we shift away from a genital and peak orgasm focus and instead conduct sexual energy upwards, it is the energy of enlightenment.   Different chemical reactions in the body take place, the mind becomes flooded with dopamine, serotonin and DMT, the pineal gland can become activated, and one can experience energetically merging with the other, you might feel your chakras lighting up, experience visions in the third eye, or feel a sense of communion with something greater than yourself.  Many, different energetic, spiritual and extremely pleasurable experiences are possible when we unite spirit and sex, that’s why tantra is spiritual.

What are the benefits of a Tantra Massage?

There are many.   A tantric massage will often create a whole body orgasmic pleasure in the recipient.  Bliss states are very healing and rejuvenating for the whole body and all our organs. Experiencing full body orgasmic pleasure can teach people a lot about themselves, and inspire them to create more fulfilment and connection for themselves and their partners.   A Tantric Massage teaches a person the value of slowing down and relaxing during sexual arousal, because in this relaxed mindful state, they will experience energy moving and pleasure in their bodies in new and interesting ways.   They will learn how to cultivate sexual energy, and to move it around the body, therefore showing them that orgasmic pleasure is not limited to the genitals, but we are capable of full body orgasmicness.

It will leave a person feeling full body integration and unite the genitals with the heart.

If a person has an issue the practitioner will tailor the session to specifically address that issue.  Clients will come for a tantric massage if they want to learn how to last longer, control themselves better, or have erectile issues, or for women, if they feel like they’re not very in touch with their sexual selves or feel shut down.  The tantric massage can help people become better loves, help men to last longer in bed, help couples to connect better and enjoy each other more, there are many benefits.

What does a Tantra Massage feel like?

That depends on the individual and where they are at.  Everybody is unique.  It’s a spectrum of experiences, from quiet, soothing, relaxing and nourishing, to high frequency, electric, intense, powerful, blissful, and incredible.  It’s not possible to predict, but everyone gets the experience that’s right for them.  It’s quite common for people to feel energy move through their body in new and pleasurable ways, and to have more full body orgasmic sensations than they may be accustomed to, or to feel the genital heat rise up their torso to their hearts.  Some people will have full body orgasms, for others, it may be something very close to it.  It leaves the body feeling very relaxed, and the person more deeply centred in their bodies, with less tension in the pelvic area and feeling integrated, heart, mind, body and soul.

Are there many different types of Tantra Massages?

Each practitioner will have their own style, but the basic elements are the same.  A tantric massage is a very sensual, full body and holistic massage utilising lots of long flowing strokes.  It works with your sexual energy, waking it up around the body through present, loving, intuitive touch.  A man receives a Lingham massage and he can have a prostate massage too if he likes, and a woman receives a yoni massage, so they differ in that way 🙂  The attitude of the practitioner is calm, loving, and honouring of you in your entirety.

 

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What is the difference between a giver and a receiver during a Tantra Massage? How does the giver and the receiver prepare for a Tantra Massage?

The practitioner is giving and the client is receiving.  Some light sensual contact may be welcomed but the practitioner is not the focus of the session, the client is.   Receiving isn’t a passive state, one actively receives by following the guidance to breathe deeply, allow sounds to be expressed, stay present with the sensations of the body, and move energy for full body orgasmicness.  The receiver should have their attention within their own body, and if their attention leaves the body, they should bring it back when they realise.   The receiver doesn’t have to do much to prepare, just come with an open mind and no expectations (expectations will block the direct reality of the experience) and be freshly showered, or shower at our studios before their session.  The practitioner will prepare the room beautifully with ambience and beautiful scents, fresh towels and warm oil, and meditate before the session so that we are grounded and present and in our hearts.

How does a Tantra Massage begin?

My sessions go for between one and 2 hours usually.  4 hours for couples.

The session will begin with a conversation with the client to find out more about more about them, and if they want help or guidance with an issue then we talk about that. Some people come purely for pleasure and relaxation, and others come because they know they have an issue they would like to overcome, such as lack of libido, lack of enjoyment of sexual intimacy, inability to orgasm or weak orgasmic sensations, lack of ejaculation control, or inability to sustain an erection.  The tantric approach can help improve all of these conditions. Conversing about sex and intimacy in this new way can be very beneficial to people, and the practitioner will explain more about the session.  Practitioners may meditate with the client before the session begins.

The massage will generally begin with the person lying face down, and there are different approaches for men and women.  For women, sexual energy moves from the extremities to the breasts, to the vagina, so we touch her in such a way to facilitate this. Sensuality is the key to a woman’s sexuality, and we want her to feel safe and relaxed, so we wouldn’t touch her yoni until much later in the session when she is lying on her back, after a breast and belly massage, and only with her permission granted would we enter her yoni to begin the internal massage.  Sexual energy works differently in a man, in that his energy arises in the genitals thus we would touch his genitals at the beginning, and continually return there during the whole body massage in order to awaken and spread the sexual energy and pleasurable sensations around his body.  Everything is done in a relaxing way, so that the receiver can relax into what they are receiving, instead of being overwhelmed by intense sensations.

The practitioner will guide the client into the tantric state, and may gently encourage and guide them during the massage to be present, to feel, to have a deeper experience. You can expect a new experience of relaxing into arousal, and that you will be honoured, safe, cared for and respected meanwhile.  Your full body massage will utilise a lot of long flowing sensual strokes, and a lot of attention is applied to the, chest, belly, pelvic and thighs, buttocks and around the genitals, leaving you feeling more open and light, and deeply connected to your pelvic bowl area.  Your penis, prostate or yoni will be touched with presence and love in innocent ways, it is a healing experience to be touched without agenda or without the need to do something for a change, just to receive. The touch around the pelvic area and in the vagina releases tension and allows for more pleasure to be experienced.  People hold a lot of tension around their genitals so it is tension releasing, very grounding.  It helps a person descend deeper into their sexual sense of self.   The massage will build towards a conclusion which is either deeply relaxing or deeply invigorating or a mix of both.  It could be an emotional experience, a blissful experience, a powerful experience, or a quiet gentle experience, it depends on the receiver.

