Can you believe Wore A Bondage Mask?
I mean, I’ve seen some kinky shit. I’ve been to my local sex store, Adult Lifestyle Centre, Kogarah, you know, and they have some wicked stuff. I’m also gen Y, and have had been toddling around on the internet for decades.
In the past always thought of myself as being kind of out there, open and intelligent. Even went to Sydney university. So when my boyfriend came up to me one day.
He said, ‘Ii want you to wear a leather hood.’
Let me be straight up. I panicked!
Fumbling through some half heated response I cannot even remember, and we moved on. But there was a mark there. He’d come to me with something he was curious about, and I’d not immediately rejected it. Was completely dismissive of it.
There was no warning. He sprung it on me, so I guess it is understandable. But reflecting on it, I figured it was not fair.
Later, when we sat down together at home, we discussed it. Without too much persuasion, I let him know I would give it a go. But only after he gave me an opportunity to do a bit of research on the subject.
He was very pleased and agreed.
When in the Kogarah store before I had seen people pick up some of the bondage masks. They always seemed to be looking at them as a curiosity and making a joke of them. But looking at it now, it’s indicative of their fear and curiosity – can’t be scared of something if you mock it.
I knew one of the guys that worked at the Kogarah store was into bondage and Fetish and went in to speak to him. We had a great conversation and he answered my questions patiently and in a way that didn’t belittle me. With the newly found knowledge in my head, could go off and research it.
‘Masks are primarily for aesthetic purposes and the development of a mindset for a scene.’
This made more sense after the guy in Kogarah explained it to me. He used an analogy of a guy wearing a pink Tutu coming into a room with a whip. Compared to a guy in leather pants and a jacket smoking a cigarette and twirling a crop.
The image is different, the ‘power dynamics‘ of the room are completely different. One comes across as authoritative, whereas the other comes across as whimsical and absurd.
That’s also what it means by a development of a mindset i guess, when someone walks in the room wearing a certain outfit. You instantly know your place and your role. It’s a fairly simple concept when you break it down.
‘The secondary purpose of a mask is to create a confinement of the head, and potentially of the senses’.
Apparently there are heaps of different masks on the market. It’s not something I knew about. Some will cover your entire face, some only your ears, or your mouth, nose or eyes. When one of the senses is diminished, or blocked, the other senses try and pick up the slack so your body can make sense of its surroundings. Apparently its why people subconsciously prefer sex in the dark.
Masks also restrict movement, depending on the way they’re tied together and fit.
Now I Knew What Bondage Masks Were All About I Went About Getting One
Armed with my new information I went to my partner and we sat down and talked . We spoke at length about the things that we would like to do, not like to do and where our limits were. After negotiating and also with some relief that we’d opened up to each other, we went off to Kogarah to do our shopping.
After looking through the masks that they had there – we ended up getting a mask called the ziggy. The had hundreds of different ones.
I Wore A Bondage Mask
It has a detachable eye piece so you can choose to have the eyes covered or not and a wide zipper mouth. We opted for the wide one for two reasons.
One so he could fit his dick in it.
Two in case we decided to ever get a ball gag.
I liked this one because it had a soft silky feel on the inside to it, and that I’d read that masks can get pretty hot. Thinking this one would be slightly cooler, and so far its worked well.
Whilst we were there we got some bondage restraint sets, which included some hand cuffs, a paddle and also a body wand. These were all recommended by the guy there Eon.
It’s a start I guess!
I said I’ve seen some kinky shit, that’s true. Now I’m a part of that kinky shit and don’t tell anyone, but I kind of like it.
How To Approach BDSM
Studying and preparing yourself before trying anything related to BDSM is essential. You need to know how to approach BDSM.
Remember that you have an advantage in that others have already tested many things and are willing to share their experiences. While not everyone may have the same opinion, these “explorers” have gone through difficult experiences and learned many things. Ultimately reaching similar conclusions, through different paths. Reading good books on BDSM can help you form your own opinions.
5 Bondage Tricks You Could Try out Tonight
Most men and women, especially those who belong to younger generations, love to experiment and play with their bodies during sex. This is one of the main reasons why there are a lot of different fetishes out there and the most popular one is definitely bondage.
