When it comes to sex there are many questions people ask themselves. Am I good at sex? Is my partner being sexually satisfied? Will I ever be a better lover? Can I please my partner in the same way other people do? Is this bad sex?
Sex is a delicate topic that is thought about worldwide.
These questions run through everyone’s minds no matter your gender or sexual orientation. It is a difficult topic to talk about especially if it involves judging someone’s skill level. But what if it isn’t you who is bad in bed and you need to tell your partner somehow?
Longer you have been with someone does not necessarily mean that the experience you have shared together has turned them into the ultimate lover.
Truth is to be the best sexual partner you will need to invest in time learning and understanding how to sexually please your partner. People who have the best sexual lifestyles actively try to improve their skills.
Here are some tips that will help you improve your sexual lifestyle.
Be Honest and Thoughtful
I highly recommend to build a relationship on honesty. If you are consistently telling your partner they are doing a great job and the orgasm that you have experienced has a 10 star rating they will find no reason to improve their skills.
They could in fact be performing very poorly in the bedroom and your words of encouragement have lead them to believe otherwise. This builds a reoccurring pattern of bad sexual encounters that will not improve.
Make it Short
If you are planning on having the talk with your partner do not string the conversation along. Tell them a sentence which will cover the topic in one go.
You could say something like “I feel our sexual skills need to be improved”. It is a simple sentence, it takes ownership of your feelings and it tells them what you need using positive language.
Saying a sentence does not draw out the person’s feelings and make them feel bad about themselves.
Understand How the Person Will React
Although you have said your concern simply, they will most likely feel uncomfortable, emotionally stressed or negative about their sexual experience level.
There are three main emotions your partner will feel when you talk about improving a bad sexual experience that include anger, sadness and guilt. After all, sex is a big part of most relationships and it is important to your partner to help you feel fulfilled.
Put Your Own Personal Effort Into Your Sex Life
Nothing is more uncomfortable than just one person improving their sexual skills. If your partner is the only one who is improving their skills, it can lead them to feeling intense levels of shame.
Take your time to improve your skills with your partner. Remember slow sex is good sex. They will find great motivation to improve themselves to. This will help them to acknowledge that everyone can enhance their skills.
Sex Is Not Perfect
People’s standards of sex are different between person to person. So what is great sex to you may be completely different to your partner. Some people think that sex should be like what they sex in adult movies.
People in adult movies can perform certain skills that they have spent their lives training for. At the same time, people aren’t always perfectly groomed. You won’t always smell like a bunch of flowers and sometimes people just don’t produce as much natural lubricant as they may like to.
Take your time to research and understand what a realistic sexual lifestyle should be like.
Communicate About Bad Sex
I cannot stress this point enough, tell your partner what feels good and what doesn’t when you are having sex.
Tell them straight away. It will give them the option and the time to change what they are doing. If someone was giving a man a blowjob whilst using their teeth. Or if someone was biting your nipple when it could actually be causing you bodily pain, you really need to tell the person straight away.
Why should any other sexual experiences be any different?
Listen
Sometimes people can’t perform to standards that we expect. There are many reasons why people can experience problems.
For example, they may be embarrassed due to low levels of arousal, they may feel pain when they have sex or maybe they have low levels of confidence to perform certain tasks. Take your time to listen to them and understand why they may be struggling.
Tell Them Exactly What You Need
Sex doesn’t have to be a guessing game, tell them what you need. Some partner’s actively find themselves guessing what it takes to please someone. This can waste valuable personal time and can cause emotional stress that is unnecessary.
Maybe you can tell them you need more foreplay or would like to go out to a romantic dinner every so often to build an emotional connection with them. You can even add couples sex toys into your relationship to make your sexual lifestyle easier.
Bionic Penises Two Week Erection
Andrew Wardle who is 44 years old from Stalybridge in Greater Manchester has spent his life as a virgin. He was born with an ectopic bladder that was placed outside of his body.
When Andrew Wardle was a child he had restorative surgery that allowed him to urinate. Consequence of this procedure did not allow the development of a fully functional penis for sexual intercourse. At a 20 million-to-one ratio, the odds of someone getting this medical condition are extremely rare.
He thought he would need to persevere a sexless existence without a penis. Until he saw what had happened to another man named Mohammad Abad. When Mohammad was a child he had lost his penis in an unfortunate car accident.
Mohammad received a life-changing surgical procedure
It gave him a bionic penis in 2012. Procedure costs £70,000 and is a taxpayer-funded operation in the United Kingdom which is given free to all men who don’t have a penis. Unfortunately people within other countries may have to pay the full price.
Mohammad made news headlines when The Sun reported
“The 44-year-old security guard from Edinburgh lost his virginity last year during a two-hour romp with sex worker Charlotte Rosen. Who waved her £160-an-hour fee to bed him.”
After he had lost his virginity to the escort, Mohammad decided not to have sex for a while or until his wedding night. He was surprised to have received thousands of offers from women who wanted to experience what it is like to have sex with a bionic penis.
In response, he said:
“It’s not that I don’t want to and I get offers. But I have been so busy with work. I work 14-hour shifts every day and by the time I get home I’m just too tired for sex.”
Andrew Wanted the Surgery Too
After Andrew saw what had happened to Mohammad he decided that he should get the surgery to. Andrew Wardle starred in “The Man with No Penis” a TLC documentary and under went over 100 surgeries.
He will be now able to receive a bionic penis similar to Mohammad’s which is made from grafting skin, muscle and nerves from his arms. It is fitted with barrels that load with liquid when pumped from a little sac introduced in his testicles. Which is the manner by he’ll get an erection.
This procedure allows him to be able to experience penetrative sex for the very first time in his life. Specialists at University College London are behind the groundbreaking system.
Andrew appeared on ITV’s “This Morning” hosted by Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby.
He wanted to educate people within the community to let them know that a solutions exists which allows them to participate in sexual relations.
Phillip Schofield asked: “Would you say you were not enticed to state take it up to there..?”
Then Phillip implied he can choose a very large bionic penis size. In response, Andrew Wardle said: “They don’t do it on sizes, they do what needs to be done from your arm muscle!”
Bionic penis measurements
Are based upon the size of the arm muscle that is removed. He told hosts Phillip Schofield and Holly Willoughby he was confronting a possible humiliating symptom amid the testing stages.
Specialists will turn the apparatus on, a procedure that will leave Wardle in the doctor’s facility for three days. For the first two weeks of receiving it, he should bear a two-week erection to ensure it works.
He told them he may have to stay in doors and after the waiting time he will be able to have sex.
Andrew Wardle has been in a long term relationship for around 4 years.
After the two had been in a relationship for nine months, she discovered his condition when she read about it in the daily paper.
“I didn’t know how to react to it” she said. He wanted to receive this medical procedure so he would be able to have intercourse with his better half, Fedra Fabian. Fedra and Andrew are taking their time to work together to ensure his physical health and mental health are maintained during this important sexual lifestyle change.
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