 

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What happens during a Bondassage?

(Written by Taranga from Bondassagebliss)

“In a Bondassage session, you’ll experience both sensory deprivation and sensory overload. First you’ll be lightly bound to my comfortable massage table. Next I cover your eyes with a blindfold, and your ears with headphones, playing soft, sensual music. Then we’ll begin to explore sensation, as my warm, experienced hands knead, stroke, tickle, spank and more. As part of the experience, you’ll also be stimulated with delicious props like fur, feathers, crops and floggers. During a session, all kinds of feelings and emotions can come up. People often report feeling a rush of endorphins, similar to a ‘runner’s high’, and the experience can take you into what’s called a subspace. Here, time slows down and you enter a meditative, trance-like zone. Your mind is stilled and your body feels alive and more responsive than ever before.”

In the beginning if you are thinking of exploring any form of BDSM play then you have to try it out to see whether or not you are enjoying this kind of sexual and sensual play.  Only then will you know.   I think there needs to be an interest in BDSM play for you to enjoy and truly trust and let go.   If BDSM play is not for you don’t do it. Certainly you need to try things out to see whether it suits your particular needs and requirements and Bondassage is a safe way to experience the pleasure and pain of light BDSM with a highly trained and sensually skillful practitioner.

What type of training do the Tantra practitioners receive?

Yes, everyone on the STM site is well trained, and we are all dedicated to our profession.  Definitely if you are thinking about a Tantric Massage you should be looking into the qualifications of your practitioner.  There are many different avenues into this work, but for sure we have all undertaken a lot of personal development around our own sexuality, we have refined our sexual energy, we have all studied sacred sexuality, and completed many workshops and retreats around Tantra, massage, energy, or shamanic healing, counseling and coaching.  All of us have our own personal meditation practices that help us maintain a grounded, aware, present and loving attitude towards our clients. There are many reasons why you should start meditating. Take a look at our personal pages on our site to find out more about what we have studied.

What is the best way to contact you?

Each practitioner has their own hours of operation, generally between 10 am and 9pm or so.  Appointments later or earlier would be at the discretion of the practitioner.

The best way to contact the practitioner is by contacting them using the contact details on their individual pages.  STM website does not take bookings for sessions as we are all private and independent practitioners, you set up your appointment by contacting the practitioner directly.

What types of services or products should a person buy if they would like to know more about Tantra Massages?

They should come along and have a tantric massage because Tantra is experiential.  It is not something you read about or learn about, it is something you have the direct experience of.   A tantric massage is an opportunity to experience something unique in your life, it will be a deeply relaxing and pleasurable experience, and for some people it is a life changing experience.   Take a look at our Sydney Tantric Massage website and get in touch with the practitioner that you resonate the most with.

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Risk Aware Consensual Kink

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In the world of BDSM and kink there is a well-known phrase ‘Safe Sane Consensual’ or ‘SSC’. This term has been the most popular and well-known “rule” that all good kinksters follow. It has been “the” rule of thumb for a while but now there’s RACK. RACK is a newer acronym standing for Risk Aware Consensual Kink, and it also just happens to be a great pun. Now, why not both, why is one better than the other? Here I will compare RACK and SSC to give you a better idea of the difference.

SSC, Safe Sane and Consensual, sounds great right? Let’s break it down.

Safe

What is safe? Nothing we do as kinksters is truly safe really, there are huge risks to both our physical and psychological well-being involved in BDSM and other fetish and kink activities. We can obviously make attempts at safety but at the end of the day there is risk involved, yet safe implies no risk.

Sane

Kinksters, just like the rest of society, are holistic human beings and this includes mental illness, making the word sane here potentially offensive and exclusionary. Should someone with a mental illness not be allowed to make the executive decision to involve themselves in kink? Many kinksters I know use BDSM as a form of self-care and therapy, nothing soothes them more than being bound and tied or having a good session on a St Andrews cross to relax after a hard week of work. I assume this was meant to imply that everyone involved in the kinky activities was not doing it from a place of rage or an abusive mindset, unfortunately, abuse is still common in the world of kink as it is possible in any interpersonal relationship, but it is the wrong choice of word. Not everyone with a mental illness is abusive and not everyone who is abusive has a mental illness. In short, having sane as part of our community’s unofficial rule for kink is ableist.

Consensual

Consent: there’s no kink without it. It’s the main thing that separates the wonderful world of kink from abuse. We love consent in all its forms and it’s something that doesn’t happen just once, it’s constant and something to routinely check in on. Consent absolutely belongs in this acronym and is the only part of SSC I agree with wholeheartedly. Consent has to be freely given by a person of legally consenting age.

On a surface level, SSC sounds good, but let’s look at RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) and why it’s – in my opinion – better.

 

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Risk Aware

Risk aware more accurately describes what we do, and also ties into consent, everyone involved in a BDSM or a kinky activity should be well aware of what they’re getting themselves into. For example, rope bunnies and riggers alike should be aware of the risks in rigging and rope play, as you can permanently damage someone’s nerves with the wrong knot, dislocate something, or there’s the potential risk of being dropped.

The more risk aware you are, the more educated on the activity, and that is what BDSM and kink should be about. Being aware of the risk also includes the risk to your mental health – sub drop and Dom/me drop is a thing and should be taken seriously. Also, the risk that the person you are playing with is potentially an abusive person. Being risk aware means being vigilant about who you choose to engage in play with, it can mean asking around for references and learning to trust your gut.