That said, it’s really no surprise that so many people are interested in finding a hot bondage hookup. If you also love this type of sex, here are the 5 bondage tricks you could try out tonight with your kinky lover.
Temperature Play and Tickling
One of the first things you should know about bondage is that restraints are not used only for rough sex. You and your partner can use ropes, bondage, and handcuffs to enjoy something a little bit different.
For example, you can experiment with temperature and caressing while keeping your spouse tied to a bed. These two activities can bring you or your partner to a very powerful orgasm, but only if you know what you’re doing, of course.
So, if you want to make your boyfriend or girlfriend moan with pleasure, feel free to burn some candles and spill some hot wax on your lover’s skin. However, make sure to use specialized massage candles because, unlike regular candles, these ones burn at lower and more pleasant temperatures.
If you find spilling hot wax extreme, you can always use some feathers or your own fingers to engage in tickle play with your lover.
Tie Your Partner’s Hands to a Bedpost
When it comes to bondage sex, this position is a true classic. It’s loved by both experienced BDSM enthusiasts and beginners.
So, if you want to have exciting bondage intercourse with your lover tonight, you should definitely tie them up to a bedpost. This wonderful position allows you to do whatever you want with their upper body. They won’t be able to use their hands, which will make certain positions rather interesting.
For example, if you’re a girl, you’ll be able to enjoy cowgirl and reverse cowgirl positions without him adjusting you with his hands. This time, you’ll be able to ride him the way you want. If you are a man, however, tying your girl to a bedpost will make the good old missionary position much better.
Tie Their Legs As Well
If you want to have complete control over your lover’s body, you should tie all four of their limbs to bed posts. This way, you’ll be in a position to do as you please with their entire body and they won’t be able to resist you.
Once you do this, you’ll be able to play with all parts of their body and use some sex toys. You’ll be their master and they will be your sex slave. If you want to see what it’s like to be this submissive, you can always tell your partner to tie you up.
If you want to enjoy bondage sex the right way, you should definitely try being both dominant and submissive.
Tie Their Ankles to Their Wrists
This is probably one of the most exciting ways to use bondage on your lover. If you decide to try out this BDSM trick, you’ll be able to enjoy two different sex positions. You can put your partner on their back and you’ll have a wonderful and rather satisfying angle of penetration.
Also, you’ll be able to enjoy their facial expressions during sex. However, if you prefer taking your partner from behind, you can bend them over and tie their wrists to their ankles. This way, you’ll have the opportunity to enjoy looking at their beautiful legs and butt cheeks during intercourse. These positions are very exciting; however, they can also be quite awkward and painful for your partner.
Make sure the communication you have with your lover is good and honest. This way, you’ll prevent any kind of injuries or unpleasant situations.
Bond Them to a Chair
In order for a couple to really enjoy a chair bondage position, the male partner should be the one who sits on the chair. So, when you tie your boyfriend’s arms and legs to a chair, you’ll be able to sit on his lap and ride him until he cums. You can also use your hands and mouth to play with his penis, he won’t be able to protest.
If, however, you’re a guy who wants to tie his girl to a chair, you’ll have the opportunity to enjoy some rather interesting oral sex. Many couples love this position because it allows them to engage in exciting role-playing.
So, if you’re into this type of sex, chair bondage is the perfect position for you and your lover.
Some Bondage Safety Tips You Need To Know
- Many women are not 100% submissive, many will switch between roles.
- You will discover a lot about bi-sexuality and polygamy.
- You will have the opportunity to explore many of the BDSM: bondage, shibari, spanking, whipping, wax, etc.
- It is normal to discover that actually you like a lot about who you knew from the start and some of the things that attracted you so much now you find that you like a lot.
- “Never say never”.
- Follow your intuition. If instinct tells you that something seems interesting, then putting it into practice will certainly be something pleasant. But if instinct warns you about something …. Please keep in mind your instincts. That thing will not put into practice brings so much pleasure.
- Do not rush to do anything. Everything will normally come at the right time.
- Perhaps it will seem interesting to explore BDSM having multiple partners.
Jennifer is a marketer at Adultsmart! Embracing a non-judgmental stance, she believes in pleasure without limits—if it feels good and right, why not?