Consensual Kink

Consensual kink replaces both the Sane and Consensual parts of SSC. Someone with mental illness doesn’t have to be “sane” (which is a loaded word anyway), to participate in what they want to. If anyone, mentally ill or otherwise, is lucid and can consent – meaning a sober and INFORMED* – then they have just as much right as anyone else to be involved.

Consent can be revoked at any time. This goes for kink, general romantic and sexual activities. Consent is something that should be checked before, during and after play. If someone feels their consent was violated it’s something that needs to be discussed. In the world of kink we have ‘safe words’ and having a safe word (and in some cases a hand signal, noise, or nonverbal cue) is a big important part of consensual kink.

Consent can be formal, like in some D/s (Dominant/submissive) relationships people will write up a contract of everything they are agreeing to, but it should never end there. Consent should be given before, during and after and this doesn’t have to be formal, it can be fun, sexy and part of the experience. A simple “harder?”, “softer?”, or “do you like that?” are examples of refreshing consent in the middle of an activity. Consent is never because you feel pressured or obligated, even in kink and D/s you don’t owe anyone anything.

* Someone cannot consent to something unless you have explicitly laid it out for them. Kink is all about truthful communication. Details are mandatory.

I hope now you can make an informed decision on which suits you, SSC vs RACK or even something else, it’s really up to you. At the end of the day all that matters is that you are informed and consenting/have consent but also that you are enjoying yourself and getting what you need and want from the experience. You will need to take note of the risks of BDSM Play and be aware of the steps needed to stay safe during couples sex.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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A Rocking Chair Fetish Fantasy

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“Its going to rock your world”

Well so the Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair claims. But after putting this product to the test, is it really all that it’s rockin’ up to be?

Working in an adult lifestyle store you come across some weird and wonderful things. The Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair is no exception. Steering away from the regular vibrators, bullets, eggs, anal toys and liberator sex furniture trying to find something on a much bigger scale to explore, I came across this vibrating sex saddle and immediately knew I had to try it out. Venturing out of what’s comfortable can be hard and the fear of investing money into something you might not end up liking may scare people off trying new things

After trying to do my own research before diving into this trial I was shocked to find that there are very little/no reviews at all on this product which would be very off putting to someone looking to invest in it.  So, with this honest review I hope to give a good insight on how this product works and if it really is worth jumping into the deep end and trying something different.

Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair Measurements

First things first the elephant in the room, it’s big. It’s not something you can hide in your night stand or in a shoe box and hope to god your maid or even your children find it. Although it’s designed very well and to the untrained eye you would think nothing but “what a strange looking chair”, its size is something to consider if you are looking for something discreet or easy to hide away. Its exact measurements are: 12.5” (31.7 cm) in width, 17.5” (44.4 cm) in depth and 14.5” (36.8 cm) in height.

 

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Sex Toy: Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair With Woman

 

Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair Features

The key features of this ultimate vibrating sex saddle that make this toy so unique is the perfectly situated clitoral vibrator which makes for the ultimate hands free toy, allowing you to use your body and weight to your advantage to get the most intense stimulation exactly where you need it. Using your body as you move and rock back and forth is said to be the most effective way to reach incredible orgasms. It is used just like a rocking chair. It is designed to form comfortably to your body allowing for the incredible super strong electric Japanese motor to send vibrations directly to your clitoris, inner thighs and even anus which make for a much more intense sensation then your regular vibrator.

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Sex Toy: Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair Remote

 

While you are having the rockin’ ride of your life you will notice that there is a convenient support handle located at one end of the “chair” which allows for extra support and control while riding this vibrator. Now when it comes to the power of this toy, I know from experience that anything rechargeable or battery operated is not going to give me as intense power as something that is plugged in to a main power source, so be prepared for intense vibrations when you plus this into the wall. Downside, some plug in toys comes with the restriction on how far you can move the toy, thankfully the Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair is accompanied by an extra-long power cord making the chair much more accessible to move around, as well as an easy to use remote control designed to make exploring the powerful vibrations simple and convenient.

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Fetish Fantasy International Rockin’ Chair Conclusion

This is not your everyday vibrator. It is an investment for yourself or even for your love life which might need some spicing up. It is an incredible hands free stimulator that gives you orgasms you didn’t know you could have from simply hopping on a rockin’ chair.  Although large it is still discreet in terms of its appearance, so one could get away with just having a “chair” in the corner. For any couples looking for something different and a lot of fun, this toy is definitely one for the wish list or even if you are a single women looking for something more intense and fun to play with as you watch your favourite dirty movie this will take you all the way. Visually using the Rockin’ Chair is a great way for enhance womens sexual arousal.

Get on and let this toy literally rock your world.

About the author: Nikki is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Control Your Sex Slave With A Leash

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XR Brands brings us this chain leash from their Tom of Finland series, XR Brands are the people who bring us some amazing lines that you may have heard of including; Master Series, CleanStream, STRICT, Strict Leather, Prostatic Play and of course Tom of Finland, all six of these lines being available here at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres or on Adultsmart our online store.

 

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About Tom Of Finland

Touko Valio Laaksonen, a Finnish artist known for his stylized highly masculinized homoerotic fetish art, and better known by his pseudonym Tom of Finland produced over 3500 illustrations in his 71 years of life, mostly all of them featuring men wearing tight clothing, fetish gear or little to no clothing at all with exaggerated sexual features.

 

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Photo: Touko Valio Laaksonen

 

He has been called the “most influential creator of gay pornographic images” by cultural historian Joseph W. Slade and has had a big impact on gay culture throughout the 20th century and continues to, to this day with the Tom of Finland Foundation and his artwork still inspiring, turning on, reassuring and unifying its viewers.

“Tom of Finland is one of the five most influential artists of the twentieth century. As an artist he was superb, as an influence he was transcendent.”- Harvey S. Shipley Mille

Obviously the Tom of Finland series has a lot to live up to, luckily XR brands have created some wonderful and quality items in their Tom of Finland range including collars, leads, restraints, clamps, insertables and more.

Tom of Finland Leash Packaging

The Tom of Finland Leash comes in wonderful packaging featuring Touko Valio Laaksonen’s artwork on the box that is metallic and reflective in places, it is so nice you may have the urge to preserve the packing itself like I considered doing but to my delight I discovered that inside as a bonus each product in the Tom of Finland range includes a collectable, exclusive art print with a portion of proceeds going to the Tom of Finland Foundation, dedicated to protecting, preserving, and promoting erotic art.

Tom of Finland Leash Design

Now for what’s inside the box! The leash is a lovely gun metal grey colour of the chain is beautiful and different to other leashes I’ve seen out there that tend to just come in either black or silver metal, I adore this colour and it really set this leash apart looking incredibly stylish with the black neoprene hand strap that is soft yet sturdily made, there is a silver metal look plastic plate on the handle embossed with the Tom of Finland logo.

 

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Sex Toy: Tom of Finland Leash Material

 

Neoprene is a synthetic rubber that resists degradation more than natural or other synthetic rubbers and is easy to clean if the need arises just use a warm wet cloth to wipe down the surface of the leash and its handle with water only as neoprene is sensitive to household chemicals and urine, so if golden showers are your thing be careful to not be wearing any of the neoprene range when participating in those activities. Neoprene is also vegan-friendly making the entire Tom of Finland matching collar, leash, ankle and wrist cuff set the perfect choice for those who wish to avoid purchasing or using animal products or if you simply do not like leather or silicone it is a good alternative.

The Tom of Finland gun metal chain leash is 42 inches (106.68cm) in total length, the chain without handle being 30 inches (76.2cm) this is a good length in my opinion for a leash intended for human use, when using my leash I’ve never thought it was too long which can be a pain having excess chain in the way or too short which can cause unwanted tugging on the person who has it attached to their collar being led around.

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This leash is an excellent addition to anyone into or considering collar and leash play, stylish, high quality and with a rich history behind it, you will feel confident and in charge with its bold dark metallic grey glinting as you show off your submissive or as you’re being shown off. Using the Tom Of Finland Leash is an incredible way to introduce dominance and submission into your sexual lifestyle.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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I’m A Flogging Sex God!

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The Black Rose line of toys and accessories comes to us from Doc Johnson, Doc Johnson is one of THE big names in the adult sex toy industry, they have been around since 1976 manufacturing innovative and trusted adult products from their home base in California. With over 500 employees they are ever expanding and improving themselves striving to set the bar for industry standards worldwide.

Priding themselves on being American made at their in house laboratory where their chemist makes sure that the material being made and chosen suits the products perfectly that will do nothing but impress and better the sexual experience of every customer. The Black Rose line includes restraints, insertables, harnesses, accessories, lotions and impact play equipment.

Black Rose Whipping Colour Choices

The line all shares the same theme, purple and black and where possible including a rose, the packaging design of the Black Rose line is very eye catching and sensual, glossy black boxing with a model who was born for the role, she sets the scene extremely well for you to imagine yourself using these products.

Black Rose Whipping Willow Quality

​While the quality of this line is average (which is not to say bad but by no means luxury items) I want the entire range of Black Rose products, being a reasonable price that matches the mid-range, decent quality of these items, they are so incredibly aesthetically pleasing they make up for not being ultra-high quality with just being absolutely gorgeous.

Who Should Use The Black Rose Whipping Willow?

The Black Rose Whipping Willow is a small to medium sized flogger, it is made of a vegan-friendly leatherette and the falls of the flogger are soft and deliver a nice stingy hit with just enough weight to give it some slight thud, it will leave you nice and pink but without any lasting welts or heavy bruising and because of this the Whipping Willow is perfect for beginner to intermediate kinksters, sadism and masochism lovers, or for experienced or mild impact players to add to their warm up repertoire.

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Black Rose Whipping Willow Features

The handle of the flogger also includes a wrist strap to help control your flogger and stop it potentially flying out of your hands across the room if you were to accidentally lose control, which of course we hope never happens.​

While the Black Rose Whipping Willow could be considered pretty with its lighter toned and ever so slightly almost metallic purple leatherette handle, with the leatherette wrapped thinly around it in a spiraling design secured with a silver stud and black decorative leatherette rose at the base of the handle it is still an intimidating weapon, a seductive and alluring looking tool for pleasure and pain.

The length of the Black Rose Whipping Willow is 29.5inches (74.93cm) long including the handle, the handle is 2 inches (roughly 5cm) across, the falls (otherwise known as tails) of the Whipping Willow are 16.5 inches (41.91 cm) long and weighing in under 1kg at 0.48lbs it is a very light weight and easy to swing flogger.

How To Clean The Black Rose Whipping Willow

Cleaning the Black Rose Whipping Willow is simple, just hand clean it by wiping it down with a warm wet cloth or dry clean only, don’t use harsher toy cleaners or any chemicals to clean this toy because of the fabric and its porous nature you may damage the leatherette. If you do get your flogger wet and after cleaning make sure you dry it somewhere in the sun or use a hair dryer on a very low heat so that no moisture settles and has a chance to grow any nasties.

Black Rose Whipping Willow Safety

Lastly but certainly not least, be safe. This flogger is perfect for beginners as I’ve said but that also means being extra careful while you and a partner discover the joys of impact play and flogging together and of course remember, have fun! It is a great blogger to begin your Fifty Shades of Grey experience!

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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Pleasure & Pain You Lil Devil!

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The Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel comes to us from the Master Series line of fetish toys made by XR Brands, XR Brands are the people who bring us some amazing lines that you may have heard of including; Tom Of Finland, CleanStream, STRICT, Strict Leather, Prostatic Play and of course Master Series, all six of these lines being available at Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres and Adultsmart. Master Series has something for everyone catering to lots of different BDSM and kink fantasies, go check out their range to discover something if there’s something for you.

 

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Master Series Packaging

Maser Series ‘Master your Domain’ the line of BDSM and fetish toys and equipment from XR Brands is one of my favourite fetish toy and equipment lines I’ve found to date. Firstly I’m a sucker for packaging and the design alone of the Master Series packaging was enough to immediately draw my eye.

​The Lil Devil sits in a box with clear plastic packaging, as is the same for the rest of the Master Series range so you can fully see the item you’re purchasing not just a photo, to me this increases my chance of buying a product so I’m not disappointed when I get home and unbox my item only to find the size, colour or something else didn’t match the image I saw on the packaging. The Master Series logo and style, in general, is sleek and reminiscent of cool metal, which is all the better for getting me in the mood for a kink session.

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Sex Toy: Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel In Packaging

 

Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel

The Master Series Lil Devil mini sensation wheel itself is small, the handle is easily held in your thumb and finger having an indented surface for your thumb to sit perfectly and to aid your grip as it is such a mini size wheel. At 3.5 inches long (8.89cm) and 1 inch (254cm) in diameter, the Lil Devil mini sensation wheel is perfect to take with you to kink events or clubs it fits in even a small handbag or purse without issue or even your pocket, just take it out and discreetly run it along your partners arms or legs for some simple and mild public play.

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Sex Toy: Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel

 

What Is A Wartenberg Wheel?

Wartenberg wheels or sometimes more commonly known as Pinwheels are very popular in sensation play, originally (as with many items used in kink) the Wartenberg wheel was invented to test a patients nerve reaction to the wheel being run across their body, this is perfect for sensation play for extreme and more gentle kinksters alike, you can gently run the wheel across your partners skin for a mild pricking sensation or push down hard for something more painful, common places to use the wheel are the shaft of a penis or the bottoms of feet to really stimulate your partners nerves. They are often used by people who gain pleasure from pain. I wonder if Professor Robert Wartenberg foresaw this use of his invention?

Master Series Lil Devil Mini Sensation Wheel Material

The Lil Devil mini sensation wheel is on the sharp side! Even sharper that some of the metal ones I own, this little guy definitely packs a punch. The Lil Devil is made from ABS plastic and comes in a glossy black, the ABS plastic is easy to clean just wash it with hot soapy water and then spray with a toy cleaner, leave for a minute and then rinse off, easy as!

I Love The Master Series Lil Devil Mini

I love my Lil Devil mini sensation wheel, it lives in my hand bag (along with a pair of nipple clamps) so I’m always prepared for some kink on the go, sharp and to the point, it is a great little addition to any kinksters and sadists artillery. Be sure to stop by our retail sex toy stores to browse the XR Brands Master Series sex toy range and pick up your very own Lil Devil! See below a youtube video of a Wartenberg PinWheel by Hell’s Couture.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

 

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5 Ways Tantus Delivers Corporal Punishment

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Tantus is an industry leader in body safe and environmentally friendly products a dream that Metis Black had since 1997 when she started to make beautiful hand poured products and from that Black helped develop the unique, pure and superior silicone formula that helps make Tantus the well-known and trusted brand that is, setting the bar for industry standards today.

Tantus Silicone Paddles

Tantus makes a variety of products including this range of silicone paddles that I absolutely adore and they are the pride and joy in my collection of impact play toys. There are 5 different shapes and types to choose from each with a name that gives you an indicator of the way the toy will feel. Tantus Silicone Paddles include:

  1. Pelt
  2. Twack
  3. Wham Bam
  4. Snap Strap
  5. Plunge Paddle
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Product: Tantus Pelt

 

Complete Guide On The Tantus Pelt

The Pelt is made from Tantus’s unique premium silicone blend that is absolutely the best silicone I’ve ever held in my hands, it is so beautifully silky smooth you just want to rub it all over your face which I did and do whenever I pick up one of my Tantus paddles. The ultra-premium silicone is also eco-friendly and hypoallergenic which is definitely a bonus and a credit to Tantus and their quality and care they put into their products keeping the buyer in mind first and foremost.

While holding the Pelt you can feel it has a well designed balanced weight, the Pelt is a shorter oval shaped paddle giving it a wonderful centralised and mildly heavy sensation (yet still having a wonderful sting) meaning you have more control over it during impact play and you will have a better aim and an easier time targeting the right spot for when you do pelt your partner, making it a good paddle for beginners and experienced players alike. Its name does fit the Pelt perfectly as it’s the exact word that comes to mind to describe this sensation from both giving and receiving ends of the paddle.

The Pelt is 11.6″ (29.5cm) long and 3′ (7.6cm) wide, all of the Tantus paddle range coming in a beautifully smooth satin finish black. These paddles are thick, sturdy yet flexible.

The craftsmanship of Tantus products is flawless, the Pelt having an almost seamless and totally smooth surface bar the upraised ‘Tantus’ stamp just above the handle, with the handle having a small hole in it for you to easily attach rope, chain, string or whatever you wish so you’re able to hang up your Tantus Pelt.

 

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How To Take Care Of Tantus Paddles

I store my Tantus paddles out on a glass table and they are not dust collectors like some silicone and other toy materials can be, in saying this cleaning your Tantus paddle is a breeze, it is dishwasher safe but the premium grade silicone from Tantus is of such a high quality you can even boil or bleach your toys if you so wish.

I personally use hot water and a toy cleaner after each use, you may not have thought about cleaning your toys if they are not being inserted or worn but I highly recommend it especially if you are playing with multiple partners, during impact play there is a chance of breaking the skin or the toy coming into contact with skin that is already broken so keeping your toys 100% free from bacteria is important,Tantus is after all about good, clean fun! You can also read the Guide To Cleaning Leather And Fetish Gear to learn all about taking care of your products.

Overall Review On The Tantus Pelt

If you are looking for a fantastic long lasting quality item to begin or add to your toy collection the Tantus Pelt is an excellent place to start, more than reasonably priced you are getting your money’s worth with Tantus. It is a great product especially if you are a beginner engaging in BDSM play.

 

About the author: Erin is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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Kinky Sex And The Art Of Pleasure

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Sex is fun. It’s exciting and it’s an expression of intimacy between couples. As we enter into an age where we view sex as pleasure as opposed to just being about reproduction, the boundaries of sex, intimacy and pleasure are being continually expanded.

This is why kink sex, or sex that has previously been viewed as outside the norm is sky rocketing into people’s bedrooms and sexual lifestyles. We’ve seen the impact of Fifty Shades of Grey, and we’ve seen it embraced by people around the world. We’re becoming far more comfortable with both ourselves and the idea of pleasure. We’re becoming more open about the fluidity of sex and sexuality, and we are becoming more in tune with the ideas of pleasure.

Kink sex is amazing. It’s wondrous and it’s a ball of fun. The issue is that the idea of kink sex is so diverse, people hear the word kink and because it is often used as a negative term, they become distant. They become nervous and they become a little confused. They might wonder why a partner needs kink in the bedroom, they might become disheartened that they’re not enough and therefore take it personally, or they might have a predisposed idea of what kink is. Which isn’t the kink that you are considering bringing into the bedroom with your lover. It’s one thing to discuss handcuffs, it’s another thing to say that you’d like them to control you sexually while you are role playing a completely different character and personality than what you normally are.

Kinky play can involve anything that’s outside the standard missionary position, it can involve the use of toys, it can involve bringing in other people, or it can simply be a way of exploring ourselves and our own idea of pleasure.

The studies have indicated that kink sex has a positive impact on relationships, and our own understanding. Why? Well in order to engage in such activities we have to negotiate, and understand what we like and what we dislike. This, inevitably, leads us to communicating with our partner. In this way the idea of kink sex forces us to sit down and acknowledge our pleasurable likes and dislikes with ourselves, and our partners. To come out and say, I like being tied up is both a liberating experience, as well as placing us in a vulnerable position.

Not everyone likes particular kinks and it therefore becomes a minefield as we navigate our pleasurable activities and sexual interests with our loved ones. I’ve discussed kink, and in particular BDSM extensively in the past. For the most part, the idea of using Kink and BDSM products as well as sexual skill sets comes down to a few core values within trust, vulnerability, power exchanges and role playing. When you tell your partner that you’d like to be tied up and engage in some intimate activities, you’re revealing something about yourself that they may not have known. They might be turned on by the idea, or they might be confused because it is different. The thing is, that it is necessary to discuss your interests with your partner. Failing to do so, will potentially mean that you become disinterested in sexual activity, it might lead you to becoming sexually unhappy as you deny your idea of pleasure to yourself, but most of all it means that you’re not being completely honest with yourself and with your partner. Yes, there are some kinks that are deal breakers, and one shouldn’t expect that you tell your partner what you’re interested in on a Sunday night and on Monday night you find your partner dressed up in a latex suit holding a whip ready to have their way with you. Kink play is about navigating, it’s about slowly building up to things, but most of all it’s about finding common ground and it’s about failing.

 

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Image: Women in Metal Handcuffs and Lace Blindfold

 

I mentioned earlier that the idea of kink is very diverse, and what you see in pornography, or in such popular fiction such as Fifty Shades of Grey, might not work for you and your partner. The trying something new bit, and then failing doesn’t mean that you should just give up on exploring a new activity, what it should do is open up a discussion as to what you liked, what worked and what didn’t work and how to best navigate that in future activities. Study after study indicates that kink minded couples have better communication than other couples, they enjoy a closer and shared intimacy because they better understand each other through their communication. With that in mind, if you’re interested in kink or BDSM here’s some tips on how to introduce that to your loved one.

Have a conversation with your partner. This needs to be done in a non-aggressive way, such as I saw this person being tied up in a film the other week and I thought that was pretty hot, what do you think about that? Bringing something up in such a way means that there is no pressure being placed on your partner, and it opens up a discussion.

In this way, you need to prepare yourself for both positive and negative responses. If it’s a positive response then it’s absolutely perfect, you can navigate how best to incorporate it into your sexual activity over time. If it’s negative, then don’t be disappointed. Disappointment can be an emotional guilt trip for a partner if they feel that they aren’t pleasing you. Leave it for a little while and bring it up again later.

If the response is positive, then there’s no need to rush out and get the gear that’s associated with your particular kink that you’d like to explore. Give it some time, discuss it with your partner and then slowly build up to it. If you’d like to be tied up, then you might want to look at buying a simple pair of novelty handcuffs before you go the full hog and buy a stylish black leather cuff set.

In this way, you need to prepare yourself for both positive and negative responses. If it’s a positive response then it’s absolutely perfect, you can navigate how best to incorporate it into your sexual activity over time. If it’s negative, then don’t be disappointed. Disappointment can be an emotional guilt trip for a partner if they feel that they aren’t pleasing you. Leave it for a little while and bring it up again later.

If the response is positive, then there’s no need to rush out and get the gear that’s associated with your particular kink that you’d like to explore. Give it some time, discuss it with your partner and then slowly build up to it. If you’d like to be tied up, then you might want to look at buying a simple pair of novelty handcuffs before you go the full hog and buy a stylish black leather cuff set.

In this way, sometimes it’s about building up to a particular activity. Take for example, domination. Your partner might not be naturally inclined to dominate within the bedroom, so to put them in an outfit and ask them to whip you might be very intimidating for them. Think of the ‘end goal’ and start with something simple. If you’re looking to be dominated, start off by getting them to dirty talk with you, or by giving simple demands. The thing is, is that if you have decided that you are interested in a particular kink or activity, then you have obviously had some time to research it, learn it, and become accustomed to it. Your partner might not have had that opportunity and as such they will need to grow into the role. By starting with the basics, not only do you give them the chance to develop into that role, but most importantly, you will be allowing the activity to naturally develop. You, as an intimate couple, might have the goal of being dominated and whipped into submission, but as you play around with that idea you might discover new aspects and new facets of that kink which interest you both more. This is where the communication and the natural progression parts come in. As you communicate with each other, and check in with how you felt, you’ll learn more about each other and you’ll learn where you need to compromise so as you can both achieve the pleasurable satisfaction that you’re both looking for. Kink, and the development of kink, is not just about you and your pleasures, but it’s about the both of you and you interact together.

Above all else, it should be fun. Throughout the way you’re going to fail. You might fall into the corner and giggle. Don’t be disappointed by this. Porn and sex have taught us that the purpose of sexual activity is an orgasm. This is vastly incorrect, sex and intimacy have the purpose of bringing us closer together. We don’t have to orgasm to enjoy each other’s company and to develop intimacy between individuals. I dare say, some of the best experiences that I have had with my partner were the moments that we failed, because it was those moments that allowed us to communicate with each other. Good luck on your journey with Kinky Sex and BDSM.

 

About the author: Stephan is a consultant at the Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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An Educational Primer on Pet Play

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Pet play is an incredibly unique and increasingly known sub culture within the BDSM, D/s and Kink lifestyle. To put it simply, and before we get into the complexity of animal play, it simply refers to one or more people acting or roleplaying as a particular animal. You are pretending to be a particular animal, and you are taking on the qualities of that animal with animal like tendencies. Typically, the animal will play a submissive role within a D/s relationship with the dominant being a human trainer or master, but there are variations of this. Most notably within situations where an animal is lacking a trainer, and ‘plays’ with other animals or by themselves. This is very common within puppy play, where a group of puppies will form a ‘pack’ and play together with or without a human trainer.

The common animals that you will see within animal play are ponies, puppies, pigs, and kittens – though there are variations of this and anyone can play a particular animal that they associate with. Bunnies, cows are less often seen within animal play, but still exist.

Why do people enjoy animal play? Again, there are several reasons for this but we will explore the two most common reasons here.

Firstly, the idea of role playing an animal is seen as a form of escape. You can escape the role of being a human, escape the daily struggles and simply revert back to the mentality of a particular animal. Take for example a typical puppy. The only concerns that they have is food, play time, and enjoying time with their owner and these are the attributes that will be carried through when role playing a puppy. If you are seen as a cute and snuggly puppy or kitten, you don’t have to make sure that the bills are paid, or be responsible for cleaning the house. You can focus and relax on the responsibility of being a ‘mindless’ pet.

Secondly, an animal is seen as being less than human and in some cases it can reinforce the relationship between a dominant and submissive. Non-human pets are owned and are completely dependent on their owner. The owner decides when they are fed, the owner will buy their toys, and the owner will decide if they need to wear those adorable little outfits from the pet store or not. A non-human dog can’t drive themselves to the veterinarian when they need medical treatment, and they must rely on their human owners to do such things for them. The same can apply to human role playing pets and animals. It is the dominant, or the master which decides for them. There is also an aspect of humiliation within this type of play – being something less than human and being forced to potentially eat from a bowl and be led around on a leash can be humiliating for some and there might be some arousal in that.

Of course these two reasons can be separated, or they can be united. A person which views puppy play as a form of escape from the world might not be keen on the idea of a D/s lifestyle and only view it as a form of play and escape. It might not even be sexual in nature. However a person that enjoys the Dominant and Submissive aspect might play once a weekend, every once in a while of they might be more regular in their play. From there, they might be required to eat like a pet, or they may be allowed to sit at the table as a human. The possibilities, the engagement and level of being an animal varies. As it is with any form of activity within kink and BDSM – the level of engagement varies between individuals, couples and the community.

 

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Photo: Horse Play

 

Firstly, in order to get started on the adventure of being a pet within pet play, is the most important step. You need to let your partner, significant other know that you’re interested in the idea of pet play. We’ve just read about about kink and introducing kink to your partner, so you might be able to get some ideas from that – but to do that, you’re going to need to work out precisely why you want to engage in this type of play. Do you need it as a form of escape, or are you really turned on by the idea of being dominated or having your partner submit to you? You need to have a lengthy conversation on what that’s going to entail and how you’re going to negotiate through that. This will be very helpful if you’ve already played with kink and the idea of bondage and submission, as Pet play is only a short, hop skip and a jump to the next aspect. However, if you have never engaged with kink before, then you might have a little trouble introducing it to your partner – this is why it’s important to identify the exact aspect of pet play that you’re interested in and then build stepping stones to that. For example, if you’re looking at it for the domination then you might want to consider you or your partner becoming dominating within the bedroom without the aspect of pet play. Allowing your partner to become accustomed to that role before moving on to the next step of maybe introducing some pet play toys, or by introducing a pet play character that you can both play around with in the bedroom. This will make the transition much easier to handle than anything else.

For the most part pet play will involve someone playing the pet, and the other person playing the master and dominant. There are variations within this, especially when there are multiple pets (specifically puppies), but this might mean that you’re not going to have a very successful time. It’s dependant on your community, friends and network. Once you have reached the point where you want to discuss pet play, take it slow. One of the main things that you want to come out of the discussion is the expectations of what you both want out of play time. Does the animal/pet want to lounge around and be pet-like, or do they want to be active and annoying like an over excited pet all the time. Do they want to be ignored and left alone for the most part or do they want all your attention and devotion on them?

It’s absolutely fascinating to discover this journey, because once you strip away the human responsibilities of an individual, you will be surprised at what lies beneath. Their personality will change when they assume the role – a serious and proper girlfriend might become rambunctious and over the top as playing a kitten, and a quiet and tame boyfriend might become the life of the party when he’s playing in a puppy. The journey itself is amazing and varies between people – however it’s important to note that the lines of communication are left open as the role will change overtime, your engagement to the role will change over time and there’s going to be moments in life where you will both need to take a break from role playing because there’s just too much going on in life.

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About the author: Stephen is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

 

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Group Sex: The Do’s and Don’ts

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Sexual fantasies involving multiple people are one of the most common fantasies for both men and women. I used to believe that only few people ever ventured into group sex territory and that it was a thing that happened behind closed doors at the end of a dark alley way guarded by vicious werewolves.  I am now a little older and wiser, my mind since expanding as to what is possible when it comes to participating in sexual experiences with multiple people all at the same time. I now realise it can occur in so many different ways and is extremely common. Just to paint a picture of the extent of group sex, here’s a few fun facts;

  • Cuckholding, a man seeing his partner/wife having sex with another man, is the second most commonly searched heterosexual internet porn category
  • An estimated 15 million Americans engaged in swinging in 2011 (That’s 4% of the population!!)
  • In Japan, Bukkake parties, where multiple men masturbate and ejaculate onto a woman, are held regularly, with establishments openly advertising these parties in very public places.

Through my experiences, I’ve realised that group sex can be challenging to negotiate either as a single person or when in a relationship. It is for this reason I am sharing some advice for group sex newbies and people looking to open to this wonderful and exciting field of possibilities.

Communication

If this is not present then challenging issues may arise. Communication needs to be open throughout any sexual experience and with more then two people involved, it is especially important that everyone involved feels comfortable communicating. If you can’t communicate with one partner, you’re going to struggle with more so I recommend having this down pat before experimenting with multiple people at once. There are some really important things to discuss prior to engaging in a group sexcapade that will mean a healthy and fulfilling experience.

  • Boundaries: What is not ok, what behaviours are you not willing to engage in, what are your limits? When this information is known, the people you are engaging with can feel more at ease knowing your limits and what is ok to do. Obviously, things can change throughout the experience and it is important that all people involved are empowered to speak up throughout.
  • Desires: Speaking your desires and voicing what turns you on can be a really juicy way of letting everyone involved know how best to pleasure you. It means that you get to receive exactly what turns you on

Sexual health

Taking the right precautions to stay physically healthy is crucial and having more sexual partner’s means you’re at a greater risk of contracting sexually transmitted infections. In order to make sure that you’re safe when engaging in group sex, condoms are a must. This also means using a different condom for each partner. Getting tested for STI’s is important in order to keep everyone safe.

 

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Eliminate expectations for it to go a certain way

Like any sexual experience, trying to stick to a plan is a libido destroyer. Adult movies demonstrate threesomes, foursomes and moresomes in a way that is intended to entertain the viewer-it is not for educational purposes. So don’t be concerned if your experience doesn’t look the way you thought it might. Group sex, like any other sexual experience, can be messy and awkward at times. I mean, for a start, an extra set of limbs is guaranteed to make for some logistical concerns! I find that approaching group sex with a sense of playfulness without trying to get it “right” is a sure way of making it a memorable experience for all the right reasons.

Must be an authentic mutual desire of all people involved

No matter if it involves 3, 4 or 10 people, having all people on the same page is vital in order for the group experience to be enjoyable. If you are going along to fulfil your partners desires and they are not your own, issues are sure to arise. I can’t stress this enough, only partake if it is your own desire to do so!

Jealousy is a normal emotion

Speaking to friends about polyamory and sex with multiple partners, I hear the same thing “I couldn’t do that, I would get too jealous.” Now maybe I am wrong here but I believe that no matter what kind of relationship you are in or what kind of experiences you partake in, jealousy is probably going to come up! It may be that you’re jealous because your boyfriend has an attractive work friend who he spends time with. Or it could be that you get jealous when you saw your girlfriend checking out the cute bartender. Often the stories we create to justify why we feel jealous are unfounded however it is a strong emotion that brings out very intense feelings which is why people avoid situations where it may be felt. My advice to you is to openly discuss these feelings and fears with your partner without projecting it on them or blaming them for your feelings. If facing is jealousy is completely out of the question then maybe group sex is not your cup of tea. However if you can see it for what it is-an emotion that will pass-and you’re prepared to possibly feel it then group sex may be the best thing that’s ever happened to you.

Have fun!!

I think the main point to remember when participating in group sex is that it should be an overall fun, pleasurable and playful experience that allows you to connect with different people. I have spoken to many people who swear that opening their relationship was the best thing they did. I understand it is not for everyone but any shame surrounding a mutual desire to participate in group sex in the context of a relationship needs to be eradicated. Also any single people looking to explore with multiple people should be proud of their willingness to explore the possibilities of this awesome activity

 

About the author: Stephanie is a consultant from Oh Zone Adult Lifestyle Centres

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